Post by ronniesgirl on Jan 12, 2016 14:04:45 GMT -5
I am so damn sorry.
I've had a d&c and it was quick and painless. I was offered a final scan in the OR, but my husband could not be present. I declined to be awake for it, but was assured that it would be done (had already had two scans that showed no heartbeat).
For me, the days that followed the d&c were worse emotionally than the day of. Please remember to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. I'll be thinking about you.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I don't have D&C experience, but I hope the procedure goes well and you can focus on healing sooner rather than later.
I've had a d&c and it was quick and painless. I was offered a final scan in the OR, but my husband could not be present. I declined to be awake for it, but was assured that it would be done (had already had two scans that showed no heartbeat).
For me, the days that followed the d&c were worse emotionally than the day of. Please remember to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. I'll be thinking about you.
This is my fear. I'd like to have a final scan. The doctor didn't show me the image today. I need absolute clarity.
I've had a d&c and it was quick and painless. I was offered a final scan in the OR, but my husband could not be present. I declined to be awake for it, but was assured that it would be done (had already had two scans that showed no heartbeat).
For me, the days that followed the d&c were worse emotionally than the day of. Please remember to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. I'll be thinking about you.
This is my fear. I'd like to have a final scan. The doctor didn't show me the image today. I need absolute clarity.
Your doctor should be able to do another scan for you after a few days. With my August pregnancy we had scans at 6 weeks, 8 weeks, and again at almost 10 weeks. I felt like I couldn't handle another D&C and since I knew I needed another surgery shortly after, I chose to use medication to induce the miscarriage. I can't say that I would recommend that or choose that again. It was one of the hardest things to go through. I'm so sorry for what you are facing and the hurt you are having now, thepax89. Please feel free to message if you would like to talk more.
I've had a d&c and it was quick and painless. I was offered a final scan in the OR, but my husband could not be present. I declined to be awake for it, but was assured that it would be done (had already had two scans that showed no heartbeat).
For me, the days that followed the d&c were worse emotionally than the day of. Please remember to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. I'll be thinking about you.
This is my fear. I'd like to have a final scan. The doctor didn't show me the image today. I need absolute clarity.
You absolutely deserve this. For me, on the second scan, it was painfully obvious.
I'm so sorry I had a d&c with both of my missed miscarriages & it wasn't too big of a deal surgery wise. I was happy to have closure as it helped the healing process.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Jan 13, 2016 9:36:42 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you (((hugs))). I had the RPL panel done after my second loss and I agree with PP"s that it is definitely something to ask your Dr. about. I for sure thought that nothing would come back as abnormal because I had a health DS with no problems but a few things did come up that I ended up getting treatment for.
We plan on finding a new doctor. This practice delivered our daughter and we LOVED them, but they were horrible through both losses and we can't imagine entering those halls again- it seems like bad luck. I'm trying to find a new one. Do I call my insurance to ask if I'm covered for a rpl panel? Or ask a new ob?
We plan on finding a new doctor. This practice delivered our daughter and we LOVED them, but they were horrible through both losses and we can't imagine entering those halls again- it seems like bad luck. I'm trying to find a new one. Do I call my insurance to ask if I'm covered for a rpl panel? Or ask a new ob?
Before you leave the OB, maybe you can ask them to refer you to an RE instead of just going to an new OB? After our second loss, our OB sent us to the RE.
And your insurance is always a good place to ask about coverage. Good luck.
First I am so sorry for your loss. I had a d&c at 10.5 weeks. The procedure itself went smoothly. Afterwards I was very groggy and slept 15 hours that night straight. I also was completely incontinent of stool and urine for a few hours afterwards until my sensation came back. Recovery after those first 24 hours was no big deal. They sent the tissue for chromosomal analysis and found out it was triploidy. I felt like knowing what happened gave me some sense of closure, and reassurance that it likely would not happen again.
Holy f*** is that a typical reaction? Do you know it the tissue analysis can tell you the sex of the baby?
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
thepax89, I stalk this board and just saw this. I am so, so sorry. How are you doing? They can even do an u/s minutes before you go in. You get to have ABSOLUTE confirmation so that you can be okay with what's happening to your body.
I didn't have a d&c as all my losses started on their own. But I do know that it's after the doctor appointments and you are home and quiet that is hard. So have a plan - whether it's to have your favorite mac and cheese and ice cream stocked at home. Or a massage day--I did this once after Jack and ended up sobbing on the table in the most amazing cathartic way. My masseuse didn't care, I was sort of embarrassed and then totally not. I needed it. Or acupuncture where they are "trained" to help with emotions.
And I'll check in - if you want to PM me, you can at any time. And snuggle that baby. My 14 month helped me through this one SO much. He made me laugh and kept me somewhat distracted (in a good way) and gave me sloppy kisses and amazing snuggles. Sending love.
I'm so incredibly sorry. I have also had a D&C, PM me if you want to know absolutely anything. I also did RPL testing (with 2 losses) and testing of the tissue. Sometimes you cannot get clear results from the testing, but if you can get results, you can find out the gender. I would just recommend thinking through that and talking through it with your DH. We found out the gender without wanting to, because our loss was due to a chromosomal problem that also meant the baby could only be one gender, and I found that knowledge tough to handle. Take care of yourself.
thepax89, I stalk this board and just saw this. I am so, so sorry. How are you doing? They can even do an u/s minutes before you go in. You get to have ABSOLUTE confirmation so that you can be okay with what's happening to your body.
I didn't have a d&c as all my losses started on their own. But I do know that it's after the doctor appointments and you are home and quiet that is hard. So have a plan - whether it's to have your favorite mac and cheese and ice cream stocked at home. Or a massage day--I did this once after Jack and ended up sobbing on the table in the most amazing cathartic way. My masseuse didn't care, I was sort of embarrassed and then totally not. I needed it. Or acupuncture where they are "trained" to help with emotions.
And I'll check in - if you want to PM me, you can at any time. And snuggle that baby. My 14 month helped me through this one SO much. He made me laugh and kept me somewhat distracted (in a good way) and gave me sloppy kisses and amazing snuggles. Sending love.
The doctor flat out refused an ultrasound this morning "I'm 1000% sure your baby is dead" she said
Bitch.
Silver lining, our hospital had an amazing burial program for my lost angel. We are so grateful.
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