FFFC with a sprinkling of UO

[RandomName]

I will add, the though of someone taking a screen shot to share with people IRL (or anything along the lines) creeps me out enough to back away all together. Hence why I don't share a lot of personal info. But still creeps me out nonetheless.

[zonagirl]

Feb 6, 2016 9:52:32 GMT -5 ampaints said:

tmclawchick I might be wrong, but I believe the people who are talking about deleting on Facebook are doing so because of access to personal information, nothing to do with this thread.

I don't think anyone was worried who I was taking about, but in case they were it's anna87.

Same

[ampaints]

I sometimes wonder if my cousin has found me in here. She has had a rough time TTC and I recommend here to her. I know she joined because she thanked me at one time saying the loss boards have helped her. If so she's probably seen me whining about MIL. Such is life.

[packmomma]

I don't really understand why people are jumping on @greengirl09. People have routinely said they had post it's and no one jumped on them. It's vague and it makes everybody self conscious because we all secretly think it could be us but it's not a reason to leave a group imo.
I deleted people off my fb yesterday because of parenting but I'm still in the group.

[runningmommy519]

Why? Because in my opinion "legit crazy" is very different than a post it.

[astheria]

Ffsc/uo people who are so concerned about privacy that they need to delete their fb posts on a group are not inderstanding the reality that is the Internet and bug the shit out of me. Your old post you edited likely still exists on the inter webs and anyone wanting to go trulynstalkerish can find anyone with even a vague online presence if they now how. #thingsilearnedfrommyfathertheformerhacker
Further deleting everything and staying in a Facebook group to lurk but not participate is borderline stalkerish in its own right. "I want to see discussions that people are having and their personal pictures and information but share none of my own" bad form imo.

Are we responsible for people's reactions to posts? No. But half ass call outs calling someone crazy or a "rogue element" do nothing but try to sew discord. You don't even friggin participate in the group? Get out and leave those that do alone to face all of the magical unicorn rainbow farting crazies left (that I love dearly).

And sorry just catching up. I still come check up occasionally but with life happening fb has been easier and that group of well known crazies has helped my sanity on more than one occasion so sorry if I have become defensive.

[queenb]

Feb 6, 2016 11:21:17 GMT -5 packmomma said:

I don't really understand why people are jumping on @greengirl09. People have routinely said they had post it's and no one jumped on them. It's vague and it makes everybody self conscious because we all secretly think it could be us but it's not a reason to leave a group imo.
I deleted people off my fb yesterday because of parenting but I'm still in the group.

I agree with tmclawchick and wanted to say something similar, but she beat me to it. I don't love the post-it thing either, but it's a lot different than throwing around the word crazy. As has been pointed out, there are people dealing with mental health and other disorders or addictions, it just seems like mean-girl behaviour to me.

If you have a problem with someone, confront them or keep it to yourself. Vague blind-items only cause problems. I have no idea who this person would be, but FFC I'm not worried about it being me at all.

Also, I will say, I never friended anyone in FB although I do like participating in the group. I felt bad ignoring requests, but that's where I personally decided to draw the line.

[packmomma]

I'm still in the fb group because I do try to participate when I can. I unfriended a lot of people yesterday due to the parenting thread and me realizing I didn't need to open my security up like that (not only people from tcf but also random people I've met through the years and don't need to see pictures of my kid).

[packmomma]

Feb 6, 2016 11:48:01 GMT -5 astheria said:

Ffsc/uo people who are so concerned about privacy that they need to delete their fb posts on a group are not inderstanding the reality that is the Internet and bug the shit out of me. Your old post you edited likely still exists on the inter webs and anyone wanting to go trulynstalkerish can find anyone with even a vague online presence if they now how. #thingsilearnedfrommyfathertheformerhacker
Further deleting everything and staying in a Facebook group to lurk but not participate is borderline stalkerish in its own right. "I want to see discussions that people are having and their personal pictures and information but share none of my own" bad form imo.

