Post by 2dogs2kids on Feb 24, 2016 14:36:39 GMT -5
frecklesnbrains I personally would not ask anyone for permission to use a name but I also don't like to hear people's opinions on names either. Before the baby is born people will have many reactions and opinions on any name you throw out there. If you and DH agree on a name you both love and you want to keep the name a secret I think you should. Once the baby is born people are much less likely to give their unwarranted negative opinions and thoughts.
If you are really worried that your mom will be upset if you use your grandfathers name then maybe you can ask her if there are any family names that she would be upset by? That way you aren't telling her what name you are using but you are also taking in to consideration her feelings.
@frecklesandbrains I have the same MN as some of my cousins...it's our grandmothers name. I am the youngest with the name and there wasn't any asking permission or warning. I think it was almost expected that any girls in the family may end up with the name.
I haven't had a chance to read today's randoms but I will tonight. I have a question: I've had a migraine/crazy pressure in my head for 3 days. It's safe to take Tylenol while pregnant right? I really don't want to take medicine but my husband is gone and I'm struggling to get through the day so I think it might be time. I was going to email my doctor but I thought I'd ask you fine ladies first.
I haven't had a chance to read today's randoms but I will tonight. I have a question: I've had a migraine/crazy pressure in my head for 3 days. It's safe to take Tylenol while pregnant right? I really don't want to take medicine but my husband is gone and I'm struggling to get through the day so I think it might be time. I was going to email my doctor but I thought I'd ask you fine ladies first.
Yep, Tylenol is safe! Hope you get to feeling better!
Post by frecklesnbrains on Feb 24, 2016 15:12:18 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice on the name, everyone! It's good to know we don't really have to ask my SIL about the MN. I've only met her once and she and my DH don't really talk. In fact, I don't even think she knows I'm pregnant. I don't have a problem asking my mother about using my grandfather's name as a FN. I'm 95% sure she'll love the idea, but I never knew my grandfather so I want to be sure there aren't any skeletons in the closet that I'm not aware of (my family is known for having a few of those...)
soultrane, to answer your question about my DH - I think he's just being indecisive and doesn't want to commit to the name quite yet. Maybe the more I keep shooting down his suggestions the faster he'll come back around to the initial plan
DH and I are struggling a bit with the name too. We tentatively agreed on one early in the pregnancy, which I've grown to love. I can't imagine using another one because every time I visualize my future son I think of calling him by this name. DH is second guessing it though, and keeps suggesting alternatives which I'm very "meh" about. We'll need to talk our way through it some more but I think we're both avoiding it.
I'd love to keep the name secret, but I do feel like we have to run the current front runner by a few people. The FN was my grandfather's name and I want to make sure my mother is okay with us using it (I doubt she will, but I want to ask). The MN was DH's father's name and is also our nephew's MN. My FIL is deceased and was much-loved by the entire family, but DH promises that we don't need to ask his sister if it's okay for us to use it too. They aren't close at all, so he thinks it would be sort of awkward to ask, especially for "just a middle name". What would you guys do in that situation?
I would not ask permission to use a family name except in veeeery special circumstances, and I would never ask for a middle.
What would you think if she said no? Would you consider that reasonable? Definitely don't ask if what you're really looking for is a blessing. You might not get it, but now you've opened Pandora's box.
We are pretty much decided on our name and aren't telling anyone until after she's born, but the name is very similar to my brothers name, which is a family name (grandfather, father, brother). He's decided not to have kids, so I think I will run it by him more to get his blessing and give him a heads up rather than his permission. I know he will be fine with it but I also think he will appreciate the gesture.
DS has the family name as a middle name and I didn't mention it beforehand but it was a nice surprise for family.
In case I've confused everyone enough family name is William/Bill (grandfather and dad)/Will (my brother) and baby will be Willa. Obviously I really like the name!
DH and I are struggling a bit with the name too. We tentatively agreed on one early in the pregnancy, which I've grown to love. I can't imagine using another one because every time I visualize my future son I think of calling him by this name. DH is second guessing it though, and keeps suggesting alternatives which I'm very "meh" about. We'll need to talk our way through it some more but I think we're both avoiding it.
I'd love to keep the name secret, but I do feel like we have to run the current front runner by a few people. The FN was my grandfather's name and I want to make sure my mother is okay with us using it (I doubt she will, but I want to ask). The MN was DH's father's name and is also our nephew's MN. My FIL is deceased and was much-loved by the entire family, but DH promises that we don't need to ask his sister if it's okay for us to use it too. They aren't close at all, so he thinks it would be sort of awkward to ask, especially for "just a middle name". What would you guys do in that situation?
