I just wanna start with, you ladies with all the stitches, my heartfelt sorries to all of you. That sounds downright horrifying. I had 1 "might as well" stitch with DD1 that was more like a scuff mark, and felt sorry for myself. I am slightly terrified for this time around. I am a spoiled princess, I know!
theophania I have had a resurgence of nausea in the small hours of the morning the last few days. Like, get up to pee, feel gross... then I realize how starving I am. I don't think I have been forgetting to eat normally, so it is a weird change from, I think I am hungry but too much baby in the way to know for sure....
And whereas last night, I went to bed with DD at around 10 and slept pretty well minus pee breaks, tonight here it is almost 2am and all I wanna do is vacuum. I just drank some water and ate my last tums after cleaning everything that wouldn't make tons of noise, and will probably end up in bed soon. I hate this intermittent pregsomnia. I KNOW I could use all the sleep. But noooooo.
Ugh, 40+5 today and no sign of labour being any closer. I'm fine with waiting, I've been convinced ever since the beginning of the pregnancy that I would be late (me and my brothers were all 8-12 days late, my mom was apparently born at 3 weeks past due date). Sure I'm dying to meet the baby and to see if it's a boy or a girl but I can wait another 10 days if necessary.
But it just hurts so much now when the baby moves. I'm not sure what it is, I feel movements in the morning and they are ok but by early afternoon and all evening baby is full on disco dancing and it hurts! I might have yelled and sworn at it to stop yesterday. For that reason I really really don't want to wait any more.
Your even tempered acceptance of going late has me shamefaced. If I go 40+5, I will be into September, and one verrrry grouchy lady. I know in theory SOME of us later August moms will go over into September, but I just feel exhausted contemplating that.
Post by remylove1011 on Aug 14, 2016 6:24:44 GMT -5
theophania I've had some nausea this past week. Never actually gotten sick and it seems to happen at weird times (like after I've eaten so it can't possibly be beach I'm hungry!) Hopefully it was just a fluke thing and does not happen again for you.
EllieT I'm impressed with how chill you are about possible going another 10 days. My due date is tomorrow and I'm so not happy at the idea of going way past that. I don't think they'll let me go two weeks past though. My office indices at 41 weeks. Said they'd "let" me go to 42 is I "really wanted to" but I think I'll take them up on the offer of induction if I go another whole week. I'm totally with you on the painful movements. I feel like she is giant in there and I'm going to have a 9 lb baby if I let her go too long. Hopefully your little one decides to show up soon!
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Hugs for a rough few days lennonkdc! So sorry about your car - hope you get insurance issues squared away. I can't believe that lady didn't leave you a note, but luckily you had a witness! Glad to hear that you're back at home and power is back!
You're a beast w/ your patience EllieT!!! I don't know if I could go beyond 40.5 or 41w...even though I was born at 41+3 myself (at 9lbs!). And yes, the movements are making me feel super bruised on the inside!
remylove1011 - Baby's weight is what made me consider taking my OB's offer up on an induction sooner than later as well (she didn't want me to go past 41w due to that and being AMA so if I wasn't getting induced tomorrow, it would be in a few days anyway). Happy due date tomorrow! Also - thanks for labeling what I was feeling as a pulled muscle (as opposed to my "chest pain"). When I described it to my OB, she confirmed it was the milk getting ready
quirks, I remember my stitches with ds1 (2nd degree tear) taking awhile to feel better. With this one I'm not sure how many I had. I'm down to 400 mg of advil every 6 hrs. If I forget a dose, I am in a whole lot of pain still at 11 days pp. It's eased up a bit yesterday and this morning ing, but not enough to not take something for it.
Yesterday ds2 got to meet my grandparents! Today we are headed to a 1st birthday party for a friend. It's in town, so if things don't go well we can just come home, but hopefully baby boy is content with being worn/held.
Tomorrow dh goes back to work. He will work from home, and then Tuesday be back in the office, which mean 12 plus hours on my own! I am getting nervous. I'm more nervous about ds1 adjusting and his behavior rather than the baby! And that the baby will suddenly not just be the sleepy snuggly baby he has been the last 10 days. Luckily my mom is still off for the summer in case I need back up.
