FFFC - Tell us your secrets.

[ohinvrtedworld]

Feb 5, 2016 11:33:28 GMT -5 ironbaby said:

Feb 5, 2016 11:30:25 GMT -5 sleepymonkey said:

I could have written the same thing (except of debt will take a little longer to pay off). Much of our credit card debt is because I like to go shopping. I usually bring my lunch to work but I always feel like I need to get out at lunch time and the mall and Target are 5 minutes from my work. I have resolved to be better about my spending in 2016 and so far it has been a little better but my love for shopping still wins a lot of time. I guess my FFFC is that the thread on Parenting made me feel like I should feel bad about having any cc debt but I just don't. As long as I can pay my cc bill, I don't have maxed out cards, have no or low interest cards, and I still have awesome credit, I'm ok with having some debt.

That Parenting thread was really condescending, in my opinion. Yes, it is ideal not to have debt, but telling someone who is worried about their debt that they shouldn't have it isn't helpful.

It sounds to me like you have a great plan that works for you, so don't feel bad.

I agree. I was shocked that anyone would assert that having $1,000 in CC debt would necessitate debt counseling. That seems a bit extreme.

[emilie]

So much adulting up in here.

FFFC: I queef every time I do an inversion in yoga class. I no longer do inversions in yoga class.

[judyblume14]

notagoddess, on Monday at the gym, the music was really loud, so I figured I cloud let a toot slip and it wouldn't matter because no on could hear it.

Silly me... forgot that farts also stink.

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Feb 5, 2016 12:35:23 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

Feb 5, 2016 11:33:28 GMT -5 ironbaby said:

That Parenting thread was really condescending, in my opinion. Yes, it is ideal not to have debt, but telling someone who is worried about their debt that they shouldn't have it isn't helpful.

It sounds to me like you have a great plan that works for you, so don't feel bad.

I agree. I was shocked that anyone would assert that having $1,000 in CC debt would necessitate debt counseling. That seems a bit extreme.

Man, I probably need debt hospitalization if $1,000 is excessive.

[Deleted]

Feb 5, 2016 12:45:43 GMT -5 ugaqueencity said:

Feb 5, 2016 12:06:14 GMT -5 britta said:

Along the lines of feeling sorry for H's, adulting, etc...

Sometimes I'm resentful of MH's job. I feel terrible thinking/saying it because A) he loves it and is very good at it B) he's done it as long as we've been together, I knew what I was getting myself into and C) it affords us A LOT of luxuries that we likely would otherwise not have. But it is inflexible and keeps him away from home too much, which means the vast majority of all things adult and/or parenting fall to me. It also means that, at least for the time being, I can't work towards my goals/dreams career-wise. I feel both overwhelmed and stifled at times, in addition to feeling resentful, and I feel bad about it.

Yes, MH knows about these feelings and he does he best to help out when he can.

I feel like I could have written this entire post minus the parenting part. I've also realized that since I quit my job and we moved across the country my life pretty much revolves around MH and his job and it scares me but I don't know how to fix it

I have moved twice for MH's job. Both times have worked out poorly. We have agreed that there will be no more relocating for his career.

[joy]

Feb 5, 2016 9:54:54 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

Feb 5, 2016 9:42:49 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

I still feel like a teenager playing house. I am almost 30 and I feel like a little kid.

Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular. 

Someone once asked on another board "How often do you guys clean your walls?"

I was like "wut?"

But then other people were answering like they did it regularly!!

[ironbaby]

Feb 5, 2016 13:06:23 GMT -5 joy said:

Feb 5, 2016 9:54:54 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular. 

Someone once asked on another board "How often do you guys clean your walls?"

I was like "wut?"

But then other people were answering like they did it regularly!!

I used to go to my aunt's house and wash her walls and windows for fun.

I do not wash my walls or windows, for fun or otherwise.

[ohinvrtedworld]

I used to work part-time as a cleaning lady, and I can tell you that the only things that got a side-eye from me were not flushing toilets or leaving things like the empty toilet paper roll on the floor next to the trash.

But seriously... not flushing the toilet. DNW to see your hours-old poo floating around.

[PirateCat]

I am reading Amazon reviews on vegetable scrubbers. I think I have a problem not being able to buy anything without reading reviews. I once read reviews on socks for H before buying them.

[sleepymonkey]

Feb 5, 2016 12:35:23 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

Feb 5, 2016 11:33:28 GMT -5 ironbaby said:

That Parenting thread was really condescending, in my opinion. Yes, it is ideal not to have debt, but telling someone who is worried about their debt that they shouldn't have it isn't helpful.

It sounds to me like you have a great plan that works for you, so don't feel bad.

I agree. I was shocked that anyone would assert that having $1,000 in CC debt would necessitate debt counseling. That seems a bit extreme.

