Post by spicysalmonroll on Feb 12, 2017 17:22:13 GMT -5
OK I know this can be a controversial topic because of some of the methods. I am NOT looking for opinions or fighting regarding different methods! I am purely curious if you used any method or not, yes or no, and what your outcome was.
DS is 6mo and he is a terrible sleeper (up 5-9 times a night). Always has been, not a regression. I currently don't or haven't used any methods, I simply give him snuggles or pacifier or boobs each time. People keep telling me I need to "train" him and I'm doing him a disservice if I don't. My sister never did and her 3 y/o doesn't sleep the night. Makes me wonder if my niece is just inherently a bad sleeper or if she could have had a different outcome with training...?
Post by summerbabe on Feb 12, 2017 17:28:48 GMT -5
We did, maybe around 5 months? My son sleeps 12 hours and is a solid napper. I'm sure that some of it just depends on the kid, but it was great for our fam.
I think it depends on your child. We didn't sleep train DS and he stopped waking at night around 11 months old. He's almost 4 now and still is a heavy sleeper who only wakes when he's sick.
I didn't do any sleep training and also breast fed for well over 2 years. If she wanted to eat at night then I fed her. She would wake up once or twice a night until 16 months and then no more.
She sleeps great and at nearly 3 years old; still loves her naps and sleeps 11-12 hours a night depending on what time I can put her to bed. I get home a bit later and want to see her so it can vary.
We did not with my son and he didn't start STTN until almost a year and a half ish. I'd like to do it with DD (almost 11 months) but don't know where to start. When she wakes up around 11 ish, MH rocks her and puts her back but when she wakes up at 3am, she just ends up in bed with us until it's time for us to get up. Not sure if we missed our shot.
This is where we are too. I didn't sleep train with our first but he's just a heavy sleeper so I feel like we were spoiled. With DD who is 20 months now she wakes around 12 or 1am and she seems like a more restless sleeper in general. I get lazy about things so she ends up in our bed.
Post by cinnamonsmiles on Feb 12, 2017 17:42:12 GMT -5
We sleep trained DS at 5.5 months. It got better for a little while, but he's still not a great sleeper despite several training times. He still wakes up MOTN for no understandable reason but will go back to sleep on his own.
Have not sleep trained DD because she would wake DS (and has when we have let her cry a bit in the past), but she sleeps fairly well unless she has gas. It's not worth having 2 kids screaming MOTN for me to bother at this point.
I think the greatest benefit is them being able to fall asleep independently. MOTN wakeups can still occur, but they can get themselves back to sleep without your help.
Yes. @hilarityensued convinced me and I never looked back. It was a game changer. My kid is a great sleeper now. I hear horror stories here and from co-workers about babies who don't sleep. I thank my lucky stars I listened. We were late in the game.
S was in our bed ending up multiple times a night. I moved him to his crib at 7 months and it only took a few nights for single wake-ups then he sttn.
Never sleep trained. Coslept for the time of extended bfing. Then coslept cause we liked it. Til we wanted to change and then moved them to their own beds/rooms.
No sleep issues to complain about. Everyone slept as they needed, and they still do.
I will admit we didn't sleep train. But he was always just good enough of a sleeper that it didn't sound necessary. He was sleeping at least six hours at a stretch at 4 months and stopped MOTN wake ups completely at 9 months. But also he spent time in the hospital for failure to thrive so we were super paranoid about feeding him at every opportunity for a really long time. We did have a major regression at about 18 months with him waking up for a couple hours around 2:00 almost every morning but neither of us were ever awake enough at that time of morning to attempt any kind of system.
No, DD had reflux and it seemed harsh. I did things to support sleep but not what you would call CIO/Ferber/etc. She started STTN (or, rather, falling back to sleep on her own) around 10 months. She was never a good mapper but she sleeps well at night.
No sleep training. Just militant about bedtime routine. We were #blesssed though and DD has been a good sleeper from the get go. I never rushed to her if she woke MOTN and she usually settled down. I can't say what I would have done if she was a bad sleeper. I might have tried a gentle method. But I know at 5-6 months I would not have been OK with CIO, but that's my issue.
Post by lupineaura on Feb 12, 2017 18:15:28 GMT -5
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Yes to sleep training. You're trading 1-3 nights of crying for wonderful, blissful, healthy uninterrupted sleep. It's good for everyone, especially the baby.
Both of my kids CIO around 7 or 8 months. Both sleep fabulously unless they're sick or something. Had to retrain my 5 year old a few times in his life but have zero regrets.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Feb 12, 2017 18:28:12 GMT -5
Well you guys are pretty persuasive! I tend to take my sister's advice just because she's a great mom but I may have to branch out on this one so we can start getting some damn sleep.
So any help.... I currently nurse to sleep and place in crib. I know all the "rules" say to put them in the crib awake. So what am I supposed to do when he always falls asleep nursing? How do I wake him.. just to put him in the crib with hopes of him falling asleep? That seems counterintuitive.
Post by silverspoon on Feb 12, 2017 18:39:43 GMT -5
Yes, at 8 months we did CIO.
I also waited until he could roll from his belly to his back to transition him into the crib. I put him on his belly and he settled pretty quickly. He does rely pretty heavily on his pacifier, but I'm not ready to fight that battle yet.
His sleep is pretty decent now at 1 unless he's sick.
Well you guys are pretty persuasive! I tend to take my sister's advice just because she's a great mom but I may have to branch out on this one so we can start getting some damn sleep.
So any help.... I currently nurse to sleep and place in crib. I know all the "rules" say to put them in the crib awake. So what am I supposed to do when he always falls asleep nursing? How do I wake him.. just to put him in the crib with hopes of him falling asleep? That seems counterintuitive.
I always nursed her to sleep and put her in her bed. I didn't see the point of fighting that battle. Not long after she turned a year, I would nurse before bed and put her in bed drowsy but awake.
Post by wildflower810 on Feb 12, 2017 18:50:26 GMT -5
We didn't. DS1 started sttn (8+ hours) around 10 months. From about 16 months on he's been sleeping 12+ hours through the night with wake ups only if he's sick or teething or something. The really early infant stage had me really complaining, but when wake ups involved me pulling him out of his bassinet, nursing half asleep, then putting him back, I got used to it. Now that he's old enough to know what bedtime is and falls asleep from wide awake every single night, I ignore crying/fussing/screaming/yelling for a drink for a good long while on the nights when he decides to throw a fit.
H used Ferber with DS. I used a modified version of Ferber along with other sleep methods I guess you would call them rather than train.
A little sleep lady shuffle a little pick up put down, some shush pat type stuff and Jay Gordon's night weaning methods.
DS slept through the night at 10 months had a regression at a year where I just turned off the monitor because he would play for an hour and go back to sleep. DD slept through the night at 14 months. I am talking 12 hours of sleep when I say slept through the night not this 5 hour crap.
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