Stuff my MIL says

[lilyelayne]

toadandbuggie that's so heartbreaking.

[dreemkin]

Aug 11, 2015 20:53:18 GMT -5 mumomma13 said:

Luckily, my MIL doesn't say anything to me. I think I intimidate her. She is the type of person who want speak up if her meal is wrong at a restaurant, so...

I don't speak up if my meal is wrong at a restaurant either.

[dreemkin]

Aug 12, 2015 14:19:12 GMT -5 mumomma13 said:

Aug 12, 2015 14:13:25 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

I don't speak up if my meal is wrong at a restaurant either.

But why not? You're paying for the food and service.

I don't want a spit burger lol.

[missys]

Aug 12, 2015 15:21:32 GMT -5 badw0lf said:

How about our own mothers?
My mom has seen DS three times since he was born (she lives like 30mins away) but she always asks for picture texts. Now DS has some abnormal nostrils. I can't really notice it unless I'm looking for it. So I sent a picture where he blinked and looked goofy and mom says "Is he gonna have a lazy eye on top of that weird nose thing?"
Jeeeeze thanks mom.

Wtf? You tell her to shove that comment about one of my favorite babies!

[dreemkin]

Aug 12, 2015 15:21:32 GMT -5 badw0lf said:

How about our own mothers?
My mom has seen DS three times since he was born (she lives like 30mins away) but she always asks for picture texts. Now DS has some abnormal nostrils. I can't really notice it unless I'm looking for it. So I sent a picture where he blinked and looked goofy and mom says "Is he gonna have a lazy eye on top of that weird nose thing?"
Jeeeeze thanks mom.

Yes my mom is worse (more annoying) than my MIL. She's so nosey all the time and asks way-too-personal questions.

[dreemkin]

Also my mom calls it work when her and my dad watch the girls when I work part time. She always says she's sooo tired afterward and wants to leave right when I walk in the door. I have very easy going calm children.

[emilyz320]

Aug 12, 2015 15:27:51 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

Aug 12, 2015 15:21:32 GMT -5 badw0lf said:

How about our own mothers?
My mom has seen DS three times since he was born (she lives like 30mins away) but she always asks for picture texts. Now DS has some abnormal nostrils. I can't really notice it unless I'm looking for it. So I sent a picture where he blinked and looked goofy and mom says "Is he gonna have a lazy eye on top of that weird nose thing?"
Jeeeeze thanks mom.

Yes my mom is worse (more annoying) than my MIL. She's so nosey all the time and asks way-too-personal questions.

same! My mom is way more challenging than my mil for so many reasons

[mommadozer]

toadandbuggie that's crazy. He is definitely does not understand the concept of being a parent. I feel bad for your DH.

[mommadozer]

badw0lf that's awful! tell her to keep those comments to herself next time.

[hollydfromtn]

Hugs to all of you ladies. My little annoyances with my MIL are nothing compared to what you guys are going through.

[lilyelayne]

badw0lf I have never once noticed abnormal nostrils on your darling child. So at least it's not OMG weird looking in photos or videos you post online!

[hollydfromtn]

Aug 12, 2015 17:31:42 GMT -5 lilyelayne said:

badw0lf I have never once noticed abnormal nostrils on your darling child. So at least it's not OMG weird looking in photos or videos you post online!

I agree. I've never noticed anything either. Your mom was way out of line.

[mishka29]

Aug 12, 2015 15:21:32 GMT -5 badw0lf said:

How about our own mothers?
My mom has seen DS three times since he was born (she lives like 30mins away) but she always asks for picture texts. Now DS has some abnormal nostrils. I can't really notice it unless I'm looking for it. So I sent a picture where he blinked and looked goofy and mom says "Is he gonna have a lazy eye on top of that weird nose thing?"
Jeeeeze thanks mom.

Vag punch for your mother!

[aggiebug]

Well fil won't comment on any pictures I send to his family but will instantly comment if H send a picture.


I feel so punished.... Not

[mishka29]

Yeah my mil is a gem it's my mother that's a PITA.

I've mentioned before how she calls me the feed bag. Hate it. The most recent comment was how we should have brought a bottle when we visited bc she would have gotten LO to drink from it. Oh yea bc you're a fucking magician right?!?

[aggiebug]

badw0lf I am sorry that sucks and is totally uncalled for

[lilyelayne]

Aug 12, 2015 17:51:18 GMT -5 badw0lf said:

It really isn't noticeable unless you're looking for it (or looking at him in the mirror, which is weird). I think it could have been the beginning of a cleft but I stopped taking the Topamax (a class D drug which is known to cause clefts in like 95% of babies whose mothers took it) as soon as I got my BFP. The thing that bugs me the most is my mom knows I'm sensitive about it. I told her maybe if she saw him more often she would be used to his face.

Wow. But good comeback on your part!

[lotsofdotts]

So while I was praising my MIL, I forgot about my stepMIL. She lives about 30 minutes away but never sees Brady. We had dinner with her tonight for her birthday, so I need to unload.

First, I have to tell you that she is a brat. DH and I were betting about what she would bitch about at dinner because she is always bitching about something (waitress ignored her, food isn't good, it's too cold/hot in the restaurant, etc.) Tonight, we met at Olive Garden (her choice, not ours). Immediately I know she is pissed about something. The whole time at dinner she is short with DH's dad and is bitching about everything from her job to the food. I tried to talk to her about different things but she wasn't cheering up.

