Post by flippinchica on Aug 6, 2016 11:51:34 GMT -5
I kept my maiden name for professional reasons and because lazy. DH didn't care so that factored in as well. We just gave lo DH's last name for simplicity sake. Hyphenating would have been a mouthful. My ILs still address cards to me with DH last name. It sort of makes me giggle. Eta: I'm old enough that the Internet didn't exist in its current form for most of my 20s.
I was super strict about no screen time before 2 for DD1, but like th3stryck3r said, I wasn't home with her much so it wasn't hard. We just didn't turn it on until she went to bed at 6:45. Then we had DD2 and I relied on TV a ton when she was a NB to occupy DD1. At first she wouldn't watch it, but she caught on quickly. Now she's always asking for more, and it would just be so easy to let her watch it all the time, so I have to make a real effort to limit it. She's sneaky though, the other day I told her I didn't feel good and she said "I get to watch an extra Mickey mouse bc you don't feel good?".
Can I say I'm jealous of your 6:45 bedtime. Last night I fell asleep before DS at 9pm.
flippinchica it was pretty amazing while it lasted, which was quite awhile. DD1 went to bed at 7 starting around 5 months, then when she dropped to one nap it bumped up to 6:30-6:45. She kept that bedtime until a few months ago, and DD2 had been on board with it too for awhile. Somehow they've both pushed it back an hour lately, and I sure do miss that extra hour of adult time every night.
We are in this weird 2-1 nap transition He needs 2 naps but there aren't enough hours in the day so he ends up starting nap 2 at 5pm.
We're in this weird transition too. We are super lucky though and DD goes down easily between 6-6:30. She gets up at 5:30am and is a wreck if she isn't asleep by 6:30pm.
We are in this weird 2-1 nap transition He needs 2 naps but there aren't enough hours in the day so he ends up starting nap 2 at 5pm.
We're in this weird transition too. We are super lucky though and DD goes down easily between 6-6:30. She gets up at 5:30am and is a wreck if she isn't asleep by 6:30pm.
Yeesh, we do much better on the other end. He wakes at 5:30 but I can nurse him and he will sleep till at least 7
We are in this weird 2-1 nap transition He needs 2 naps but there aren't enough hours in the day so he ends up starting nap 2 at 5pm.
Oh wow, we're still at 3 naps a day so the thought of only one is foreign to me. What time does he go down for the night?
ETA: disregard the question...reading backwards to catch up and I see you've already gone over this.
3 naps? How do you ever get out of your house haha.
We are also in this weird transition. I've started pushing his morning nap later little by little. He still goes down pretty well at 6 pm and out by 6:30 regardless.
Oh wow, we're still at 3 naps a day so the thought of only one is foreign to me. What time does he go down for the night?
ETA: disregard the question...reading backwards to catch up and I see you've already gone over this.
3 naps? How do you ever get out of your house haha.
We are also in this weird transition. I've started pushing his morning nap later little by little. He still goes down pretty well at 6 pm and out by 6:30 regardless.
Haha, I wear her for one nap usually, so we can still be out and about.
I'm annoyed by the perpetual Big Brother thread pinned to the top. If it's not important, it should not be pinned for the entire board. A reality TV show is not important IMO. It should have it's own special interest board if others think it's that big of a deal.
I'm annoyed by the perpetual Big Brother thread pinned to the top. If it's not important, it should not be pinned for the entire board. A reality TV show is not important IMO. It should have it's own special interest board if others think it's that big of a deal.
I really love that thread but agree. I thought it would be pinned for a week at the beginning so everyone knew it was board wide and then after that they could just go to parenting for it. It's kind of odd that it's still pinned.
I'm annoyed by the perpetual Big Brother thread pinned to the top. If it's not important, it should not be pinned for the entire board. A reality TV show is not important IMO. It should have it's own special interest board if others think it's that big of a deal.
I really love that thread but agree. I thought it would be pinned for a week at the beginning so everyone knew it was board wide and then after that they could just go to parenting for it. It's kind of odd that it's still pinned.
I guess it's so those who have losses or IF don't have to scroll through potentially painful posts on parenting. They need to just make it a specialty board instead of making it a sticky post.
Poppy's name is Penelope Lee Stryck3r HLastname. Daycare thinks Poppy's middle name is my last name and H's last name is her last name— it drives me crazy!
So we weren't married so they saw my last name on application and h's and just assumed. I was like no, that's in the middle name section, there's no hyphen!!...
stuck in box..
We aren't married and E has H's last name. When I call daycare I say this is Lemon HLastName. I'll take his last name when we get married. I would think about hyphenating but both of our last names sound similar and are long and sound stupid hyphenated. Plus I want the same last name as my kid.
carabassa, I think it's weird to judge your friend for taking her hubby's last name. So what if it's a traditional thing. Do you also side eye women that want to stay at home with their kids? Isn't feminism about the choice to do what you want? I also want my dad to give me away at my wedding. It's a dated practice but it's what I want so who is anyone to tell me that I shouldn't.
Wow I think I had more feelings on that than I thought I would!
I just thought of something. I know a man that took his wife's last name when they got married.
I do too. The man did not have a good relationship with his parents at all.
Yeah he had no real ties to his last name. His parents or his parents parents were immigrants and had changed it. His wife, has professional ties to get name.