Are we responsible for people's reactions to posts? No. But half ass call outs calling someone crazy or a "rogue element" do nothing but try to sew discord. You don't even friggin participate in the group? Get out and leave those that do alone to face all of the magical unicorn rainbow farting crazies left (that I love dearly).

And sorry just catching up. I still come check up occasionally but with life happening fb has been easier and that group of well known crazies has helped my sanity on more than one occasion so sorry if I have become defensive.

Also I don't think we can protect ourselves from the truly stalker ish but I do think if someone was just pissed/bored deleting old pictures/informative posts makes it harder for them to find the information. But yes if someone truly wanted to find everything about us then they would.

[Deleted]

This whole issue has been blown out of proportion.

Everyone needs to agree to disagree and move on.

[lemon200]

Can someone tl;dr the parenting thing from yesterday?

[bibliothecary]

Feb 5, 2016 21:00:43 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

bibliothecary the only thing I'm assuming is that it's you showing all the wrap photos but I could be wrong.

Hope you're enjoying my blurry face.

[packmomma]

Feb 6, 2016 13:36:56 GMT -5 lemon200 said:

Can someone tl;dr the parenting thing from yesterday?

They were talking about all the crazy stuff that's gone on before (work being sent screen shots, cps being called, etc. And most recently a bag of dicks was sent to someone's work over on gbcn). I think it made everyone realize that maybe we've gotten a little lax in our security because we have such a good group of people. And some of us tightened our fb to only include the group and not friend all of the people so they would be seperate. I think I covered most of it .

[th3stryck3r]

Looks like I just joined the FB group at the most awkward time! Hoping I don't come off as a creeper now. I had actually sent a pm requesting to join about a month ago, but it wasn't until this morning that I was added. I don't really see any "crazy" going on in either space, but I also obviously haven't been around as long. I also had (probably given my own biases) assumed that "crazy" was referring to a hardcore Trump supporter or something to that effect.

In any event, I am really happy to have TCF as a resource and to have been welcomed into the A15 moms community.

[packmomma]

I don't see "crazy" in either of the boards. I think we have a good group. Also, it's a peeve of mine when people use terms like "crazy, ocd, bipolar, depressed" when they don't actually mean the mental illness. I have bipolar disorder and I know other people on here have mental illnesses as well. They are not everyday descriptors they are categories of mental illness. End rant

[RandomName]

Feb 6, 2016 14:42:42 GMT -5 packmomma said:

I don't see "crazy" in either of the boards. I think we have a good group. Also, it's a peeve of mine when people use terms like "crazy, ocd, bipolar, depressed" when they don't actually mean the mental illness. I have bipolar disorder and I know other people on here have mental illnesses as well. They are not everyday descriptors they are categories of mental illness. End rant

'Crazy' isn't a mental illness or a category like the other terms in your list. Although it's often associated as a slang symptom of some mental illnesses, it is in fact not a mental illness. It can mean a lot of things in different contexts. I completely agree with you otherwise.

[mrspiatt]

Ummm- I really hope you guys aren't referring to me. I haven't posted much at all lately. If you are referring to me, I apologize if I've come off "crazy".

[tmclawchick]

Excuse me? Your original post said someone in the fb group seemed "legit crazy"...how else should that have been interpreted?

[RandomName]

mrspiatt def not you. It was Anna for me and piedpip me described very well why.

Eta: autocorrect got rid of my tag

[packmomma]

Feb 6, 2016 14:58:44 GMT -5 RandomName said:

Feb 6, 2016 14:42:42 GMT -5 packmomma said:

I don't see "crazy" in either of the boards. I think we have a good group. Also, it's a peeve of mine when people use terms like "crazy, ocd, bipolar, depressed" when they don't actually mean the mental illness. I have bipolar disorder and I know other people on here have mental illnesses as well. They are not everyday descriptors they are categories of mental illness. End rant

'Crazy' isn't a mental illness or a category like the other terms in your list. Although it's often associated as a slang symptom of some mental illnesses, it is in fact not a mental illness. It can mean a lot of things in different contexts. I completely agree with you otherwise.

