Post by ladytiffany24 on Feb 5, 2016 9:48:22 GMT -5
Some days, I feel bad for my H. I see other wives who do all this amazing cooking, clean the house all the time and I'm over here like, "where's the pizza? I should probably take a shower."
I still feel like a teenager playing house. I am almost 30 and I feel like a little kid.
Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular.
I still feel like a teenager playing house. I am almost 30 and I feel like a little kid.
I thought it was just me...
Let me know when I am supposed to become an adult.
Here too... sometimes I look over at H in bed, and can't believe we are married and own a home. Still seems surreal occasionally. I'll be 30 this month.
I still feel like a teenager playing house. I am almost 30 and I feel like a little kid.
Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular.
Oh yes. I also have no idea how to be an adult. I feel like I have all this responsibility and I'm trying to create another person but I still feel like I'm a kid.
I still feel like a teenager playing house. I am almost 30 and I feel like a little kid.
Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular.
I definitely do not do a great job cleaning the house. I give no shits. It is clean enough lol.
Post by onesweetworld on Feb 5, 2016 10:06:40 GMT -5
MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.
Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular.
Oh yes. I also have no idea how to be an adult. I feel like I have all this responsibility and I'm trying to create another person but I still feel like I'm a kid.
Yes my adulting skills are lacking. Like when my in-laws or neighbor asks if we've done *insert something that sounds like a foriegn language* lately?
Then I run to google to figure out what I've been screwing up and if my house is going to fall down because of it.
MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.
Could have written this myself...minus the toothpaste on the toilet seat.
Great, I am glad you vacuumed. Could you have picked up the laundry basket and vacuumed underneath it, though??
MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.
MH and I have separate vanities in our master bath. I have started cleaning just mine (along with the rest of the bathroom except his vanity) to see how long it will take him to realize that his is disgusting and needs to be cleaned. We're currently on month 2 1/2 of no cleaning. And he is one that gets shaving cream and toothpaste everywhere. I cringe every time I get in to the shower because his sink is next to the shower. It's disgusting.
FFFC: If I am in our work bathroom and I hear other people come in, I stay in my stall until they wash their hands and leave(Unless they are taking an exceptionally long time). DNW awkward small talk with strangers in the bathroom.
FFFC: Kinda serious FFFC sorry. I'll follow up with a poop confession (jk). My ILs are quite religious and additionally very close minded esp to new ideas and ways of life.
Ex: My FIL told us that John Travolta turned gay because he did cocaine (wtf?). They don't care much for me bc I'm not Polish, we didn't get married in a church, I am independent and work instead of take care of the home for MH etc etc (MH is not like this).
My SIL (almost 13 yr old) hasn't come out but openly identifies as gay on social media.
FFFC I know she's gay and she has a "gf" that her parents think is just a friend. I know that her parents are gonna lose it when they find out. My heart breaks so bad for HER when she will have to tell them, if she ever can (I will never out her, and of course MH and I are there 10000% for her and will take her in with us if necessary). But for the ILs, I feel like this is the wake up call they need and I can't wait for the day they have to open their damn minds and hearts and scurry off with their tails between their legs for all the judging they do of other people's lifestyle choices.
FFFC: Kinda serious FFFC sorry. I'll follow up with a poop confession (jk). My ILs are quite religious and additionally very close minded esp to new ideas and ways of life.
Ex: My FIL told us that John Travolta turned gay because he did cocaine (wtf?). They don't care much for me bc I'm not Polish, we didn't get married in a church, I am independent and work instead of take care of the home for MH etc etc (MH is not like this).
My SIL (almost 13 yr old) hasn't come out but openly identifies as gay on social media.
FFFC I know she's gay and she has a "gf" that her parents think is just a friend. I know that her parents are gonna lose it when they find out. My heart breaks so bad for HER when she will have to tell them, if she ever can (I will never out her, and of course MH and I are there 10000% for her and will take her in with us if necessary). But for the ILs, I feel like this is the wake up call they need and I can't wait for the day they have to open their damn minds and hearts and scurry off with their tails between their legs for all the judging they do of other people's lifestyle choices.
Wow. I have so many feels for your poor SIL. FX the ILs can be open about it when/if she ever decides to formally come out. At least she'll have you and your H to help her through it if it doesn't go well. I'd be the same way! Especially knowing that the ILs will likely not take lightly to it.
Post by notagoddess on Feb 5, 2016 10:27:41 GMT -5
I definitely feel constrained by marriage sometimes. I wish I could make my own decisions and not have to consult with another person on everything. I know MH has this feeling too, occasionally.
That being said, marriage adds so much stability to my life. It's my foundation for everything else. It is definitely worth the frustration of not being able to do my own thing. And that's even apart from the love MH and I share.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Feb 5, 2016 10:27:51 GMT -5
Along the same lines of not feeling like a real adult... DD is 2 and I still sometimes feel like I'm babysitting and her real parents are going to come pick her up soon. Like I'm just not old enough to be this kid's parent, and there's no way I'm responsible enough to be the one who's kept her alive for 2 years.
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