Post by untaggablekatie on Feb 19, 2016 10:30:24 GMT -5
DS isn't great at restaurants, so we usually just don't take him... I don't think that 2 year olds are meant to be restrained. That being said, we do take DS to church and he has been doing really well! He 'sings' and during the sermon we let him play a little puzzle game on my phone. Otherwise he colors or plays with trains or snacks.
FFFC - DS is a terrible eater... I'm now pretty much sure his diet consists of chips/guac and pirates booty... but seriously if he will eat it I will give it to him..
Also he believes that his chewy multivitamin is candy... #noshame
I blamed mine on the cat until we solved his stinky farts. Luckily, we have a dog now. I can blame them on her. Of course, she will fart on me and then get up and walk away.
Of course! She doesn't want to have to smell her OWN stinky farts after all.
Our property backs on to an apartment building and the dumpster for the building is right beside our garden. The raccoons pull out bags and bags of garbage, and then our dogs get into them and eat all sorts of things they shouldn't. We will never be able to solve the stinky farts until we move.
For our cat, it was fish. I'm not even going to attempt to solve the stinky farts with the puppy. For her, it's probably one of the 6000 treats she gets a day, but I'm just not willing to find it. I struggle enough finding cat food that the can eat, will eat, and actually like. (Salmon allergy, fish intolerance, don't like turkey or duck, lamb is only awesome if it's the dog food.) The food also has to be hairball and weight management because someone likes all the food. Oh yeah, and some foods just make someone (we have two cats) puke. I'm not changing anything.
Post by penguin129 on Feb 19, 2016 11:04:52 GMT -5
DD and I start our day off watching TV. Usually GMA or some of the news for me and then a show or 2 for her. It gives us time to get ready to start the day. Then we go upstairs and do a circle time.
I am currently unemployed (laid off from my job) and I have no children. You'd think my house would be sparkling clean and everything would be in perfect order. Nope. Not even a little bit. I'm considering getting my old cleaning lady back (from when I had a crazy-packed full-time job) to come clean my house instead of doing it myself, and not telling DH. I have no excuse for this, except, well, I don't wanna (insert feet stomping here).
Post by iwantbacon on Feb 19, 2016 11:45:38 GMT -5
I was so anti-TV for kids until my son was 2. This morning, we watched four 11-minute episodes of Super Wings while I worked from home before his pedi appt. Bless those talking, package delivering airplanes with legs.
FFFC: we had Macdonalds one night this week, leftover Chinese another night, and Boston Market for a third. I wish I could eat Macdonalds every day.
I am currently unemployed (laid off from my job) and I have no children. You'd think my house would be sparkling clean and everything would be in perfect order. Nope. Not even a little bit. I'm considering getting my old cleaning lady back (from when I had a crazy-packed full-time job) to come clean my house instead of doing it myself, and not telling DH. I have no excuse for this, except, well, I don't wanna (insert feet stomping here).
When DH and I were first married, I was recently graduated and completely unemployed for about a month. Our apartment was always a sty. I'm pretty lazy when it comes to housework, but not when it comes to making the mess in the first place. Our house always stays cleaner when I'm out of it for most of the day.
DS isn't great at restaurants, so we usually just don't take him... I don't think that 2 year olds are meant to be restrained. That being said, we do take DS to church and he has been doing really well! He 'sings' and during the sermon we let him play a little puzzle game on my phone. Otherwise he colors or plays with trains or snacks.
FFFC - DS is a terrible eater... I'm now pretty much sure his diet consists of chips/guac and pirates booty... but seriously if he will eat it I will give it to him..
Also he believes that his chewy multivitamin is candy... #noshame
We just introduced a multivitamin gummy! DD also thinks it's candy, but after the first couple times of only giving her one and living through her tantrum for more, she seems to have figured out that that's all she gets each time. Meanwhile, I'm sneaking three, four, five...
I am currently unemployed (laid off from my job) and I have no children. You'd think my house would be sparkling clean and everything would be in perfect order. Nope. Not even a little bit. I'm considering getting my old cleaning lady back (from when I had a crazy-packed full-time job) to come clean my house instead of doing it myself, and not telling DH. I have no excuse for this, except, well, I don't wanna (insert feet stomping here).
