Post by linewifekat on Feb 18, 2017 13:52:27 GMT -5
I told my husband he was going to have to start sleeping with DD1 because it makes me want to stab him with a dull knife when he is snoring next to me and I've been up for 4 hours trying to get DS2 to sleep. I think the post partum hormones have kicked in.
Post by littleredfish on Feb 18, 2017 14:32:04 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024 THOSE CHEEEEEKS!! I know it's hard to remember to take care of yourself. I'm having trouble with that myself and I could not imagine having to recover while my family is in 2 places. He will be with you soon and all of this will just be a memory.
The midwife was here first thing since she didn't make it to us yesterday. DS is still a lazy nurser and is down 10% of his birth weight. I think my milk finally came in overnight because by his 2am feed I could hear him clicking away instead of just the slow, lazy, occasional swallow. My breasts also just feel fuller so we're keeping up with the nursing on demand and syringe feeding during the day until he livens up a bit. If only he'd flip his days and nights we'd be set. He wants to sleep all day and party all night, little peanut.
Post by notagoddess on Feb 18, 2017 14:41:07 GMT -5
I'm in labor! I started getting frequent and intense contractions, less than 5 minutes apart, at 8:30pm. Since I was starting from nothing (no dilation or effacement at my appointment that morning) it's been a long process. I got the epidural a couple of hours ago to try to rest a little.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Feb 18, 2017 14:55:54 GMT -5
DS wanted daddy after his nap today instead of me. I'm actually doing well with this new "attached to daddy" development, since hopefully it will make the post baby time period a little easier. Of course things may change when I'm full of post partum hormones
My left nipple is bleeding....keep nursing on it? Or what?....we are working on her latch still but now I'm in pain from this stupid crack. It actually wasn't hurting any more until my breast pad ripped the scab off...awesome.
Post by dancerspose on Feb 18, 2017 16:10:40 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024 please be kind to yourself! I'm glad YH made you take some me time. I can't imagine how difficult this situation is for you. He is adorable though!
I am dangerously close to going to exclusively pumping. Z seems to have a really shallow latch that isn't getting any better and every time I think my nipples are healing they get torn up again. It's so painful. I feel awful and want to succeed but right now I cringe at the mere thought of her latching on.
flyinghorses6, I would try to keep nursing on it, maybe afterwards put some antibiotic ointment on it. I know it's a pain in the ass to wash it off before nursing, but it helps it heal faster (at least in my experience). At least some nipple butter/cream to keep the nursing pas/ bra/tank whatever from sticking. I also find nursing hurts less than pumping.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on Feb 18, 2017 16:28:44 GMT -5
flyinghorses6 - try lining the breast pad with some aquaphor, then put some more on your nips. Or try lanolin. The moist pad should help. And change it frequently. Also air time will help, though I know that's not always an option.
Exclusive pumping sucks. (See what I did there?) But seriously, my nips are so damn sore. Nursing C the one or two times a day (if I'm lucky) is such a relief compared to the damn pump. FX we get our latched worked out once the cannula comes off because I really don't wanna exclusively pump.
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Post by sweetieheart32 on Feb 18, 2017 17:46:09 GMT -5
What a sweet perfect little man you have there oldbaylover1024! 💖 Try and rest your own tired body, you have done an amazing job!! Pretty soon all this hard part will be behind you.
Post by linewifekat on Feb 18, 2017 17:52:15 GMT -5
flyinghorses6 can you get to a lactation consultant? Also rinse with saline and apply polysporin after every feeding. Polysporin is safe for babies to ingest but not neosporin.
She has a shallow latch most of the time. My nipples are way too big for her mouth and both nipples are cracked and scabbed and bleed. It's painful. I use lanolin but it still hurts.
Pumping isn't comfortable but it doesn't hurt. I've only pumped twice though just to build a tiny little supply in case of an emergency.
I called my hospital's LC "warm line" and am awaiting a call back. I don't want to make an emotional decision about feeding E, but sometimes it's hard not to. She's VERY handsy so that makes latching even more difficult and frustrating. Sometimes my frustration turns into anger and that's not good. I want nursing to be a bonding experience at best and a tolerable means to an end at worst. I don't want to grow to resent my baby for the pain I'm in or the amount of time it takes to feed her.
Does anyone else feel this way or am I a special kind of shitty mother?
Post by sweetieheart32 on Feb 18, 2017 18:12:58 GMT -5
Good luck notagoddess it's finally your day! flyinghorses6 I feel like we might be boob twins. It's one side that is the real problem. I have considered transferring to just feeding from one side, but also hadn't planned on being lopsided so soon this time around, either. I'm going to try to remember to apply balm after each feeding and hope that helps. To get to the point, mainly - good luck and I feel your pain!
The contractions are back full force but I have a feeling they will fizzle out tomorrow. My BP wasn't super high but wasn't great. I'm resting tonight because I barely slept and we're going back to check again in the morning. If its still high I'll do three readings and call my doctor to see what she says. But at least she's on so I'd get to see her and if she decides to induce it's with my doctor.
Naturally this could all change if I get any more high BP symptoms but we'll see.
flyinghorses6 can you get to a lactation consultant? Also rinse with saline and apply polysporin after every feeding. Polysporin is safe for babies to ingest but not neosporin.
Yes I totally could. I know I won't because I know the issues and the fixes...and I'm stubborn. I also feel like once this heals we will be cruising. I actually nursed her about 25 minutes that side and after the initial shock it was ok. I loaded up with lanolin after and a soothies pad...feels better and at least isn't stuck to the pad or my tank. We will see next time I go to nurse.
