shehulk723, That sucks so bad. I hope you can work through this. Has his behaviour changed since DD came along? Hopefully he just needs a swift kick in the grow up alreadys.
I had a lot of trouble with my first husband in this manner. We did counselling but unfortunately it took a divorce for him to step up as a dad.
I hope truly you can work through this. Especially with what your parents are going through.
He actually just changed drastically over the last 3 months. He's not the man I married. I don't know what going on. The bad fight we got into about 3 months ago, he started throwing stuff and I was just like nope, we're out and I left. He's turned into such an angry person and IDK why.
Did something drastic happen? Lose a job? A close friend/family member die?
I also suggest counseling because that's crazy behavior.
He actually just changed drastically over the last 3 months. He's not the man I married. I don't know what going on. The bad fight we got into about 3 months ago, he started throwing stuff and I was just like nope, we're out and I left. He's turned into such an angry person and IDK why.
Did something drastic happen? Lose a job? A close friend/family member die?
I also suggest counseling because that's crazy behavior.
Nope, his dad is sick but getting better. And was sick long before that. The only thing I can think of is his seasonal work started back up. But boo-fucking-hoo you have to work like an adult instead of playing video games all day (which he still plays on every day he has off anyways instead of acting like a parent or helping me in any way.)
shehulk723, I'm sorry you're dealing with this - it does not sound healthy. I agree with PPs that counseling could help. It sounds like your H has some issues to work out. You need to do something - especially with #2 on the way. I hope he's open to it.
He actually just changed drastically over the last 3 months. He's not the man I married. I don't know what going on. The bad fight we got into about 3 months ago, he started throwing stuff and I was just like nope, we're out and I left. He's turned into such an angry person and IDK why.
I think you guys should definitely try counseling (and FWIW, if he won't go, it might be worth going by yourself so you have someone who you can talk through all of this with).
Also, has he had a checkup lately? Such an abrupt change makes me wonder if there is something physical that's wrong.
No checkup since we've been married, we paid for health insurance for him all year and I begged him to get a checkup and to see a psychiatrist but he refused to do either. I even offered to call for him or go with him. And because his stupid work now we don't even make enough to qualify for a credit for health insurance for him so no insurance this year.
I feel like death. Took the kids to the children's museum. Too much moving. I just want to curl up on the couch for the rest of the day.
I can't eat anything healthy. I've had popcorn, ice cream and a bag of pea crisps. The healthy foods I made all made me gag. DH says it's probably because my body is telling me to gain weight. I'm not so convinced.
I used to eat pretty healthy and the thought of salads & such is also making me gag. I have been eating so crappy, sigh
shehulk723 I just want to hug you and steal you away. That's completely unacceptable behavior of your husband. Take care of yourself and your daughter and don't dare feel like you are being selfish for doing exactly that. My heart hurts for you and your DD right now, I hope things get better very, very soon. *squeezes*
shehulk723 I just want to hug you and steal you away. That's completely unacceptable behavior of your husband. Take care of yourself and your daughter and don't dare feel like you are being selfish for doing exactly that. My heart hurts for you and your DD right now, I hope things get better very, very soon. *squeezes*
Post by remylove1011 on Jan 10, 2016 21:58:31 GMT -5
shehulk723 I don't have any new advice to add. Just wanted to second PP's that recommended counseling. I hope that things get better and you're able to figure out what changed recently to impact him. It's not ok to call you names like that or throw things. Huge ((Hugs))
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shehulk723 everyone has offered great advice and made valid points. I agree with what has already been posted. Please take care of yourself. The biggest of hugs to you!
Nothing to say that hasn't been said, shehulk723, but please consider all the advice you've been given. If he's unwilling to change, you have a hard decision to make. He's setting a terrible example for your daughter and things won't be any easier once this baby arrives. Please take good care of yourself.
We had a great day playing in the snow. My nausea held off for most of the day which was great but anytime I try and eat, my body is like "nope!" I had a craving for chips and salsa so we went and had Mexican food tonight but I get nauseous while I'm eating for my food cravings are usually so disappointing. Like my cake last night made me feel worse. Blah
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