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Inspired by my friends latest drama: I don't believe in second chances after an affair.
My sister's H just cheated on her a few months ago and she took him back after making him stay with his parents for a week. I don't know that I could do it but like others have said, I've never been in the situation.
Post by icaughtfire on Sept 17, 2015 7:03:54 GMT -5
If I were to give a second chance, there would have to be some serious work on our relationship. Like, intense couples therapy before I could even entertain the idea. Just "Oops, sorry!" "No problem, come on home!" I can assure you that would never happen.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Like a real long-term affair or just anything that involves infidelity?
This thing I see unfolding seems long term. And icaughtfire you're right. I probably sing a different tune while I'm in the situation.
Who knows how I'd act in any situation regarding infidelity, but I think I would forgive one drunken night. Long-term affair? That's just a whole different ballgame. I feel like I personally could never get past it.
Post by ttcminicofer on Sept 17, 2015 7:21:12 GMT -5
My ex cheated on me so many times and we always had the long sit down talks and sobs and the usual, "it was a mistake. I won't do it again" but he did. Now I'm one who refuses second chances with infidelity. Luckily my fiancé now is amazing.
This thing I see unfolding seems long term. And icaughtfire you're right. I probably sing a different tune while I'm in the situation.
Who knows how I'd act in any situation regarding infidelity, but I think I would forgive one drunken night. Long-term affair? That's just a whole different ballgame. I feel like I personally could never get past it.
Never having been in the situation, I feel like I couldn't get past either one. One time, a hundred times, drunk, sober...to me it's all the same.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
I do believe in 2nd chances; however, the underlying issues that caused the infidelity have to be addressed or in my experience there is no hope for the relationships survival. The physical act is more easily addressed than the other issues.
maybe an UO: I love skirts! I don't have a defined waist but I like my legs so I feel skirts are very flattering to me.
Who knows how I'd act in any situation regarding infidelity, but I think I would forgive one drunken night. Long-term affair? That's just a whole different ballgame. I feel like I personally could never get past it.
Never having been in the situation, I feel like I couldn't get past either one. One time, a hundred times, drunk, sober...to me it's all the same.
There's just something about an affair that's long-term, premeditated, and not a "dumb mistake" that just seems different to me.
But who knows? Hopefully I'll never have to deal with this situation.
Never having been in the situation, I feel like I couldn't get past either one. One time, a hundred times, drunk, sober...to me it's all the same.
There's just something about an affair that's long-term, premeditated, and not a "dumb mistake" that just seems different to me.
But who knows? Hopefully I'll never have to deal with this situation.
I'm watching a friend deal with this and I'm honestly surprised she stayed. They are in intense therapy and have re-focused on faith and all that. The thing is, I don't think she is the type who can ever "move on" so they may stay together but the relationship is so different now, I'm not sure it can go on forever. Maybe over time it will come around, but it's been brutal watching them suffer through it for almost two years now.
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Never having been in the situation, I feel like I couldn't get past either one. One time, a hundred times, drunk, sober...to me it's all the same.
There's just something about an affair that's long-term, premeditated, and not a "dumb mistake" that just seems different to me.
But who knows? Hopefully I'll never have to deal with this situation.
How is cheating ever a "dumb mistake". Using baking soda in a recipe that calls for baking powder is a mistake. Calling someone by the wrong name is a mistake. Mixing up appointment times is a mistake. Cheating, drunk or sober is never a mistake. You may regret cheating, but that doesn't make it a "dumb mistake".
There's just something about an affair that's long-term, premeditated, and not a "dumb mistake" that just seems different to me.
But who knows? Hopefully I'll never have to deal with this situation.
How is cheating ever a "dumb mistake". Using baking soda in a recipe that calls for baking powder is a mistake. Calling someone by the wrong name is a mistake. Mixing up appointment times is a mistake. Cheating, drunk or sober is never a mistake. You may regret cheating, but that doesn't make it a "dumb mistake".
+1. There are a lot of decisions that go into getting to actually cheating on someone, even if it is a drunken one night thing. I have an ex that cheated, I took him back, and he cheated again. I can't say I trust someone who would once betray me not to do it a second time.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
This is fine in the winter, but what about when its 90 degrees out?
I wear tights in hot weather because office air conditioning is freaking freezing. Like really? How is 65 degrees is an appropriate temperature for indoors?
This is fine in the winter, but what about when its 90 degrees out?
Gold Bond anti chafing stick.
But I am wearing an A line skort today. You would never know there are shorts under if I didn't tell.
Wearing shorts under skirts gives me flashbacks of my catholic school days. Maybe that's another reason I hate skirts, because I had to wear one every day from K-12 grade.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
No thanks to diva cup, but I'm not a tampon wearer either. Perhaps my uo is I use ?like/ plain old maxipads. (I don't have heavy flow so a light or liners is all I wear).
Yes to tights, etc. for comfort under skirts.
Again, the physical act of infidelity is the smallest part of it. Thus the typical reason cheaters cheat again.
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