Yes! And that came in second place in the poll. And I even think needing debt counseling for $5000 in CC debt is a bit extreme, unless it's someone who has very little income. It's such a subjective thing. Someone could be sitting there with $5K in debt and struggling to make the payments and you could have someone else with $20K in debt, having no problems making payments at all.

[jubilantsquirrel]

Feb 5, 2016 13:09:47 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

I used to work part-time as a cleaning lady, and I can tell you that the only things that got a side-eye from me were not flushing toilets or leaving things like the empty toilet paper roll on the floor next to the trash.

But seriously... not flushing the toilet. DNW to see your hours-old poo floating around.

[ceejay]

Feb 5, 2016 13:09:47 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

leaving things like the empty toilet paper roll on the floor next to the trash.

What's so bad about this? I leave empty toilet paper rolls next to the trash so I remember to recycle them once I have a few there.

[mrsjene]

Feb 5, 2016 13:09:47 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

I used to work part-time as a cleaning lady, and I can tell you that the only things that got a side-eye from me were not flushing toilets or leaving things like the empty toilet paper roll on the floor next to the trash.

But seriously... not flushing the toilet. DNW to see your hours-old poo floating around.

This is what I figured.

When I get embarrassed by something when my cleaning lady comes over, I always think, "I'm sure she's seen worse." Kind of like when I forget to maintain my area before an appointment with the gyn.

[ohinvrtedworld]

Feb 5, 2016 13:14:07 GMT -5 ceejay said:

Feb 5, 2016 13:09:47 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

leaving things like the empty toilet paper roll on the floor next to the trash.

What's so bad about this? I leave empty toilet paper rolls next to the trash so I remember to recycle them once I have a few there.

Mmm I guess that makes sense. Both the leftover poop and the TP rolls were the same house so maybe I'm generalizing that they were nasty and not just recycling lol.

[onesweetworld]

Feb 5, 2016 10:57:13 GMT -5 teachermomtobe said:

Feb 5, 2016 10:06:40 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.

Do you and YH have separate bathrooms?

Yes.  I use our downstairs bathroom and he uses the upstairs because he is a disgusting human being and pees in the shower. 

[jubilantsquirrel]

Feb 5, 2016 13:12:19 GMT -5 sleepymonkey said:

Feb 5, 2016 12:35:23 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

I agree. I was shocked that anyone would assert that having $1,000 in CC debt would necessitate debt counseling. That seems a bit extreme.

Yes! And that came in second place in the poll. And I even think needing debt counseling for $5000 in CC debt is a bit extreme, unless it's someone who has very little income. It's such a subjective thing. Someone could be sitting there with $5K in debt and struggling to make the payments and you could have someone else with $20K in debt, having no problems making payments at all.

I absolutely agree it's subjective.

I did a debt consolidation plan when I was about 21. Between the ages of 18 and 20 I managed to put myself $3000 into credit card debt. At that time I only had about $5 leftover after I paid my rent and other bills. I didn't really have the money to make the credit card payments, so I would miss a month every so often which would result in fees and more interest. I finally went through a debt consolidation program and got all of the debt paid off. At that time in my life $3000 was an unmanageable amount of debt for me and I was worried about it just getting worse, so I sought help for it and I'm happy I did.

Now if I were to put $3000 on a credit card at this current point in my life, I would not seek out help in getting it paid off because I have the funds to manage it. 

[peaseblossom55]

Sometimes I feel like H & I are far too independent and I feel bad when I ask him for favors and to do things.

[thechickencoop]

Feb 5, 2016 13:06:23 GMT -5 joy said:

Feb 5, 2016 9:54:54 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular. 

Someone once asked on another board "How often do you guys clean your walls?"

I was like "wut?"

But then other people were answering like they did it regularly!!

I umm...did not know that cleaning walls is a thing. I mean, unless I splatter something on it...

People just clean their walls for funsies?

[onesweetworld]

Feb 5, 2016 13:18:59 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

Feb 5, 2016 13:15:58 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

Yes.  I use our downstairs bathroom and he uses the upstairs because he is a disgusting human being and pees in the shower. 

Is peeing in the shower the point at which one is considered a disgusting human being? You and I would not share a bathroom, then.

Do you refuse to pee in the toilet and only pee in the shower as if it is your urinal?

[onesweetworld]

Feb 5, 2016 13:50:07 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

Feb 5, 2016 13:45:50 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

Do you refuse to pee in the toilet and only pee in the shower as if it is your urinal?

OMG! NO. lol

Ok, I get ya now, I'd be kicking MH out of the bathroom.

I swear he thinks he is a dog.  He will only pee outside or in the shower.

[ironbaby]

Feb 5, 2016 13:45:50 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

Feb 5, 2016 13:18:59 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

Is peeing in the shower the point at which one is considered a disgusting human being? You and I would not share a bathroom, then.

Do you refuse to pee in the toilet and only pee in the shower as if it is your urinal?

