I'm pretty sure I am going to formula feed DD2 from the moment we leave the hospital. BFing was a huge emotional struggle with DD1 and while part of me wants to "win" at it this time, the closer I get to the end the more I just don't want that clouding my early postpartum days. The FFFC part is that I will still attempt breastfeeding in the hospital knowing full well I won't continue, just because I don't feel like dealing with judgey nurses or explaining the choice to anyone. Guts, I have none.
Thanks, fogleer. Lol.. On the candy topic, at night I also tell her she'll get a candy for potty and then quickly shove a raisin in her mouth. She still hasn't fully caught onto that one yet. I tell her the candy coating melted off it if she does ask.
I'm pretty sure I am going to formula feed DD2 from the moment we leave the hospital. BFing was a huge emotional struggle with DD1 and while part of me wants to "win" at it this time, the closer I get to the end the more I just don't want that clouding my early postpartum days. The FFFC part is that I will still attempt breastfeeding in the hospital knowing full well I won't continue, just because I don't feel like dealing with judgey nurses or explaining the choice to anyone. Guts, I have none.
I don't blame you. Hospitals have become crazy about this. Mine makes you sign a pledge to bf...even though I plan to bf, I refuse to sign this stupid pledge. It's just too much.
I'm pretty sure I am going to formula feed DD2 from the moment we leave the hospital. BFing was a huge emotional struggle with DD1 and while part of me wants to "win" at it this time, the closer I get to the end the more I just don't want that clouding my early postpartum days. The FFFC part is that I will still attempt breastfeeding in the hospital knowing full well I won't continue, just because I don't feel like dealing with judgey nurses or explaining the choice to anyone. Guts, I have none.
I'm actually pretty sure I'm going to do exactly the same thing, for exactly the same reasons. Don't want to deal with explaining the choice to nurses or doctors or family (ahem, my mom) while I'm in the hospital, but don't want to deal with the emotional and physical turmoil that came with BFing last time once I'm home. Especially since I'll also have a toddler to take care of this time. I'm getting a lot of pressure from family to at least pump, but I'm really trying to figure out how the hell I could feed/burp/change the infant, pump, and take care of the toddler by myself and still be left with any semblance of sanity.
I figure at least the kid will get some colostrum in the hospital. I might try pumping for a few weeks, but I'm not putting any pressure on myself. And frankly, when I go for my second PP check with my OB I'll probably just tell him to put me on my regular OCPs, which are not BF-friendly. So that gives me 6-8 weeks, no more (I made it 9 weeks with DS). And I'm not even sure I'll make it that long before switching completely to formula.
Recently, I have been getting ragey jealous of those of you who either stay or work at home. Even those with other LO's. Like to the point where I get mad.
PS. I feel incredibly lucky to have the job I have and that it is close to home and pays good money. I don't know if I am cut out to be a SAHM and these emotions are just due to pregnancy hormones and emotions. Please don't be mad at me those who are home, I know the grass is greener on the other side. It's just that I really don't want to put on pants and go to work.
I am a wahm and keep my 2 year old full time. It's amazing getting to spend time with him, the downside is that I miss a lot of family time. I spend a good amount of evenings and weekends locked up in my office. It's really hard to hear little giggles and fun happening but be "at work." Also, some days I'd give my left leg to leave the house for 8 hours... have an hour a day built in for "me" time, etc. I basically feel guilty all day not working, then guilty if I check email or try to get something done while ds is awake. I also make crap money. But not having to put on pants on a daily basis is certainly one of the best perks at the moment. The grass is always greener!
I don't blame you. Hospitals have become crazy about this. Mine makes you sign a pledge to bf...even though I plan to bf, I refuse to sign this stupid pledge. It's just too much.
My face when I read about the pledge:
+1 Followed by instant anger. I'd be inclined to make a grand gesture, like tearing the stupid pledge into little tiny bits in front of the nurse who dared bring it to me.
