We haven't told a soul and - if I can keep this bloat under control! - won't tell anyone until at least after first tri. I know I say that now but I can see myself holding off until being half-baked...then v-day!
This is our third pregnancy, however we don't have any LCs yet. Both times H was so excited he told his whole family right after we got it confirmed at the OBs office. After the first loss, I didn't even want to let my mom know until our kid was walking lol! She's not the most tactful or comforting person and although unintentional, she totally made it seem like it was our fault we had our first loss (by telling folks too soon). She never even knew about the second pregnancy until 4 months after I m/c'd.
Post by twinkie0612 on Dec 16, 2015 16:22:04 GMT -5
Both of our parents know, my siblings, and a few friends. But we were also doing infertility treatments and most of those people knew we were cycling. DH wants to tell his brother on Christmas and maybe tell his grandparents.
I am planning to wait until after New Year's to tell anyone else. I'll be 10 weeks.
TTC #1 since August 2011 DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low P4, hostile CM, carrier for CF, high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA October 2012-August 2015: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, 2 failed FETs w/donor embryos, 1 freeze all IVF, 1 Failed FET, and 1 cancelled FET November 2015: FET w/ DEm #3 Transferred 1 perfect 6AA blast
My best friend knows.. I think parents will find out after we know due date and work will know the next time I see my boss after getting due date.. So Christmas and sometime in January!
Post by youdontsay on Dec 16, 2015 16:27:48 GMT -5
My mom knows (and I think my dad) only because my parents were here during my monitoring appointments so my mom knew when my first beta test was.
I won't tell my boss until 12 weeks because I want to negotiate my position to part time and that will give him plenty of time to present that to his boss.
I honestly don't want to tell anyone else until like this kid is off to college, but who knows how long that'll last. I work in an office with other people so they're going to figure things out eventually.
My Mom and Sister know, plus a good friend I work with. We'll probably tell the rest of close family after the ultrasound and everybody else after first tri.
I've told my TCF friends (obvs) and two of my best friends that are out of state/country. They can all keep secrets, so I trust them.
We're planning to tell my family on Christmas, since we'll be at a family reunion. It seemed like a good time. We'll tell his dad and sister on his dad's birthday and, hopefully, his mom shortly thereafter.
Then we'll tell work because one car and several appointments kind of necessitates that. We'll probably be all out by mid-January, just after 8 weeks.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Dec 16, 2015 16:33:04 GMT -5
This is my first and I'm overly excited about it, so I have told about 10 friends who are sworn to secrecy.
Will be telling our parents on Christmas (9 weeks). We somehow ended up with these Grandma & Grandpa ornaments that used to belong to my H's grandparents but now they are passed away. So we are wrapping those up and giving to H's parents. Will be neat to see if they understand it or if they just think we are returning them to their family for no reason haha.
Don't plan to tell grandparents, work, or any other friends until about 14 weeks.
I have always told my mum and sister right away but this time I haven't told any family yet. I would like to keep it under wraps until after my 9 week scan.
We're not telling anyone until after our u/s on 1/6. It's killing me not to tell my dearest friend, but coming off a loss, I'd just rather keep it under wraps for now.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Dec 16, 2015 16:44:34 GMT -5
babbles, I had my first appointment at just 6w3d (last week). They said they normally don't do ultrasounds yet but I was like "well can I have one anyways?" and they laughed and said sure. My next appointment they made is for week 10.
Post by redhead610 on Dec 16, 2015 17:04:24 GMT -5
We have told immediate family (parents and siblings), and will tell a few close friends. They knew we were trying because of our loss. I had an ultrasound this morning and am measuring 5 days behind. I'll have another in 2 weeks. We will wait until after 1st tri to tell everyone else, since our loss was at almost 12 weeks.
We told my best friend and our families right away. I gave them each signs in a frame that said "We have even more to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. Baby - August 2016". Now our extended families know, but I'm waiting to tell work and the rest of the world.
I had my first ultrasound this morning. Baby measured 6w4d with a heart rate of 129. So excited for my little bean! I'm dying to tell my girls, but I'm waiting until closer to 12 weeks.
I had one this early because I was at a higher risk of an ectopic pregnancy (due to surgery on my Fallopian tube in September). Normally they do 8 week appointments.
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Post by fishchicks on Dec 16, 2015 17:39:05 GMT -5
I'm dreading this. We live out of state from our families. MIL will be over the moon thrilled about a grandbaby, and my stepmother will probably be happy and supportive, but my mom and dad both hate kids. The last time I saw my mom she mentioned how glad she is that she doesn't have grandkids.
I'll probably tell my dad and stepmom when they're here visiting around 12 weeks. DH spends time with him mom monthly, so he'll be giving her a mug that reads "Only the best moms get promoted to grandma" when he sees her in February. As for my mom, I'm thinking of sending her a sympathy card with the news sometime before May, which is the next time I'll see her in person.
I'm dreading this. We live out of state from our families. MIL will be over the moon thrilled about a grandbaby, and my stepmother will probably be happy and supportive, but my mom and dad both hate kids. The last time I saw my mom she mentioned how glad she is that she doesn't have grandkids. :(
I'll probably tell my dad and stepmom when they're here visiting around 12 weeks. DH spends time with him mom monthly, so he'll be giving her a mug that reads "Only the best moms get promoted to grandma" when he sees her in February. As for my mom, I'm thinking of sending her a sympathy card with the news sometime before May, which is the next time I'll see her in person.
*squeeze* I'm sorry your parents aren't supportive. Mine weren't either when we first started TTC, but they've come around. I hope yours do, too.
We were originally going to wait until after the first ultrasound (about 8 weeks), but we are flying out to see our families this weekend so we are going to tell them them since it will be our only chance to do it in person.
We may tell a couple close friends soon after that. They are getting married right around my due date and have mentioned my DH being the officiant, which obviously won't work. I think they suspect though.
Idk when I'm going to tell work. We are considering moving before the baby come and if we don't I may not return. I want to get that stuff figured out more before I say anything. The office is pretty flexible and family-friendly though so I don't think it will be an issue.
Eta: I am worried my family will be annoyed that it's so soon after my sister. I'm a little worried that my sister will be feel like I am stealing her thunder or something. We are due about two weeks apart in different states so my mom may not be able to be there for both of us.
I have told everyone at work and my friends but have not told our families. We got my daughter a shirt that says 'only child exp 2016' that she will wear on Christmas Day. The family is going to be very surprised. I'm excited to see their reactions.
I really want to tell my boss cause she was the first person that I told about our IF stuff and there's an inside joke she'd get a kick out of but part of me feels like it's way too early. SO wants to tell some people too. I also feel like family should know first. Some people are just easier to talk to than others.
I am not usually the type to do a cutesie reveal or anything, but I kinda feel like messing with people a bit. IL's are currently expecting their 4th grandson (no girls yet-- DH's is an incredibly boy- heavy family). I was thinking of making some comment about, "Wow, nothing but grandsons as far as the eye can see, huh? Well we will have to find out in July if that trend continues" and see if anyone even notices or uf they just keep right n talking
I had my first ultrasound on Friday with the RE at 5w 6d and was supposed to have my next ultrasound at 8w 2d but I started panicking that I am going to have another loss and so I go back this Friday at 6w 6d. I have a history of reoccurring pregnancy loss which is why I'm being seen so early. I'm supposed to meet with the OB for the first time around 10 weeks. There will definitely be no kind of announcing from me for a very long time
Eta: my first ultrasound showed a yolk sack measuring exactly at 5w6d with a heartbeat of 104!
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