Post by gratefulgirl on Aug 14, 2016 19:17:44 GMT -5
bocaburger - DD2 had jaundice due to pregnancy risk factors and my late milk coming in. She was supplemented in the hospital and it felt stressful. I reminded myself that appropriate supplementing actually increases long term breastfeeding rates. Other than the hospital we needed no other supplementing and her jaundice was kept to a minor issue because of the quick and effective medical interventions. Still no fun, I know.
Post by hannahbear on Aug 14, 2016 19:37:06 GMT -5
Thanks dorkusmalorkus - I was using SNS, then after we saw the LC we developed a whole set up involving an inclined chair, towels to prop up the breast, brestfriend pillow, nipple shield, a dropper with pumped milk to entice him etc. I just have a really hard time getting him to latch and DH has been really helpful in figuring out stuff like - his head is too high.
There's so much conflicting advice that it's hard to know what to do. I'm just worried about trying it again and having a screaming baby and freaking out. I already feel guilty and sad that I'm not able to feed my baby the way I dreamed. I know what you mean about worrying about "too much" formula.
Everyone says "fed is best" and I'm trying so hard to take that to heart.
hannahbear SNS is such a pain! I'm glad you aren't using it anymore as well. It is not easy sometimes for babies to latch and then they get SO angry. that's great DH gives you helpful feedback on how to adjust.
DD3 is not wanting to fall asleep (after being fussy all afternoon/evening), my cell phone battery is almost dead, and my iPad is broken. Time passes sooo slowly with no internet to distract me while I rock her in a dark room. Hoping she falls asleep before the battery dies.
This may be silly, but I started putting some of my maternity clothes in the hamper to wash and got sad that it was my last time needing them! I don't love being pregnant or giving birth, but it's weird that part of my life is over.
This may be silly, but I started putting some of my maternity clothes in the hamper to wash and got sad that it was my last time needing them! I don't love being pregnant or giving birth, but it's weird that part of my life is over.
Huge hugs!! I feel the same way I actually asked what do I do with these now lol
@suesposa I splurged on newborn pics and am so glad I did. Hope yours turn out amazing!
When did you ladies have them done?? Ours were supposed to be today but i felt horrible so they are Wednesday I hope it's not to late kinda thing (they will be two days shy of two weeks)
This may be silly, but I started putting some of my maternity clothes in the hamper to wash and got sad that it was my last time needing them! I don't love being pregnant or giving birth, but it's weird that part of my life is over.
Same here. I couldn't bring myself to delete my contraction timing app from my phone, and we're clear to give away all of my maternity stuff plus DS' baby/toddler clothes, but the thought makes me sad. And several relatives have commented about us being done, in ways that seem not very empathetic/kind of hurtful.
@suesposa I splurged on newborn pics and am so glad I did. Hope yours turn out amazing!
When did you ladies have them done?? Ours were supposed to be today but i felt horrible so they are Wednesday I hope it's not to late kinda thing (they will be two days shy of two weeks)
We are taking them at 3 weeks, but mostly bc that's my birthday. Hope you are feeling better! I think it should be fine timing wise.
@suesposa I splurged on newborn pics and am so glad I did. Hope yours turn out amazing!
When did you ladies have them done?? Ours were supposed to be today but i felt horrible so they are Wednesday I hope it's not to late kinda thing (they will be two days shy of two weeks)
my photographer does them from 5-10 days so we got them at 7 days. I don't think you're too late at all, they should be just as cute/ sleepy/ posable a few days later.
@suesposa I splurged on newborn pics and am so glad I did. Hope yours turn out amazing!
When did you ladies have them done?? Ours were supposed to be today but i felt horrible so they are Wednesday I hope it's not to late kinda thing (they will be two days shy of two weeks)
We had them done at 10 days, 7 days, and 3 days. DD1's were the easiest (at 10 days old), I wouldn't worry about 12 days. My photographer prefers to do the first two weeks.
Ok. DH is scheduled to go back to work tomorrow. Commence huge freak out. I tried doing a feeding by myself, but it BF setup is so elaborate and nothing works, and somehow I'm supposed to BF, supplement, and pump all by myself at every feeding. How am I going to do this tomorrow?
Huge hugs. Do you have any friends who could come over and help you?
ETA: You do your best, which is really all you can expect of yourself. If you only manage to pump and supplement while YH is gone, they will be ok. YH can help you breastfeed before he leaves in the morning, as soon as he gets home, and everything in between.