I don't know a whole lot about it. It's my sister in laws sister and husband.
carabassa , I think it's weird to judge your friend for taking her hubby's last name. So what if it's a traditional thing. Do you also side eye women that want to stay at home with their kids? Isn't feminism about the choice to do what you want? I also want my dad to give me away at my wedding. It's a dated practice but it's what I want so who is anyone to tell me that I shouldn't.
Wow I think I had more feelings on that than I thought I would!
Oh I agree (to the bolded) - I think everyone should be free to change or not change their names as they please (and we are). My point was that I'm disappointed that, despite this freedom, 70% of women take their husband's name (and vast majority of men don't make any change.) I mean, the origin of this custom refers to property and ownership, so...
But no, I don't side-eye women who stay at home (I currently SAH). And I understand that lots of customs with questionable origins are valued for mere tradition's sake, or embraced with new interpretations. But for me the name thing is so one-to-one with woman-as-property. Fun fact (that I just learned), as recently as the 1970's women had to use their husband's name to vote! Or do banking!
Anyway, it's late and I'm rambling. I respect everyone's individual naming decisions. You do you. I'm just bummed that a custom with such unfortunate roots has such a strong lingering presence.
I'm REALLY late to the party on this, but WRT last names: I changed mine. I'll be honest, I thought about it for a long time, and waffled before finally deciding to change it. For professional reasons it would have been easier to keep it. I also have a good relationship with my family. But... my maiden name is a real word, and not one that you'd expect for a last name, because it's a medical condition. Like, Joi922 Deaf. And people would always say it like a question because they apparently couldn't believe that was a last name. Joi922 Deaf? And then they'd mispronounce it, again because they couldn't believe it was a last name. Deef? Dafe? Sigh. But even given all that, I still really dislike being called Mrs. Husband'slastname. I am not my MIL. But even worse is the traditional Mrs. Husband's firstname lastname (like on invites, Dr and Mrs John Doe). I am not my husband! That's when the feminist in me really comes out.
Maybe that's my UO: call every woman Ms. Not Miss or Mrs (who cares if she's married or single?), just Ms. Oh, and also STAHP calling me by my husband's name. I'm my own freaking person.
I also have a FFFC: My husband and I were taking advantage of nap time, and ended up with our first coitus interruptus situation when our toddler walked in on us. The confession is that I took the toddler downstairs and turned on Curious George so H and I could finish.
Post by tuscanlatte on Aug 12, 2016 8:26:11 GMT -5
I took my husbands last name, but because he was adopted and it was his original name, he didn't share it with his family. He wanted to have family with his last name for the first time, so it's sort of like we started new.
My confession for this morning: I am fasting since midnight for my wisdom teeth removal today at 1pm. I don't deal well with fasting and it is torture. I have been googling all morning what the chances of a coffee killing me are. Like HOW necessary is the no liquids thing. lol.
Medical journals are pointing to clear liquids being ok up to 2 hours prior to anaesthesia.
Unfortunately I don't think they count lattes as clear haha. So that doesn't help me.
The fasting after midnight thing drives me crazy because it's after midnight whether your surgery is at 8 am or 2 pm. How does that make sense? I always push back on the doc to either schedule me for first appt or let me eat breakfast. Good luck. I'd try to just sleep until it's time to try to avoid hunger.
Medical journals are pointing to clear liquids being ok up to 2 hours prior to anaesthesia.
Unfortunately I don't think they count lattes as clear haha. So that doesn't help me.
The fasting after midnight thing drives me crazy because it's after midnight whether your surgery is at 8 am or 2 pm. How does that make sense? I always push back on the doc to either schedule me for first appt or let me eat breakfast. Good luck. I'd try to just sleep until it's time to try to avoid hunger.
It is 8 hours for solid food, 4 hours for clear liquids and I think 6 for full liquid (milk goes here) but mostly they tell people after midnight to cut out confusion.
Post by RandomName on Aug 12, 2016 11:07:57 GMT -5
When my BF works nights I sleep with the light on. I'm 30 and sleep with a light on when I'm home alone (with the kids).
In high school a friend once told me "once you lose sight of the door, it's over" during a scary movie night. It's never left me. Part two of my confession is I have to be facing the door while sleeping home alone with my light on.
Post by flippinchica on Aug 12, 2016 11:10:44 GMT -5
@joi992 +1 to hating the Mrs hisfirstname hislastname. At my wedding I specifically told the officiant to announce us as myname and hisname hislastname. He announced us as Mr and Mrs hisfirstname hislastname. I'm still mildly annoyed. Though I doubt anyone else noticed.
The fasting after midnight thing drives me crazy because it's after midnight whether your surgery is at 8 am or 2 pm. How does that make sense? I always push back on the doc to either schedule me for first appt or let me eat breakfast. Good luck. I'd try to just sleep until it's time to try to avoid hunger.
It is 8 hours for solid food, 4 hours for clear liquids and I think 6 for full liquid (milk goes here) but mostly they tell people after midnight to cut out confusion.
I figured it was just simpler to say midnight, which is why I make a stink and get them to concede that Gatorade at 7 am won't kill me when put under anesthesia after noon. I am sure that your average patient will mess it up if you give them that list of guidelines.
@joi992 +1 to hating the Mrs hisfirstname hislastname. At my wedding I specifically told the officiant to announce us as myname and hisname hislastname. He announced us as Mr and Mrs hisfirstname hislastname. I'm still mildly annoyed. Though I doubt anyone else noticed.
I told the officiant AND our DJ the same thing - myname and hisname hislastname. I think I repeated this request a lot because the DJ really enunciated our names when he said them.
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