Yup 2 wakeup over here too. First wakeup was rough. She wouldn't go in her crib for almost 2hrs. Second one was easier, but not cool at an hour before I had to wakeup.
So last night P woke up every 45 minutes, all night. Today he has slept for a total of one hour. He HAS to sleep eventually, right? I can't fathom another night like last night. I just can't do it.
I have put my kid down 4 times in the last 3 hours, and we are wide awake yet again after only about 20 minutes. We've been having a lot of nights like this recently. Anyone else's babies refusing to go to bed/having trouble initially going down?
YES!! He'll fall asleep around 8/8:30 and it's more like a nap because he wakes up within an hour. He only goes to bed by being nursed to sleep, and I can't sneak away from him for at least two or so hours until he is in a really deep sleep, or he is crying within a few minutes. It sucks.
I have put my kid down 4 times in the last 3 hours, and we are wide awake yet again after only about 20 minutes. We've been having a lot of nights like this recently. Anyone else's babies refusing to go to bed/having trouble initially going down?
Yes yes and yes. Haven't been commenting too much on the sleep threads because I've just resigned myself to the fact she is a sh*tty sleeper.
I have put my kid down 4 times in the last 3 hours, and we are wide awake yet again after only about 20 minutes. We've been having a lot of nights like this recently. Anyone else's babies refusing to go to bed/having trouble initially going down?
Yes yes and yes. Haven't been commenting too much on the sleep threads because I've just resigned myself to the fact she is a sh*tty sleeper.
Life twins. T lets me put him down sleeping in the pnp, but we're still eating an avg of every 3 hrs all.night.long.
She sometimes goes down easily and sometimes she's up within an hour or two. Tonight she was up 30 minutes after we put her down. We're still nursing every three hours at night, too.
Observation - most of the babies still waking every 2/3 hours are nursed/bf (I think).
Not saying all babies who are ff sleep longer or through the night, or all babies that are nursed wake up often still. But from this sleep thread, that is an observation.
Not trying to start a debate, I don't care how anyone feeds their kid (if I was able to have bf I would have been gloriously happy).
Anyways, I'm offering this up as a possible reason why some may still be up so often - not for anyone to change what they are doing, but just something to think about.
V is BF and slept 10-5 last night (and 11:30-5 the night before). Our current sleep issue is getting him to sleep initially. Two nights ago it was 9, last night it was 10 (normal bedtime is 6:30ish).
Could it be he's overtired when you're finally putting him to bed and that's why he's having a hard time? Would trying to put him down 20 min earlier help? Like 6:15 instead of 6:30 perhaps?
If anyone has advice on how I can get M to sleep past 4:45 every single day, Id appreciate it. Otherwise, can't wait til March 13th.
Could it be he's overtired when you're finally putting him to bed and that's why he's having a hard time? Would trying to put him down 20 min earlier help? Like 6:15 instead of 6:30 perhaps?
If anyone has advice on how I can get M to sleep past 4:45 every single day, Id appreciate it. Otherwise, can't wait til March 13th.
It shouldn't be. Nothing has changed with his nap schedule or the amount he has been sleeping during the day, and he's showing sleep cues at the same time as usual. He goes down at 6:30, just doesn't stay asleep for more than 20 minutes, then he's wide awake again.
What happens on March 13? ETA: Nevermind, just read other responses.
Daylight savings time.
Hope it's just a quick phase for V and he'll go back to staying asleep at bedtime.
Observation - most of the babies still waking every 2/3 hours are nursed/bf (I think).
Not saying all babies who are ff sleep longer or through the night, or all babies that are nursed wake up often still. But from this sleep thread, that is an observation.
Not trying to start a debate, I don't care how anyone feeds their kid (if I was able to have bf I would have been gloriously happy).
Anyways, I'm offering this up as a possible reason why some may still be up so often - not for anyone to change what they are doing, but just something to think about.
I've actually been noticing this too. It also sticks out to me because since I EP I know precisely how much BM N is taking in a day. In the last month her intake has dramatically increased, even on top of solids, and particularly at night.
But ETA, ditto to it just being an observation.
That is really interesting to know! I've added a couple nursing sessions a day but can't really tell if he is hungry or if it's just for comfort because he has also been very clingy and always wants to be held lately.
Post by carolyngrace on Dec 24, 2015 11:14:21 GMT -5
I'm still really struggling in attempts to night wean. I hold off feeding until at least 6 hours, and sometimes closer to 9. But I just can't muster up the energy with subsequent wake ups. So now we're getting a decent first stretch usually, but then he's up like every two hours after that
I'm feeling especially discouraged since we were driving during his 6pm-12am sleep last night. Then I got to bed at 1, and he was up at 3, 5, and 6.
Just fucking exhausted but I guess what's new. Will be going to bed at 8pm tonight!!
