I've caused damage to vehicles that parked like assholes. To elaborate: if I park between 2 lines, which I've had a lot of practice at, and you park over the line the safety of your vehicle is forfeit. I will not put my groceries in the trunk, sorry but those bags may scrape your paint job. I'm not going to climb over my passenger seat to get into my car. I'll stop my door from hitting yours because that's my door, but if my keys are in my back pocket and I have to squeeze to get by, that sounds like a you issue.
Basically, I'm a giant dick. People should stop parking like they've never driven a motor vehicle.
Extended breastfeeding makes me really uncomfortable. If your kid is walking and talking, and only nursery for like 2 minutes a day it's really not about providing nourishment at that point.
Obviously people can do whatever they want, especially in their own homes, but I think if I saw a woman Breast feeding her 2 or 3 year old in walmart id be really uncomfortable.
I know this is a me issue and I honestly don't know where the line is in my mind, but there you have it - my FFFC.
If any one here ebfs please enlighten me bc I honestly don't know why it weirds me out so much.
I parked in the expectant moms parking space at Walmart the other day, even though I'm still perfectly capable of walking from wherever. I too, am a dick.
Ray, Well it's not like you're lying about expecting. I always want to call out healthy looking people who park handicapped. But I know i would find the one chick with a congenital heart defect that would actually drop dead with too much effort or dorm thing.
Re: extended bf-ing. I bf-Ed K to 8 months and then my supply tanked. I had intended to go 12 maybe 18 months at the most if she fought me on weaning. But I never thought of going over that. I've never heard of any nutritional benefits passed 1 year, but I know a big part of it is the bond passed that... FFFC. I never felt that bf-info bond. I did it because I thought I should, not because I had this big drive to do it. I do get slightly weirded out when kids are old enough to ask to nurse. But I think it's more of a surprise thing then a "that's gross" thing.
Post by icaughtfire on Jan 29, 2016 8:45:17 GMT -5
I'm pretty much only attempting to BF this time around because it's free & there are supposed weight loss benefits. If I hate it or wind up needing to make a diet change due to an allergy or something, I'm quitting. My BFing plans are for purely selfish reasons.
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I'm pretty much only attempting to BF this time around because it's free & there are supposed weight loss benefits. If I hate it or wind up needing to make a diet change due to an allergy or something, I'm quitting. My BFing plans are for purely selfish reasons.
I am with you on all of this. I made it 6 months with DS, fighting supply issues for the last 3 months because of going back to work. I loved the weight loss I had from it, but it turned out to be really stressful for me having to pump at work and deal with all the pumping paraphernalia I had to lug around and wash 5 days a week. This time around, if I run into the same problems again or any allergy issues, I will probably switch to formula much sooner.
I'm pretty much only attempting to BF this time around because it's free & there are supposed weight loss benefits. If I hate it or wind up needing to make a diet change due to an allergy or something, I'm quitting. My BFing plans are for purely selfish reasons.
I am with you on all of this. I made it 6 months with DS, fighting supply issues for the last 3 months because of going back to work. I loved the weight loss I had from it, but it turned out to be really stressful for me having to pump at work and deal with all the pumping paraphernalia I had to lug around and wash 5 days a week. This time around, if I run into the same problems again or any allergy issues, I will probably switch to formula much sooner.
I had honestly forgotten about cleaning the pump stuff. Just had a full body shiver. That shit was awful
I'm having a seriously hard time with this. I think I ate pb&j for years for lunch.
Is that just a poor people thing? Someone tell me that middle and upper class children also frequently eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches!?
I consider my family to be middle class (what are the qualifiers? We're not poor, we're not rich..we're average?) and my kid eats PB&J almost daily.
I can't speak for rich kids. I assume they eat freshly mashed peanuts with a tropical jam, spread lovingly on a bread shipped straight from Paris by their live in nannies or something.
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At almost 21 months, we're just now done bf'ing - she's asked once this week. She's been able to ask for milk since she was about 8 months, so drawing the line at when they can ask for it doesn't really make sense. Sorry child, now that you're able to effectively communicate your wants and needs, I'm going to deny them. No.