Hi everyone! We survived the day. Bilirubin levels were ok so we are all home. My parents are staying with us and have been so super helpful, so I've been able to get a few hours sleep already and just finished feeding so hopefully I can get a couple more. The babies are sleeping much better tonight, I think it may be thanks to the swaddle sacks but I can't be sure.
The dog is hilarious. No aggression thank goodness but she is completely enthralled by them and wants to be all up in their business. She does bark a bit when they cry so we'll have to work on that.
Today was really hard for me. By the time we got home I was so overwhelmed I had to shut myself in a quiet room and do breathing exercises to keep from panicking. I am so anxious that I bit off more than I can chew or that something will happen to the babies.
Thanks bocaburger - you are totally right, it will be ok. We are all just doing our best. We got this white noise nightlight thing for the baby, and sometimes when I am feeling overwhelmed by BFing, I just sit in baby's room and listen to the rainforest. I can see why it's soothing.
And hugs to you. My first few days at home were so overwhelming, too - and my hormones were just completely out of control. Add lack of sleep to the mix and it's just a perfect storm. I'm glad you all are home and that your parents are helpful. Take advantage of them, and let them do anything that will take stuff off your plate. That's what helped me - other people doing stuff so I could sleep a bit.
hannahbear, when do you feel like your hormones calmed down? I am high risk for PPA/PPD so I am trying to watch for it and yesterday I basically waffled between weepy and super anxious. But I think it's normal for Day 4 to be pretty bad because of hormones right?
Hugs bocaburger ! Glad you all got to go home! One thing I plan on doing differently with my second is to just not stress about bfing. Yes it's important to me, but it's just not worth the incredible amount of pressure I put on myself the first time around. If a pacifier saves your sanity, go for it. And there is a huge hormone shift after giving birth. I think they say it can last like two weeks or so? It was AWFUL for me the first time around. But if at any point you feel like you need help, just ask for it. This time around I have been really struggling with depression for the last couple months so they started me on Zoloft which is pregnancy and BF safe and it has made all the difference in the world for me. Hoping it can keep away the ppd/ppa I dealt with after my first.
Glad you're home bocaburger!! Just try to breathe and take it a day at a time (says the lady who is still pregnant w/ just a singleton lol!). I'm so curious how our pets are going to react to the baby as well. Your dog sounds adorable!! We have one who is quite the barker too - can't wait to see how that plays out 😉
I hope it works for you frodabaggins!! I've had the sauce over pasta for three meals now and not much is happening lol! But if anything else, I did enjoy it!
@suesposa I splurged on newborn pics and am so glad I did. Hope yours turn out amazing!
I almost didn't get any done because I just couldn't fathom paying $600+ plus prints. I just happened to stumble across a lady that charges $175. I toured her studio and was amazed. She doesn't do prints but you own the rights to all your images so you can have them printed anywhere. I'll likely just do a shutterfly book since I always have coupons. She did an awesome job and the sneak peeks she sent me were absolutely adorable. I am pleased
that is a great deal!! Mine ended up being $450 and then I could order my own prints at the drugstore. I cheaper out on my wedding photographer and ended up with no pictures so I wasn't taking any chances this time!
Post by spicysalmonroll on Aug 15, 2016 7:56:29 GMT -5
bocaburger I can't speak for others but for me I could definitely feel myself slipping towards ppd in the first two weeks. I didn't have most of the textbook feelings (like regret or wanting to take about n him), but I was bawling daily and was basically inconsolable. I was miserable with the way everything was going, and every time something minor happened like a spit up I freaked out that it was my fault and I must have done something wrong to cause it. The turning point for me was his appointment at 16 days old. The doctor gushed about how fabulous he was doing and that everything was very normal. I realized at that point how lucky I was to have a perfectly healthy baby and that snapped me out of it. You're smart to be keeping a close eye on your feelings, I'd say if it doesn't turn around by 3-4 weeks to seek help.
bocaburger honestly I'm not sure - I think that things may have calmed down a bit now and I'm at 2 weeks pp. I am still feeling emotional but not as constantly weepy as I was when we first got home. But yesterday I bawled my eyes out over breastfeeding, and almost every time I carry the baby downstairs I worry about tripping and what would happen. So I'd say it's not over yet. Definitely something to keep an eye on.
When did you ladies have them done?? Ours were supposed to be today but i felt horrible so they are Wednesday I hope it's not to late kinda thing (they will be two days shy of two weeks)
My photographer prefers 10days or younger so they are still in the sleepy phase and are easily posed. I don't think 12 days will be bad at all.
We did NB pictures yesterday at 16 days old. It took a little longer to get her to sleepy for some of the poses, but I think it went pretty well. It was hard on my incision and we were all exhausted afterwards.
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