Post by spicysalmonroll on Dec 26, 2015 10:30:14 GMT -5
So most of us said in the thread a few weeks ago that we were going to share the news with family on Christmas. So did you, and how did it go?!
We ended up chickening out and not telling anyone-even parents and siblings. We have a doctor appt Jan 11th which will be 11 weeks and we decided to wait til then for additional peace of mind. Hope everyone had a great holiday!
We might end up telling my H's parents today. They are spending the day with us and I'm sure they will figure it out anyways. Hard to miss that I can't eat or move without puking.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Dec 26, 2015 10:39:39 GMT -5
jamjoyful oh man hope you feel better. I was convinced my sister in law was gunna be suspicious when I showed up at 8 am with a ginger ale in hand but she was so busy with her kids that she didn't even notice.
SO decided he wants to wait longer. He actually wants to wait until April to tell people but I talked him down to February. His mom is visiting next week. We will see if she says anything about my eating habits. There's a good chance I will be at work well before she wakes up and get home after she's asleep so she may not even see me to notice things. I think he's worried about specifically telling his mom because if he tells her the rest of the family will know including family friends and random people he doesn't know. He has really bad PAIF brain so doesn't want to get anyone's hopes up.
We told both of our families by giving DD a big sister shirt to unwrap in front of everyone. They were all surprised and happy. And now I am nervous about my appointment going badly on Monday hah. But I knew that was the risk we were taking.
As my m/s, inability to eat, and inability to move without a massive headrush and momentary loss of vision escalate, I am becoming more and more convinced that I won't be able to hide it from IL's next weekend. We shall see. Also, anyone else having the head rush problems?
We told my immediate family yesterday. We gave them one of those personalized ornaments - it was a fireplace with stockings for each of us, plus one for the baby. My mom started crying, but other than that they didn't make a huge deal out of it, which was fine with me. We'll tell H's family on NY.
We told both sets of parents when they came over for Christmas Eve dinner. There were tears all around, and everyone was very excited. We told our siblings yesterday and only my sister got excited. DH's sister did say congratulations, but DH's brother and his wife (who has a daughter) seemed less then enthused. Maybe it's because we're due around their daughters birthday? It was kinda of a bummer how unexcited they seemed...
Post by spicysalmonroll on Dec 26, 2015 12:23:25 GMT -5
lennonkdc that sucks about his brother, people can be so odd. At least the parents are stoked. dc2london I have definitely been getting more stand up head rushes than usual!
The boys opened shirts from us on Christmas Eve that said, "This guy is a big brother" and "This guy is going to be a big brother". They insisted on wearing their shirts to my Grandma's so that took care of telling most of our family. We posted an announcement to FB too. We were going to wait until New Year's for the announcement, but one of my cousins told his friend that I was pregnant. I went to high school with the friend a looooong time ago so we're FB friends and he posted to my FB, "So I hear you're expecting?" So we went ahead and posted our announcement since people saw that post.
That pisses me off for you. Has this person never heard of a private message?
It also pisses me off when someone has a baby and someone else tags them in a FB post before the parents can announce it.
The boys opened shirts from us on Christmas Eve that said, "This guy is a big brother" and "This guy is going to be a big brother". They insisted on wearing their shirts to my Grandma's so that took care of telling most of our family. We posted an announcement to FB too. We were going to wait until New Year's for the announcement, but one of my cousins told his friend that I was pregnant. I went to high school with the friend a looooong time ago so we're FB friends and he posted to my FB, "So I hear you're expecting?" So we went ahead and posted our announcement since people saw that post.
That pisses me off for you. Has this person never heard of a private message?
It also pisses me off when someone has a baby and someone else tags them in a FB post before the parents can announce it.
Post by juliayadda on Dec 26, 2015 13:38:24 GMT -5
Still hiding as I am 4+2 but i carried around a glass of wine on Christmas Eve with the in-laws. Yesterday I forgot about opening wine... but at SILs it is going to be hard... they are big drinkers. And normally I am a wino at her house!
Still hiding as I am 4+2 but i carried around a glass of wine on Christmas Eve with the in-laws. Yesterday I forgot about opening wine... but at SILs it is going to be hard... they are big drinkers. And normally I am a wino at her house!
This was my problem yesterday. With H's family, it was NBD to not drink, and H had a few beers so I was driving anyways.
Then we went to my parents and I was definitely worried because normally I drink a good amount there especially when we're there for a while. I got lucky and my parents and relatives were already fairly drunk by the time I got there so it was a non-issue.
Post by remylove1011 on Dec 26, 2015 14:07:43 GMT -5
We told the few people we decided to tell (My parents, brother, and our bffs) last week since they all knew dates for our FET and betas. I think we'll wait a bit to tell others. My first ultrasound is on Tuesday (6w4d), but even then I won't announce to everyone until close to the end of first tri. I'm so nervous aboutv everything. Just feels safer
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Post by roofusdoofus on Dec 26, 2015 14:37:54 GMT -5
We were "found out" by several (who kept it to themselves) because of my lack of drinking, when typically I'm good for a glass of wine (or several). Our parents, siblings, and a few friends know.
dc2london major head rush over here. Not liking it. The nausea ebbs and flows. It seems to either be here hitting full on or not really around at all. So far, this pregnancy is nothing like my last already.
