TTMA: Perineal Massage

[mcktymck]

STMs, did you do perineal massage with your prior pregnancy/pregnancies? I keep reading different opinions on it's effectiveness so I figured I'd ask you ladies to get your thoughts on it. The theory behind it makes sense and if it's something that could possibly benefit me/my downstairs area, I'm all for it. One of the studies I read thought suggested that if you do it too frequently that it can actually have a reverse effect which is obviously not wanted. What say you?

[rungirlrun]

Not my cup of tea. I didn't do it with DS and don't plan on doing it with this baby either. I tore a little bit with DS but nothing too major so I doubt anything I would have done pre-birth would have made much of a difference. I don't know anyone IRL who has done this (or who has told me!), but based on what I know about it, as long as you do it properly, I don't see how it could hurt things.

[tootsie]

I didn't, but tore like a mofo with DD so maybe I should have.

I doubt it's something worth pursuing. From what I've read, the best way to avoid tearing is by laboring down until you're truly ready to push. Which I did, but DD had her hand by her face and literally punched her way out of me. LOL.

[TheTuna15]

Nope. Did not do. Did not tear with DD. I read about some people who have done it, but have never met anyone who copped up to doing it IRL.

[TheTuna15]

Apr 19, 2016 15:26:03 GMT -5 tootsie said:

I didn't, but tore like a mofo with DD so maybe I should have.

I doubt it's something worth pursuing. From what I've read, the best way to avoid tearing is by laboring down until you're truly ready to push. Which I did, but DD had her hand by her face and literally punched her way out of me. LOL.

......... Your child superman-ed out of you. That's something right there.

[mcktymck]

tootsie well that sounds super painful haha

[sarcaztic10]

I never did it, my MW or Bradley instructor may have suggested it but it was just not something I was interested in. I had minor tearing with DS that didn't require any stitches. I am not sure how much I would trust that it helps because I think tearing has more to do with the size and position of the baby combined with the mothers natural skin/internal elasticity.

[melody330]

Didn't do it. I had an episiotomy with DS and only two stitches afterward.

My doctor didn't ask if I wanted her to do it, I had no idea she was going to until happened. I wish she didn't but the recovery was simple easy and basically painless.

[jenn83]

Apr 19, 2016 15:26:03 GMT -5 tootsie said:

I didn't, but tore like a mofo with DD so maybe I should have.

I doubt it's something worth pursuing. From what I've read, the best way to avoid tearing is by laboring down until you're truly ready to push. Which I did, but DD had her hand by her face and literally punched her way out of me. LOL.

+1 here on DS punching his way out. I only had minimal tearing so I take that as a good sign. I can still hear H describing how it all looked lol.

[tikoberry99]

mcktymck, not a STM, but I think I might give it a go....if it's not done too early, why not try!

[mcktymck]

Apr 19, 2016 16:18:31 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

mcktymck , not a STM, but I think I might give it a go....if it's not done too early, why not try!

That's what I was thinking! If there's a chance it might help with tearing, I'm willing to do just about anything as long as it doesn't cause any sort of risk/harm!

[cabbagecabbage]

I didn't do it. DD was sunnyside up and couldn't be turned, so I ended up getting an episiotomy and needing "a lot" of stitches but I plushed her out. I don't think any massage could have helped that.

[tootsie]

Sorry for the horror story mcktymck! I'm the worst.

Yes TheTuna15, a literal superman.

jenn83, fun times for our undercarriages.

[ellebelle]

I didn't do it with DD and won't do it this time. Just not my thing. I tore with DD but that probably had more to do with the fact that labor was super quick. I ended up needing an episiotomy anyway because she started having decelerations and we wanted her here safely ASAP.

[lostinfaith225]

Fftc: no idea what was happened down there. Haha. In the end 2 lacssorations (spelling?) in my vag.

[beebe918]

Apr 19, 2016 15:26:03 GMT -5 tootsie said:

I didn't, but tore like a mofo with DD so maybe I should have.

