I can't stand beer. I've just never acquired the taste. H is all about the beer though, so I know a ton about it. He brews his own and I get dragged to every brewery in the area. I can appreciate the process and good quality beers, I just don't want to drink them. I make an excellent DD for brewery trips. I do like hard cider though and we found a brewery fairly locally that has both! I'm slowly getting in to wine, but I'd much rather have a margarita.
I can't stand beer. I've just never acquired the taste. H is all about the beer though, so I know a ton about it. He brews his own and I get dragged to every brewery in the area. I can appreciate the process and good quality beers, I just don't want to drink them. I make an excellent DD for brewery trips. I do like hard cider though and we found a brewery fairly locally that has both! I'm slowly getting in to wine, but I'd much rather have a margarita.
Only the most amazing grocery store ever! Their slogan is "where shopping I'd a pleasure" and they live up to it. There are four within 5 mi. of me. We spend entirely too much mine there!
I'll agree, but I think anyone who does it frequently like the aforementioned every Friday is getting a side eye from me. Also, I'd judge a SAHM if she was dumping her kids somewhere all day certain days of the week just so she could clean, nap, whatever. Everyone deserves a break, but parenting and adulthood require that you multitask.
I was having the hardest time forming the right words to reply and these are them. I just couldn't get what was in my head to transfer. We all need breaks but to drop your kids every time you have a day off and then complain about not having enough time with them, side eye for sure.
A friend of mine SAH and drops her son off every Tuesday and Thursday at a babysitter so she can have a day alone. I don't get it. I very much think everyone deserves a break but that is excessive.
I was having the hardest time forming the right words to reply and these are them. I just couldn't get what was in my head to transfer. We all need breaks but to drop your kids every time you have a day off and then complain about not having enough time with them, side eye for sure.
A friend of mine SAH and drops her son off every Tuesday and Thursday at a babysitter so she can have a day alone. I don't get it. I very much think everyone deserves a break but that is excessive.
I've definitely considered this, but feel so bougie even thinking about it. H works odd hours, so when he's home to take over its not exactly business hours if I wanted to go get a pedicure or something. I've found if I don't schedule a break, I don't get one. Something always comes up that's of higher importance or no one is available to watch LO when there's something I want to do last minute. It would be nice when the shit hits the fan to be like "ok, just one more day and I get 4 hours tomorrow afternoon".
I don't want to seem to be perpetuating the WM vs SAHM mommy war mentality though. I'm not saying either is better than the other. Both situations are hard. Both need and deserve breaks. I just got tired of hearing SIL talk about wanting to stay home, but she never stayed home with them when she had the option to.
But will there ever be a happy medium? I know a lot of SAHMs really love it and have always wanted to do it, but some, like me, can't wait to get out of the house. But I always question if I will still feel that way after I go back to work and if I will be ready to be around adults all day again. But a lot of moms who work have the guilt of leaving their kids every day and can't wait to get home. Why is being a mom so hard? I doubt my H has ever had this huge of an internal struggle about being a parent. I'm sure he would love to be at home with us more, but even though he hates his job, I'm sure he likes getting away too. Especially when the kids are acting up and the house is pure chaos.
I have an uo.. I hate being called mommy by people. Exceptions: my own child, people who are speaking in reference to me to my child, people who are speaking to me in front of my child while she is still learning words. A text from a friend that says "whats up mommy?" Not cool. You have your own mommy. I am not her.
Yes. This, so much! I hated when I was pregnant and everyone would call me "mama". No, just no.
Why do people assume this is cute or ok to refer to someone as just because they are pregnant?
Also, when other moms refer to/call eachother mama. Drives me crazy! Maybe I'm just a bitch.
Post by mandapanda1382 on Jan 30, 2015 1:17:30 GMT -5
Oooookay. My UO to liven things up...
I hardcore judge women who get plastic surgery to try and hold on to a more youthful appearance. I think it's ridiculous and stupid. We age. Our bodies are meant to get older. Deal with it.
Post by wandsandwine on Jan 30, 2015 4:21:15 GMT -5
Grown adults with a y or ie nickname bother the shit out of me. If your name is Kelly or Stacey that's one thing that's your real name. But to be 30 and still called Robbie or Bobbie drives me crazy
I second the not liking beer or wine at all. It is disgusting to me. I can drink a sweet mixed liquor drink occasionally but I just do not handle alcohol well. I begin to feel it after 2 sips.
Grown adults with a y or ie nickname bother the shit out of me. If your name is Kelly or Stacey that's one thing that's your real name. But to be 30 and still called Robbie or Bobbie drives me crazy
This played a large role in what we named our daughter! People think I'm nuts.
A friend of mine SAH and drops her son off every Tuesday and Thursday at a babysitter so she can have a day alone. I don't get it. I very much think everyone deserves a break but that is excessive.