Post by hashbrownnofilter on Aug 14, 2016 7:27:36 GMT -5
lennonkdc I'm sorry for a rough few days! I'm glad you're back at home, though!
EllieT you are a saint. The whole family history thing is what is making me antsy - DS was a day before my EDD, and everyone in my family seems to deliver 7-10 days early...so everyone expects it'll be any day now.
Regarding stitches - mine took a long time to heal, but I had a pretty large episiotomy. It was unpleasant. I am really hoping to avoid that this time, but I'm not optimistic.
Post by gratefulgirl on Aug 14, 2016 8:17:31 GMT -5
I think I have DD3 sorted after 2 nights of the same thing. She cluster feeds before her "long" stretch (3-ish hours, not that long). Great, right? Well - her long stretch starts around 4 a.m. She cluster feeds ALL NIGHT.
I'm trying to figure out how to shift it. Only I'd be shifting her cluster feeding to dinner/big kid bedtime. DH has already stepped up about as much as he can given his terrible foot situation. So it's going to take some serious creativity. I may have to revisit figuring out nursing in a carrier, but I've always worried that would be freaking hard with a newborn and much easier with a baby with head control.
The wonderful thing was that DH got up with the bigs at 7 this morning and let me sleep until 8 when DD3's long stretch ended. It is incredibly difficult for DH to get up in the morning and I almost always do it, recognizing that he contributes to the family in a million other ways. I feel so loved this morning.
EllieT, you have such a great attitude. I hope your LO decides to come soon!
gratefulgirl, that sounds so difficult! I don't have any advice about shifting cluster feeds, but DD3 recently had some terrible nights after I switched her formula, and I know how hard it is to take care of 3 kids on no sleep. I hope things get better soon!
My ILs kept DD1 last night. DD2 wanted to come home, but DD1 is my early riser, so I still got to sleep in. And the baby gave me her best nights sleep so far, so I feel great!
I'm hoping the Zantac helped with her sleep (so it continues!), but even if it was just a fluke, it was so nice.
Ugh, 40+5 today and no sign of labour being any closer. I'm fine with waiting, I've been convinced ever since the beginning of the pregnancy that I would be late (me and my brothers were all 8-12 days late, my mom was apparently born at 3 weeks past due date). Sure I'm dying to meet the baby and to see if it's a boy or a girl but I can wait another 10 days if necessary.
But it just hurts so much now when the baby moves. I'm not sure what it is, I feel movements in the morning and they are ok but by early afternoon and all evening baby is full on disco dancing and it hurts! I might have yelled and sworn at it to stop yesterday. For that reason I really really don't want to wait any more.
Yes!! This is me! This is me!
Morning movement is okay but afternoon and evening are terrible. I feel your pain - literally.
After last night's only sleeping for one hour fiasco, I texted like every mom friend for help/tips. One of them said "use the miracle blankets I mailed you!!" So it's only been a few hours but so far so good! He has still woken every two hours to eat but the sleep in between was actual sleep! How this keeps up and wasn't just a fluke
They are magic! We used those with DS until he was rolling.
My stitches hurt. Ugh. How long will they keep hurting and when will they go away?! I'm over it.
Depends! Last time I felt good enough to to go on a 4 mile hike 11 days out. I know it's taken other people a lot longer. I think a lot of it depends on the location of the stitches. My first time I had a episodomy, which I think helped it heal faster.
gratefulgirl DD's most awaje/alert time is, right now, coinciding with thr boys' bath and bedtime which isn't ideal. Although, to her credit, girlfriend is totally content to lay in her crib and talk to herself for 10 minutes while I tuck the big kids in. I think I am just kind of relaxed about it right now bc I remember how short lived any of these phases are with a newborn.
Last night was ROUGH. Neither baby was quiet for longer than 30 minutes at a time. I continuously BF from 2-5am because every time one baby finished the other one wanted. It was so miserable.
At 5am we sent them to the nursery. The nurse told me she wouldn't keep them for longer than an hour if they were crying the whole time because "we don't want to torture them". So we agreed to them giving pacifiers as needed and managed to get a couple hours of sleep.
