Do you guys have a routine for your LOs yet? I'm getting ready to go back to work and my mom keeps asking me what's her schedule. I'm like "uh, wake her up when you're ready, change her and feed her and go from there". So in the morning we have a routine and bath time is at 8pm and I put her down for bed at 9. She STTN so we're usually the ones waking her up. I'll get up, get ready and then wake her up. So from like 8am to 8pm it's a free for all. Is that okay?
We have a loose routine. He eats at 6 times a day at approximately the same time each day, and then in between has some awake and some nap time . Mornings are always messed up because of preschool drop off or story time or errands. He often cat naps in the car. Every afternoon he takes a long nap. He usually eats around 6:30pm and we keep him up until 8:30 for his last bottle.
With ds1, we didn't get into real routine until he was down to 2 naps around 6 months. And this time around, with preschool and whatnot, I don't envision mornings ever having a perfect routine.
Do you guys have a routine for your LOs yet? I'm getting ready to go back to work and my mom keeps asking me what's her schedule. I'm like "uh, wake her up when you're ready, change her and feed her and go from there". So in the morning we have a routine and bath time is at 8pm and I put her down for bed at 9. She STTN so we're usually the ones waking her up. I'll get up, get ready and then wake her up. So from like 8am to 8pm it's a free for all. Is that okay?
I have a rough idea of DS daily schedule, but it's loose. I do have a bedtime routine, but if your DD is STTN your bedtime routine must be working. With DD at this time she had a much more predictable schedule. Like wake up same time and ate at same time each day. DS gets up around same time but when he eats is based on how long a nap goes. Some days are longer than others. Is your DD starting daycare? If so I found that they sent the schedule more. I basically just followed it on weekends. They just followed my times I gave for eating.
Post by youdontsay on Nov 15, 2016 20:30:57 GMT -5
meagpt22 we're not doing DC, my mom and dad are going to watch her. I do want to be the one to wake her up in the morning but if I wake her up at 6:30 I don't know how cranky she'll be. Usually between 6-8pm she's miserable. So if I wake her earlier, will she be crankier earlier?
I guess I need to start paying attention to feeding times. Now I feel completely clueless (again)!
We have a loose schedule, mostly enforced by daycare. She eats somewhere between 4:45am-6am depending on when she wakes up. We have to wake her up by 6 if she's not up on her own so we can leave on time. We go to daycare and she eats 9am/12pm/3pm there. When she comes home she used to nap, but that's now hit or miss. She normally falls asleep after her 6pm bottle and then we wake her at 9pm for a bottle and put her in her crib. Her daycare nap times are all over the place so that's not really routine yet.
meagpt22 we're not doing DC, my mom and dad are going to watch her. I do want to be the one to wake her up in the morning but if I wake her up at 6:30 I don't know how cranky she'll be. Usually between 6-8pm she's miserable. So if I wake her earlier, will she be crankier earlier?
I guess I need to start paying attention to feeding times. Now I feel completely clueless (again)!
I don't find the earlier AM wake up to have much effect on evening. But it might mean an earlier nap time in the morning. Either way she'll adjust to the new wake up time. DD ate at predictable (exact times 9,12, etc). DS follows a eat, activity, sleep routine, so eats every 3-4 hours. My mom is watching him as I transition back to work and just told her try bottles after naps.
Do you guys have a routine for your LOs yet? I'm getting ready to go back to work and my mom keeps asking me what's her schedule. I'm like "uh, wake her up when you're ready, change her and feed her and go from there". So in the morning we have a routine and bath time is at 8pm and I put her down for bed at 9. She STTN so we're usually the ones waking her up. I'll get up, get ready and then wake her up. So from like 8am to 8pm it's a free for all. Is that okay?
We're still in survival mode all day every day. No routine here.
Do you guys have a routine for your LOs yet? I'm getting ready to go back to work and my mom keeps asking me what's her schedule. I'm like "uh, wake her up when you're ready, change her and feed her and go from there". So in the morning we have a routine and bath time is at 8pm and I put her down for bed at 9. She STTN so we're usually the ones waking her up. I'll get up, get ready and then wake her up. So from like 8am to 8pm it's a free for all. Is that okay?
We're still in survival mode all day every day. No routine here.
