OU/ FFFC

[skinandbones]

We'll be gentle.  Maybe.

[skinandbones]

I don't think the FB group is THAT much busier than us.

[ampaints]

I stared at that gif a little too long trying to think of something to post and now it's kind of freaking me out.

[ampaints]

So I don't think this will be unpopular here, but it definately is with so many people around me. I'm off the opinion that watching violence is way worse for kids than seeing nudity. I don't plan on letting M watch things with hard core sex scenes when he's young, but I'm not going to freak out over him watching a movie that has naked people.

Perfect example is one of my coworkers didn't let her 11 year old son watch Deadpool because of the montage at the beginning that has sex in it. After I watched it I asked her if she would have let him watch it if it didn't have that. She said yes! I was appalled and totally called her out on it. That movie was so violent! Way too violent for a kid. If course H and I have already started to discuss this because he agrees about nudity, but isn't as concerned about violence as I am. We have agreed that we'll have to gage as M gets older to determine what he's ready for.

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I think lunch should be taken before 1 pm.

Says the lady eating her lunch now. Ffs, I'm starving.

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ampaints, each their own. I grew up watching horror movies. Violent and scary. I also blew things up on Nintendo and played the street fighting games. And Addie plays the zombie/alien/dinosaur shooting games with me already she says I want to shoot things.

I turned out ok. I don't commit crimes. I think it all boils down to how a parent raises their kid, instills responsibility and what not. You know, respect your elders, those in authority, obey the law, give back, etc.

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ampaints. I think sex is different. So H hangs out in his boxers all the time. Sometimes I have to say, your junk is hanging out, put it away. Yesterday, he was in his boxers, handing something to A. She ignores it and reaches over it and grabs his penis and is like, look a penis! Yanks it and then carries on with what she was doing.

Once the laughter stopped, my exact words were, time to wear shorts instead of just boxers around her.

Because I think it's inappropriate for her to be exposed to sex things right now. She's too young.

But she is obsessed with the penis. I have to remind her that C's is not a toy.and to stop playing with it. Toddlers are fun.

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Omg. I am dead over A grabbing your h's penis, @janetheconquerer. DED.

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Aug 4, 2016 11:09:25 GMT -5 skinandbones said:

I don't think the FB group is THAT much busier than us.

We know my FB group opinions already.

[RandomName]

So DD peed at her door again this morning. I mention it to my BF. Apparently she has been doing this for OVER 3 WEEKS. I'm pissed. It's a habit at this point. No wonder she didn't yell for me. Jesus. I don't even know how to begin to correct this behaviour now. 3 freaking weeks.

[ampaints]

@janetheconquerer I think my main concern with violence is getting desensitized to it. Especially in the world right now. I know some people who aren't effected by it and that's crazy to me. I know he'll see violence, but I want him to keep the perspective that it should not be the norm. I know he'll watch scary movies with H, and I'm a big action movie fan myself. We'll figure it out as we go because goodness knows you can't plan parenting out.

[redandblue]

I guess my thoughts around what children watch varies for a variety of reasons. I agree to an extent with ampaints over being more comfortable with nudity over violence. Nudity is natural, we are all nude under our clothes, and to see that doesn't necessarily need to be sexualized. With being said, most often nudity would be sexualized. I also agree that decisions around this needs to be made considering the individual child. DS1 was very sensitive to scary movies and some violence, so we shyed away from them for a long time. He was traumatized once while getting his hair plaited, and I guess the place his dad took him, she had Texas Chainsaw Massacre playing. He basically was terrified the whole time this woman was doing his hair! He said he didn't feel comfortable asking her to turn it off because a boy younger than him was watching it. He was about 9 at the time. For MONTHS he would make sure all windows were locked before going to bed. The other boy was fine with it, but DS1 was definitely more sensitive to it (I was livid with his dad, needless to say he never went back to that lady). I guess I don't see the need for young children to be exposed to violence. Like ampaints I am concerned about being desensitized to it (there is SO much that they are faced with as they grow, if they are no longer sensitive to acts of violence, then they may not understand when they need help or to notify an adult) . I do also agree with @janetheconquerer that a big part at play is through parenting and the values instilled by them. But I think what is acceptable to watch plays a part in that too. My concerns for what my LO's watch has changed at different ages. Once DS1 hit adolescence I am much more sensitive to explicit drugs use and glorifying gang activity, then I was over nudity, violence or sex.

