I stand by this 100%. It's fantastic that all of our grads are coming back but please remember that some of us were here when you got your BFPs and now we are still here without babies and you have them. I completely understand that your fertility has no effect on mine but it still hurts.
Seriously guys? This is not an IF board. She said she was tired, there's nothing wrong with that.
She has a BMB she can post on for that. None of us are TFAS yet so we're just here to hang out which is really nice of everyone in GKU. Posts alluding to kids is insensitive when there are other places to put those randoms.
So our internet issue is a local outage and they don't know when we will be getting service. FML.
This is an actual nightmare. We only have Netflix so if our internet goes down I can't watch TV either
I have to take a $400 test Tuesday and all my practice exams are online. I'm just going to review my notes today and hope it comes back tonight. If not I'll be taking residence at Starbucks tomorrow afternoon.
I stand by this 100%. It's fantastic that all of our grads are coming back but please remember that some of us were here when you got your BFPs and now we are still here without babies and you have them. I completely understand that your fertility has no effect on mine but it still hurts.
Seriously guys? This is not an IF board. She said she was tired, there's nothing wrong with that.
On one hand, I don't want to see a whole bunch of posts that could be put into the BMB, but at the same time, I feel like she should be able to express that she is tired. This is what's going on with her right now, and because I'm still here doesn't mean she isn't allowed to post that she is tired and wants to sleep in.
Maybe I'm getting desensitized because of how long I've been around/trying.
I get that but serious questions: are the woman who are TTTC here not allowed to say how they feel because this isn't the IF board?
Maybe that's a discussion that should be had. People reference their kids some days and it isn't an issue, other days it is an issue.
This. People usually aren't called out for mentioning their kids in randoms on GKU.
But this feels like a slightly different situation, since now we have grads coming back, grads that got KU when many of us still here were also trying. So it feels a little different than just any other mention of a child. If those of us dealing with infertility had also gotten KU in a "normal" amount of time, we would have babies now too.
This isn't 3T/IF, this is GKU. I think ladies should be free to mention their children, whether they are new babies or slightly older kids. But since many of us here are dealing with IF, it would be nice if the returning grads could try to show a little sensitivity when posting, since so many of us are still waiting for our first baby.
Maybe the issue is that she was complaining? Saying you're taking your kid to the grocery store then going home to make dinner seems different to me than complaining about your kid when others wish more than anything to have that issue. Someone correct me if this is wrong, don't want to speak for others feelings.
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Maybe the issue is that she was complaining? Saying you're taking your kid to the grocery store then going home to make dinner seems different to me than complaining about your kid when others wish more than anything to have that issue. Someone correct me if this is wrong, don't want to speak for others feelings.
That's what I was about to say.
The problem to me isn't when someone mentions their child. It's when someone complains about something that happens (in this case lack of sleep) as a result of having a baby. I would give anything to have a baby and be a mom right now so that really hurts when anyone (here, FB, IRL) complains about something related to that.
If someone who is a member of this board is hurt by something that is said, then I think it's fine for her to say so. And I also don't think it's okay for anyone to tell her that she can't express that hurt.
Maybe the issue is that she was complaining? Saying you're taking your kid to the grocery store then going home to make dinner seems different to me than complaining about your kid when others wish more than anything to have that issue. Someone correct me if this is wrong, don't want to speak for others feelings.
This is a good observation. I agree that this is likely why the post bothered some, myself included.
Seriously guys? This is not an IF board. She said she was tired, there's nothing wrong with that.
She has a BMB she can post on for that. None of us are TFAS yet so we're just here to hang out which is really nice of everyone in GKU. Posts alluding to kids is insensitive when there are other places to put those randoms.
I know I'm newish here, but i really like that we can all talk about our everyday stuff here.
Some of us are TFAS on GKU, and do not have a bmb to post on due to the age of our LOs. Please do not assume that because someone has a LO that they also have somewhere else they can talk to other like-minded women.
Maybe the issue is that she was complaining? Saying you're taking your kid to the grocery store then going home to make dinner seems different to me than complaining about your kid when others wish more than anything to have that issue. Someone correct me if this is wrong, don't want to speak for others feelings.
These are my feelings below, and everyone is obviously entitled to their own.
I have no issue with an occasinal complaint about parenthood struggles. Do I want to see it all the time? No, but parenting is hard, and this is part of her life.
TBH, I didn't think anything of her post until this came up.
Maybe the issue is that she was complaining? Saying you're taking your kid to the grocery store then going home to make dinner seems different to me than complaining about your kid when others wish more than anything to have that issue. Someone correct me if this is wrong, don't want to speak for others feelings.
These are my feelings below, and everyone is obviously entitled to their own.
I have no issue with an occasinal complaint about parenthood struggles. Do I want to see it all the time? No, but parenting is hard, and this is part of her life.