Usually crazy is used colloquially to mean mental illness. In this case is was "legit crazy " which I took to mean she thought the person had an actual mental illness. I wasn't offended but I've seen the "ocd and bipolar" terms thrown about before and thought I'd mention that to a lot of people with the actual illness that's annoying.

[mrspiatt]

Feb 6, 2016 15:42:24 GMT -5 RandomName said:

mrspiatt def not you. It was Anna for me and piedpip me described very well why.

Eta: autocorrect got rid of my tag

Okay- I really like everyone here and on FB- I do side eye people at times, but I also side eye myself on occasion. lol

[boox191]

Checking this thread because of the mention on FB. I'm only ever in A15 on this board, so I have not read the Parenting board traffic. I may be too trusting, but I'm okay with using my name and info on our secret FB group.

FFFC - Online MLM business posts make me ragey. I won't buy Jamberry ever, because I've gotten so sick of being added unwillingly to "parties".

[anaberry]

Feb 5, 2016 19:47:32 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

Feb 5, 2016 19:32:51 GMT -5 @JanetheConquerer said:

This surprises me as you don't reveal a lot of personal information.

I'm sure there's enough out there for people to find me. I've not been as careful as I should. I remember the days on TD when we could find a lot of info very fast about a-hole trolls.

If this is true, I'd go back and delete or at least start being very careful. It's one thing if us regular peons aren't careful because not many stalkers would want to stalk us... But you're a global moderator, which equals global access to wierdos. Anyway, I'm just saying, careful (especially in your case) isnt a bad thing.

[heavenwhip]

Feb 6, 2016 18:12:27 GMT -5 boox191 said:

Checking this thread because of the mention on FB. I'm only ever in A15 on this board, so I have not read the Parenting board traffic. I may be too trusting, but I'm okay with using my name and info on our secret FB group.

FFFC - Online MLM business posts make me ragey. I won't buy Jamberry ever, because I've gotten so sick of being added unwillingly to "parties".

same here, I lurk over here occasionally but I'm not as active as I used to be. I have to admit I was kinda relieved that the 'person' wasn't me!

[anaberry]

So reading this thread this was my thought process
- yes! TCF drama! Where's the popcorn?
- someone on FB who hasn't posted here in a while? Shit it's ME! (Starts hyperventilating, considers PMing greengirl to get to the truth
-considering un friending all FB people because it really is sensible and wise.... Except some people I've really started to trust.
- getting happy when someone talked about sowing discord cus yeah
- getting happy because I'm not the only insecure person in here
- boredom cus this is getting old now

Change of topic
-sometimes I fantasize about slipping a viagra in my H's drink just to see what happens.

[abvintage]

Well fuck. It's me. It's totally me. Eek.

+1 to running to read this after seeing it on FB. I took a new job and can't get on here at work anymore and tapatalk app sucks so I'm mainly on FB now though I'd like to be on both.

+1 to half assed call outs being lame. I'm kind of a love her or hate her kind of gal though so I'm totally certain at least for one person I was that person.

[abvintage]

Feb 6, 2016 13:49:44 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

Feb 5, 2016 21:00:43 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

bibliothecary the only thing I'm assuming is that it's you showing all the wrap photos but I could be wrong.

Hope you're enjoying my blurry face.

As long as you keep posting your FREAKIN ADORABLE LITTLE HUMAN I'm totally fine with blur face.

[ampaints]

I personally just operate under the assumption that there is at least one person on either board who doesn't like me, realistically more. But really it's their loss because I'm pretty awesome sauce in my own humble opinion.

[csb314]

Feb 6, 2016 18:57:11 GMT -5 @piedpiper07 said:

anaberry I lol'd at your synopsis.

+1

[layloo08]

Feb 6, 2016 13:49:44 GMT -5 bibliothecary said:

Feb 5, 2016 21:00:43 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

bibliothecary the only thing I'm assuming is that it's you showing all the wrap photos but I could be wrong.

Hope you're enjoying my blurry face.

G is simply adorable!