I would not ask permission to use a family name except in veeeery special circumstances, and I would never ask for a middle.
What would you think if she said no? Would you give that reasonable? Definitely don't ask if what you're really looking for is a blessing. You might not get it, but now you've opened Pandora's box.
This is a good point, but honestly I'd rather open Pandora's Box. I know almost nothing about my grandfather other than the fact that he was a WWII General who was later stationed in British colonies in Asia (Malaysia, India, and Pakistan) and that he died young of a heart attack. Maybe this opens a door for my mother to tell me more about him so that I can pass it on to my son. And if in the unlikely event he turns out to have been a bad man I'd rather learn that now than later, when the name has already been given.
Post by ArgyleEnigma on Feb 24, 2016 15:35:36 GMT -5
frecklesnbrains I wouldn't ask permission. A background check is a totally different ballgame and very wise in my opinion. Also why naming after still-living people is a gamble, as I would have learned the very hard way had this baby been a boy born 9 months from first trying. Sorry son, turns out I named you after a massive douche.
This time, I'm only considering family names if the original owner is deader than a doornail.
Post by Flair Underwood on Feb 24, 2016 15:43:56 GMT -5
You guys - I've had an eventful day.
I shared my cell number via e-mail with someone who said they wanted to buy some dresses i was selling on craigslist. DUMB - i know.
Instead of being a woman, it turns out it was a guy who said he wanted to buy them for his girlfriend. He asked if i would send him a pic to see if he thinks my clothes would fit "her" - he then asked if i was selling lingerie or swimwear. When he got turned DOWN for a photo, he asked again. And then sent me one of his.
I shared my cell number via e-mail with someone who said they wanted to buy some dresses i was selling on craigslist. DUMB - i know.
Instead of being a woman, it turns out it was a guy who said he wanted to buy them for his girlfriend. He asked if i would send him a pic to see if he thinks my clothes would fit "her" - he then asked if i was selling lingerie or swimwear. When he got turned DOWN for a photo, he asked again. And then sent me one of his.
Post by 2dogs2kids on Feb 24, 2016 15:52:12 GMT -5
Flair Underwood Craigslist creeps suck. I wish there was a way to really filter out the trash from the real people without having to figure it out the hard way.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Feb 24, 2016 15:53:58 GMT -5
Flair Underwood, DOH! Why are there so many creeps in this world?!?
My H has been selling furniture and kitchen stuff from our second apartment in Connecticut on Craigslist the past few days (because he's DONE with that awful commute as of next week, yay!). He sold the dresser to a sweet young woman who was apparently terrified when she came to pick it up last night. She refused to go inside the apartment to help lift it until she realized that there was no way my DH could move it without her help. My DH said he felt so bad for her! My response to him was that I totally didn't blame her - you never know what you're going to get when you respond to these ads. (For the record, my DH is pretty much the most non-threatening character you'd ever meet - the thought of someone being intimidated by him cracked me up)
DH and I are at a complete name impasse. It is not great. The thing is, we both like each other's names, but not enough to give up the one we have our heart set on. DH is back in love with Calvin, which we had half decided on but moved away from. In the meantime, I realized that Malcolm had a similar sound but I liked it much better. I'm not sure how to break this standoff other than picking a different name entirely. DH thinks we should flip a coin, but I'm definitely not doing that!
Post by 2dogs2kids on Feb 24, 2016 17:01:01 GMT -5
vivela DH likes Calvin too. I like it but don't love it. Have you tried looking at other names all together? I keep trying to shove Everett down DH throat but he is just not budging. It's annoying because a lot of other names he didn't like the first time he heard them but after a few times he was like yea I like that.
DH and I are at a complete name impasse. It is not great. The thing is, we both like each other's names, but not enough to give up the one we have our heart set on. DH is back in love with Calvin, which we had half decided on but moved away from. In the meantime, I realized that Malcolm had a similar sound but I liked it much better. I'm not sure how to break this standoff other than picking a different name entirely. DH thinks we should flip a coin, but I'm definitely not doing that!
One first and one middle? Calvin Malcolm or Malcolm Calvin?