TBH, I didn't think anything of her post until this came up.
And because she didn't say she was tired because of a kid. Some of us have shitty sleep issues and our bodies don't let us sleep past certain times child or not.
This is an actual nightmare. We only have Netflix so if our internet goes down I can't watch TV either
I have to take a $400 test Tuesday and all my practice exams are online. I'm just going to review my notes today and hope it comes back tonight. If not I'll be taking residence at Starbucks tomorrow afternoon.
Oh no!! I really hope it comes back soon so you can study. I go through so much studying and licensing crap with my job most of it is online too.
She has a BMB she can post on for that. None of us are TFAS yet so we're just here to hang out which is really nice of everyone in GKU. Posts alluding to kids is insensitive when there are other places to put those randoms.
I know I'm newish here, but i really like that we can all talk about our everyday stuff here.
Some of us are TFAS on GKU, and do not have a bmb to post on due to the age of our LOs. Please do not assume that because someone has a LO that they also have somewhere else they can talk to other like-minded women.
She does have a BMB to post on though and regularly does. I'm not upset by her post but I think people are allowed to be and I don't want this to turn into a "fuck, now all the grads are back posting about their kids all the time" we've been there done that and I don't want to hurt people's feelings.
Post by kayladawn91 on Feb 21, 2016 15:52:12 GMT -5
Also, I do not believe that anyone would purposely come here to hurt anyone else. I think we would all just like the grads coming back with babies to be sensitive to the fact that many of us are still here without babies and choose your wording with that fact in mind.
I know this isn't the IF board, but we do have a large percentage of women who are dealing with IF. I like that this is a board full of women in different stages of TTC but I think that with that comes a constant change in the feel of the board. Right now, there are many women here who are hurting. Seeing the number of posts in the TTCAL and IF threads can tell you that. I just think that all posters here should be mindful of that.
Post by requiressnacks on Feb 21, 2016 16:48:11 GMT -5
In the past no one has cared if someone on GKU complains about their toddler or other older child, I'm not sure we can rightly get all upset if someone happens to mention their baby. (And in her defense, she really only said she wanted to sleep later. We are all assuming it's because of a baby)
I am in the boat of being lapped by some of the returning grads so in my heart it makes me sad, but I don't want GKU to be all about my IF and loss.
So basically, I'm Switzerland. I like having lots of new posters.
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I know I'm newish here, but i really like that we can all talk about our everyday stuff here.
Some of us are TFAS on GKU, and do not have a bmb to post on due to the age of our LOs. Please do not assume that because someone has a LO that they also have somewhere else they can talk to other like-minded women.
She does have a BMB to post on though and regularly does. I'm not upset by her post but I think people are allowed to be and I don't want this to turn into a "fuck, now all the grads are back posting about their kids all the time" we've been there done that and I don't want to hurt people's feelings.
I can appreciate that some people are upset by posts about children, and i dont want to hurt peoples feelings either. If GKU becomes a "no children posts" zone, then what are the TFAS moms expected to go? Are we expected to remove all mentions of children from our signatures, and sanitize all of our posts on GKU?
Also, I do not believe that anyone would purposely come here to hurt anyone else. I think we would all just like the grads coming back with babies to be sensitive to the fact that many of us are still here without babies and choose your wording with that fact in mind.
I know this isn't the IF board, but we do have a large percentage of women who are dealing with IF. I like that this is a board full of women in different stages of TTC but I think that with that comes a constant change in the feel of the board. Right now, there are many women here who are hurting. Seeing the number of posts in the TTCAL and IF threads can tell you that. I just think that all posters here should be mindful of that.
This is a lot of how I feel. It doesn't bother me when women talk about their children but it sucks that I watched some of these women post with us for a few months, get KU, go through the grad thread, have babies and now they are back here posting like they never left.
I just don't want this to turn into a place where those of us who are still trying for a first or still TFAS are uncomfortable to come.
I know many people that won't even open up the grad thread because it makes them sad.
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Ugh, I know right? I honestly just think it's because people who need counter depth have no other choice, so they'll pay extra for it. I can't figure out any other reason for the price difference.
She does have a BMB to post on though and regularly does. I'm not upset by her post but I think people are allowed to be and I don't want this to turn into a "fuck, now all the grads are back posting about their kids all the time" we've been there done that and I don't want to hurt people's feelings.
I can appreciate that some people are upset by posts about children, and i dont want to hurt peoples feelings either. If GKU becomes a "no children posts" zone, then what are the TFAS moms expected to go? Are we expected to remove all mentions of children from our signatures, and sanitize all of our posts on GKU?
It's not like that. We aren't overly sensitive to children. We want people to be here and able to talk about their children comfortably but it's still really raw for some of us.
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