Post by WittyLittle on Feb 19, 2016 7:38:56 GMT -5
I sometimes tell my H I need to work over time when I'm actually just sitting here checking my facebook and TCF, or having a coffee with a friend... instead of going home and helping with DSs dinner.
Post by macaronmama on Feb 19, 2016 7:53:54 GMT -5
I am a terrible listener - not on purpose though. I am very good at pretending to listen and nodding my head and making all the right noises, but I find that my mind wanders way too easily and I only tune back in when I realize I'm not listening. I have to do a lot of inferring as to what I missed, but so far none of my friends have caught me at it.
Post by Martinis&Medicine on Feb 19, 2016 8:15:22 GMT -5
I hide snacks all over the house so I don't have to share them with H. When we moved a couple months ago I told him not to take the morning off to help because I needed to gather up all my snacks. Unfortunately I discovered several I had forgotten about during the move...
This is kind of lame, but definitely flame worthy - I'm thinking about turning DD's car seat to front facing. She is so fing tall and she's starting to throw fits. She'll be 2 in May.
This is kind of lame, but definitely flame worthy - I'm thinking about turning DD's car seat to front facing. She is so fing tall and she's starting to throw fits. She'll be 2 in May.
I won't judge you. I'm very happy my lo is fine RF still. Do you have an iPad? We put the iPad on the headrest and he watches it and his car behavior is much better. Probably an FFFC to some that we let the 21 month old watch movies in the car. We are not an anti screen time household.
becole - we are antiscreen (except when I almost lost my sanity during the blizzard 3 weeks ago) until she turns 2. My MIL is a preschool teacher and showed us lots of material that helped us make that decision. With that being said, no judgement here for those who use screens. I'm jealous.
becole - we are antiscreen (except when I almost lost my sanity during the blizzard 3 weeks ago) until she turns 2. My MIL is a preschool teacher and showed us lots of material that helped us make that decision. With that being said, no judgement here for those who use screens. I'm jealous.
I probably would be more anti screen if I stayed home but since he goes to daycare all week and we're always out of the house on the weekend, I just can't make myself care about 20 minutes of driving peace and quiet.
becole - we are antiscreen (except when I almost lost my sanity during the blizzard 3 weeks ago) until she turns 2. My MIL is a preschool teacher and showed us lots of material that helped us make that decision. With that being said, no judgement here for those who use screens. I'm jealous.
I probably would be more anti screen if I stayed home but since he goes to daycare all week and we're always out of the house on the weekend, I just can't make myself care about 20 minutes of driving peace and quiet.
I'm the opposite. I SAH and we do screen time because I have a lot of time to fill and sometimes I need to walk the dogs or use the restroom or cook dinner. But we're also an everything in moderation household. Plus the latest recommendations say screen time (in moderation) is fine. I wouldn't worry about it for even a second.
My child is a giant (DH is 6'7) but we're still RF. My MIL made a comment about it last week but I'd rather he fuss a little than have something happen if we were to get in an accident. I figure we'll revisit when this one arrives.
This is kind of lame, but definitely flame worthy - I'm thinking about turning DD's car seat to front facing. She is so fing tall and she's starting to throw fits. She'll be 2 in May.
I wouldn't rush it but keep in mind, once you do it and she's used to it, there's no going back
Post by orangepickle on Feb 19, 2016 8:57:32 GMT -5
I work from home but I'm leaving on a work trip to Europe tomorrow so I'm unofficially taking the afternoon off to go shopping for clothes that make me feel/look good despite the bloat I've got going on
Yesterday I was out of the office for work so I had to stop and get an egg mcmuffin. It's way to early to cave to pregnancy cravings if I expect to pace my weight gain. But I was so hungry. And McDonald's was right there, mocking me with their huge ass sign.
I work from home but I'm leaving on a work trip to Europe tomorrow so I'm unofficially taking the afternoon off to go shopping for clothes that make me feel/look good despite the bloat I've got going on
These are FFC right? I tend to piss people off with my parenting ideals.
My oldest is almost 14 so there was no study done on screen time back then. I'm very old school (80's-90's) when it comes to my parenting. I'm not going to limit screen time per se, but I'm certainly not going to let my house be taken over by Disney or Nick Jr. I didn't allow it the first time, I'm not allowing it the second. If the tv happens to be on and we are watching something we want to watch and they watch it, then sure ok. Kids have plenty of other shit to play with and get into. I have so many friends whose children only know how to behave in public because they are occupied by a tablet or phone. Sure it enables parents to have down time and adult talk while out. But if your kid cant handle behaving in public, then as a sacrifice to your child, stay home. Or find a baby sitter.
I get that a lot of those games are educational and help hand/eye coordination. But if you are just giving them something to shut them up, how is that teaching them how to act at a restaurant?
Another FFC - if y'all don't think I'm a bitch already. I don't give a single shit about what anyone else thinks is best for my children. I also don't care what anyone else thinks is best for their own children. If it works for you, great! if it doesn't, sorry! I'm going to do things my own way no matter what anyone else (besides medical personal of course) says or thinks.