Not gonna lie, I am side-eyeing this, especially the not telling your DH part.
I am currently unemployed (laid off from my job) and I have no children. You'd think my house would be sparkling clean and everything would be in perfect order. Nope. Not even a little bit. I'm considering getting my old cleaning lady back (from when I had a crazy-packed full-time job) to come clean my house instead of doing it myself, and not telling DH. I have no excuse for this, except, well, I don't wanna (insert feet stomping here).
Not gonna lie, I am side-eyeing this, especially the not telling your DH part.
Ummm... I thought this was FLAME FREE friday confessions?!
Also, to be fair, I have always made more $ than DH and I am still currently getting severance.
Based on some previous posts, I guess this is my FFFC: As a SAHM, I frequently let my 2 yo watch TV so I can get things done around the house, or just so I can have some downtime with her not bothering me. I honestly don't see how parents of toddlers don't allow any screen time because I would lose it without Daniel Tiger, Doc McStuffins, MMC, etc. Further, my kid is currently sitting on my bed watching TV so I can take a shower.
I don't think just because you stay at home means you should be cleaning. Maybe if there aren't kids involved, that's a bit lazy but it's your money and your choice. But staying at home watching children is a job just like working is a job, so to me, household duties would still be split. (I work).
Ummm... I thought this was FLAME FREE friday confessions?!
Also, to be fair, I have always made more $ than DH and I am still currently getting severance.
Sorry, but I don't think any FFFC is actually flame free...
I'm pretty sure that's the name of the thread, so yeah, that's supposed to mean no judgements. I'm not going to go on the attack here, but your comments are unnecessary and unwelcome.
I'm pretty sure that's the name of the thread, so yeah, that's supposed to mean no judgements. I'm not going to go on the attack here, but your comments are unnecessary and unwelcome.
It's never flame free if you have something flame worthy. That said... you didn't get flamed. A few side eyes always happen.
Not where I've come from (3T/IF, CAL).
That's how it's done on Oct. '16? New board here so I'm pretty sure we all get to set the tone. And an attack on a FFC chain (or anywhere for that matter) is not right, IMO.
A side eye = a flame to me
You want to have a chain that's cool with a side eye? Call it "Say whatever the F you want but be prepared for judgments Friday"
If a side eye is a flame, then how would anyone express any opinions? It's definitely not flame free. That's the whole point of the thread. You post your confession and we decide how much and how hard to judge about it. Or people commiserate or admit the same. Or people argue over it. It's all good. This is still really light stuff. I don't see any "attacks" here.
It's never flame free if you have something flame worthy. That said... you didn't get flamed. A few side eyes always happen.
Not where I've come from (3T/IF, CAL).
That's how it's done on Oct. '16? New board here so I'm pretty sure we all get to set the tone. And an attack on a FFC chain (or anywhere for that matter) is not right, IMO.
A side eye = a flame to me
You want to have a chain that's cool with a side eye? Call it "Say whatever the F you want but be prepared for judgments Friday"
I'm sorry that my post upset you so much. All the boards I ever post or lurk on have flammable FFFC threads. That being said, saying I side-eye you is not the same as "flaming" you or attacking you. But I'm sorry that you weren't expecting that from this thread.
I've been on FFC threads on the boards I participate in as well, since the board started and on the dump before that. 3t/IF and PAIF have them every week. But all of the ones that I've been on have been ones where we either laugh with one another or give each other hair pats for the bad/guilty things we are doing, saying or considering.
I've never felt judged in a FFC thread before.
That said lavinia,, thanks for your apology for offending me.
I just know that this isn't the place for me for a FFC if that's how it's going to be over here. I'll stick with PAIF in the future.
If a side eye is a flame, then how would anyone express any opinions? It's definitely not flame free. That's the whole point of the thread. You post your confession and we decide how much and how hard to judge about it. Or people commiserate or admit the same. Or people argue over it. It's all good. This is still really light stuff. I don't see any "attacks" here.