Our LC consultant advised against pacifiers for the first 4 weeks. EBF is really important to me and I don't want to screw up their latches or anything. But also we will literally die if we have 4 weeks of nights like last night.
Any advice/knowledge about early paci use is welcome.
bocaburger I actually didn't want to and did not use a pacifier for DD. With LO, when I got to NICU, they had already put one in his mouth so that was that. He seems pretty happy with it and it does calm him. I hadn't heard about not giving one until one month, but I've heard about not giving them one for too long..
Wow 1-2 kids is rough. DD#1 is just insistent that she get actively played with all the time. And somehow everytime I need to use the bathroom for more than 30 seconds she climbs the stairs and finds me.
Post by gratefulgirl on Aug 14, 2016 9:54:58 GMT -5
bocaburger - mine have all gotten a paci in the hospital and all BF for a year plus. Our LC says pacis promote a slightly shallower latch but that is the only issue. My kids will spit them out if hungry.
Post by countrycotton on Aug 14, 2016 9:57:37 GMT -5
bocaburger, dd1 was given a pacifier in the hospital. It made zero deferance in her BFing. I also pumped and she took a bottle as well. But with all that never refused a boob. If a paci makes life easier, do it! I honestly can't recall one case of someone growing up no turning into a murderer because they were given a pacifier. But they can definitely save moms sanity!
bocaburger, EBF twins is a great goal, if a paci helps keep you sane and well rested then do it.
Eta: I got a bunch of the MAM brand pacis and am bringing one to three hospital (it's "baby friendly" and I know there might be push back) but I'm comfortable with the research on nipple confusion and pacis. I know everyone and every baby is different, so do what works for you. The LC doesn't have to go home with you and live with the twins for 4 weeks without a paci and the lack of sleep
Last night was ROUGH. Neither baby was quiet for longer than 30 minutes at a time. I continuously BF from 2-5am because every time one baby finished the other one wanted. It was so miserable.
At 5am we sent them to the nursery. The nurse told me she wouldn't keep them for longer than an hour if they were crying the whole time because "we don't want to torture them". So we agreed to them giving pacifiers as needed and managed to get a couple hours of sleep.
Our LC consultant advised against pacifiers for the first 4 weeks. EBF is really important to me and I don't want to screw up their latches or anything. But also we will literally die if we have 4 weeks of nights like last night.
Any advice/knowledge about early paci use is welcome.
We are giving her the Soothies brand pacifier because it is similar to a breast nipple in shape/design. In our case it's actually to help her strengthen her sucking muscles which she needs to have to efficiently bfeed per the LC rec (still EPing). So I think it's ok to do with the right kind. Hang in there, i know it's sooo hard with the sleep deprivation. I can only imagine how hard it is with 2
OMG next time I wanna be up til 2am, remind me that heartburn will be a bitch and I will not get much sleep the rest of the night.
I haven't felt like it is safe or reasonable for me to take DD out in public on my own for a while now since I can't catch her if she bolts, so I put a plea out on facebook for someone to bring me tums or mylanta or something today. Any temporary food/drink solutions? I am afraid to open my water this morning since that seems to be my biggest trigger. My esophagus is PISSED.
Post by gratefulgirl on Aug 14, 2016 11:15:16 GMT -5
Every baby takes a different pacifier, but mine have always gone for the nipple shaped ones (Soothies, GumDrop) best. DD1 adored her paci. I forced it on fussy DD2. DD3 gets it occasionally but seems to not care for it. I am trying not to push it.
I too refuse the human pacifier role like @suesposa and DDs 1 & 3 like(d) to try to use me that way.
OMG next time I wanna be up til 2am, remind me that heartburn will be a bitch and I will not get much sleep the rest of the night.
I haven't felt like it is safe or reasonable for me to take DD out in public on my own for a while now since I can't catch her if she bolts, so I put a plea out on facebook for someone to bring me tums or mylanta or something today. Any temporary food/drink solutions? I am afraid to open my water this morning since that seems to be my biggest trigger. My esophagus is PISSED.
Try mixing some baking soda in a little some water. Or if you have any apple cider vinegar take a swig of that. Both can help and are perfectly safe.
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