I'm not someone who's all about bf'ing and thinks it's the greatest thing ever, but it worked for us. I didn't have a set time frame - I thought she'd wean sooner, but she didn't. It was something that was important and comforting to her, and it was easy enough for me to provide, so why would I say no?
There are benefits to both mom and baby for bf'ing beyond a year. Namely, boosted immunity because kiddo is still receiving your antibodies. Also the composition of breast milk changes as the child grows so as long as you're still bf'ing your child's nutritional needs are being supplemented and there's less worry when they don't eat well. The WHO recommends bf'ing until at least 2.
I'm with you on the parking TheTuna15. I'm not going to go out of my way to be a dick, but if something happens to the offending car next to me I don't sweat it. I figure they could have taken the 15 seconds to fix their horrible parking job.
I'm having a seriously hard time with this. I think I ate pb&j for years for lunch.
Is that just a poor people thing? Someone tell me that middle and upper class children also frequently eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches!?
I consider my family to be middle class (what are the qualifiers? We're not poor, we're not rich..we're average?) and my kid eats PB&J almost daily.
I can't speak for rich kids. I assume they eat freshly mashed peanuts with a tropical jam, spread lovingly on a bread shipped straight from Paris by their live in nannies or something.
I think - can't afford anything else - is probably the qualifier. I've talked to moms who send their kids to school with baked eggplant, salads, and other ridiculous shit that I would never consider putting in a lunch box. So I've wondered, when I was slumming it in my shitty neighborhood with my PB&J, were there kids in better neighborhoods eating this shit? Or are moms today just 100% more neurotic about what their kids eat.
eta: I should clarify that a regular side salad is not ridiculous. But a full on Greek salad for a 4 year old is outside the spectrum of things I would do.
Post by icaughtfire on Jan 29, 2016 9:23:31 GMT -5
In regards to what I pack in my kid's lunch, it's usually PB&J or a lunchable. But 90% of the time I make her buy lunch at school because #lazy. I can barely remember to pack my own lunch.
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I'm having a seriously hard time with this. I think I ate pb&j for years for lunch.
Is that just a poor people thing? Someone tell me that middle and upper class children also frequently eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches!?
I consider my family to be middle class (what are the qualifiers? We're not poor, we're not rich..we're average?) and my kid eats PB&J almost daily.
I can't speak for rich kids. I assume they eat freshly mashed peanuts with a tropical jam, spread lovingly on a bread shipped straight from Paris by their live in nannies or something.
I considered my family middle class growing up and I often ate pb&j for lunch. I also ate my mom's version of lunchables or a sandwich.
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I breastfed my daughter until the week before her third birthday and I fucking loved it.
Is it just the bonding time together? How/why did she eventually wean?
Maybe it makes me uncomfortable because although we often see women breastfeeding babies in public, we don't often (or at least I have never) seen a toddler breastfed. Maybe it's just a lack of exposure kind of thing? I honestly don't know. Trying to figure my brain out.
I breastfed my daughter until the week before her third birthday and I fucking loved it.
Is it just the bonding time together? How/why did she eventually wean?
Maybe it makes me uncomfortable because although we often see women breastfeeding babies in public, we don't often (or at least I have never) seen a toddler breastfed. Maybe it's just a lack of exposure kind of thing? I honestly don't know. Trying to figure my brain out.
Not just for bonding, although that was a big part. Toddlers can get something like 30% of their nutrition from breastmilk. Also antibodies and immune system benefits. By around two, we just nursed a couple times a day, so I didn't really nurse in public at that point.
I live around a lot of cruchier moms and it's pretty normal in my area and experience. Every time I talked about or admitted I was still nursing, I'd usually get at least one "me too" from a toddler mom. But I didn't talk about it much. It's my business and while I'm very pro-breastfeeding I'm not a poster girl or activist at heart.
I put it here because I still got some flack and my SIL would constantly ask If I was still "doing that?" with a yuck face.