Again, not where I participate. On 3T/IF and PAIF the FFC is a place to post the things we feel sad about or guilty about for hair pats or laughs with one another.
Flame-free is just that flame-free...no side eyes and no judgements. I posted the same confession on PAIF today and got some laughs and "story of my life" comments. Here I got side-eyed. It's WAY different and I was not prepared for that.
It's fine, I'll keep my FFC to PAIF in the future.
If a side eye is a flame, then how would anyone express any opinions? It's definitely not flame free. That's the whole point of the thread. You post your confession and we decide how much and how hard to judge about it. Or people commiserate or admit the same. Or people argue over it. It's all good. This is still really light stuff. I don't see any "attacks" here.
Again, not where I participate. On 3T/IF and PAIF the FFC is a place to post the things we feel sad about or guilty about for hair pats or laughs with one another.
Flame-free is just that flame-free...no side eyes and no judgements. I posted the same confession on PAIF today and got some laughs and "story of my life" comments. Here I got side-eyed. It's WAY different and I was not prepared for that.
It's fine, I'll keep my FFC to PAIF in the future.
Huh. That's interesting. I had no idea that there were boards where FFFC wasn't full of opinions. On M14 for example, the FFFC thread today is titled "Give us your confessions so we can judge you". I don't do hair pats very well, and I often think that people giving their true opinions and not holding back leads to more open discussions and folks learning different perspectives.
Maybe it just comes down to different board cultures? I've been on TD/TCF for more than 4 years and someone saying that they side eye something in a FFFC post has never been an anomaly.
Yup, just a different board culture and I wasn't prepared for a totally different way of going about things on a thread name that I'm super familiar with.
I'm seeing based on explanations that FFC is VERY different on Parenting, for example, than the 3T/IF and the loss boards.
We're all coming from different places on the board so I'm sure it's bound to happen at certain points that we aren't going to all see eye-to-eye on things. It was just jarring when I've had a different experience for several years elsewhere on a thread of the same name.
And honestly, I'm glad it all came out here with me on something as simple as me wanting to bring in a housekeeper, instead of it happening with any of the other 3T/IF or loss ladies who might have the same impression as me on how the FFC thread works.
If I come back to this thread in the future, I know to expect a very different type of experience. And that is fine, because now I have different expectations.
Again, not where I participate. On 3T/IF and PAIF the FFC is a place to post the things we feel sad about or guilty about for hair pats or laughs with one another.
Flame-free is just that flame-free...no side eyes and no judgements. I posted the same confession on PAIF today and got some laughs and "story of my life" comments. Here I got side-eyed. It's WAY different and I was not prepared for that.
It's fine, I'll keep my FFC to PAIF in the future.
Huh. That's interesting. I had no idea that there were boards where FFFC wasn't full of opinions. On M14 for example, the FFFC thread today is titled "Give us your confessions so we can judge you". I don't do hair pats very well, and I often think that people giving their true opinions and not holding back leads to more open discussions and folks learning different perspectives.
**Stuck in the box*** I can agree with open discussions, but it is jarring when you have a very different experience of a thread by the same name in different places on the board...and the expectation for that thread that you've experienced is not about open discussions/opinions so much as it is about sharing a guilt-free confession. And I get not wanting to be hair-patty on stuff like wanting to get a housekeeper. That would be dumb. I was actually just expecting some laughs. And I understand that you are not hair-patty. When I say we give out hair pats on 3T/IF with the FFC thread, it's usually based on something guilty the person is feeling about that we all understand, but the person still feels guilty about. For example, I have no problems hair patting my friends on a FFC thread on 3T/IF about how they are jealous their best friend got pregnant accidentally for the third time while they are still trying and have gone through 4 years of fertility treatments. That would get a hair pat. I also have no problem laughing at my friends on a FFC board for pretending they were asleep so TH would take the dog out, for example. I wasn't prepared for side-eyes because that's not how it's done where I come from. Now that I have different expectations of how the thread works here, I'll be prepared a bit better for various reactions.