[wannabmama]

I'm a terrible adult.
MH is a worse adult. And...he constantly complains about the cleanliness of the house, but can't even carry the clothes I laundered and folded of his upstairs...they sit in piles on the stairs.

notagoddess farting in a group fitness class has seriously kept me from going for years. I keep feeling like it will happen in barre class and the fembots will all faint from embarrassment for me.

FFFC: I've been having really sexual, really intense sex dreams about an ex...like every night. The other night H came up to give me a kiss in bed bc I went to bed before him and it woke me out of one and I was startled and sort of yelled from just being surprised...and then called him ex's name. I think he was too surprised by my yell and didn't realize what I said next. Whoops.

[britta]

notagoddess and RajahMD thank you. I appreciate both of your words.

ugaqueencity I feel you. LT for commiseration.

[PirateCat]

Feb 5, 2016 13:06:23 GMT -5 joy said:

Feb 5, 2016 9:54:54 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

Haha, me too. We got one of those cleaning service flyers in the mail recently and it listed all the cleaning tasks they do for each room every visit, and a list of deeper cleaning tasks they rotate through, and I read them out to my H and we were both astounded at all the things we apparently should be doing in our house on the regular. 

Someone once asked on another board "How often do you guys clean your walls?"

I was like "wut?"

But then other people were answering like they did it regularly!!

The walls are the least of my worries. 

[notagoddess]

Feb 5, 2016 12:45:43 GMT -5 ugaqueencity said:

Feb 5, 2016 12:06:14 GMT -5 britta said:

Along the lines of feeling sorry for H's, adulting, etc...

Sometimes I'm resentful of MH's job. I feel terrible thinking/saying it because A) he loves it and is very good at it B) he's done it as long as we've been together, I knew what I was getting myself into and C) it affords us A LOT of luxuries that we likely would otherwise not have. But it is inflexible and keeps him away from home too much, which means the vast majority of all things adult and/or parenting fall to me. It also means that, at least for the time being, I can't work towards my goals/dreams career-wise. I feel both overwhelmed and stifled at times, in addition to feeling resentful, and I feel bad about it.

Yes, MH knows about these feelings and he does he best to help out when he can.

I feel like I could have written this entire post minus the parenting part. I've also realized that since I quit my job and we moved across the country my life pretty much revolves around MH and his job and it scares me but I don't know how to fix it

My husband interviewed for a job in Idaho and they paid for both of us to fly out there. I actually liked it enough, but I was worried that moving far away from everything I know would lead to resentment and imbalance in our relationship. He did not end up getting the job, so we didn't have to make a decision. I know people do it all the time, but it's a tough spot to be in.

[britta]

It's so serious up in here today...

I peed my pants at an embarrassingly old age (9), at school no less. I hated wearing jeans (UO? still do) because they were "too tight", but my mom insisted on it once a week or so. I also wasn't fond of peeing in public places, so couple a very full bladder after lunch with the stupid, fancy button on my too tight jeans that mom loved and I loathed and you have a recipe for disaster.

I cried initially, but by the time my mom showed up (who was pissed-no pun intended) with my sweatpants, my overly logical 9 year old mind was like, "Well if you would have let me wear these to begin with..."

[adorebel]

Feb 5, 2016 10:06:40 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.

Srsly if MH's toothpaste were blood spatter evidence, it would look like a constant fucking murder scene in our bathroom. We use the same toothbrush, dude. Why is your sink/mirror/general area a fucking Picasso of white spray every week, while mine has like 3 little specks? Deal with yourself. 

[jubilantsquirrel]

You're not alone britta . I once climbed a tree and when I got to the top I looked down and immediately freaked out about how high up I was. I literally peed my pants the entire way back down. I was about 9 or 10 and had a couple of friends with me.

[adorebel]

Lol all this peeing-in-childhood talk reminds me: I once had a birthday party with pony rides (I think I was turning six) and one of the girls peed all over the pony because she got so excited/scared about riding it. Poor thing! It's kind of hilarious thinking back on it, but she was probably mortified and has never forgotten it.

[ironbaby]

Feb 5, 2016 14:21:02 GMT -5 adorebel said:

Feb 5, 2016 10:06:40 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

MH and I constantly fight over cleaning because he thinks I'm lazy and I don't clean. I do not clean as frequently as he does but when I do, I clean much better. He is a surface cleaner and I'm a deep cleaner. Ugh dude, I clean my shower and bathroom every single day, you have toothpaste on your toilet seat because you can't keep your mouth closed when you brush your teeth.

Srsly if MH's toothpaste were blood spatter evidence, it would look like a constant fucking murder scene in our bathroom. We use the same toothbrush, dude. Why is your sink/mirror/general area a fucking Picasso of white spray every week, while mine has like 3 little specks? Deal with yourself. 

You left a word out, right? You use the same KIND of toothbrush, right? Please say yes.