Post by remylove1011 on Nov 16, 2016 3:40:53 GMT -5
So I got lax about transitioning off the nipple sheild and now I think we'll be stuck using it for the long haul. DD is so confused at what she's supposed to do when it's not there. Now I'm really annoyed with myself for not sticking it out when I tried to transition off a few weeks ago.
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Last night I was watching Jinger Duggar's wedding (my guilty pleasure!!!) and I saw commercials for the show Out-Daughtered about the family with quintuplets. My face was like 😳 watching them wrangle 5 babies.
Do you guys have a routine for your LOs yet? I'm getting ready to go back to work and my mom keeps asking me what's her schedule. I'm like "uh, wake her up when you're ready, change her and feed her and go from there". So in the morning we have a routine and bath time is at 8pm and I put her down for bed at 9. She STTN so we're usually the ones waking her up. I'll get up, get ready and then wake her up. So from like 8am to 8pm it's a free for all. Is that okay?
::stink eye::
My kid had a schedule-ish. Up around 7am, eat 3.5 oz every 3-4 hours, several naps with one long one in the afternoon, bed around 9pm, up twice at night. Boom.
But, within the past week, she's changed her eating patterns (more often, smaller amounts), taking shorter naps (moving around the long one and shortening its length) and sleeping like crap at night (up every three hours, restless and crying in those three hour stretches). U-G-H. She seems too young for the 4 month sleep regression time, but she's got all the symptoms.
Last night I was watching Jinger Duggar's wedding (my guilty pleasure!!!) and I saw commercials for the show Out-Daughtered about the family with quintuplets. My face was like 😳 watching them wrangle 5 babies.
I watch that show when I feel like dealing with my one newborn is too much.
My boobs are psychic. I kept telling my H that I will have spontaneous letdown right around the time DD wakes up from naps. I couldn't decide whether she was smelling milk and waking up. But just now I was all the way on the ground floor and my boobs started spewing. 30 seconds later I heard her wake up....on the 3rd floor. There's no way she smelled milk. The mother-baby bond is fascinating.
Post by redhead610 on Nov 16, 2016 10:38:21 GMT -5
joy , is it possible she needs to increase the amount of oz in each bottle? I feel like that's the last thing I always think of. Ds2 has been super fussy lately, and I increased each bottle by .5 oz last week and it seemed to help some. He also seems to be having a sleep regression, but I upped his last bottle before bed and that helped some.
joy , is it possible she needs to increase the amount of oz in each bottle? I feel like that's the last thing I always think of. Ds2 has been super fussy lately, and I increased each bottle by .5 oz last week and it seemed to help some. He also seems to be having a sleep regression, but I upped his last bottle before bed and that helped some.
We try and have been trying for a few weeks. I feel like she must need more. But, when I up it to 4, she spits up massively. When we keep it to 3.5 oz, she keeps most of it.
My reading says she should be having between 4 and 6 oz per feesing and we're under that. But, she's also small.
What parts of pumps are we supposed to replace between babies? I bought new membranes but not sure if anything else needs to be replaced after 1.5 years in storage. I'm suddenly regretting waiting this long to work on pumping and giving DD a bottle.
Also hi! I miss checking in here. We are finally feeling settled from our move. DS had started back at daycare and I'm enjoying one on one time with the baby. It feels like a break after having the two of them at home!
joy , is it possible she needs to increase the amount of oz in each bottle? I feel like that's the last thing I always think of. Ds2 has been super fussy lately, and I increased each bottle by .5 oz last week and it seemed to help some. He also seems to be having a sleep regression, but I upped his last bottle before bed and that helped some.
We try and have been trying for a few weeks. I feel like she must need more. But, when I up it to 4, she spits up massively. When we keep it to 3.5 oz, she keeps most of it.
My reading says she should be having between 4 and 6 oz per feesing and we're under that. But, she's also small.
I don't know. Haha. She's a full time puzzle.
Sorry it is rough. My older two started sleeping like junk between 6 and 8 weeks. It is why we sleep trained DD1 early as the pedi recommended.
Puzzle is how one of my 3TM friends describes her babies.
dc2london, Thanks for sharing the article about food allergies. The recommendations from the AAP have changed over time. Personally I think the omnipresence of GMOs and lack of oversight of pollutants in our food is a major factor for the exponential rise in life threatening food allergies, as well as ADHD, autism and asthma. Unfortunately I don't see it getting and better with the current president elect.