For the last few weeks (months) I've been super lazy and haven't done anything to my hair, I just throw it up in a frizzy messy bun at the top of my head. But when I found out I was having baby soon, my first thought was that I have to start doing my hair so that it's always ready for if I go into labour. I want her to see me for the first time with pretty hair.
HATE big flowery headbands. Little headband with one tiny flower? I'll deal, and even put em on dd. But when your kid is wearing a bouquet on their head, thanks but no thanks.
Hahahahaha yeah the ones where the flower is bigger than the baby's head.........too much lol. I may have to change my confession, I still don't like those!
But I have tons of sweet thin headbands with little bows on them, but as a gift we received a onesie and crochet headband with a flower on it of my husband's favourite NHL team and I found the headband SO CUTE, but the flower is smaller than the crochet part. I just googled crochet headband with flower and found some unfortunate ones.
@mrspanpan, I stopped looking presentable for work months ago. My leggings and long t shirts are all that fit me and all I want to wear hahaaha. Thankfully my office is VERY casual so its ok, plus when you are pregnant you can apparently get away with a lot of things. I have not taken full advantage of this part!
@mrspanpan we should be allowed to wear yoga pants to work by this point in our pregnancies.
My FFFC a part of me hopes the baby will come before my in laws get back from Norway on Tuesday. It would just save me from dealing with them camped out in waiting ( I'm trying to convince H to wait until the last second or after the baby is here to tell them.) Also I would rather not have my MIL at the hospital for long periods of time like she was when my SIL had her baby. I love her, but she has a hard time understanding I want time with just my family of 3 at the start.
Thanks, fogleer. Lol.. On the candy topic, at night I also tell her she'll get a candy for potty and then quickly shove a raisin in her mouth. She still hasn't fully caught onto that one yet. I tell her the candy coating melted off it if she does ask.
This made me laugh out loud this a.m. Very creative!
Recently, I have been getting ragey jealous of those of you who either stay or work at home. Even those with other LO's. Like to the point where I get mad.
PS. I feel incredibly lucky to have the job I have and that it is close to home and pays good money. I don't know if I am cut out to be a SAHM and these emotions are just due to pregnancy hormones and emotions. Please don't be mad at me those who are home, I know the grass is greener on the other side. It's just that I really don't want to put on pants and go to work.
I am a wahm and keep my 2 year old full time. It's amazing getting to spend time with him, the downside is that I miss a lot of family time. I spend a good amount of evenings and weekends locked up in my office. It's really hard to hear little giggles and fun happening but be "at work." Also, some days I'd give my left leg to leave the house for 8 hours... have an hour a day built in for "me" time, etc. I basically feel guilty all day not working, then guilty if I check email or try to get something done while ds is awake. I also make crap money. But not having to put on pants on a daily basis is certainly one of the best perks at the moment. The grass is always greener!
TWINS. Guilt everywhere you look, but the paycheck (and insurance) and the lack of pants make up for it. Usually. Mostly.
I've always been a crazy cat/dog/any animal lady. We have a big dumb mutt and two ginger kitties who are spoiled beyond help. However, after becoming a mom, I envy no pet homes often. My patience and overall attitude toward them has changed. I still love them and they are treated as family... I just get sick of the pet hair everywhere, barking during nap time, general destruction of everything, stinky litter, etc. It'd be nice not to deal with it all on a daily basis. Then I feel guilty for dreaming away their existence. Thank goodness for roomba, I'm pretty sure that little vacuum is the reason our house ever looks presentable.
My cousin gave me a bunch of baby stuff, she made a point to tell me which blankets she wanted back. I accidentally ruined one in the washer the other day. I wasn't sure if I should put it in there to begin with or not, but I did it anyway. I plan to send her a text one of these days apologizing and saying I don't know how it ended up in the washer, "H must have thrown it in with a load not knowing it shouldn't be washed".
2dumbdogs, seriously, a pledge?!! FFS, formula feeding isn't agasint the law and the last time I checked it was up to the mother how she was going to feed her child. I will repeat, FFS!!! What is happening to this world?