We weaned when I was simply done. I was waiting for her lead and she was close but happy to continue, so I changed up our routine and let her have a small sippy of chocolate almond milk for a few days. It was easy once I decided.
cabbagecabbage, I wanted to love it. Did you have that moment in the hospital (don't think I'm mocking you I'm completely serious) where everything came together and it was perfect? I feel like a lot of how I felt about bf-ing came from the fact that I was indifferent to begin with and then K did not have a good latch so it was a struggle to start with.
comicSans, I don't consider signing for milk or saying "baba" to be a reason to stop bf-ing. I would have been weirded out if my kid said "I'm ready for boob, now." I don't judge moms who keep bf-ing. I consider it a -more power to you, but not for me- type of thing. Well... if they call it "boob", I may side-eye, but that's semantics.
Follow up question cabbagecabbage : what made you decide you were done?
Also thank you, and to everyone else for responding without pitch forks and helping me to understand!
No pitchforks! I promise. It's such a touchy subject that it's hard to ask and get opinions without upsetting people but that's no way to share information! Now that I'm through one baby and the hormones aren't pumping, I feel pretty objective about it but really glad it worked out the way it did. I'm excited to do it again.
Honestly, I was touched out, tapped out, and I was just very ready. Being touched out is this real, creepy crawly, ready to scream thing. It's like being claustrophobic in your own skin.
Many gentle weaning methods recommend "don't ask, don't refuse" to let the child lead. I did that...for a year. It was July. She was turning 3 in August. I decided we needed to start talking about it and pushing the issue more. I waited and waited for her and finally I was so ready I had to pull the trigger.
BFing was the hardest thing I ever did (way harder than labor with DD). It hurt like hell for 5-6 weeks and then it finally just clicked. It felt like such an achievement and it did become more about bonding for me. Pumping at work sucked (hah) but I thought it was worth it for us. I decided I would let DD self-wean. She chose to be done at 14 months. If she had wanted to go longer I would have been fine with that. I never really thought about an age cap because I figured we would be done when it was right for our family. We never really nursed in public though (even when she was a baby I would pump before going out with her) but that's just my personal preference and I wouldn't side eye anyone for choosing something else.
cabbagecabbage, I wanted to love it. Did you have that moment in the hospital (don't think I'm mocking you I'm completely serious) where everything came together and it was perfect? I feel like a lot of how I felt about bf-ing came from the fact that I was indifferent to begin with and then K did not have a good latch so it was a struggle to start with.
God no. The first few weeks were so difficult and I had a good experience. I was very motivated. My sister breastfed. My mom did. I started at LLL when she was a week old. It was what I was going to do! It still took time and tears. I but around week 6 it came together and by week 12 I enjoyed it a lot.
Eta: I know I was lucky to have support and a SAHM schedule. I didn't have to pump. These things are big advantages. I have so much respect for pumping moms. So much work!
Post by rungirlrun on Jan 29, 2016 10:06:08 GMT -5
I certainly didn't do truly extended breastfeeding (weaned DS at 14 months), but I totally get extended breastfeeding. We had a lot of latch issues initially making the whole process suck big time for a month or so. Then it slowly got easier and was a breeze by 3-4 months and was something we both really enjoyed. It's pretty empowering thinking my body is truly keeping my kid alive. And by the time DS was about a year, he was like a little boy running around so I really cherished that bonding time we got when nursing. It was the only time we snuggled, and he loved nursing so it was really sweet. I went on vacation w/o him when he was 15 months and didn't want to pump and also was ready to have my body back to myself which is why I weaned, but I totally get nursing toddlers. More people probably do it than you think but just only at home so it's not public.
cabbagecabbage, I wanted to love it. Did you have that moment in the hospital (don't think I'm mocking you I'm completely serious) where everything came together and it was perfect? I feel like a lot of how I felt about bf-ing came from the fact that I was indifferent to begin with and then K did not have a good latch so it was a struggle to start with.
comicSans, I don't consider signing for milk or saying "baba" to be a reason to stop bf-ing. I would have been weirded out if my kid said "I'm ready for boob, now." I don't judge moms who keep bf-ing. I consider it a -more power to you, but not for me- type of thing. Well... if they call it "boob", I may side-eye, but that's semantics.
She could sign it. And that's still how she asks, signing and saying milk milk milk. She does say boob too, but only when she sees my boobs in a non-nursing context and she's usually laughing.
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