DS slept longer than he ever has last night, almost 6 hours. I woke up around 230 in anticipation of him crying to be fed but went back to sleep. I then slept for another 3+ hours and woke up in a panic that he stopped breathing. Maybe these 6 hour stretches will become the norm and I can sleep uninterrupted.
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Must be nice to have a baby STTN. Mine did for a few days a month ago but is now up every 3 hours all night.
remylove1011 it was a pain but I did eventually transition off the nipple shield. Start feeding with the shield then take it off midway through, that's a good way to start
After spending a weekend with family and friends it's been tough to be back here where I have no one. Being home just me and the baby all day everyday is really lonely. I know I need to get over my social anxiety and just pick a moms group and go to it, but then DH will have an interview and I feel like what's the point since we might end up moving, except I've now been saying that for a couple months. And then I worry that if I spend time with other babies I will compare DD to them and I already feel really guilty about how much it bothers me that she doesn't roll yet.
I also feel guilty for spending any time on my phone around the baby. I worry I'm not talking or singing to her enough or about the right things or using enough different words because I don't like doing it. I feel guilty for letting her chew on plastic toys and for being jealous that my sister will have a lot more control over what her kids are exposed to than I will. And I'm worried about the next four years and really want to volunteer my time but I don't know how to do that with a baby.
I feel guilty for not contributing to the household income and wasting 5 years of my life plus making us move out here for a PhD I'm not using. And I feel guilty for not having started job searching yet to fix that.
And then I worry that I'm not hiding my anxiety well enough and DD will pick up on it and be anxious too. :/ and I should see a therapist about all of the above but I need to find a new one since we moved and I don't want to deal with seeing a couple to find one I like and then spending several sessions going through all the background before we actually make any progress only to potentially have to do it again if we move.
pttomato honestly I think there's too much focus on stimulating kids. When honestly just talking to them and taking them places is stimulating enough. It's crazy to think that when I was in kindergarten I learned my ABCs and counting. Now my 2 year is learning that and Spanish at daycare. I'm not against it but sometimes I think it's too much. When DD is home I just let her play bc she learns so much at daycare. You are doing great!
When honestly just talking to them and taking them places is stimulating enough.
I feel like I'm failing at this too. We don't go a lot of places. Yesterday we didn't leave the house, today we went to the grocery store. Talking to her feels really unnatural to me so I'm worried I'm not doing it enough or that I'm not doing right.
Post by gratefulgirl on Nov 16, 2016 20:11:20 GMT -5
pttomato - ((hugs)). That is a lot of guilt! I hope you can let it go.
Your PhD has prepared you no matter what, even if it is to be the SAHM your kid needs. You'll find ways you can use that knowledge, in the professional work force and/or at home.
Kids neeeeeed independent play, even as babies. They need time to be self-directed and explore their world and process themselves. It fosters creativity and independence. Yes read to your LO and play with her. But some down and alone time is good for you both.
Once you start making a list of the "I shoulda" you can keep going forever. You have to find a reasonable point to stop the madness. Find the very few essentials - loving your kid and partner, meeting actual needs - and do those. The rest is what you chose, not what external voices say you "should" do.
When honestly just talking to them and taking them places is stimulating enough.
I feel like I'm failing at this too. We don't go a lot of places. Yesterday we didn't leave the house, today we went to the grocery store. Talking to her feels really unnatural to me so I'm worried I'm not doing it enough or that I'm not doing right.
With my first, it felt unnatural to talk to her too, but I bet you'll get used to it. I would just say what I was doing out loud. At first you feel silly, then it becomes second nature. Now with baby #2 I'm basically acting like a fool all day! 😜
I feel like I'm failing at this too. We don't go a lot of places. Yesterday we didn't leave the house, today we went to the grocery store. Talking to her feels really unnatural to me so I'm worried I'm not doing it enough or that I'm not doing right.
With my first, it felt unnatural to talk to her too, but I bet you'll get used to it. I would just say what I was doing out loud. At first you feel silly, then it becomes second nature. Now with baby #2 I'm basically acting like a fool all day! 😜
Also once they start talking (even single words) it is so much easier to chat. So even if it is forced at first it will get easier.
My H got home late from a family obligation in a really bad mood, and totally took it out on me. But just now I was in bed with DD since she's trying the big bed tonight. I was singing to her and she grabbed my hand, kissed my cheek, and said I love you. 😍😍
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