Did anyone ever listen to wee sing silly songs as a kid? I found they still have the songs out there and on YouTube and I got so excited. I got cpr and first aid certified today, so bring on the solids! Lol. I feel a bit more prepared for momming it now. And those 4 hours to myself, even though I was in a classroom, were just what I needed. It's been just me and E all week and H has either worked late or overnight every day so I was at my wits end yesterday. Recharge go! I realize I'm rambling now and look the oven is done and did anyone watch the shrekeli or whatever his fugly name is's pharmabro interview? Dear god I wanted to punch him and break his face. Ok supper time. Wee!
amberlie I had huge fights with my MIL over or wedding and the day after our wedding actually. It sucked at the time but I am so glad I did. I love the wedding we had and I would have hated what she tried to force us into. You got this!
Funeral today was short and sweet; elderly mother of family friend. Tomorrow we need to get a highchair. I ordered Tula yesterday, ergo is digging too much. Off to catch up on rest of thread.
skinandbones, I figured. But I'm so dreading it after the drama when E was born and I didn't want 15 people flooding in within 10 mins of delivery. I'd been in labor for 19 hours and it was 2 hours after visiting hours ended. MIL apparently made it sound like we didn't want them visiting for the entire hospital stay. So df's aunt blocked me on fb and called yelling at df about how I hurt her feelings. It was ridiculous.
ampaints I'm happy that you got the wedding you wanted! I really wouldn't mind his family all being there but I feel she needs to contribute significantly if she wants me to provide a venue big enough + food/alcohol for 100+ people.
amberlie my MIL and I had a lot of conflict over the wedding, and she didn't contribute a cent. We still don't get along great even though she's watching my kids while we're at work. Sometimes there's just no making someone happy. I was a lot less stressed when I realized I didn't have to care about whether she was happy, because there was always going to be something she didn't like.
It's your wedding. Unless she wants to foot the bill for the family she wants to invite, she doesn't get a vote. And your husband can tell her that, as often as needed. It doesn't have to be on you to be the bad guy (even if she blames you anyway). I'm sure whatever you decide will be wonderful. Small and intimate sounds perfect to me.
amberlie my MIL and I had a lot of conflict over the wedding, and she didn't contribute a cent. We still don't get along great even though she's watching my kids while we're at work. Sometimes there's just no making someone happy. I was a lot less stressed when I realized I didn't have to care about whether she was happy, because there was always going to be something she didn't like.
It's your wedding. Unless she wants to foot the bill for the family she wants to invite, she doesn't get a vote. And your husband can tell her that, as often as needed. It doesn't have to be on you to be the bad guy (even if she blames you anyway). I'm sure whatever you decide will be wonderful. Small and intimate sounds perfect to me.
I agree completely. We'll figure it out tomorrow. She's said she wants to contribute, so we're going over tomorrow to figure out the extent of that offer.
Small is what I would prefer though. I'd like to spend more on a venue (arboretum would be my top choice) and less on food and alcohol (I don't even drink).
Busy day, I have to catch up on here. Hope everyone is having a good weekend!
Discovered my daughter's favorite song is Missy Elliott - WTF (Where They From)... she goes crazy smiling and kicking her legs whenever it comes on. So we've been listening to that song a bunch in our house today.
They found major water damage under the dishwasher. I'm now on home depot trying to design a kitchen while my mil rocks walt because we're at their house tonight (I was worried there might be hidden mold). We will be doing a complete kitchen overhaul. I don't even know how to wrap my mind around not having a kitchen for who knows how long. I am drinking.
amberlie there is nothing wrong with a cash or no bar if you want, especially since you didn't drink. People should respect that. If you want to spend less on food then I would just have it not around a meal time. I hope the discussion goes well for you tomorrow.
amberlie there is nothing wrong with a cash or no bar if you want, especially since you didn't drink. People should respect that. If you want to spend less on food then I would just have it not around a meal time. I hope the discussion goes well for you tomorrow.
I don't really mind providing food for a smaller amount of people. It's the 100+ I'm not down for lol
They found major water damage under the dishwasher. I'm now on home depot trying to design a kitchen while my mil rocks walt because we're at their house tonight (I was worried there might be hidden mold). We will be doing a complete kitchen overhaul. I don't even know how to wrap my mind around not having a kitchen for who knows how long. I am drinking.