For the last few weeks (months) I've been super lazy and haven't done anything to my hair, I just throw it up in a frizzy messy bun at the top of my head. But when I found out I was having baby soon, my first thought was that I have to start doing my hair so that it's always ready for if I go into labour. I want her to see me for the first time with pretty hair.
- I recognize this is crazy.
I started straightening mine again on a daily basis even if I know I'm going to put it up. I just know the day I don't do that or put on some makeup I'll go into labor. But ditto on wanting to look nice when I meet my kid for the first time!
2dumbdogs, seriously, a pledge?!! FFS, formula feeding isn't agasint the law and the last time I checked it was up to the mother how she was going to feed her child. I will repeat, FFS!!! What is happening to this world?
I mean, I get where they are coming from. Kind of. It's one of these using meaningless metrics to drive performance ratings things, so the nurses actually get evaluated based on bfing success, and the pledge is a way to measure that. But its such horrible execution! And...I don't know how BF or FF means a patient had a successful L&D experience?? I get rated on stupid things at work that include frivolous documentation too, but at least mine don't judge other individuals.
At my sister's hospital they have giant displays on the wall of all the reasons you shouldn't formula feed...done up like a freaking 2nd grade teacher's classroom wall with storks and all kinds of ridiculous shit.
Recently, I have been getting ragey jealous of those of you who either stay or work at home. Even those with other LO's. Like to the point where I get mad.
PS. I feel incredibly lucky to have the job I have and that it is close to home and pays good money. I don't know if I am cut out to be a SAHM and these emotions are just due to pregnancy hormones and emotions. Please don't be mad at me those who are home, I know the grass is greener on the other side. It's just that I really don't want to put on pants and go to work.
I am a wahm and keep my 2 year old full time. It's amazing getting to spend time with him, the downside is that I miss a lot of family time. I spend a good amount of evenings and weekends locked up in my office. It's really hard to hear little giggles and fun happening but be "at work." Also, some days I'd give my left leg to leave the house for 8 hours... have an hour a day built in for "me" time, etc. I basically feel guilty all day not working, then guilty if I check email or try to get something done while ds is awake. I also make crap money. But not having to put on pants on a daily basis is certainly one of the best perks at the moment. The grass is always greener!
This is why I could never hang as stay at home. Or even work at home. With or without a kid to take care of. I need to get out and see other (adult) humans daily. I think I would drive my husband crazy! I usually have a 2 week shutdown around Christmas time that I am SO tired of about 3 days in...not that I miss work, but I get so stir crazy.
I've gotten to the point of getting mad/ragey when my DH wants to do things I can't do. Like go in the neighbors hot tub after a night of drinking, while I get to stand there completely awkward while everyone has a great time. The following day he told he was going on the neighbors boat and I can come. I'm 8.5 months pregnant, I don't want to be on a bumpy boat with a bunch of people day drinking in the 100 heat. He responds with oh so I'm suppose to be miserable and bored because you are? Which leads to all the tears and rageyness from me. He didn't go on the boat. Instead he helped me paint her letters for the nursery. Good DH.
Thanks, fogleer. Lol.. On the candy topic, at night I also tell her she'll get a candy for potty and then quickly shove a raisin in her mouth. She still hasn't fully caught onto that one yet. I tell her the candy coating melted off it if she does ask.
When DD#1 was just starting out and only making the potty a few times a day I would wait to give her her gummy vitamin as her "candy".
Last night while eating dinner (dd already ate at my mom's because I had a drs appt, but she was still sitting at the table with us) dd was playing with her teapot and teacup toy. She "poured a cup" and asked H to drink it. He played along. Dd then proceeds to ask "you dick, daddy" I knew she meant are you sick? But it was so funny that she was saying dick.
I made her repeat it like 10 times because we found it so funny.
My nephew says the same thing. Except he was on the back yard looking for a stick. I asked him what he was looking for a he said "a big dick". I asked him to the point of him getting frustrated with me because I found it hilarious. I love the innocence of children.
