FFFC: If I am in our work bathroom and I hear other people come in, I stay in my stall until they wash their hands and leave(Unless they are taking an exceptionally long time). DNW awkward small talk with strangers in the bathroom.
I always figured people who did this were waiting for me to leave so they could take a poop without anyone hearing... I've been wrong all along!
FFFC: If I am in our work bathroom and I hear other people come in, I stay in my stall until they wash their hands and leave(Unless they are taking an exceptionally long time). DNW awkward small talk with strangers in the bathroom.
I always figured people who did this were waiting for me to leave so they could take a poop without anyone hearing... I've been wrong all along!
You'd have figured right about me if I was in the stall...
Speaking of adulting, I started our taxes. We owe THOUSANDS. How the fuck did this happen?
We always owe... I dread tax time. It use to be so much fun getting a check in the mail lol
I hate hate hate finding out I owe a ton unexpectedly. Why can't they withhold close to the correct amount? It's not like I have a ton of income from other sources beyond my job.
Post by notagoddess on Feb 5, 2016 10:39:06 GMT -5
kleigh, my family's Polish and very religious. My brother has never dated and part of me wonders if he could be gay. For his sake I hope not, because my parents would never accept it and be supportive. My heart breaks for your SIL. It's wonderful she has you and YH, but it's going to be difficult to hide that part of herself from her parents.
kleigh, my family's Polish and very religious. My brother has never dated and part of me wonders if he could be gay. For his sake I hope not, because my parents would never accept it and be supportive. My heart breaks for your SIL. It's wonderful she has you and YH, but it's going to be difficult to hide that part of herself from her parents.
It's so difficult, most things I can just brush off like their disdain for me but when I hear them bash being gay I just want to go over and hug her and pick her up and hold her. I'm hoping her mom will at least come to terms. If your brother is or isn't, I hope for him much support from you and friends.
Post by notagoddess on Feb 5, 2016 10:47:06 GMT -5
I found an awesome group fitness class that fits my schedule perfectly. But I can't ever go back.
Why?
The first time I went, I accidentally let out the loudest fart while doing the ab portion of the workout. It seriously reverberated across the room. People laughed. It was mortifying.
MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.
Could have written this myself...minus the toothpaste on the toilet seat.
Great, I am glad you vacuumed. Could you have picked up the laundry basket and vacuumed underneath it, though??
My favorite is when he complains about the house being dirty when his clothing is on our bedroom floor and his dresser is covered in clutter.
MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.
MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.
Do you and YH have separate bathrooms?
Seriously, if you have dual master baths I am green with envy
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Post by requiressnacks on Feb 5, 2016 11:02:21 GMT -5
I did bikram yoga once. Why only once? The guy in front of my was free balling and I saw his nut sack the entire time. DNW to see sweaty nut sack. EVAR
Another FFFC based of the credit card thread on Parenting yesterday.
I am feeling guilty lately about how much I have been spending. We do have some credit card debt- nothing we can't easily pay off with what we have in savings or just within the next few months with our pay- but I don't even have a very good reason for it. I just like shopping. My resolution for 2016 is to be much better about this, but then I see the Sephora threads......(But really, I am trying to be better).
Post by requiressnacks on Feb 5, 2016 11:14:11 GMT -5
kleigh, I really hope that SIL comes out when she's ready. My sister is gay and it became really obvious to everyone when she was around that age. It's so hard! Just rest assured, that with people like you and YH in her corner she will be OK. My sister is now in her 30's and living her life out and proud. Our family was about 85% supportive and she's just cut out the remaining 15%.
kleigh , I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be to have to hide such a big part of herself from the two people who are meant to love her unconditionally, but with the love and support of those who really do, she'll get through it.
I have a family member - he transitioned from female to male about 12 years ago, but when i was a child (s)he came out to [her] mom as a lesbian... and let's just say it wasn't received well. My mom's family (He's my dad's sibling.) took [her] and stood by [her] side through a very dark time. Today he is successful and happy, and has even made amends with his mom.