There is so much mom-shaming because certain things are trendy right now. You can make anyone think you are the perfect mom from behind a keyboard. You're not. If you are, then I feel bad for your significant other because they are being sorely neglected of your attention. How do you think those kids got here? Remember he was your husband before he was a dad. Your toddler isn't going to be scared for life because he had to cry a little longer while you finished a conversation with your SO. Or because you took a vacation without them.
Im sorry for being so open and blunt on the first FFC, but I have watched so many mothers melt down and burn from trying to keep up with other moms. Its all bullshit. Everyone should be given an huge party when their kids graduate high school because you managed to keep them alive for 18 whole years. Being a parent is hard freaking work. No one should be shamed for the decisions they make for their kids. #stopmomshaming
I turned DD1's car seat forward facing when she was 11 months old. She was miserable all the time in the car, and one day we were driving somewhere and we were going to be in the car for while and she scream and crying, so we both said "eff it, let's turn it." We pulled into a parking lot and turned it around, and she was totally fine after that. She was off the charts for height and weight, not that it makes any difference for safety, but I probably wouldn't have done it if she was smaller. We turned DD2 at 12 or 13 months old. I think it was within the next year or so after that they changed the recommended guidelines to 2 years old.
You have to give your email address to get it, but don't worry, they don't do anything nefarious with it as far as I've noticed.
I'm training to be a librarian, took a whole course on children and youth that focused heavily on screen time, and we still use the TV to get through our days on a regular basis. I've forgiven myself for it and make sure to balance it out with lots of reading, painting, colouring, and playing time. This new baby will be exposed from day 3 or so, and I'm ok with that.
My FFFC. I am home without DD today. I am not being productive. Anyone want to write an essay for me?
jillian - I'm right there with you. DH and I make plenty of unpopular decisions as parents and I don't give a shit what other people think. My kids watch too much TV, but they are also able to entertain themselves with toys, and are polite, well-mannered, smart, love to read, and do awesome in school. We're doing something right. I've never been one to keep up with the Joneses, and I don't plan to start now.
I work from home but I'm leaving on a work trip to Europe tomorrow so I'm unofficially taking the afternoon off to go shopping for clothes that make me feel/look good despite the bloat I've got going on
oooh where you going?
Amsterdam until Wednesday then 4 days in Scotland. I love both places (I lived in Scotland for 5 years) but I just went on this trip about 3 weeks ago so I'm pretty sick of it
Amsterdam until Wednesday then 4 days in Scotland. I love both places (I lived in Scotland for 5 years) but I just went on this trip about 3 weeks ago so I'm pretty sick of it
Yeh it's definitely no fun when you have to go so often. I'll be in A'dam from Thursday but it's just a 2hr drive for me so it's not a hassle Enjoy your shopping!
I agree about kids and tablets at dinner tables when they're old enough to be reasoned with, or given punishments for bad behavior. 21 month old- middle of dinner and you decide to unbuckle your high chair strap and stand up and scream? "Here's my phone, look it's Barney!" And finish meal pay and leave. No shame in my game. If he was a bit older, it would definitely lead to a time out. But as always with trying to keep in moderation, I think there are parents that also don't bend their schedules to the age and appropriateness of the child. Just because mom and dad want a nice quiet meal out doesn't mean they should pick a place that will be a 1.5 hour production because it's just not reasonable to think that a 2 year old will just "learn" table manners and the ability to sit overnight. It takes practice. It takes starting out slow. Really, it takes starting at home with eating around the dinner table and practicing manners and sitting through a meal there first...
Post by WittyLittle on Feb 19, 2016 9:53:15 GMT -5
Here's a light one... One of the many reasons i'm sad that DS is growing up is that I will no longer be able to blame my farts on him. I swear since becoming a mom I've just let go of so many standards...
Here's a light one... One of the many reasons i'm sad that DS is growing up is that I will no longer be able to blame my farts on him. I swear since becoming a mom I've just let go of so many standards...
Get a dog. They never grow out of that stage.
(Unfortunately, ours is also REALLY GOOD at his own stinky farts.)
I agree about kids and tablets at dinner tables when they're old enough to be reasoned with, or given punishments for bad behavior. 21 month old- middle of dinner and you decide to unbuckle your high chair strap and stand up and scream? "Here's my phone, look it's Barney!" And finish meal pay and leave. No shame in my game. If he was a bit older, it would definitely lead to a time out. But as always with trying to keep in moderation, I think there are parents that also don't bend their schedules to the age and appropriateness of the child. Just because mom and dad want a nice quiet meal out doesn't mean they should pick a place that will be a 1.5 hour production because it's just not reasonable to think that a 2 year old will just "learn" table manners and the ability to sit overnight. It takes practice. It takes starting out slow. Really, it takes starting at home with eating around the dinner table and practicing manners and sitting through a meal there first...
