I'm going to just chug coffee out of the pot today. Idk why my body is just hurting. I signed my contract last night and now I wait. At least that's exciting, and I'll have business cards soon. I talked to the company and I can totally advertise my personalized accessories with their clothes, which I'm hoping will result in more sales over all. FX
I totally let DS take an epic nap yesterday because I was so tired. We have to wake him after two hours or he will be up at the Asa crack of dawn. I let him sleep 3 hours and he was up at 6 am. FFFC? I lied to DH and told him he only slept two hrs during his nap. He would have been annoyed I let him sleep an extra hour because he got up so early.
I hate that it's Friday. Last day of Spring Break for DS and I. It's raining, so no zoo for us. Maybe I'll do the aquarium instead.
I have another random question. I had a student teach this fall, and she was terrible. Never did less plans, did not prep anything ahead of time, was constantly on her phone. She did a horrible lesson for an observation for my principal and then lied to him and told him I planned the whole thing for her.
All that to say, she now wants a letter of recommendation. I really really don't want to write her one. What do I do? Most people seem to think I should write a short one that isn't glowing just neutral. I don't even think she deserves that.
melody330, I wouldn't write anything. People shouldn't be rewarded for doing shitty work. I've known a bunch of people who have been told based on performance they would not be getting letters, it's not unheard of.
melody330, Actually, come to think of it. I know an attending who gave a med student and awful LOR. Like "this person shouldn't be in medicine" type of letter. So you'd be doing her a favor by refusing.
I was looking at everyone's tickers this week and realizing some of us have less then 100 days to go until our due dates. I looked at mine yesterday and saw I have only 90 DAYS(!!!!!!) Holy shit. Where is the time going?!?!?
melody330, I wouldn't write the letter at all. I would tell her that I wont write the letter and she should be glad that I am refusing.
I forgot my coconut milk for my coffee at work this morning so I will be drinking my coffee black. I really wish I could just go out and get some Starbucks but since I just got here I think that would be frowned upon.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Apr 1, 2016 7:34:42 GMT -5
Ugh. Off to a great start. I had to text my boss I'm running a few minutes late. TMI alert: Some people get pregnancy constipation but I get pregnancy diarrhea every so often. I did not share that tidbit with her.
Yay it's Friday. I'm sad it's DS's last day of spring break though, not rushing around in the morning has been so nice. I've been lazy and not feeling good this week and have been letting the kids watch tv right away in the morning while I snooze on the couch, I'm such a good mom.
I keep having dreams that I go into labor and it's driving me crazy and making me ansy, it's too early for that!
melody330, I wouldn't write anything. People shouldn't be rewarded for doing shitty work. I've known a bunch of people who have been told based on performance they would not be getting letters, it's not unheard of.
melody330, I am on team write nothing, rather than right a negative one. glaze, ugh to the labor dreams. I haven't had any yet. I am stressed enough thinking about it when I am awake, so thank goodness I am not thinking about it when I sleep (so far).
melody330 agreed on not writing anything. Maybe you could let her down easy by saying something like you felt your teaching styles didn't mesh up well and you just wouldn't feel comfortable writing a rec letter for her? Or just that you don't have time with getting ready for your LO? (Like I've said before, I'm the queen of non-confrontation so I'm all about sugar coating things haha)
100 days to go for me today!! Holy cow! On a positive note, we got the call that our furniture is in so we'll go pick that up this weekend and (hopefully) put the crib together!! Luckily the dresser is fully assembled already. Things are going to feel alllll kinds of real once there's a real live crib in my house!
I have another random question. I had a student teach this fall, and she was terrible. Never did less plans, did not prep anything ahead of time, was constantly on her phone. She did a horrible lesson for an observation for my principal and then lied to him and told him I planned the whole thing for her.
All that to say, she now wants a letter of recommendation. I really really don't want to write her one. What do I do? Most people seem to think I should write a short one that isn't glowing just neutral. I don't even think she deserves that.
I vote no letter and being honest with why. Did she receive feedback during her teaching? If so, this can't be a surprise. I'm going to sound like an old fogey, but some kids these days expect things to just be handed to them without any effort. She should have worked harder.