To make a long story short, your SIL is very lucky to have you and your H in her corner.
I'm so grateful that our world has people like your moms family !!
Another FFFC based of the credit card thread on Parenting yesterday.
I am feeling guilty lately about how much I have been spending. We do have some credit card debt- nothing we can't easily pay off with what we have in savings or just within the next few months with our pay- but I don't even have a very good reason for it. I just like shopping. My resolution for 2016 is to be much better about this, but then I see the Sephora threads......(But really, I am trying to be better).
I could have written the same thing (except of debt will take a little longer to pay off). Much of our credit card debt is because I like to go shopping. I usually bring my lunch to work but I always feel like I need to get out at lunch time and the mall and Target are 5 minutes from my work. I have resolved to be better about my spending in 2016 and so far it has been a little better but my love for shopping still wins a lot of time. I guess my FFFC is that the thread on Parenting made me feel like I should feel bad about having any cc debt but I just don't. As long as I can pay my cc bill, I don't have maxed out cards, have no or low interest cards, and I still have awesome credit, I'm ok with having some debt.
I found an awesome group fitness class that fits my schedule perfectly. But I can't ever go back.
Why?
The first time I went, I accidentally let out the loudest fart while doing the ab portion of the workout. It seriously reverberated across the room. People laughed. It was mortifying.
OMG this is fucking hilarious. But seriously, go back! I would guess that no one knew who let it rip.
Another FFFC based of the credit card thread on Parenting yesterday.
I am feeling guilty lately about how much I have been spending. We do have some credit card debt- nothing we can't easily pay off with what we have in savings or just within the next few months with our pay- but I don't even have a very good reason for it. I just like shopping. My resolution for 2016 is to be much better about this, but then I see the Sephora threads......(But really, I am trying to be better).
I could have written the same thing (except of debt will take a little longer to pay off). Much of our credit card debt is because I like to go shopping. I usually bring my lunch to work but I always feel like I need to get out at lunch time and the mall and Target are 5 minutes from my work. I have resolved to be better about my spending in 2016 and so far it has been a little better but my love for shopping still wins a lot of time. I guess my FFFC is that the thread on Parenting made me feel like I should feel bad about having any cc debt but I just don't. As long as I can pay my cc bill, I don't have maxed out cards, have no or low interest cards, and I still have awesome credit, I'm ok with having some debt.
That Parenting thread was really condescending, in my opinion. Yes, it is ideal not to have debt, but telling someone who is worried about their debt that they shouldn't have it isn't helpful.
It sounds to me like you have a great plan that works for you, so don't feel bad.
Some days, I feel bad for my H. I see other wives who do all this amazing cooking, clean the house all the time and I'm over here like, "where's the pizza? I should probably take a shower."
Another FFFC based of the credit card thread on Parenting yesterday.
I am feeling guilty lately about how much I have been spending. We do have some credit card debt- nothing we can't easily pay off with what we have in savings or just within the next few months with our pay- but I don't even have a very good reason for it. I just like shopping. My resolution for 2016 is to be much better about this, but then I see the Sephora threads......(But really, I am trying to be better).
I could have written the same thing (except of debt will take a little longer to pay off). Much of our credit card debt is because I like to go shopping. I usually bring my lunch to work but I always feel like I need to get out at lunch time and the mall and Target are 5 minutes from my work. I have resolved to be better about my spending in 2016 and so far it has been a little better but my love for shopping still wins a lot of time. I guess my FFFC is that the thread on Parenting made me feel like I should feel bad about having any cc debt but I just don't. As long as I can pay my cc bill, I don't have maxed out cards, have no or low interest cards, and I still have awesome credit, I'm ok with having some debt.
Yeah I feel exactly the same! I know it's not great to have some CC debt, but I have great credit as well, I know we can pay it off, and I'm not paying a lot in interest. Some of the answers in that thread surprised me. Sometimes I just want to go shopping. There are a lot worse habits to have! (Again, we are not deep in debt or anything...then I would feel differently).