I'll take some side eyes over here if unconventional finances do it. DH knows almost nothing about what gets spent in our house. Specifically, he has no idea how much money I've spent on babywearing devices. No idea.
I would say that one spouse not knowing what the other one spends is fairly conventional in this day and age. Has your DH ever asked how much you spend on the babywearing devices? If not, that's on him.
I think every couple should figure out what works for them and that will be different for different people. My DH doesn't know specifically how much I spend on things either... but then again, pretty much the only place I spend discretionary funds is the grocery store. I pay all the monthly bills and he rarely checks our account to see what I'm spending. That's because he trusts me and knows I wouldn't spend large amounts of money without discussing with him first. We both have "play" money that we can use for whatever we want, and that system has worked very well for us and keeps our disagreements on money to a minimum.
Post by lamedianaranja on Feb 19, 2016 14:48:53 GMT -5
Team my husband doesn't ever look at the bank account so we might as well have separate accounts.
FFFC: I am side eyeing everyone for judging other parents' screen time use. I did no screen time until 2 and now do an hour or so but if your kid is having a day of it and you just need to eat out, it is not affecting me if you pull out a tablet.
Post by macaronmama on Feb 19, 2016 15:05:23 GMT -5
My clean laundry has been sitting folded on the floor of my living room for a week because I'm too tired to haul it upstairs. Just be amazed it's even folded.
Late to the party! I've always understood the Flame Free part of FFFC to be sort of tongue in cheek. I never knew it was done differently elsewhere, and so I can imagine it being a little stingy to get rebuked unexpectedly. Sounds like everyone is now on the same page though? So that's good atleast. As far as screen time and parenting style in general, I like to think I don't give a shit what anyone else does as long as they're not touting their way as the only good or right way/trying to tell me my way is wrong. I can certainly participate in a conversation about multiple methods but don't be a douche. I stay home and DD watches a couple of episodes of Daniel Tiger or Mickey Mouse Clubhouse per day while I cook dinner, switch the laundry, or TCF for a few minutes. She plays with toys and reads books, but generally wants me to do those things with me, not alone (which I oblige most of the day and yay for a future sibling!), so it's usually the only way to get some solid minutes of peace in my brain. We have a "regimen" for painless as possible meals out but last ditch effort will be kiddie apps on my phone. I think just under two is too young to be expected to sit quietly and still for an entire meal at a new exciting place. And if I just never go out to eat then how will she be exposed to it enough to begin to understand what's expected of her? We don't have many options for a babysitter and I think I deserve a nice meal out that I don't have to cook or clean up after once in awhile. I think my fffc is that I don't really want to tell my mom I'm ktfu. She is my best friend and therefore many times my sounding board. She gets all my woes and complaints and worries about motherboard and I think she's gonna be like wtf.
DS watched no TV until he was 18+ months old. Now it's PBS all day, errrr day here. We started letting him play with the iPad at 2 and downloaded 2 educational apps for him. I haven't set any hard limits with either "screen" activity, he regulates well enough on his own. He plays great with other kids (and alone) and has a huge imagination. He's almost 29 months old and can say and recognize the whole alphabet, count to 15 and recognize 1-10, and his cognitive and language skills are that of a pre-schooler, per his pediatrician and daycare teachers. I have zero f*cks to give about what other people think about screen time. Oh and he plays with my iPhone when we go out to eat because H and I rarely get out without him and sometimes you just want someone else to cook dinner. Doncurr what other people think about that either.
We do not have a housekeeper, but H has said multiple times that all I have to do is say the word and he'll hire one. I work 1-2 8 hour shifts a week. I just hate the thought of spending money, but might be more open to it after this LO is born.
We have joint checking/savings accounts but separate credit cards. I pay all the bills, he has a rough idea of what they are each month. We have a loose rule about alerting the other person when we are planning on making big purchases, but that being said H just bought a new bow and didn't tell me until after the fact. I was like "Oh. Cool."
My clean laundry has been sitting folded on the floor of my living room for a week because I'm too tired to haul it upstairs. Just be amazed it's even folded.
Ah crap I just remembered I have towels from last Saturday waiting for me... they're not folded though. Pffff.
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