I have another random question. I had a student teach this fall, and she was terrible. Never did less plans, did not prep anything ahead of time, was constantly on her phone. She did a horrible lesson for an observation for my principal and then lied to him and told him I planned the whole thing for her.
All that to say, she now wants a letter of recommendation. I really really don't want to write her one. What do I do? Most people seem to think I should write a short one that isn't glowing just neutral. I don't even think she deserves that.
I vote no letter and being honest with why. Did she receive feedback during her teaching? If so, this can't be a surprise. I'm going to sound like an old fogey, but some kids these days expect things to just be handed to them without any effort. She should have worked harder.
Yes, I was very up front with feedback and she was not receptive at all. She had no idea she was ever doing anything but awesome. She put in the BARE minimum for student teaching. Oh, and constantly wore inappropriate clothes. There was one day you could see every dent in her ass and one of my first graders asked if she was wearing a thong. This was after multiple sit down CTJ talks about her attire. She was clueless.
Post by littlesthobo on Apr 1, 2016 10:29:27 GMT -5
melody330 I also agree no letter. You could just say no, and if she asks, state the reasons simply: I never saw a lesson plan from you, you lied to the principal, etc.
You could always be a reference if you want and be honest with anyone who inquires (she won't know what you've told them).
Thanks for the feedback everyone. I think I'm going to let her know I won't be writing the letter. I'm not sure how to word it, but it's going to be awkward. Everytime I asked her how she thought things were going she always said "great!". And then I had to go into detail about how she needed to be doing a better job. Things never improved. She also is from my alma matter, and that makes me even more hesitant to write it. I don't want my name on something from that program if it has to do with her.
katelou how close are you with her? I would probably text and just say- "hey I just wanted to make sure you got the packages I sent you. The ordering process was strange and I was worried they never came."
I went to a friend's wedding in mid-Nov. The wedding was held in a city that neither she nor I live in, so I just brought a card to the wedding and had the gift shipped to her home later.
I ordered the gifts from her Target registery. IThe ordering process seemed weird to me considering it was obviously a gift- it did not give me the option to include a note or my name (obvs I ordered with a credit card so it knows my name, but the nickname I go by is not the first name on the card so I was annoyed) and it was delivered in multiple shipments. I did get confirmation emails that they were delivered.
It's now almost 5 months later and I haven't gotten a TY note. With a registry, is there any chance she wouldn't know or be able to find out that the gift is from me? I don't want to be a crazy old woman who goes berserk when she doesn't get a TY note in 5 minutes. I don't care about the note at all, just want to make sure she knows it's from me.
I think it's okay. I'm sure pure Miss Manners dictates not to but I had a gift mixup and really appreciated her letting me know.
I sent my friend a thank you card for pillows. She texted and me and wanted me to know she had actually bought me a gift basket. It solved a big mystery of who gave the basket. Her card must have fallen into the pillow gift bag. The pillows were in a huge bag next to an identical bag with our mattress pad and a different card. The mattress pad and pillows were from the same couple. Mystery solved.
I totally brain-farted and saw the updated TCF image above and was so confused....they got me haha
And TGIF! I have had zero projects all week which I thought would be nice and relaxing (and it has been) but I've been so bored each day. I'll probably be kicking myself when it's back to normal and hectic, but I've always preferred having too much to do instead of not enough. I'm excited for tomorrow, DH has it off so we have the maternity ward tour and then are going to the tulip festival and the shopping outlets right next to the festival. It's supposed to be gorgeous weather tomorrow so it'll be perfect!
FFFC: I've been shit st taking my prenatals. I think I've taken 80 vitamins this entire time.
I have missed a few doses but I went from taking 10 pills down to 3 daily. Prenatal and Vit D only now! Overall pretty easy to remember but I didn't take it when I was close to tossing my cookies anyway.
FFFC: I've been shit st taking my prenatals. I think I've taken 80 vitamins this entire time.
Ditto. I've been terrible at it.
Are you mom guilting over it? I feel awful that I was militant about how well I ate and taking my vitamins with DD. Now..... I feel like I'm in survival mode.
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