If Target didn't exist I think our bank account would be much happier!!
I found an awesome group fitness class that fits my schedule perfectly. But I can't ever go back.
Why?
The first time I went, I accidentally let out the loudest fart while doing the ab portion of the workout. It seriously reverberated across the room. People laughed. It was mortifying.
OMG this is fucking hilarious. But seriously, go back! I would guess that no one knew who let it rip.
I dunno, it was pretty bad.
PSA: Avoid this exercise if you are holding in a fart:
I still feel like a teenager playing house. I am almost 30 and I feel like a little kid.
Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular.
We recently decided to hire a once a month cleaning lady because I was getting disgusted by how dirty our house was... but apparently not disgusted enough to actually clean it myself.
We had a few ladies come out for interviews and to provide estimates before we picked someone. One of the ladies was very thorough in her estimate and kept asking things like what do you use to polish the furniture? How often do you clean the baseboards?
Um, we never polish the furniture and I can't remember ever cleaning the baseboards. I felt like an idiot.
Along the lines of feeling sorry for H's, adulting, etc...
Sometimes I'm resentful of MH's job. I feel terrible thinking/saying it because A) he loves it and is very good at it B) he's done it as long as we've been together, I knew what I was getting myself into and C) it affords us A LOT of luxuries that we likely would otherwise not have. But it is inflexible and keeps him away from home too much, which means the vast majority of all things adult and/or parenting fall to me. It also means that, at least for the time being, I can't work towards my goals/dreams career-wise. I feel both overwhelmed and stifled at times, in addition to feeling resentful, and I feel bad about it.
Yes, MH knows about these feelings and he does he best to help out when he can.
Along the lines of feeling sorry for H's, adulting, etc...
Sometimes I'm resentful of MH's job. I feel terrible thinking/saying it because A) he loves it and is very good at it B) he's done it as long as we've been together, I knew what I was getting myself into and C) it affords us A LOT of luxuries that we likely would otherwise not have. But it is inflexible and keeps him away from home too much, which means the vast majority of all things adult and/or parenting fall to me. It also means that, at least for the time being, I can't work towards my goals/dreams career-wise. I feel both overwhelmed and stifled at times, in addition to feeling resentful, and I feel bad about it.
Yes, MH knows about these feelings and he does he best to help out when he can.
I worry that this will happen to us. There's a reason that docs and PAs have higher divorce rates. It's hard. MH has had to pick up a lot the slack the past few years, between med school and residency.
I hope y'all can find a balance. If you ever want to talk to someone who's in a similar situation, feel free to PM me.
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FFFC: If I am in our work bathroom and I hear other people come in, I stay in my stall until they wash their hands and leave(Unless they are taking an exceptionally long time). DNW awkward small talk with strangers in the bathroom.
I always figured people who did this were waiting for me to leave so they could take a poop without anyone hearing... I've been wrong all along!
You're not totally wrong. I do that. Also, if I go into the bathroom and it seems like someone else is pooping, or playing the waiting game, i leave immediately so that they don't get uncomfortably trying to hold their poo. I'm polite like that.
We recently decided to hire a once a month cleaning lady because I was getting disgusted by how dirty our house was... but apparently not disgusted enough to actually clean it myself.
We had a few ladies come out for interviews and to provide estimates before we picked someone. One of the ladies was very thorough in her estimate and kept asking things like what do you use to polish the furniture? How often do you clean the baseboards?
Um, we never polish the furniture and I can't remember ever cleaning the baseboards. I felt like an idiot.
I fantasize about hiring a cleaning service but I'd be too embarrassed to do it. I think I would have to move to a new house and start over and hire someone to keep it clean.
We replaced all the windows in our house 3.5 years ago and haven't cleaned them since. I hear window washing is a semi-annual event for some people. H and I joke that at this rate we would probably just get new windows again before we get around to cleaning them.
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