I've definitely considered this, but feel so bougie even thinking about it. H works odd hours, so when he's home to take over its not exactly business hours if I wanted to go get a pedicure or something. I've found if I don't schedule a break, I don't get one. Something always comes up that's of higher importance or no one is available to watch LO when there's something I want to do last minute. It would be nice when the shit hits the fan to be like "ok, just one more day and I get 4 hours tomorrow afternoon".
Gingy, I don't think there is anything wrong with finding an occasional sitter...especially if your DH works long/strange hours. I totally get it, especially considering my DH has been gone all week from 8am-11pm. My mom comes over 3 hours a week (1.5hr 2 Xs a week so I can go to the gym). She is literally my sanity saver. I think you should find someone/someplace to give you a break. If my parents didn't live 20 mins away, I'd probably be using the gym daycare or looking for a sitter. My dad always traveled, so my mom gets the alone thing. She used to have a HS student get off the bus by our house and go out 2 days a week just for one hour. We had fun playing with the sitter and my mom just recently confessed that she would often get an ice cream and sit by the beach. Smart lady!
But, my neighbor's DIL drops her 3 kids off at daycare 2 days a week "just because." She SAH, but gets rid of all 3 of them for 2 full days and then does what? I can only assume glamorous things. And, they definitely do NOT have the money and are moving in with her parents.
To me there is a huge difference between a break to get a pedi or go to the gym or lunch and just dropping your kids off at 8 am and returning at 5pm for no reason at all.
I totally use my daycare when I have a day off and daycare is open. LO only goes for about 4 hours anyway. During my two week Christmas break he went for three of the days each week. A couple times only for two hours. It was more so DH and I could tackle some house projects and have a couple lunch dates than anything else. My mom lives an hour away and the only one we trust LO with locally is daycare. BUT I am not sad about leaving him every day...probably because I work such a reduced schedule. So it's not like I complain about leaving him one day and choose to the next.
I'm confused. So is your argument that because you had to work hard to get the money together for college, everyone should have to? If we as a society have figured out a way to solve a social problem, why should we shy away from that just because some people had a tough time before? That's like not letting anyone use a computer out of deference to those who only had typewriters.
But we haven't figured out a solution. This "solution" creates more problems.
It sounds great on paper, but where is the money for all of this going to come from? Ideas like free healthcare and education work well in countries that are set up to support that type of infrastructure. (Denmark is a good example.) We are not set up for this type of thing.
But that is a separate argument. Questioning the proposal because of budgetary concerns is different than saying said proposal should never be implemented because you disagree with the idea on principle.
Post by 3magicbeans on Jan 30, 2015 9:29:45 GMT -5
cdseno, I guess I see your point, if its once or twice a week -
I was thinking of my case (I have a M-F, 8-5, babes are in DC full time), and I've had maybe two days to myself in over 3 years.......*DO NOT* deny me that, cdseno
Post by puffandstuff on Jan 30, 2015 10:51:16 GMT -5
I still don't see a problem with a SAHM taking 19 hours a week to do whatever she wants. Sounds glorious to me! This is probably what's keeping her sane.
Grown adults with a y or ie nickname bother the shit out of me. If your name is Kelly or Stacey that's one thing that's your real name. But to be 30 and still called Robbie or Bobbie drives me crazy
My name is Katie. Not Katherine, just Katie.
I feel like it's a child's name and am going to feel weird being 80 and called Katie. They don't match up.
Grown adults with a y or ie nickname bother the shit out of me. If your name is Kelly or Stacey that's one thing that's your real name. But to be 30 and still called Robbie or Bobbie drives me crazy
Not disagreeing, but as a kid we had a minister who was actually named Danny. He said that people assumed he had a Peter pan complex but it was his legal name. So I don't assume people are choosing it unless I know for sure. Even then it's not something that bugs me, I just don't know why anyone would do that intentionally since it makes people take you less seriously.
I still don't see a problem with a SAHM taking 19 hours a week to do whatever she wants. Sounds glorious to me! This is probably what's keeping her sane.
Yep. I wouldn't mind being a SAHM if I had the freedom to give myself a break a day or two a week. I hate being away from them for 11 hours a day right now, I'm just home for dinner and bed. But if I could see them for 4 hours in the morning, drop them off for the rest of the day, I'd like that.
I still don't see a problem with a SAHM taking 19 hours a week to do whatever she wants. Sounds glorious to me! This is probably what's keeping her sane.
Yep. I wouldn't mind being a SAHM if I had the freedom to give myself a break a day or two a week. I hate being away from them for 11 hours a day right now, I'm just home for dinner and bed. But if I could see them for 4 hours in the morning, drop them off for the rest of the day, I'd like that.