I agree with this 100%. My thoughts were based on two friends (sisters) I have that have sons 6 months apart. These kids sit at a table in the living room and watch tv with every meal. They have done this since they started feeding themselves. They also love to eat out all the time and since the boys were old enough, they got plopped down, each with their own tablet to zone out while the moms ate. The boys barely ever eat their meals because they either don't want to give up the tablet or they mess around the whole time because they were so focused on their tablets they forgot they were sitting next to each other.
One episode where one of the tablets died during a meal, the boys had to play with the toys they brought along and it ended up being a screaming, crying mess. Fortunately the moms (both in food service industry) felt bad for the server having to deal with all that, they way over tipped.
Just to further explain. I don't have a problem with people that use the TV as a babysitter. Everyone does it. A lot of times that's how you survive the day. But for your child to misbehave because they don't know how to function without the use of electronics in public is where I have issues. Of course, they are my own issues and I have never ever voiced my opinion about it. Because its my opinion. That's it.
I hide snacks all over the house so I don't have to share them with H. When we moved a couple months ago I told him not to take the morning off to help because I needed to gather up all my snacks. Unfortunately I discovered several I had forgotten about during the move...
This is brilliant and cracks me up. My H can seriously pack food away. It's hard to keep food in the house with him constantly eating. I need to set up some stashes just for me...
Yeah jillian those parents are way over board. I just sometimes see parents who seem to be still in that self centered mode where their needs come first and the kids are just supposed to deal. But they aren't taught or given coping mechanisms. Like when I pay a sitter to watch my kid while I'm at a fundraiser because his bedtime is 7:30 and I see over tired children there until 10pm yawning, throwing fits, and screaming. Of course I'd love to bring my child. But not if they're going to disrupt others or miss out on needed sleep.
(But I'm an admitted schedule whore! Didn't want to be that way but baby showed me who is in charge.)
Here's a light one... One of the many reasons i'm sad that DS is growing up is that I will no longer be able to blame my farts on him. I swear since becoming a mom I've just let go of so many standards...
Get a dog. They never grow out of that stage.
(Unfortunately, ours is also REALLY GOOD at his own stinky farts.)
I blamed mine on the cat until we solved his stinky farts. Luckily, we have a dog now. I can blame them on her. Of course, she will fart on me and then get up and walk away.
I hide snacks all over the house so I don't have to share them with H. When we moved a couple months ago I told him not to take the morning off to help because I needed to gather up all my snacks. Unfortunately I discovered several I had forgotten about during the move...
I totally do this too! I hide my snacks so I don't have to share or feel bad about eating them hahaha I've even gone as far as paying cash at places like Dunkin so hubby isn't like...again?
(Unfortunately, ours is also REALLY GOOD at his own stinky farts.)
I blamed mine on the cat until we solved his stinky farts. Luckily, we have a dog now. I can blame them on her. Of course, she will fart on me and then get up and walk away.
Of course! She doesn't want to have to smell her OWN stinky farts after all.
Our property backs on to an apartment building and the dumpster for the building is right beside our garden. The raccoons pull out bags and bags of garbage, and then our dogs get into them and eat all sorts of things they shouldn't. We will never be able to solve the stinky farts until we move.
I agree about kids and tablets at dinner tables when they're old enough to be reasoned with, or given punishments for bad behavior. 21 month old- middle of dinner and you decide to unbuckle your high chair strap and stand up and scream? "Here's my phone, look it's Barney!" And finish meal pay and leave. No shame in my game. If he was a bit older, it would definitely lead to a time out. But as always with trying to keep in moderation, I think there are parents that also don't bend their schedules to the age and appropriateness of the child. Just because mom and dad want a nice quiet meal out doesn't mean they should pick a place that will be a 1.5 hour production because it's just not reasonable to think that a 2 year old will just "learn" table manners and the ability to sit overnight. It takes practice. It takes starting out slow. Really, it takes starting at home with eating around the dinner table and practicing manners and sitting through a meal there first...
I agree with this 100%. My thoughts were based on two friends (sisters) I have that have sons 6 months apart. These kids sit at a table in the living room and watch tv with every meal. They have done this since they started feeding themselves. They also love to eat out all the time and since the boys were old enough, they got plopped down, each with their own tablet to zone out while the moms ate. The boys barely ever eat their meals because they either don't want to give up the tablet or they mess around the whole time because they were so focused on their tablets they forgot they were sitting next to each other.
One episode where one of the tablets died during a meal, the boys had to play with the toys they brought along and it ended up being a screaming, crying mess. Fortunately the moms (both in food service industry) felt bad for the server having to deal with all that, they way over tipped.
Just to further explain. I don't have a problem with people that use the TV as a babysitter. Everyone does it. A lot of times that's how you survive the day. But for your child to misbehave because they don't know how to function without the use of electronics in public is where I have issues. Of course, they are my own issues and I have never ever voiced my opinion about it. Because its my opinion. That's it.
I have a problem with that if it's being done ALL the time. The TV should not take the place of the parent. I definitely side-eye those who use a TV/screen for hours at a time. Judge me. Don't care.
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