DH and I are at a complete name impasse. It is not great. The thing is, we both like each other's names, but not enough to give up the one we have our heart set on. DH is back in love with Calvin, which we had half decided on but moved away from. In the meantime, I realized that Malcolm had a similar sound but I liked it much better. I'm not sure how to break this standoff other than picking a different name entirely. DH thinks we should flip a coin, but I'm definitely not doing that!
You have time! (This is what I'm telling my undecided self.) You could also take both to the hospital and see what happens. Maybe one name will fit the baby once you see him--people say this happens.
frecklesnbrains - I would not ask for permission for a middle name. I think it's nice that you're honoring the same person and see no issue. If it was a first name I would have the conversation. I feel it's pretty obvious to the family why you're using it and clearly not just copying her.
mladerri - Tylenol is fine. I would also suggest some caffeine as well. That took the edge off of some headaches when I went through a bout of having them.
We are having name issues too. My problem is that I absolutely love DD's name and I can't find one I love just as much. I think a middle name has to have a meaning...my husband had a great idea of naming her after where we started our family. Long story short there are 2 places that also can be names so it works. The issue is that they are really hard middle names to match with. So that's limiting first name options. I also just haven't really fallen in love with anything. We still have time but man people just keep asking. I'm feeling guilty going back and picking names that were on the list for DD but didn't "win" because I feel like now we're giving this girl "sloppy seconds". I'm a crazy person I know!
nymama917 thanks! I've had 1/2 cup of coffee this morning and the last couple days. I took two Tylenol 30 min ago and still pounding headache. Hope it goes away soon
frecklesnbrains I went to pick up a foos ball table for my husband's bday and stupidly went by myself. When I got there the couple told me it was in the basement and I had to help them move it. I told them I wasn't comfortable going in their house and they could move it to the garage and I'd find a way to get it in my car. They insisted I go into the basement. I told them no and wish they would've noted in the ad that I had to move it myself. They were really pushy about going inside and I'm so glad I stuck to my gut feelings and didn't go in. I never go by myself now to buy anything.
I went to the store today to get a few things and I bought 2 boxes of diapers for DS. There was a male cashier who was probably in his thirties and a male bagger who was probably late teens. In reference to my belly and the 2 boxes of diapers, the bagger asked me if I was having twins. Before I could even answer the cashier said "Duuuude don't ever say that to a pregnant woman! My wife says you should only tell pregnant women how good they look and ask if you can get them anything."
I laughed so hard! That guy's wife has him well trained!
csat I love the name Willa! mladerri I hope the headache passes soon. They seem to be so extreme during pregnancy, for me at least. & YIKES about the basement-pushers. I would have done the same thing.
I took the day off today & had a great day. DH cooked us yummy breakfast, we took a walk with the dogs around our neighborhood, hit up Starbucks, then I made a picnic lunch which we had on the beach. Maybe Deadpool later. I wish I had more days like this.
We are having name issues too. My problem is that I absolutely love DD's name and I can't find one I love just as much. I think a middle name has to have a meaning...my husband had a great idea of naming her after where we started our family. Long story short there are 2 places that also can be names so it works. The issue is that they are really hard middle names to match with. So that's limiting first name options. I also just haven't really fallen in love with anything. We still have time but man people just keep asking. I'm feeling guilty going back and picking names that were on the list for DD but didn't "win" because I feel like now we're giving this girl "sloppy seconds". I'm a crazy person I know!
I know this completely negates what you said is important to you - but could either of those MN suggestions become FN and then give yourself more wiggle room on a MN?
We are having name issues too. My problem is that I absolutely love DD's name and I can't find one I love just as much. I think a middle name has to have a meaning...my husband had a great idea of naming her after where we started our family. Long story short there are 2 places that also can be names so it works. The issue is that they are really hard middle names to match with. So that's limiting first name options. I also just haven't really fallen in love with anything. We still have time but man people just keep asking. I'm feeling guilty going back and picking names that were on the list for DD but didn't "win" because I feel like now we're giving this girl "sloppy seconds". I'm a crazy person I know!
I know this completely negates what you said is important to you - but could either of those MN suggestions become FN and then give yourself more wiggle room on a MN?
The only reason the answer is no is because it's still where we live so it would be like hi my name is blank and I live in blank. We will only be here another year but I still feel weird about it. Like we were trying too hard or something.
I painted it white, and still need to make a curtain for the lower bunk. I'm making coordinating bedspreads out of these materials. The curtain and Roman shade for the window will also be out of these materials.
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.