NGKUR AW - DH Health Issue

[daisy818]

I'm really sorry to create an AW here, and also apologies for what I'm sure will be a lot of rambling, but I'm just freaking out a bit and I guess maybe I need to tell someone this and maybe have folks to tell me to calm down/get a grip - I'm ready if you think a good slap-to-the-face wake up call is appropriate.  DH has been having a lot of severe pain in his neck and jaw recently, and he went to the dentist today to check it out.  Well, the dentist is referring him to a neurologist because it looks like he might have a nerve condition that is frequently caused by MS or lesions/abnormalities of the brain (DH actually thought he might have this from some google searches, but then the dentist brought it up all on his own as what he thinks it could be).  I know it's WAY too early to start thinking about things like that, because there are many tests that need to be done, but I just never expected to hear this - I chalked what DH had said before as the typical "I looked up my symptoms on WebMD and now I'm pretty sure I'm about to die" situation.  I'm just sitting here in my office crying and trying to tell myself not to be crazy and just be patient until we can get some answers.  And I know that there are a lot of treatments available for MS and we will be able to handle it, but it just breaks my heart to think DH might have to go through that.  Also now I'm thinking we should stop TTC until we figure out what is going on with him (because it could be something as simple as a blood vessel that is just rubbing up on the nerve, could be as serious as a brain tumor, and I think that being pregnant while DH is treated for something really serious would just be really really hard), although I know he won't want to do that.    

Because I'm also known for making ill-timed jokes when I'm upset or stressed (it just helps me refocus), here's a gif of a good calm-down slap.  Feel free to just post good slap gifs on here as well:

 

[ttcminicofer]

I have no suggestions other than I hope your DH is ok!
And stay off webmd. if you have a cough, webmd will tell you you could be dying. Just stick to doctors

[longhornwino0907]

No advice or suggestions. Just wanted to send creepy internet ((hugs)) and tell you I hope you get answers soon!

[icequeen]

I think you are getting way ahead of yourself here. I know it sounds scary and you are limbo with what this mysterious ailment is, but the best thing to do would be to make an appointment ASAP and stay away from Dr Google. I don't think you need to worry about stopping TTC just yet. I'll definitely keep you and YH in my prayers.

[Deleted]

Sorry you guys are going through this. FX everything is okay!

[Deleted]

Shit this is scary. I'm so sorry and will be keeping my fingers crossed for you. Keep us updated and take it all one day at a time. xoxo

[Sparkly]

I'm sorry you're going through this! I agree with PPs, try to relax and stay off Dr. Google until you know more. T&Ps everything is okay.

[LadyNymeria]

FX it's nothing, but in the mean time try not to assume the worst. Get the test(s) done and worry (hopefully not worry) about the results then. Not the what ifs you're dealing with now. I would recommend not Googling anything else about the symptoms - you'll just convince that the worst possibility is what's happening.

I will be thinking of you and YH.

[nerdykitten]

Deciding if you are putting a pause on TTC is something that is solely a decision that needs to be made by the two of you. Though I will tell you I personally don't think I could have handled being pregnant while my husband went through all of his treatments and surgies for rectal cancer. And everyone is right about not jumping to diagnosis conclusions; just get into a neurologist as quickly as possible. I know the waits for those appointments can sometimes be long in some areas of the country so you might have to have the referring dentist be pushy. FX that it is the best case scenario for your DH. I will be keeping you both in my thoughts.

[GoBigOrGoGnome]

That sucks I'm glad he went in to get it checked out and that he can get some answers, though. Maybe just see what the further testing says about it and then decide about TTC? FX for good news!

[spaghettioh]

Sending positive vibes your way!

[mtnmomma13]

I'm sorry things are in such limbo right now. I hope you find some answers soon and FX that it's something simple. Please keep us updated.

[daisy818]

Thank you everyone! Luckily he actually already had an appt with a neurologist for migraines so they can probably just move it up. And I called my college roommate (she's a neurosurgeon) and she said for now to have him do things to clear his sinuses because that is sometimes the cause. Hope it's something that simple!

[wirt2cute]

FX that everything will be okay.

[ghostmonkey]

Jan 29, 2015 19:17:15 GMT -5 @wineandcupcakes said:

I'm a nurse and here are my thoughts (this is not medical advice)


4) slipped discs are so fucking common. Don't rule that out.

Something like this crossed my mind too. It could be that or a strain of a muscle of some kind that has gone on long enough to pull all kinds of things out of whack. Definitely keep the neuro appointment, but maybe consider seeing a good chiro or PT if they find nothing. There are a lot of things that can cause the pain you are describing. 


Hopefully you get some answers soon. 

[RaeLynn28]

So sorry to hear about this and hope your DH is OK. If it were me, I'd be a wreck as well! Try to relax until you find out what really is going on. Wishing you the best and keep us posted!

[westisleflower]

I'm sorry you're in limbo... keeping my FX for you and your DH.

[teenybenoit]

FX & T&P. hopefully whatever is going on is treatable easily. Hugs

[physiomeg]

I'm sorry you're going through this I would echo the other posters suggestion to not worry too much about this yet. I know it's hard, but wait and see what the doctor thinks and what the tests say.

Based on the many people with MS I've treated (physical therapist, not an MD...and this is obviously not medical advice) my first thought from neck and jaw pain symptoms would not be MS. Frequently, muscle weakness and blurred vision are first symptoms in that population.

My hope for you both is that it's something as benign as an inflamed nerve, a trigger point in the muscle with referred pain, or any number of the other easily treated reasons for pain like this. Until the doctors appointment I would just try to distract yourself and stay off the internet! Although, here's fine I guess

[achromia]

I'm glad to hear that it sounds like he will be able to see a doctor sooner rather than later. Try to stay positive for now, since there are so many potential causes for his symptoms. I hope you get some good news soon.

[getzystark]

Fx it's nothing serious. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I'll be thinking about you and sending positive thoughts!

[thewickedfairy]

Lots of thoughts and prayers for you and your H.

[BrewGirl]

I was in the dental field for a long time and I will tell you that the only thing a Dentist can diagnose is conditions having to do with the teeth. Neck and jaw pain could be from a number of issues. WebMD will tell you the most extreme. You could put in a hangnail and it will tell you you will die tomorrow.

I hope your DH feels better soon and that you can try to stay calm and relax.

Here's a funny gif for you

[icaughtfire]

FX your husband is okay. Try not to stress until you have something to stress about. Easier said than done, I know.

[madamewaffles]

Sending you ((hugs)) and happy, healthy thoughts. I hope there's nothing to worry about, but I don't blame you for being concerned right now.

[teraiin]

You guys are in my thoughts. I hope everything works out well and it is nothing too serious. I'm sure it's difficult but try to stay calm and not stress out too much. Hopefully the doctor can give you guys some good news. (hug)

[daisy818]

Thanks again so much for all the kind thoughts and helpful info! You ladies are awesome. Luckily for me DH is staying super calm and reasonable, which has helped me stop panicking like a crazy person.

[MrsC0617]

Hugs and fx for some answers soon. Take care.

[Daikoku]

Here's hoping it's something little.

[expatmama11]

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this right now. I really hope it turns out to be a very minor issue. Sending positive vibes your way!