I see it this way. Being a SAHM doesn't come with that freedom. SAH is my "job" now. In my mind it's equivalent to just not showing up to work 2 days a week. Any job should come with breaks (lunch hour, personal days, sick time--if you have the help for your kids). But, literally not doing your job 2/5 of the time and passing it onto someone else, is just never how I've been with any job I've had.
ETA: I actually cold both afford to do this (using a DC center) and my MIL constantly begs me to drop DS off for the day. I know she would easily take him 2 days a week. But, unless I have a legit place to be I don't see the need to drop him off for an entire day on a regular basis. He is my responsibility.
Post by leroybrown on Jan 30, 2015 17:22:05 GMT -5
But it's not 2/5 of 8 hour days for everyone. For me, it's 12 hours a day, weekends included. I'm up in the night with one of them and I'm up as soon as one of the 3 is awake (usually 4-5am).
And honestly, if we have time to play on here, we're using up some of our 2/5 time.
But it's not 2/5 of 8 hour days for everyone. For me, it's 12 hours a day, weekends included. I'm up in the night with one of them and I'm up as soon as one of the 3 is awake (usually 4-5am).
And honestly, if we have time to play on here, we're using up some of our 2/5 time.
I'm confused. Maybe we are not talking about the same thing? Maybe I'm just lost. Do you sah or work?
I will agree that for many working and SAH moms, myself included, the days at your job are not 8 hr days. DH works about 60 hours a week so I'm solo child care during those times. So, I do see what you are saying that my math doesn't quite add up.
I just don't get being a SAHM mom and then dropping your baby off at daycare for 2 full days a week. But, I guess I don't have to understand it.
But it's not 2/5 of 8 hour days for everyone. For me, it's 12 hours a day, weekends included. I'm up in the night with one of them and I'm up as soon as one of the 3 is awake (usually 4-5am).
And honestly, if we have time to play on here, we're using up some of our 2/5 time.
I'm confused. Maybe we are not talking about the same thing? Maybe I'm just lost. Do you sah or work?
I will agree that for many working and SAH moms, myself included, the days at your job are not 8 hr days. DH works about 60 hours a week so I'm solo child care during those times. So, I do see what you are saying that my math doesn't quite add up.
I just don't get being a SAHM mom and then dropping your baby off at daycare for 2 full days a week. But, I guess I don't have to understand it.
Maybe she views daycare as having positive implications outside of safe care during work. Socialization? Getting the child used to other people? Establishing how different environments have different rules and expectations??
I'm confused. Maybe we are not talking about the same thing? Maybe I'm just lost. Do you sah or work?
I will agree that for many working and SAH moms, myself included, the days at your job are not 8 hr days. DH works about 60 hours a week so I'm solo child care during those times. So, I do see what you are saying that my math doesn't quite add up.
I just don't get being a SAHM mom and then dropping your baby off at daycare for 2 full days a week. But, I guess I don't have to understand it.
Maybe she views daycare as having positive implications outside of safe care during work. Socialization? Getting the child used to other people? Establishing how different environments have different rules and expectations??
spitballing.
I can agree with that to some degree. I just recently posted that as a former early childhood teacher I worry that my LO won't benefit from the many great things a child gets from daycare. But, still doesn't change my stance on thinking its excessive. Maybe one morning a week or something I could totally get on board with.
I'm confused. Maybe we are not talking about the same thing? Maybe I'm just lost. Do you sah or work?
I will agree that for many working and SAH moms, myself included, the days at your job are not 8 hr days. DH works about 60 hours a week so I'm solo child care during those times. So, I do see what you are saying that my math doesn't quite add up.
I just don't get being a SAHM mom and then dropping your baby off at daycare for 2 full days a week. But, I guess I don't have to understand it.
Maybe she views daycare as having positive implications outside of safe care during work. Socialization? Getting the child used to other people? Establishing how different environments have different rules and expectations??
spitballing.
We will be sending LO to DC a couple times a week this summer even though H has summers off. I would normally be against this but I think the routine will help LO and he loves being with the other kids. We would also have to pay for those months even if LO wasn't attending. I hope that H will use that time to get research done and clean the house. On the days LO is home with H, they plan to be out and about so H won't have time to do much around the house.
Grown adults with a y or ie nickname bother the shit out of me. If your name is Kelly or Stacey that's one thing that's your real name. But to be 30 and still called Robbie or Bobbie drives me crazy
Not disagreeing, but as a kid we had a minister who was actually named Danny. He said that people assumed he had a Peter pan complex but it was his legal name. So I don't assume people are choosing it unless I know for sure. Even then it's not something that bugs me, I just don't know why anyone would do that intentionally since it makes people take you less seriously.
Not disagreeing, but as a kid we had a minister who was actually named Danny. He said that people assumed he had a Peter pan complex but it was his legal name. So I don't assume people are choosing it unless I know for sure. Even then it's not something that bugs me, I just don't know why anyone would do that intentionally since it makes people take you less seriously.
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