I guess unless you've got loads of money, it seems kind of odd to not bring in the extra income if you're able too. I'd do it in a second but we'd have to have SO much money for me to feel comfortable. I do get that it works for some couples and that's ok. Edited to tag: shmee
Not everyone has $$ as their top priority. Freedom of choice, yo. Women's lib, gives us the CHOICE to work or SAH or... I judge you for judging their choice.
I can not understand people whose houses are always a mess. I am a neat freak and everyone said just wait until you have kids you will see. Well I have one who is 2.5 and I still do not see. My house is still spotless. Every night before bed DD picks up her toys and puts them away, so I guess I just don't get not having time or whatever the excuse.
Sorry, I know FFFC, but I'm going to flame this a little bit.
You don't get to assume you know other people's circumstances. It's not just about time, it's also about stress and how they handle it. You have no idea what people go through all day, what commitments they have, and how they are mentally handling things. Good for you for having a spotless house. Do you find cleaning relaxing? Does it drive you totally crazy to see a mess? Do you feel energized while cleaning? Is your one child (sorry, had to point that out) a good sleeper and relatively well-behaved and happy? Are you a SAHM, or do you work part-time, and is your job relatively low-stress? Do you have any stressful family situations going on right now? Do you have any health issues that make it difficult to clean? I'm willing to bet at least a couple of these things are true for you, but they are not true for everyone. There are people for whom having a spotless house simply isn't worth the mental breakdown that would occur having to keep it that way.
If you really are a neat freak, I'm going to assume you can't STAND a mess and can't relax while there is one. I can, and I have to, or my entire family suffers.
First of all my FFFC was that I can't understand people with messy houses, not spotless, yes mine is spotless, but I never said anything about anyone else having a spotless house. Yes, I work full time 50+hours a week. I work for a large public accounting firm, which can definitely be high stress. Nope, no stressful family situations. I have always been this way. I honestly don't find it hard or difficult to put things in their place and wipe things down. Someone said priorities, I can also honestly say that having a clean house never takes away from my family or my own time. I clean first thing in the morning and I never do cleaning in the evenings we spend the evenings with DD and yes she has to pick up her toys and put them away before going to bed.
I guess unless you've got loads of money, it seems kind of odd to not bring in the extra income if you're able too. I'd do it in a second but we'd have to have SO much money for me to feel comfortable. I do get that it works for some couples and that's ok. Edited to tag: shmee
You see how this directly contradicts saying you judge wives who stay at home then, right?
I would have to put that on hold until that situation was resolved. I get finding someone you are head over heels for, but what will be shall happen and if not then that wasn't for me. These are one of those things that I just can't get past, it may have a lot to do with the way I way brought up.
Also, she clearly says she can't help to feel like she's a home wrecker (which I don't think she is), and that is a feeling I wouldn't be able to live with.
I really dislike when people say this. Were you brought up better than me or her because you "say" you wouldn't do something? Nope, nope, and nope.
I don't think that's how she meant it. There are a lot of people that were raised in a very conservative home and still carry those ideas with them into adulthood. I don't think it means that they think they are better than anyone, it's just not something that they would feel comfortable doing and that's their prerogative. Maybe it's based upon their religion.
For instance, I know a Catholic couple who have not lived together in over 10 years but are still legally married. They won't file for divorce because they believe in it and hold those Catholic morals very close to their heart. It doesn't mean they think they're better than me because I DID get a divorce. You see what I'm saying?
I said "clean" not spotless. Theres always time to wipe down a bathroom, vacuum food and dirt from the floor, and have clean plates for your babies food. There are a few friends of mine who just dont. Period.
I was mostly referring to emu. But nobody said anything about giving babies food on dirty plates - I think anyone would take issue with that. That's very different than expecting someone to maintain a clean or spotless house at all times, and judging them for not doing so.
Re-read my post, I said nothing about judging anyone for not having a spotless house. I said I don't understand someone who always has a messy house.
It's apparently National Wear Red Day. Our executive admin sent an email to all the women in the building yesterday about wearing red today to "help save women's lives." I purposely did not wear red as I hate this type of stuff. Wearing red today is not going to save anyone's life. The admin who sent the email seriously walked around this morning to check who was wearing red, as in she said to me "Hey, just checking to see who's wearing red." And everyone who is wearing red today is getting their picture taken at 2PM in the breakroom. I am rolling my eyes so hard at everyone participating.