I've gotten to the point of getting mad/ragey when my DH wants to do things I can't do. Like go in the neighbors hot tub after a night of drinking, while I get to stand there completely awkward while everyone has a great time. The following day he told he was going on the neighbors boat and I can come. I'm 8.5 months pregnant, I don't want to be on a bumpy boat with a bunch of people day drinking in the 100 heat. He responds with oh so I'm suppose to be miserable and bored because you are? Which leads to all the tears and rageyness from me. He didn't go on the boat. Instead he helped me paint her letters for the nursery. Good DH.
This is lame. There is a lot of options between sit around miserable and day drink on a boat. Doesn't he know about compromise?!?! Some fucking sympathy could go a long way.
On the working from home topic - I work from home (full time) and send DS to daycare. There is no way that I would be able to work with him here and I absolutely hate working when him and H are home (mostly on holidays that I don't get, but they do). However, I love the flexibility and the ability to dress like no one can see/judge me!
On the pets topic - my three cats are driving me insane!! I can't stand to smell/see their litter boxes and their shenanigans are ridiculous, but I won't give them up.
I'm also all for the small bowed headbands, but not the ones with flowers as big as her head!
My confession - Sometimes I think it is more comfortable/relaxing to sleep in DS's bed than in my own bed because of H's snoring and sleep talking!
HATE big flowery headbands. Little headband with one tiny flower? I'll deal, and even put em on dd. But when your kid is wearing a bouquet on their head, thanks but no thanks.
This. People are nuts with their large bows. The flower doesn't need to be bigger than your child.
I've gotten to the point of getting mad/ragey when my DH wants to do things I can't do. Like go in the neighbors hot tub after a night of drinking, while I get to stand there completely awkward while everyone has a great time. The following day he told he was going on the neighbors boat and I can come. I'm 8.5 months pregnant, I don't want to be on a bumpy boat with a bunch of people day drinking in the 100 heat. He responds with oh so I'm suppose to be miserable and bored because you are? Which leads to all the tears and rageyness from me. He didn't go on the boat. Instead he helped me paint her letters for the nursery. Good DH.
This is lame. There is a lot of options between sit around miserable and day drink on a boat. Doesn't he know about compromise?!?! Some fucking sympathy could go a long way.
Exactly. My husband hates sitting around. And I get it, it's summer you want to have fun and do summer time things (especially since we live at the beach). But give me a break. We have 5 weeks left, I'm sure we can find things to do together that dosent require getting jerked around on a boat. Part of me feels bad, I just have that type of personality, but the other part dosent.
2dumbdogs, seriously, a pledge?!! FFS, formula feeding isn't agasint the law and the last time I checked it was up to the mother how she was going to feed her child. I will repeat, FFS!!! What is happening to this world?
I mean, I get where they are coming from. Kind of. It's one of these using meaningless metrics to drive performance ratings things, so the nurses actually get evaluated based on bfing success, and the pledge is a way to measure that. But its such horrible execution! And...I don't know how BF or FF means a patient had a successful L&D experience?? I get rated on stupid things at work that include frivolous documentation too, but at least mine don't judge other individuals.
At my sister's hospital they have giant displays on the wall of all the reasons you shouldn't formula feed...done up like a freaking 2nd grade teacher's classroom wall with storks and all kinds of ridiculous shit.
This makes me ragey. Some women CAN"T BF - they try but they just can't. No one should judge a mother who is trying to take care of her child the best way they can, even if FF. and FF is fine, just fine, there is nothing wrong with it.
All of this makes me ragey honestly. I was the mom who wanted to exclusively bf my baby. You know what, I starved my baby because I couldn't produce - people need to get off their high horses and preach, keep you baby healthy and fed and you are doing just fine - it doesn't matter if it's BF or FF. Ugghhhhh
FTM - Please know it's ok to Formula Feed your babys - seriously!!!!!
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