Sorry that got long! Apparently I have lots of thoughts.

My UO when considering what LO's are watching is more that I don't see any need for M to be exposed to TV at all right now. Sometimes DH will watch baseball or something 'with' him, or he has told me he will put on short videos for him when he is home with him, and it makes me annoyed. Like I stream music, but otherwise our TV is off until he goes to bed. He will get more than enough TV in life, he doesn't need it now!

[th3stryck3r]

Related (early) FFFC: I was (silently) critical of how much screen time my nephew has, and how he'll throw a tantrum (he's about 2) about getting control of the remote. I stream music for Poppy from our Apple TV, which plays off a big iMac that basically doubles as our tv. So, there are images (usually album covers) that are there as the music plays, and she sees me navigate to get to the music. She is now OBSESSED with the Apple remote and will throw a fit if I won't let her have it or take it away from her. It's like it's the universe bitch slapping me for being quietly smug about babies and screen time and what I would never do.

[redandblue]

th3stryck3r M just did this exact thing today with the remote! Lol! The TV wasn't on, but he seems to just gravitate to the remote! DH and I have talked about getting some that don't work for him to play with!

[runningmommy519]

I said this in the fb group and it was such a huge hit I want to repeat it.

Beer>wine

[RandomName]

Aug 4, 2016 17:36:49 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

I said this in the fb group and it was such a huge hit I want to repeat it.

Beer>wine

It's like comparing apples and oranges tho. Each has a time and place. I love them both.

[skinandbones]

Aug 4, 2016 18:09:08 GMT -5 RandomName said:

Aug 4, 2016 17:36:49 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

I said this in the fb group and it was such a huge hit I want to repeat it.

Beer>wine

It's like comparing apples and oranges tho. Each has a time and place. I love them both.

I love you

[runningmommy519]

Aug 4, 2016 18:09:08 GMT -5 RandomName said:

Aug 4, 2016 17:36:49 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

I said this in the fb group and it was such a huge hit I want to repeat it.

Beer>wine

It's like comparing apples and oranges tho. Each has a time and place. I love them both.

Nope. I will never ever choose wine over beer. ever. I recently went to a winery and got beer

[ampaints]

I don't think there's an alcohol that is better, it's just one that you like more. You might like beer better, but that doesn't make it better than wine.

I kind of feel sad for people that don't enjoy both. Like RandomName said there's a time for both (although obviously cider for me instead of beer.) I drink and enjoy them at different times. I need options to suit my mood.

[elvenqueen]

Aug 4, 2016 20:44:28 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

Aug 4, 2016 18:09:08 GMT -5 RandomName said:

It's like comparing apples and oranges tho. Each has a time and place. I love them both.

Nope. I will never ever choose wine over beer. ever. I recently went to a winery and got beer

Did you get side-eyed?

[runningmommy519]

Aug 5, 2016 0:01:07 GMT -5 elvenqueen said:

Aug 4, 2016 20:44:28 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

Nope. I will never ever choose wine over beer. ever. I recently went to a winery and got beer

Did you get side-eyed?

Haha nope.

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Aug 4, 2016 17:36:49 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

I said this in the fb group and it was such a huge hit I want to repeat it.

Beer>wine

Alcohol>any other liquid

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Let's not discriminate!

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Fffc, I'm not sure if I *really* had sex this morning or if I was dreaming.

[runningmommy519]

Aug 5, 2016 5:32:05 GMT -5 @betweenthelines said:

Aug 4, 2016 17:36:49 GMT -5 runningmommy519 said:

I said this in the fb group and it was such a huge hit I want to repeat it.

Beer>wine

Alcohol>any other liquid

Haha!!!! I suppose I can get behind that

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I want to 'not sure if srs' H because his response to me re: dream vs real romp was "I don't remember, I think I woke you up? lol"

Dude, stop messing with my head!

[packmomma]

Fffc:I judge your intellect as low if I see you tanning. Brought to you by 3 family members tanning yesterday at the beach.

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packmomma, don't come into my backyard during nap time on the weekend. I'll be floating in my pool soaking up all the sun.

[packmomma]

redandblue I let w watch about 30 minutes total of pbs a day. He's running around quite a bit and honestly it's the only time he'll stay still. I make a point to talk about what's going on in the show so he's not missing out on verbal stuff but sometimes I just need a break.

[th3stryck3r]

The only reason I can do no tv for Poppy is because I am not home with her during the day. I am certain that if I were, I would need a break.