I only like it when there is education involved, like a health fair type of thing. wearing red and still don't know what's going on? Terrible.
I felt like this about the Ice Bucket challenge. ALS is a terrible disease but Justin Bieber and every other D-list celebrity who wants attention dumping ice water on his head is not educating people about it.
Post by Starbuck128 on Feb 6, 2015 11:33:33 GMT -5
kmkd19 Money isn't everything. Some people prioritize making a difference in the world through volunteer work and that is more important to them than an extra paycheck.
Sorry, I know FFFC, but I'm going to flame this a little bit.
You don't get to assume you know other people's circumstances. It's not just about time, it's also about stress and how they handle it. You have no idea what people go through all day, what commitments they have, and how they are mentally handling things. Good for you for having a spotless house. Do you find cleaning relaxing? Does it drive you totally crazy to see a mess? Do you feel energized while cleaning? Is your one child (sorry, had to point that out) a good sleeper and relatively well-behaved and happy? Are you a SAHM, or do you work part-time, and is your job relatively low-stress? Do you have any stressful family situations going on right now? Do you have any health issues that make it difficult to clean? I'm willing to bet at least a couple of these things are true for you, but they are not true for everyone. There are people for whom having a spotless house simply isn't worth the mental breakdown that would occur having to keep it that way.
If you really are a neat freak, I'm going to assume you can't STAND a mess and can't relax while there is one. I can, and I have to, or my entire family suffers.
First of all my FFFC was that I can't understand people with messy houses, not spotless, yes mine is spotless, but I never said anything about anyone else having a spotless house. Yes, I work full time 50+hours a week. I work for a large public accounting firm, which can definitely be high stress. Nope, no stressful family situations. I have always been this way. I honestly don't find it hard or difficult to put things in their place and wipe things down. Someone said priorities, I can also honestly say that having a clean house never takes away from my family or my own time. I clean first thing in the morning and I never do cleaning in the evenings we spend the evenings with DD and yes she has to pick up her toys and put them away before going to bed.
So are you cleaning on your company's time, then? Because it's gotta come from somewhere.
I guess unless you've got loads of money, it seems kind of odd to not bring in the extra income if you're able too. I'd do it in a second but we'd have to have SO much money for me to feel comfortable. I do get that it works for some couples and that's ok. Edited to tag: shmee
If my husband and I had enough invested to pull even a pretty modest income we would both quit working (or go really, really part time) and call ourselves retired. There are so many things I would love to fill my days with if I didn't have to worry about working. It would be a dream scenario honestly. Some people just aren't motivated by money or careers (I'm not). I wouldn't judge someone for staying home at all! I'd be jealous!!
Sorry, I know FFFC, but I'm going to flame this a little bit.
You don't get to assume you know other people's circumstances. It's not just about time, it's also about stress and how they handle it. You have no idea what people go through all day, what commitments they have, and how they are mentally handling things. Good for you for having a spotless house. Do you find cleaning relaxing? Does it drive you totally crazy to see a mess? Do you feel energized while cleaning? Is your one child (sorry, had to point that out) a good sleeper and relatively well-behaved and happy? Are you a SAHM, or do you work part-time, and is your job relatively low-stress? Do you have any stressful family situations going on right now? Do you have any health issues that make it difficult to clean? I'm willing to bet at least a couple of these things are true for you, but they are not true for everyone. There are people for whom having a spotless house simply isn't worth the mental breakdown that would occur having to keep it that way.
If you really are a neat freak, I'm going to assume you can't STAND a mess and can't relax while there is one. I can, and I have to, or my entire family suffers.
First of all my FFFC was that I can't understand people with messy houses, not spotless, yes mine is spotless, but I never said anything about anyone else having a spotless house. Yes, I work full time 50+hours a week. I work for a large public accounting firm, which can definitely be high stress. Nope, no stressful family situations. I have always been this way. I honestly don't find it hard or difficult to put things in their place and wipe things down. Someone said priorities, I can also honestly say that having a clean house never takes away from my family or my own time. I clean first thing in the morning and I never do cleaning in the evenings we spend the evenings with DD and yes she has to pick up her toys and put them away before going to bed.