Been here my friend! We were without a kitchen for 6 months as we redid ourselves and only had weekends to work on it. Let's say we were almost on a first name basis with the pizza delivery guy! Lol! You will will need a lot of patience. Unless of course you can afford to pay someone to do it, I hear it can be done in a couple of weeks! GL! New kitchens are fun!
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kaeguri, I saw the shkreli or however you spell his name on the breakfast club this week. Nope octopus to everything he said, he comes off as very oily.
Never heard of Raffi, but I remember we sing silly songs!
amberlie, +1 for have the wedding you want. Your family will get over whatever drama they create, it's your day and your money. We paid for our wedding on our own too and cut corners where we needed to make it work (i.e. no bar, limiting guest list). People got over it and our day was perfect.
Sorry for the water damage packmomma. Your new kitchen will be awesome!
@janetheconquerer It's amazing how good toddlers are at that. My parents always joked that if someone kidnapped me they're return me. I thought they were terribly people for even joking like that but as an adult I get it.
packmomma Oh no! Do you have to redo the entire thing? Will you at least get your dream kitchen out of it?
amberlie So sorry about your Dad. I also agree that you can go cheap. Get your dream venue but go with a non-meal time and serve cake and punch. I can't even remember the details we paid a ton for.
I went to a Saturday farmer's market downtown with H and baby today. We spent all day out and about. I think the hellish last week or two have been a wonder week or leap or whatever because E has changed dramatically. His dexterity amazes me (except when he steals food off my plate in .02 seconds), he's especially social and friendly with others, and he has obvious object permanence now.
Have any of your babies gotten suddenly jumpy? Around the time of all this E got easily scared. Something like a cough or the dryer filter being pulled out too quickly makes him jump out of his skin and I'm not sure if this is normal. I meant to ask his pedi this week and forgot. He's also had a fever between 99.7 and 100.8 for 10 days. Pedi thinks it's teething b/c he looks and sounds totally normal otherwise, but my mom brain is trying to convince me to somehow put those together and worry.
I should be in bed but I just keep thinking M is going to wake up. He kind of woke up a little after 10 but fell back asleep when I put his pacifier back in. I guess after 1.5 hours he's staying asleep. Or he's staying asleep until I get in bed.
Post by elizabethnevadap on Feb 6, 2016 23:51:43 GMT -5
So... one of the cats left wet scat all over and I stepped in it. I've been searching all over with the natural orange pet spray and the fabreeze. I just CAN'T get it all up. Ugh. I took a shower and now I'm up. My Jack and I are awake like it's morning! Maybe I'll make some bread. That sounded gross after the all the scat talk. Today we did a boatload of nothing. It was great.
DS1 is refusing to nap. He started running around his room. I told him if he didn't get into bed I wasn't going to tuck him in or read a story. He decided he was going to hide behind his curtains. DS2 is alders. I'm thinking about putting him down and taking a nap myself.
Today is Not Listening Day.
I swear out first horns are identical. I am at my wits end today. Still no nap.
It took me longer than I'm proud to admit to figure out that first horns was supposed to be first borns.
Yesterday at work, one of the nurses assigned to my room had a student nurse working with her. We had a larger patient that had to be cleaned up and the student came out and said, "She needs to be cleaned up and obviously I can't turn her by myself....." I just looked at her and said, "Why not?" Apparently, she took me serious and the look on her face was a mix of shock and offense. I am an asshole and busted up laughing. I did apologize and told her I was really just kidding. The nurse was crying from laughing so hard. Oops.
amberlie, I hope it goes well with your MIL. If her $ comes with too many strings/ drama, don't be afraid to say no to it and just elope, or do whatever it is YOU want and have budgeted for. 100+ people is a lot to feed and provide shelter for, and those costs add up, even if you are doing a bbq with a couple kegs. (This is actually exactly what I did for about 85 people, but that's because it was exactly what MH and I wanted. And while in the scheme of weddings, the cost was low, it wasn't nothing, and there's a lot of stress figuring out logistics for that many people.) Bottom line, it's your wedding. It's about you and your DH, not about meeting others' expectations. Also, your hair looks great!
Post by runningmommy519 on Feb 7, 2016 5:14:16 GMT -5
amberlie I'm sorry about future mil. Everyone has given great advice. All I keep thinking when I read it though is from what you've told us about her is that none of that advice will matter or work without her getting pissed and causing more issues .
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