Post by beersandweirs on Dec 24, 2015 13:01:42 GMT -5
carolyngrace can you send DH in there to try to calm him? I don't know how much crying you are comfortable with, but when she wakes up at a none feeding time and it is clear she will not go back to sleep on her own, I send in husband. He picks her up and stands right by the crib until she calms down, then lays her back down and leaves. It usually results in a few more minutes of crying, and then she goes back to sleep. I know everyone's baby is different, but just wanted to suggest it if you hadn't tried it yet. Good luck!
carolyngrace can you send DH in there to try to calm him? I don't know how much crying you are comfortable with, but when she wakes up at a none feeding time and it is clear she will not go back to sleep on her own, I send in husband. He picks her up and stands right by the crib until she calms down, then lays her back down and leaves. It usually results in a few more minutes of crying, and then she goes back to sleep. I know everyone's baby is different, but just wanted to suggest it if you hadn't tried it yet. Good luck!
I second this. Daddy (non food person) for the sleepy win.
carolyngrace can you send DH in there to try to calm him? I don't know how much crying you are comfortable with, but when she wakes up at a none feeding time and it is clear she will not go back to sleep on her own, I send in husband. He picks her up and stands right by the crib until she calms down, then lays her back down and leaves. It usually results in a few more minutes of crying, and then she goes back to sleep. I know everyone's baby is different, but just wanted to suggest it if you hadn't tried it yet. Good luck!
Yea, I need to do this. Especially since DH is off of work for a week. Definitely ok with some crying, and that sounds similar to how we do bedtimes and MOTN too.
I have a sleep/related bitch: So we have been really struggling with H's sleep where she was up 5-8 times per night (often even when she had just been fed, changed and put back to sleep 20 mins earlier). After a LOT of research, talks with our doctor and tears on my part, we decided to do Ferber CIO this week. So I of course told my BFF and was telling her how I feel so awful that we have to do it, it breaks my heart to let her cry, etc. She told a friend of hers, whom I've met, about it when the friend asked how I was doing. Then today the friend posts a horrible article about how any version of CIO can cause severe emotional detachment disorders, build insecure babies, damage their development, etc etc. It was basically ever fear I have about CIO in one article.
I get it...we all have different parenting styles. But I don't tell you how detrimental I think it is that you let your 2 yr old and 4 yr old pick their own bedtimes each night. Did you seriously need to post that? But I feel like I have to let it roll off me because my BFF has never had a long-term friend other than me and she's really been enjoying hanging out with this girl. I don't want to ruin a potentially good friendship for her but man am I pissed!
I have a sleep/related bitch: So we have been really struggling with H's sleep where she was up 5-8 times per night (often even when she had just been fed, changed and put back to sleep 20 mins earlier). After a LOT of research, talks with our doctor and tears on my part, we decided to do Ferber CIO this week. So I of course told my BFF and was telling her how I feel so awful that we have to do it, it breaks my heart to let her cry, etc. She told a friend of hers, whom I've met, about it when the friend asked how I was doing. Then today the friend posts a horrible article about how any version of CIO can cause severe emotional detachment disorders, build insecure babies, damage their development, etc etc. It was basically ever fear I have about CIO in one article.
I get it...we all have different parenting styles. But I don't tell you how detrimental I think it is that you let your 2 yr old and 4 yr old pick their own bedtimes each night. Did you seriously need to post that? But I feel like I have to let it roll off me because my BFF has never had a long-term friend other than me and she's really been enjoying hanging out with this girl. I don't want to ruin a potentially good friendship for her but man am I pissed!
We're pushing sleep training right now and it hurts my heart to listen to him cry. But I do know it's for the best in the long run.
My mom let me CIO when I was about 6 months old. It was 28 years ago and I don't think I'm an overly damaged person. But kids not having a bedtime really messes them up - noted from my research as a teacher. Tired kids are jerks.
I think sleep training is a really sensitive subject and I typically just bite my tongue when it comes to it. You've ultimately gotta do what works for your family. People don't see that, though.
She's up every three hours like clockwork tonight.Bed at 6:30; up at 9:30 and a little after 12:30. If we could link two of those sleep cycles so we got 6 hours, that would be amazing!
I forgot to turn on the monitor in our room last night. Both H and I heard O screaming from her bedroom at 2:30am. Who knows how long she had been crying, or if she had cried earlier in the night. Mom fail. I felt horrible
Post by hannahl201477 on Dec 26, 2015 13:43:58 GMT -5
I want to try and start sleep training. As someone who has worked in childcare/nanny I have done CIO several times but this is MY baby. And either way it's me losing sleep every night. Mal is not good at self soothing bc I have never made him so I just don't even know what would work good for us.
It's 3:50 and Owen's been partying for about an hour. I fed him and put him back in his crib. His eyes popped open and he started to laugh at me. He was so excited to see me. I know we'll get there one day. If you had asked me about baby sleep prior to having one, I would have told you that my plan was for my baby to sleep through the night at 12 weeks. Oh what a naive woman I was.
I want to try and start sleep training. As someone who has worked in childcare/nanny I have done CIO several times but this is MY baby. And either way it's me losing sleep every night. Mal is not good at self soothing bc I have never made him so I just don't even know what would work good for us.