We told both sets of parents when they came over for Christmas Eve dinner. There were tears all around, and everyone was very excited. We told our siblings yesterday and only my sister got excited. DH's sister did say congratulations, but DH's brother and his wife (who has a daughter) seemed less then enthused. Maybe it's because we're due around their daughters birthday? It was kinda of a bummer how unexcited they seemed...
Because your uterus obviously revolves around their child's date of birth
dc2london I know right? I thought they would have been at least mildly excited for their daughter to have a cousin. And she already shares an August birthday with 2 other LO in DH'S family...
We told immediate family. To me my losses are not a secret I talk openly about them with family & friends if the subject is ever brought up. We don't offically announce to ppl who arent close until much later (just because people can say stupid things after a loss and its just easier to limit "the advice" or whatever you hear) We facetimed dh parents and put dd in a big sister shirt, took them forever to figure it out. The look on their face was hilarious. My parents knew as soon as I found out cause my mom had numerious losses so I tell her everything!
We told both sets of parents when they came over for Christmas Eve dinner. There were tears all around, and everyone was very excited. We told our siblings yesterday and only my sister got excited. DH's sister did say congratulations, but DH's brother and his wife (who has a daughter) seemed less then enthused. Maybe it's because we're due around their daughters birthday? It was kinda of a bummer how unexcited they seemed...
How old is the daughter? I wonder if they are trying for #2 or something and maybe were a little jell? Sorry they were not more excited
She's 2, so maybe they are trying for #2....IDK. They met, got engaged, got married and had a kid in the time it took DH and I to save for and plan our wedding and we were nothing but excited for them. So it sucks if they can't at least fake some enthusiasm...
The boys opened shirts from us on Christmas Eve that said, "This guy is a big brother" and "This guy is going to be a big brother". They insisted on wearing their shirts to my Grandma's so that took care of telling most of our family. We posted an announcement to FB too. We were going to wait until New Year's for the announcement, but one of my cousins told his friend that I was pregnant. I went to high school with the friend a looooong time ago so we're FB friends and he posted to my FB, "So I hear you're expecting?" So we went ahead and posted our announcement since people saw that post.
That pisses me off for you. Has this person never heard of a private message?
It also pisses me off when someone has a baby and someone else tags them in a FB post before the parents can announce it.
This pisses me off too!
DH told his brother and SIL yesterday and called his grandparents to tell them.
I found out that DH's boss told his whole family at Thanksgiving (just days after we found out). I am a little pissed that DH even told him, but he felt like he had to since I have so many out of town appointments. DH's boss's family includes some of DH's family friends so I found out a ton of people already know. DH's parents' neighbor mentioned it to FIL yesterday.
I don't understand why people feel the need to share our news especially when we specifically said we weren't telling people yet. I was already nervous telling people, now way more people know than I wanted.
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That pisses me off for you. Has this person never heard of a private message?
It also pisses me off when someone has a baby and someone else tags them in a FB post before the parents can announce it.
This pisses me off too!
DH told his brother and SIL yesterday and called his grandparents to tell them.
I found out that DH's boss told his whole family at Thanksgiving (just days after we found out). I am a little pissed that DH even told him, but he felt like he had to since I have so many out of town appointments. DH's boss's family includes some of DH's family friends so I found out a ton of people already know. DH's parents' neighbor mentioned it to FIL yesterday.
I don't understand why people feel the need to share our news especially when we specifically said we weren't telling people yet. I was already nervous telling people, now way more people know than I wanted.
Damnit, I'm sorry, Twinkie. That's some real bullshit right there.
Post by gratefulgirl on Dec 26, 2015 16:15:43 GMT -5
We told FIL and MIL, but not the siblings-in-law. Our DDs still don't know because how would I explain loss to a nearly 4 year old? And H doesn't want to tell a ton of people before we'd tell DD1. MIL and FIL were excited in an understated way (they always are, they have a lot of grandkids).
I hope my siblings-in-law won't be upset that we didn't tell them earlier. I doubt they will.
Sorry to everyone who has been outed. That really stinks.
I have no plans to tell my H's siblings. They didn't bother to tell us when they were pregnant so AFAIC they can find out on FB like we did. #crackereaters
Post by sarcaztic10 on Dec 26, 2015 18:22:02 GMT -5
My mom has known since the day I got my BFP. After that a few people who had been following our IF journey know. We will tell my dad and brother after 1st tri. We hope to keep it from H's parents until there is a baby in our arms. We may do a generic announcement on IG at some point after the A/S.
We told our families around Thanksgiving, but I did tell DH's aunt on Christmas Eve so that was fun. DH is dying to tell our daughters but I'm just so nervous. Our 3 year old will be SO excited and if something happened, that would make it really hard. I'm tempted to go to a private ultrasound place next weekend (at 9 weeks) so we can tell them. Is that crazy? I'm not sure yet if I'm getting an NT scan.
We told our families around Thanksgiving, but I did tell DH's aunt on Christmas Eve so that was fun. DH is dying to tell our daughters but I'm just so nervous. Our 3 year old will be SO excited and if something happened, that would make it really hard. I'm tempted to go to a private ultrasound place next weekend (at 9 weeks) so we can tell them. Is that crazy? I'm not sure yet if I'm getting an NT scan.
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