MIL: your dishes and silverware are too heavy, you need to use paper plates like me. Set table with magazines so you can just throw away when done. I am so smart. I designed this method to save time, no need to clean anything.
Me: and this is how DH and I live, with real furniture, real plates and silverware, real table cloths.
MIL: waste so much time to clean, you're so stupid.
I cracked. On her final night here.
Me: But at least I got class.
MIL: I'm high class, just ask blah blah blah
I walked away at that point. Not worth it. She wins. I don't need to have the last word when dealing with cray cray. I told DH she's never to be invited here again and over my dead body that she ever gets alone time with my baby.
She called you stupid?!? She seems like quite a bit of work. How bizarre about the reusing paper plates
What about the money wasted?? I use paper plates every once in a while)like pizza night), but honestly throwing out plates every night would be such a waste!
What about the money wasted?? I use paper plates every once in a while)like pizza night), but honestly throwing out plates every night would be such a waste!
Youu're probably using nice paper plates. She gets the really thin ones. Your pizza grease might drop thru - that's what those magazine pages, flyers and newspapers are for.
What about the money wasted?? I use paper plates every once in a while)like pizza night), but honestly throwing out plates every night would be such a waste!
Youu're probably using nice paper plates. She gets the really thin ones. Your pizza grease might drop thru - that's what those magazine pages, flyers and newspapers are for.
Good riddance, she's gone now.
Id love to have a conversation with her about how we wash clothes around here too.
What about the money wasted?? I use paper plates every once in a while)like pizza night), but honestly throwing out plates every night would be such a waste!
Youu're probably using nice paper plates. She gets the really thin ones. Your pizza grease might drop thru - that's what those magazine pages, flyers and newspapers are for.
What about the money wasted?? I use paper plates every once in a while)like pizza night), but honestly throwing out plates every night would be such a waste!
Youu're probably using nice paper plates. She gets the really thin ones. Your pizza grease might drop thru - that's what those magazine pages, flyers and newspapers are for.
Good riddance, she's gone now.
So sorry you have been dealing with this. I'm glad she's out of your hair.
OMFG, I never thought I'd hear this one, that brings serious tears of joy. I don't feel bad at all that we've escalated to world war 3 status. I'm glad it happened, so I no longer have to put on a fake smile and pretend to be friendly with her.
We had a tiff over paperware on her last night. She was extremely offended that I called her low class. I was intentionally blunt on a few occasion when she annoyed me. Apparently she said I had poor "language" and I needed to improve my "English". Funny, I grew up in England and she's Asian with realllllllly bad English. She demanded respect cos she's older than us. I pretty much told her to kiss my ass, respect needs to be earned.
MIL waited til she's home to bitch up a storm about me. She complained that the first night she arrived she was hungry and didn't get to eat til breakfast the next day. The truth was, I asked her before she even got on the flight if she would need dinner. She said no, she was bringing her own food to eat on the plane. When she arrived, I asked again if she was hungry, she said she doesn't eat after 8.30pm. DH offered to take her somewhere when he picked her up, she had 3 opportunities to speak up. She was telling DH how I starving her, that he has to be careful, that I could be starving and abusing LO like I did with her.
I told DH he can go spend holidays with her on his own in the future, LO and I will never set foot in her hoarder house. I'm totally saving her message "I'll never visit your house again". If she ever complains about not being invited back, I'll throw that right in her face.
Post by FlutterOfYoshis on Sept 4, 2015 11:30:07 GMT -5
PikoPiko, Sounds like good riddance! Though I confess I was entertained by reading about her particular brand of crazy from the outside, I can't imagine living with that. My mom drives me nuts sometimes but not to that level.
Post by kaydee0402 on Sept 4, 2015 12:55:18 GMT -5
My MIL keeps telling my husband to remind me not to leave the baby in the car because it's so hot out. From some people this might be a helpful reminder, but I know it's her way of being nasty. I've literally never left Little Man in the car ever so she doesn't even have a reason to mention it!
My MIL always brings DS something when she comes over. Well this last time she brought a onesie that said something about grandmom, another that said something about grandpa, one that said something about daddy and book about how much daddy loves me. WTF? Is Mommy chopped liver? I will be tucking these away with all the other grandma onesies and claim I forgot about them until he grows out of them.
Haha. My dad's side of my family buys the most hideous gifts for each other. DS got a huge hello kitty head stuffed animal that is decked out in girl colors. They knew he was a little boy too. I have it hidden in his closet because when they visit they will ask if he plays with it. I'll keep it for another year and then it will be going in the give away pile.
Just to update on my MIL situation. The whole world has back fired on that woman lol. My oh so perfect BIL and SIL wth twins aren't speaking to her and refusing to let her have any contact with their kids. Karma is a real bitch.