Glad your little angel isn't a destructor child and your DH must not make any messes, either. Your child must also sleep. Mine likes to fight me. I made dinner, fed the family, bathed DD, did books and stories and milk time, then spent 8-9 making her stay in her crib and fall asleep. That was from 5:30pm to 9. DH cleaned up from dinner and did the cat boxes while I wrestled DD. After 9 I was in tears and exhausted. We are unable to do anything noisy once she's down, she's too light of a sleeper (when she was an infant we were as noisy as possible to try to have that baby who would sleep through a tornado) So we relaxed. And then at 11:30 I had taken my pills and gone potty and done my teeth and was fighting DD to go back to sleep.
First of all my FFFC was that I can't understand people with messy houses, not spotless, yes mine is spotless, but I never said anything about anyone else having a spotless house. Yes, I work full time 50+hours a week. I work for a large public accounting firm, which can definitely be high stress. Nope, no stressful family situations. I have always been this way. I honestly don't find it hard or difficult to put things in their place and wipe things down. Someone said priorities, I can also honestly say that having a clean house never takes away from my family or my own time. I clean first thing in the morning and I never do cleaning in the evenings we spend the evenings with DD and yes she has to pick up her toys and put them away before going to bed.
So are you cleaning on your company's time, then? Because it's gotta come from somewhere.
Nope, I have the flexibility to work when ever I want and my hours are clocked as I am in a client billable field. I am able to clean my house in 2 hours, while keeping it clean the remainder of the week, and still getting in 48-50+ hours per week. I do start my day at 6 am, and run DD to daycare when she gets up and pick her up at 4:30.
Thank goodness you have a voice of reason in @blackpearl08. You guys need to know how wrong it is to be messing with your unborn baby by having sex when you've been told not to by a freaking doctor.
And shame on all of you who liked her post. That's terrible.
Do you find the fact that she risked a uterine rupture and early labor and basically her baby's life something to like? Or just a high five for the sex part?
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Do you find the fact that she risked a uterine rupture and early labor and basically her baby's life something to like? Or just a high five for the sex part?
I didn't intentionally like this post. I'm taking care of a 2 year old so that could have happened then.
First of all my FFFC was that I can't understand people with messy houses, not spotless, yes mine is spotless, but I never said anything about anyone else having a spotless house. Yes, I work full time 50+hours a week. I work for a large public accounting firm, which can definitely be high stress. Nope, no stressful family situations. I have always been this way. I honestly don't find it hard or difficult to put things in their place and wipe things down. Someone said priorities, I can also honestly say that having a clean house never takes away from my family or my own time. I clean first thing in the morning and I never do cleaning in the evenings we spend the evenings with DD and yes she has to pick up her toys and put them away before going to bed.
Glad your little angel isn't a destructor child and your DH must not make any messes, either. Your child must also sleep. Mine likes to fight me. I made dinner, fed the family, bathed DD, did books and stories and milk time, then spent 8-9 making her stay in her crib and fall asleep. That was from 5:30pm to 9. DH cleaned up from dinner and did the cat boxes while I wrestled DD. After 9 I was in tears and exhausted. We are unable to do anything noisy once she's down, she's too light of a sleeper (when she was an infant we were as noisy as possible to try to have that baby who would sleep through a tornado) So we relaxed. And then at 11:30 I had taken my pills and gone potty and done my teeth and was fighting DD to go back to sleep.
Here's your trophy I guess
Thanks for the trophy! My DD is not a destructor IMO, but she gets out every toy she owns every night, and yes we put them all away before bed. DD does not sleep all night, she is usually up twice a night, midnight and 2 usually. She was a preemie and has been a terrible sleeper since birth, however at bed 8pm we do books and she hops in and doesn't get out, so our bedtime routine takes only 15 min. We have always had to get up with her, but getting her down has never been the problem. How old is your DD? Ours was super excited and still is about sleeping in her big girl bed. We converted her crib to a toddler bed and she loves it. Maybe that might help with her evening routine?
Because you freaking deserve it...As does beeorange and any other person that is thinking pelvic rest is a joke and completely ok to do whatever you want during. SHEESH! NO SEX. It isn't that complicated.
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