She has a shallow latch most of the time. My nipples are way too big for her mouth and both nipples are cracked and scabbed and bleed. It's painful. I use lanolin but it still hurts.
Pumping isn't comfortable but it doesn't hurt. I've only pumped twice though just to build a tiny little supply in case of an emergency.
I called my hospital's LC "warm line" and am awaiting a call back. I don't want to make an emotional decision about feeding E, but sometimes it's hard not to. She's VERY handsy so that makes latching even more difficult and frustrating. Sometimes my frustration turns into anger and that's not good. I want nursing to be a bonding experience at best and a tolerable means to an end at worst. I don't want to grow to resent my baby for the pain I'm in or the amount of time it takes to feed her.
Does anyone else feel this way or am I a special kind of shitty mother?
Your last few sentences are EXACTLY how I feel. It absolutely does not make you a shitty anything. Right now I don't feel like nursing will ever be a bonding experience for us. All I'm aiming for now is to be successful so we reach a convenient means to and end. I've been attached to the pump the past 3 weeks and it's no fun, but I've only had a few tolerable nursing experiences. The LC I've been working with has been amazing and makes me feel in no way a failure, but when I'm on my own at home we just never seem to get it right. It's so discouraging. My best advice for you is to find an LC you're comfortable with, and who is open minded enough to work with you to teach whatever end is best for you and baby (not someone who will make you feel badly if for some reason you can't successfully nurse).
She has a shallow latch most of the time. My nipples are way too big for her mouth and both nipples are cracked and scabbed and bleed. It's painful. I use lanolin but it still hurts.
Pumping isn't comfortable but it doesn't hurt. I've only pumped twice though just to build a tiny little supply in case of an emergency.
I called my hospital's LC "warm line" and am awaiting a call back. I don't want to make an emotional decision about feeding E, but sometimes it's hard not to. She's VERY handsy so that makes latching even more difficult and frustrating. Sometimes my frustration turns into anger and that's not good. I want nursing to be a bonding experience at best and a tolerable means to an end at worst. I don't want to grow to resent my baby for the pain I'm in or the amount of time it takes to feed her.
Does anyone else feel this way or am I a special kind of shitty mother?
Your last few sentences are EXACTLY how I feel. It absolutely does not make you a shitty anything. Right now I don't feel like nursing will ever be a bonding experience for us. All I'm aiming for now is to be successful so we reach a convenient means to and end. I've been attached to the pump the past 3 weeks and it's no fun, but I've only had a few tolerable nursing experiences. The LC I've been working with has been amazing and makes me feel in no way a failure, but when I'm on my own at home we just never seem to get it right. It's so discouraging. My best advice for you is to find an LC you're comfortable with, and who is open minded enough to work with you to teach whatever end is best for you and baby (not someone who will make you feel badly if for some reason you can't successfully nurse).
All of this. Nursing for me has never been comfortable, easy, convienient or any of those glowing terms one might hear breastfeeding enthusiasts use. Pumping is notably easier on me, but even that is a struggle- although I'm making it harder on myself by holding out on buying a pumping bra.
Only you know when enough is enough. Personally, I'm approaching my threshold rapidly. Trying really hard to make peace with it.
She has a shallow latch most of the time. My nipples are way too big for her mouth and both nipples are cracked and scabbed and bleed. It's painful. I use lanolin but it still hurts.
Pumping isn't comfortable but it doesn't hurt. I've only pumped twice though just to build a tiny little supply in case of an emergency.
I called my hospital's LC "warm line" and am awaiting a call back. I don't want to make an emotional decision about feeding E, but sometimes it's hard not to. She's VERY handsy so that makes latching even more difficult and frustrating. Sometimes my frustration turns into anger and that's not good. I want nursing to be a bonding experience at best and a tolerable means to an end at worst. I don't want to grow to resent my baby for the pain I'm in or the amount of time it takes to feed her.
Does anyone else feel this way or am I a special kind of shitty mother?
You're being way too hard on yourself. You need to give yourself some grace and be gentle with yourself.
1. Feeding babies is hard. Nursing is hard. Bottle feeding is hard. Pumping is hard.
2. BFing might be natural, but it does not come naturally. It takes work and practice. Unfortunately our bodies bear the brunt of that practice.
3. Sleep deprivation makes it all worse.
I agree with you that you shouldn't make an emotional decision. But that doesn't mean you can't make an emotional decision for one feeding. Tell your H you need him to cover a feeding and use some pumped milk or some formula. You can pump instead. Take some of the pressure off yourself for one feeding.
Knowing when to walk away for a second is maybe the most important thing I've learned in the past 3 years. It's hard. But knowing when to hand someone a bottle or when walk into another room to count to 10 or when to put baby down in her crib for a few minutes regardless of how much she's crying is the most important thing you can do for your sanity.
Super big hugs for all the struggling nursing mamas. I went through hell with DD for a good 5-6 weeks before finding a groove. I dreaded every latch. It's so frustrating that something so natural should be so hard.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Feb 18, 2017 19:09:27 GMT -5
Thank you for your encouragement, shellbell. I know that you're right about making an emotional decision for one feeding. That's why I've started pumping to build up a small supply for when I can't handle it.
Thank you for your encouragement, shellbell. I know that you're right about making an emotional decision for one feeding. That's why I've started pumping to build up a small supply for when I can't handle it.
Hugs. I just want to be a good mom.
You are a good mom. Realizing that you need a break is a good thing. Seriously, it's a tough task feeding a baby, no matter how it's done. Allow YH to take over sometimes. Walk away. Take a deep breath. But also realize that it's okay to change tactic if something isn't working in the moment.
Again, you're doing a wonderful job, and you're a good mom. ((Hugs))
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