amberlie my MIL and I had a lot of conflict over the wedding, and she didn't contribute a cent. We still don't get along great even though she's watching my kids while we're at work. Sometimes there's just no making someone happy. I was a lot less stressed when I realized I didn't have to care about whether she was happy, because there was always going to be something she didn't like.
It's your wedding. Unless she wants to foot the bill for the family she wants to invite, she doesn't get a vote. And your husband can tell her that, as often as needed. It doesn't have to be on you to be the bad guy (even if she blames you anyway). I'm sure whatever you decide will be wonderful. Small and intimate sounds perfect to me.
I agree completely. We'll figure it out tomorrow. She's said she wants to contribute, so we're going over tomorrow to figure out the extent of that offer.
Small is what I would prefer though. I'd like to spend more on a venue (arboretum would be my top choice) and less on food and alcohol (I don't even drink).
This is a fight worth having. I did not fight about the wedding I wanted and so in the end it didn't represent us at all really. At the end of the day I was still married to my best friend so it's still wonderful but I wish I would have stood my ground on a lot of things. Stand your ground. You want to look back at your wedding and smile through all of the memories.
They found major water damage under the dishwasher. I'm now on home depot trying to design a kitchen while my mil rocks walt because we're at their house tonight (I was worried there might be hidden mold). We will be doing a complete kitchen overhaul. I don't even know how to wrap my mind around not having a kitchen for who knows how long. I am drinking.
Been here my friend! We were without a kitchen for 6 months as we redid ourselves and only had weekends to work on it. Let's say we were almost on a first name basis with the pizza delivery guy! Lol! You will will need a lot of patience. Unless of course you can afford to pay someone to do it, I hear it can be done in a couple of weeks! GL! New kitchens are fun!
We're redoing a lot of it ourselves probably. They are going to move the cabinets today and try not to damage anything (we'll be without a sink for a bit) so Fx it can be put back and we don't have to get all new cabinets and counters. Eta:I'm not optimistic though because the floor looks like it's going to disintegrate so I can imagine what is being the cabinets.
carolinah they're removing more of the cabinets today. The water damage looks pretty extensive so we're not sure what we're going to see as things get pulled out. We don't have the money for a dream kitchen right now as we are already in the middle of a remodel in other parts of the downstairs.
carolinah I think increased startle reflex is normal now. M's startled face cracks me up every time.
It's so sad and funny at the same time! E kinda tucks his chin in, his mouth spreads out but not in a smile, eyes get big, and arms and knees lock at 90 degrees then the limbs sort of jiggle from side to side.
We're hosting the family for a super bowl party today. So of course C is being a giant pill. We thinks it's teeth, poor thing.
Also, BIL finally told us last night that he and GF probably won't make it to the larty. Firm yes or no is preferred, dude. Also, they still haven't told the family she's pregnant and due in May. We know, and we know that's probably the reason he's not going to be here. But hello awkward attempts at explaining the absence. Also, if I was his mom, I'd be super pissed about the secret keeping when I finally found out.
We were going to have people over for Superbowl tonight but just cancelled that. We are having major sleep issues (I'm pretty sure related to reflux) and our nights have been horrible. Last night mh and were asleep by 7:30. Today we are spending the day meal planning, grocery shopping, and meal prepping. I'm cutting out eggs and dairy completely and we are going to try and eat as "clean" as possible. Hopefully in the next few days with my diet change I will see a change in Ava's reflux! We see the pediatrician tomorrow.
packmomma I hope everything goes as well as it can today!
I'm going a little stir crazy so I'm going to get a pedicure and study. Then grocery shopping, I hope everyone had already done their super bowl shopping, but I'm not optimistic.
If I can get baby to nap, I will take the boys swimming in a bit. Then, try to finish taxes and preschool Valentine's. Hubs has tomorrow off and has said he'll take the boys somewhere
Crap totally forgot about having to get Valentines done today. There goes my day.
And yes we'll be needing all new cabinets, countertops, sink, dishwasher,and stove (cause its super old and broken). 2) I was just in the best nap jail. He rarely naps on me anymore (unless it's in bed) so this was particularly sweet.
If I can get baby to nap, I will take the boys swimming in a bit. Then, try to finish taxes and preschool Valentine's. Hubs has tomorrow off and has said he'll take the boys somewhere
Crap totally forgot about having to get Valentines done today. There goes my day.
I'm happy that DS' preschool asked for them to be unnamed so the kids can hand them out. I just have to write "from, DS" on all of them.
Post by tuscanlatte on Feb 7, 2016 12:58:39 GMT -5
PS I got a new account. Some privacy stuff came up - I previously had a bottle of whiskey as my avatar. I don't really want to write my old username on here so if you need clarification no worries just message me.
Post by tuscanlatte on Feb 7, 2016 13:22:05 GMT -5
DH is so against minivans. But I would seriously kill for doors that open themselves and don't door-ding others' cars! Sometimes I think about a rear row of seating, or built in DVD players...
Post by tuscanlatte on Feb 7, 2016 13:26:41 GMT -5
I think if they made a mini van that had 4x4 DH would be on board haha. He gets anxiety if I drive the kids in winter without 4x4. It's his irrational thing.
I never would have thought I would have owned by mini van, until I inherited one. I seriously love it! SUV's or trucks cannot compare to the convenience of a mini van! And mine is even an older Kia. When we replace I want to get another one! So many fun adventures in the van!
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
packmomma we are (voluntarily) doing an all new kitchen soon. We are going to do a butcher block island, white counter tops, white cabinets, white subway tile back splash, and stainless steel appliances. We haven't decided how much we are going to do ourselves yet. Probably as much as we can, because money.
packmomma I like those cabinets. Are they damaged?
Yeah you can't see it from that picture but there's water damage on the backs and sides so they will be scrapped. Which means everything gets scrapped because it has to match. This was the pic H sent me. I haven't actually seen all the damage but in pictures but basically the underlayment is disintegrated in some places and the particle board tell cabinets are made out of has swollen and fallen apart.
And yes we'll be needing all new cabinets, countertops, sink, dishwasher,and stove (cause its super old and broken). 2) I was just in the best nap jail. He rarely naps on me anymore (unless it's in bed) so this was particularly sweet.
We are kitchen twins!!! I'll have to show you a pic of my kitchen when I'm on a pc.
packmomma we are (voluntarily) doing an all new kitchen soon. We are going to do a butcher block island, white counter tops, white cabinets, white subway tile back splash, and stainless steel appliances. We haven't decided how much we are going to do ourselves yet. Probably as much as we can, because money.
This is basically our kitchen, minus butcher block island, and black appliances not stainless! Lol. Like packmomma our new kitchen was not voluntary (mice + improperly laid flooring + years of moisture = new kitchen and roof for redandblue!).
packmomma we did an ikea kitchen. We found their stuff to be great and pretty easy to DIY.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
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