Post by shamrockshimmy on Dec 28, 2015 11:40:05 GMT -5
I ended up telling my boss today. I've clearly not been myself the last 2 weeks. Plus, in the 2 times I've been to the OB so far, I have run into 3 coworkers. All info spreads like wildfire around here and my role has some huge scheduling difficulties, so I didn't want her to hear through rumor. My pgal brain feels paranoid about jinxing myself, but I had a good scan on Christmas Eve so I'm just going with it.
I ended up telling my boss today. I've clearly not been myself the last 2 weeks. Plus, in the 2 times I've been to the OB so far, I have run into 3 coworkers. All info spreads like wildfire around here and my role has some huge scheduling difficulties, so I didn't want her to hear through rumor. My pgal brain feels paranoid about jinxing myself, but I had a good scan on Christmas Eve so I'm just going with it.
I just keep telling myself that the more people who know, the more people who can pray and/or send stay put vibes to our tiny tyrant. I know it's terrifying though
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Dh and I are at an impasse on telling DS. I really want to tell him sooner than later. But DH wants to wait until the end of first tri. Obviously, DH is concerned about loss, but if I were to have a loss I would want to tell DS (he is 9). Because I would be grieving, and would want him to know why. Do you think that it is too much for a 9 year old?
Dh and I are at an impasse on telling DS. I really want to tell him sooner than later. But DH wants to wait until the end of first tri. Obviously, DH is concerned about loss, but if I were to have a loss I would want to tell DS (he is 9). Because I would be grieving, and would want him to know why. Do you think that it is too much for a 9 year old?
I think he could handle that as long as there aren't a ton of details should there be a loss.
Dh and I are at an impasse on telling DS. I really want to tell him sooner than later. But DH wants to wait until the end of first tri. Obviously, DH is concerned about loss, but if I were to have a loss I would want to tell DS (he is 9). Because I would be grieving, and would want him to know why. Do you think that it is too much for a 9 year old?
Paging theophania who unfortunately has experience with this
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Dh and I are at an impasse on telling DS. I really want to tell him sooner than later. But DH wants to wait until the end of first tri. Obviously, DH is concerned about loss, but if I were to have a loss I would want to tell DS (he is 9). Because I would be grieving, and would want him to know why. Do you think that it is too much for a 9 year old?
We had told my nieces (ages 9 & 6) about our baby just prior to our 12 week loss. My sister had to tell them what happened, and they had a few questions about it (why do some babies live and some don't? What about babies born sick and just need surgery?Could I have more kids?) , but they were capable of understanding. I realize it's not the same when it would be your own sibling lost. We are not telling ds (2 1/2) or the nieces until after first tri this time.
Dh and I are at an impasse on telling DS. I really want to tell him sooner than later. But DH wants to wait until the end of first tri. Obviously, DH is concerned about loss, but if I were to have a loss I would want to tell DS (he is 9). Because I would be grieving, and would want him to know why. Do you think that it is too much for a 9 year old?
I'd tell him now. If something were to happen and you hadn't told him, I'm sure he'd be able to sense that something was wrong anyways (unless you're really good at hiding your emotions). Hopefully you won't have to deal with that though.
Paging theophania who unfortunately has experience with this
It was rough having to tell my then 9 year old about our loss, but he took it well overall and sometimes he and his brother like to do nice things in Sprout's honor. We didn't tell them about the second loss thinking it would be easier that way, but honestly it wasn't. It made our grieving harder because we were trying to hide it that time. We did tell them this time and they are cautiously excited. We've really emphasized that this doesn't guarantee us a baby, but that we have a chance at having a baby.
Thanks for sharing. My little dude is super sensitive and I think he would know. Gahd I hope it doesn't come to that, but I guess it is just reality.
Dh and I are at an impasse on telling DS. I really want to tell him sooner than later. But DH wants to wait until the end of first tri. Obviously, DH is concerned about loss, but if I were to have a loss I would want to tell DS (he is 9). Because I would be grieving, and would want him to know why. Do you think that it is too much for a 9 year old?
We had told my nieces (ages 9 & 6) about our baby just prior to our 12 week loss. My sister had to tell them what happened, and they had a few questions about it (why do some babies live and some don't? What about babies born sick and just need surgery?Could I have more kids?) , but they were capable of understanding. I realize it's not the same when it would be your own sibling lost. We are not telling ds (2 1/2) or the nieces until after first tri this time.
Thanks for sharing your experience. Part of me thinks it would be easier for him to deal with a 6 month wait instead of 35 more weeks.
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