That is exactly how I felt. My old boss had her twins CIO at 6 months and as the nanny it wasn't too awful but with MY baby it was heartbreaking. It still makes me feel terrible when she fusses at night and we don't comfort her, but I will say that she went from NEVER being able to self-soothe to being able to self-soothe multiple times at night and at nap time with under 5 mins of fussing in one week after we did the Ferber CIO. First night was awful, second night was only awful at bedtime and then she did 9.5 hours straight, and the third night she was an old pro. It seemed impossible but it did work. And we didn't do it exactly as suggested - we let her have her paci and Lovie to help her soothe herself and we still do one night feeding after 6-7 hours of sleep. She still wakes every 3-4 hours but she just rolls around a little and then goes back to sleep.
Post by seannemairi on Dec 28, 2015 2:57:56 GMT -5
We're on cold #4 since starting daycare 2 and a half months ago. Relatively low grade fever since midnight yesterday and no symptoms until bedtime tonight when she couldn't breathe from her nose. She's been on my boob for almost an hour now and she refuses to come off. She finally fell asleep a little bit ago so I tried to put her next to me for a little while and she immediately woke up looking for tit. I have to be up at 6 to get ready for work. The best part is my mother in law is in town, which is great, love her - but she's staying at her sister's house down the street and our niece, nephew, aunts 2 grandkids and their other sister and her 2 grandkids are staying there and they are all up in my girl's cookies on a constant basis trying to make her laugh and wanting to carry her around and not understanding (because duh, they're just kids) that she needs quiet time occasionally. Well, that's where she'll be while we're at work tomorrow so I'm assuming she won't nap because the kids run around screaming ALL DAY when they're not making faces 2 inches from her face. Ugh. Tomorrow night is going to be just as bad as tonight I think. Are the holidays fucking over yet?!
Good grief I'm in serious need of coffee. I'm not sure why, or what I could have possibly eaten, but T is SO gassy and fussy. She woke up Every. Single. Hour. She cried and screamed and would fuss. I got zero sleep from 9-2:30. When H got home from work, he took her until 5:00 so I could rest, then we switched shifts. She finally slept for about 3 hours in a row from 5-8.
Good grief I'm in serious need of coffee. I'm not sure why, or what I could have possibly eaten, but T is SO gassy and fussy. She woke up Every. Single. Hour. She cried and screamed and would fuss. I got zero sleep from 9-2:30. When H got home from work, he took her until 5:00 so I could rest, then we switched shifts. She finally slept for about 3 hours in a row from 5-8.
We had that happen once, I suspect a large amount of cauliflower was our culprit.
We're on cold #4 since starting daycare 2 and a half months ago. Relatively low grade fever since midnight yesterday and no symptoms until bedtime tonight when she couldn't breathe from her nose. She's been on my boob for almost an hour now and she refuses to come off. She finally fell asleep a little bit ago so I tried to put her next to me for a little while and she immediately woke up looking for tit. I have to be up at 6 to get ready for work. The best part is my mother in law is in town, which is great, love her - but she's staying at her sister's house down the street and our niece, nephew, aunts 2 grandkids and their other sister and her 2 grandkids are staying there and they are all up in my girl's cookies on a constant basis trying to make her laugh and wanting to carry her around and not understanding (because duh, they're just kids) that she needs quiet time occasionally. Well, that's where she'll be while we're at work tomorrow so I'm assuming she won't nap because the kids run around screaming ALL DAY when they're not making faces 2 inches from her face. Ugh. Tomorrow night is going to be just as bad as tonight I think. Are the holidays fucking over yet?!
I'm sorry, the overstimulation and V's illnesses have messed our sleep up badly too. Will she take a pacifier?
She would if she could breathe through her nose at all. I'm attempting to feed her in the steamed bathroom because nothing is clearing her nose AT ALL. she also has a fever again so she's so upset. We're in for a long one.
I want to try and start sleep training. As someone who has worked in childcare/nanny I have done CIO several times but this is MY baby. And either way it's me losing sleep every night. Mal is not good at self soothing bc I have never made him so I just don't even know what would work good for us.
That is exactly how I felt. My old boss had her twins CIO at 6 months and as the nanny it wasn't too awful but with MY baby it was heartbreaking. It still makes me feel terrible when she fusses at night and we don't comfort her, but I will say that she went from NEVER being able to self-soothe to being able to self-soothe multiple times at night and at nap time with under 5 mins of fussing in one week after we did the Ferber CIO. First night was awful, second night was only awful at bedtime and then she did 9.5 hours straight, and the third night she was an old pro. It seemed impossible but it did work. And we didn't do it exactly as suggested - we let her have her paci and Lovie to help her soothe herself and we still do one night feeding after 6-7 hours of sleep. She still wakes every 3-4 hours but she just rolls around a little and then goes back to sleep.
This gives me hope. I'm still too chicken to try it with T. It worked on DS1, but not DD, so for now I'm putting it off unti I'm really desperate
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