Just to update on my MIL situation. The whole world has back fired on that woman lol. My oh so perfect BIL and SIL wth twins aren't speaking to her and refusing to let her have any contact with their kids. Karma is a real bitch.
Love tit for her getting what she deserves.
Nothing major here. MIL wrote me an email that included a line about how she wished she hadn't tried to be supermom and enjoyed the baby stage more. That's great, lady. The only thing I can figure out that prompted this is the news that I'm nursing beyond 6 months and handling all the night wake ups because we're not night weaning yet.
My MIL always brings DS something when she comes over. Well this last time she brought a onesie that said something about grandmom, another that said something about grandpa, one that said something about daddy and book about how much daddy loves me. WTF? Is Mommy chopped liver? I will be tucking these away with all the other grandma onesies and claim I forgot about them until he grows out of them.
My ILs always leave me out too. My MIL and two sisters wanted a "lastname" girl pic when they were all visiting last time. As I was getting up, my MIL said, "oh not you. Just your girls." Well, I made those girls and she's not a true "lastname" either. She was married into the family just like me... I am chopped liver with her. And it does hurt my feelings but I never say anything.
My MIL always brings DS something when she comes over. Well this last time she brought a onesie that said something about grandmom, another that said something about grandpa, one that said something about daddy and book about how much daddy loves me. WTF? Is Mommy chopped liver? I will be tucking these away with all the other grandma onesies and claim I forgot about them until he grows out of them.
My ILs always leave me out too. My MIL and two sisters wanted a "lastname" girl pic when they were all visiting last time. As I was getting up, my MIL said, "oh not you. Just your girls." Well, I made those girls and she's not a true "lastname" either. She was married into the family just like me... I am chopped liver with her. And it does hurt my feelings but I never say anything.
How rude. Seriously. Ugh.
My ILs can be a bit exclusionary (is that the word I'm looking for?) but not to this extent. My parents are crazy INclusive so it can be hard for me to adjust to that mindset.
It might be in poor taste, but... DH's parents died long before I met him. And he basically has no regular contact with his extended family. And I'm grateful. (My kid is also my parents' 17th grandchild, so she's kinda not a big deal to anyone except us--and I'm SO good with that!)
I do absolutely LOATHE that his ex wife wants to have a relationship with Babygirl. She actually said something about moving to our city when I was about to have the baby so that she could "have the same kind of relationship that you have with my kids". Well, lady, unless that means I'm going to literally abandon her and refuse to pay child support or establish regular visitation while you raise her, that's just pretty much not gonna happen.
The other day I came home and my boy was FaceTiming with his mom in the other room. It took me a while to figure out that he had Babygirl and was basically enabling his mother to interact with the baby while she said crazyass things like "Oh, you're just my precious baby, aren't you?". I swooped in and snatched her up and muttered something about needing to feed her and a quick "hi, kay bye now". Then I told DH to under no circumstances ever let that happen again. Total overreaction for which I will never ever apologize. Because... Just... No.
My MIL always brings DS something when she comes over. Well this last time she brought a onesie that said something about grandmom, another that said something about grandpa, one that said something about daddy and book about how much daddy loves me. WTF? Is Mommy chopped liver? I will be tucking these away with all the other grandma onesies and claim I forgot about them until he grows out of them.
My ILs always leave me out too. My MIL and two sisters wanted a "lastname" girl pic when they were all visiting last time. As I was getting up, my MIL said, "oh not you. Just your girls." Well, I made those girls and she's not a true "lastname" either. She was married into the family just like me... I am chopped liver with her. And it does hurt my feelings but I never say anything.
Ugh that's so frustrating! I have never been excluded from a picture, but my MIL definitely has her...quirks. She bought 2 books about Daddy for Father's day which I totally get because it's her son and father's day. But then yesterday while she was watching DD she sent me a pic of them at library story time - my baby girl was wearing a PJ top that says "I"m Daddy's Girl" (definitely not what I left out for her to wear). Then when I got home she had signed a book out of the library about Dads too. I'm with @badw0lf on this one - feeling a little like chopped liver! She does a lot of really irritating things as well, but I can't think of any good ones now (other than that she always has an excuse about why DD doesn't nap while she's babysitting). Since having the baby one of my constant frustrations with her is that anytime she asks about the baby and I tell her something she's started doing recently, MIL very clearly is just waiting her turn so she can tell me how DH was as a baby. I sent her a video of DD giggling uncontrollably for the first time and her response didn't mention DD or said video, it just said "I wish I had a video of [DH] doing that". Ugh.
(Also sorry this is long...apparently I have a lot of thoughts about MIL)
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