That wasn't the worst part. Brady was grumpy because it was getting close to bed time, so at the end of dinner, DH starts to leave with Brady before the rest of us and I said, "Oh the joys of having an baby." StepMIL said, "Well, at least you had one. I never could." And then walked away. What the absolute fuck, lady!? I told DH that it will be awhile before I can see her again.

[lotsofdotts]

badw0lf, I just went back through your posts to see pics of your baby and I don't see anything wrong with his nose or eyes. He is freaking adorable! I have always loved seeing your pics because his hair cracks me up. It is always so wild and fun. I think he is perfect. Hugs to you for crazy mom stuff.

[emilyz320]

badw0lf everything everyone else said - your lo is absolutely adorable and I love his wild hair

[cougarette]

Aug 12, 2015 8:34:14 GMT -5 lilyelayne said:

psychobutthead how rude, like you're not people yourselves just grandchild factories.
toadandbuggie holy crap. Good response on your H's part. I don't know that I would have the emotional energy to keep FIL in my life if I were your H.

That is exactly how mil treats us. She is STILL saying, "I never thought I would have grandchildren". (But never says why she thought that)

Her birthday was last week and bil wished her a happy bday and said, "I hope you have a great day". Then she responds (and I quote), "Thanks. I will have a great day when I see my grandchildren". Nevermind seeing her children. And nevermind having a great day with her husband. Ugh.

[lilyelayne]

Aug 12, 2015 20:56:40 GMT -5 mumomma13 said:

Why isn't my tag working? Boo.

The O should be a zero. Or tag @ aprilrose1

[lilyelayne]

mumomma13 hugs

[toadandbuggie]

+3 or 4? about having a mom that is more of a PIA. My MIL is actually very respectful of privacy and will never tell you her judgements (if she has any).

My mom has no personal boundaries and anything around is fair game to look through. Like your mail. Or if your bedroom door is open - she will waltz right in and if you say anything she's all like "I'm just admiring your beautiful room!" Ok... because you haven't seen it before. She's got great intentions and a great heart, but you do not want to tell her something you don't want the whole world to know. This has caused many obstacles because I find myself shutting down while talking to her. She's the type "I'm your mother, so you have no privacy with me." We've really had to work on her just showing up at our house and my brother's houses without any prior notice. She just doesn't get why that's not cool - even if we've all talked to her about it before.

badw0lf, Your baby is freakin ADORABLE. I love love love pictures of him.

[toadandbuggie]

Just another thing I'd like to bitch about:

When I found out I was pregnant I told my parents at 6 weeks and told them not to tell anybody yet. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks or whenever I felt more comfortable. My pregnancy wasn't planned and we weren't married so it would have been more a surprise to my family than say if we were already married. They were super excited because they really wanted a grandchild.

Did they tell most of my family? Yes.

I was so pissed. I was getting messages from family members "Congrats!" When I didn't even tell them yet and I wasn't emotionally prepared for any of it.

Why are relationships with parents so hard sometimes? I know probably every parent has said this, but I really hope my children don't have the same complaints about me.

[toadandbuggie]

badw0lf, For real. For a while I felt really bad about it but then I stopped giving a fuck. We were already engaged and together for 4 years with a house and good jobs so it wasn't like we weren't hopping on the baby train sooner or later.

[emilyz320]

toadandbuggie it sounds like we have the same exact mom! I purposely didn't tell her I was pregnant right away because I knew she would tell everyone. We have some serious trust issues and she seems to live on another planet. She thinks we are bffs and gets so offended when I don't confide in her. I keep her at arms length.

[psychobutthead]

So the day before yesterday there was a storm and most the power went out in half of my town. Our power went out only for a little over and hour but I was in school when it happened.

When it came back on our AC was knocked out and Dh needed to turn it back on by going into the attic.

SInce I wasn't home he asked his mother to come over and watch Daniel while he went up and did it.

Well afterwards she starts complaining about why are we mad at her shes not done anything and why dont we come over.

To explain why DH was mad is this past weekend was his sisters birthday. We were going to go over and wish her a happy birthday when we saw on facebook that my husbands entire family went to a place called escape the room. not just his family but all of his and his siblings mutual friends even went. We werent invited or even told about it.

SO Dh was upset. This isnt the first time we have been excluded from a birthday or a holiday. His parents had a separate christmas one for them and their other kids and then the next day one for just us to be there an no one else came.

SO he tells her hes tired of being excluded, hes tired of the favoritism, and no one having anything to do with our kids. And she just goes we don't do that I can't control what other people do.

Yeah because setting up separate christmas's at her own house isnt something she did.

Then at the end she tells DH to call her and come pick her up and bring her to our house so she can see the kids.

1.)she has her own vehicle 2.) she lives 5 minutes from my house.

But she wants us to pick her up and drive her here to see the kids. When all during the week she just shows up and takes my BIL's kids several times a week every week.

I feel like I've entered the twilight zone.

[PikoPiko]

psychobutthead, you MIL sounds like a biatch anyway you cut it. I don't know how you manage to not bitch slap her anytime she opens her mouth. My MIL is annoying as hell but thankfully I don't see her more than once a year.

Are you guys going to participate in this separate Christmas again this year? Is boycotting an option?

[emilyz320]

psychobutthead that's awful. Frustrating and hurtful.