I doubt it's something worth pursuing. From what I've read, the best way to avoid tearing is by laboring down until you're truly ready to push. Which I did, but DD had her hand by her face and literally punched her way out of me. LOL.

What does laboring down mean?

[beebe918]

Just another anecdote I did not do perineal massage with DS and did not tear. I'm very skeptical that perineal massage would truly have any affect.

[TheTuna15]

Apr 19, 2016 18:16:02 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

*Lurking from July 15*

You could always try fisting.

Link for those of you who may not remember this gem from TD:
forums.thebump.com/discussion/7560789/preparing-for-child-birth

God damn it! Like we didn't already cover that today on the parenting thread.

[ellebelle]

Bwahaha. Thanks for the laugh, I needed it today!

[TheTuna15]

Apr 19, 2016 18:46:06 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

Apr 19, 2016 18:23:13 GMT -5 TheTuna15 said:

God damn it! Like we didn't already cover that today on the parenting thread.

Hadn't made my lurking rounds over to Parenting yet today...

If you're really feeling the need for brain bleach, read "ask TCF: grossest things you've seen on parenting". Fisting. All types of body fluids. Other gross shit. It all comes up.

[mcktymck]

Apr 19, 2016 18:52:50 GMT -5 TheTuna15 said:

Apr 19, 2016 18:46:06 GMT -5 @amc25 said:

Hadn't made my lurking rounds over to Parenting yet today...

If you're really feeling the need for brain bleach, read "ask TCF: grossest things you've seen on parenting". Fisting. All types of body fluids. Other gross shit. It all comes up.

DON'T DO IT

[mcktymck]

@amc25 well screw perineal massage, I'm just going to jump right into fisting! It's fun for the whole family!

[TheTuna15]

Apr 19, 2016 18:56:23 GMT -5 mcktymck said:

Apr 19, 2016 18:52:50 GMT -5 TheTuna15 said:

If you're really feeling the need for brain bleach, read "ask TCF: grossest things you've seen on parenting". Fisting. All types of body fluids. Other gross shit. It all comes up.

DON'T DO IT

I gave fair warning!!!!! It was so wrong. So wrong it was kind of right.

[mcktymck]

Moon pasta...baaaarf

[TheTuna15]

Apr 19, 2016 19:25:59 GMT -5 mcktymck said:

Moon pasta...baaaarf

I ate an entire meal reading through that. Being MHs medical school study buddy ruined me.

[lostinfaith225]

TheTuna15

Meant to tell you that I enjoyed seeing you in the parenting UO thread last week!

[TheTuna15]

Apr 19, 2016 19:45:33 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

TheTuna15

Meant to tell you that I enjoyed seeing you in the parenting UO thread last week!

The most recent one, which apparently gave the masses social anxiety? I do enjoy going to Parenting for U/Os and FFFC. 

[lostinfaith225]

Apr 19, 2016 19:52:02 GMT -5 TheTuna15 said:

Apr 19, 2016 19:45:33 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

TheTuna15

Meant to tell you that I enjoyed seeing you in the parenting UO thread last week!

The most recent one, which apparently gave the masses social anxiety? I do enjoy going to Parenting for U/Os and FFFC. 

Yep! That one! I almost wked you, but then porbe was on the same page as you!

[TheTuna15]

Apr 19, 2016 19:54:15 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

Apr 19, 2016 19:52:02 GMT -5 TheTuna15 said:

The most recent one, which apparently gave the masses social anxiety? I do enjoy going to Parenting for U/Os and FFFC. 

Yep! That one! I almost wked you, but then porbe was on the same page as you!

It was all the talk of DDs BMB too. Personally, I was just happy to get off the topic that they were on prior to my "bombshell". lol. 

[willow]

Lol that thread is a gold mine. Makes me nostalgic for TK days of yore with crazy ass brides and threads. Not gross necessarily but weird stories. Good times.