On topic: Yay preggles! Bring on your siggies! Yay fewer complaining daily threads!
Off topic: Holy snikes, I think this got lost in the shuffle - akraus2015 - your FI is having a SIX DAY bachelor party? Who are these friends that can manage to go to Vegas for six days? Who survives Vegas for 6 days? I'm pretty much spent after like 3 nights in Vegas.
Haha yes, 6 days. I'm terrified it's going to be like The Hangover. I hope they all make it back!
Post by bunnyfungo on Mar 20, 2015 10:05:54 GMT -5
As someone who has never faced the struggles of 3TIF, I can't possibly assume to speak to what they are feeling. However, my hope is that they feel comfortable here the majority of the time. The times when they are having particularly tough IF days could be the times they disable siggies. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. You can turn them on and off as often as you'd like. Hopefully this didn't come out as insensitive in any way.
Post by britterrss on Mar 20, 2015 10:50:26 GMT -5
*caught up*
WTAF is going on in here?! 13 pages of people agreeing and hugging!?
But SRSLY I agree with all of it, too.
I don't think signatures should be disabled. I hate the daily complaining/negative threads, so I don't go in them. I like TTC questions having their own posts - I don't click into Newbie Playdate or really long threads (except for this one and other importants) and I'm a sciency gal that could probably answer some questions. I'm glad the pregs can come play.
If anyone ever complains about their pregnancy on GKU, they're an asshole and deserve all the flames and post-its. I feel like this shouldn't be hard. I'm sure it will still happen, and I'm sure that all the other pregnants will bitch out that TCFer right along with those still TTC.
I think anyone who actually spent time on TTGP would agree that's fair. Different boards for different things, totally understandable.
DX: Unexplained, possible Endo. October 2014: Letrozole + Trigger + IUI = BFP!!! Beta #1: 32 Beta #2: 77. Little Miss E born July 9th, 2015 Previously DarcyHermione
TL;DR: I'm at a point where I can deal with siggys and tickers just fine, but I can envision a time when that wouldn't be the case. I can also imagine a time when I'd want to display one with bells on. I don't know what the correct thing is but I don't want my friends on either side of the spectrum to feel uncomfortable posting. I want it all!
On topic: Yay preggles! Bring on your siggies! Yay fewer complaining daily threads!
Off topic: Holy snikes, I think this got lost in the shuffle - akraus2015 - your FI is having a SIX DAY bachelor party? Who are these friends that can manage to go to Vegas for six days? Who survives Vegas for 6 days? I'm pretty much spent after like 3 nights in Vegas.
Haha yes, 6 days. I'm terrified it's going to be like The Hangover. I hope they all make it back!
6. This hasn't been addressed here, but since we're on the topic of board culture/organization -- I have always liked the idea of daily threads (Bitchfest Monday, UO Thursday, etc.) but I think it's a bit much to have three days dedicated to complaining in a row (Bitchfest Monday, Twatwaffle Tuesday, WTF Wednesday). I don't really see a difference between the three and TBH I have stopped reading them most of the time because I am can only take a certain amount of whining and complaining before I just DGAF. I know these daily threads have been around for a lot longer than I have been on TB/TCF, but I imagine I'm not the only person who feels this way. Yes, I can of course choose not to open them and most of the time now, I don't. But maybe we could think about introducing some other recurring threads that are a bit more creative than the bitching ones.
7. The second-best part of this thread (other than seeing my KU lovelies posting!) is the historic olive branch creating a rainbow of harmony between ghostmonkey and frankenboom. Unity horse!
So Monday Bitchfest, Thankful Tuesday or Ten Thing Tuesday, and Wednesday Wanderlust? I could get behind that. My only worry about Wednesday Wanderlust is that like the Man Crush Monday it would die off because there are only so many travel ideas. Unless it was also open to discussing recent vacations and the pros and cons of each rather than just dream places. Idk though
I feel like we could keep bitchfest and WTF because they're separated by a day and really, Monday and Wednesday are the crankiest days of the week.
I like 10 things Tuesday more than Thankful Tuesday. It's different.
Also, nachobutt, I know you would appreciate this gif. Stop celebrating your stupid birthday and get in hurr.
WHY did I have to turn 30, and go away on vacation to celebrate?? I'm missing some of my favorite things. That's ok, I'll make up for it when I get back. Get Ready GKU....
I made it to page 25 giving all sorts of love tits and now I kind of give up on the rest of the 13 pages.
I mostly lurk so I don't have a very strong opinion. I just feel like people who do get a BFP should be able to post here as well if they have something to offer the discussion. I would find it hard to lock the door behind a valued member in that fashion. If we choose to hide signatures, would that also mean hiding things like profile pictures that include children? My profile picture is one of them that comes to mind.
I think by now it seems people are okay with signatures and stickers and such, so I'm probably rehashing things that were already said but wanted to give my input anyway.
Oh, and regarding Newbie Playdates, here is my suggestion, which you may take or leave:
The original got super long and people got hesitant about posting in it. But if it's not pinned, it gets buried. Could we get a regular post pinned to the top from a mod that explains what the newbie playdate is, but which gets unpinned/replaced after, say, 20 pages?
See, I don't think a Newbie Playdate is necessary at all.
This is a Trying to Conceive Board. It's built for asking questions. All those kind of questions should be in threads. And then when they're in threads, they become searchable.
Even calling it "The Newbie Playdate" is troublesome to me. It's not at all describing what it is.
I liked them when they came around once every four months.
I'm clearly SEVERAL pages behind, but I wanted to comment on this. I run a forum (well, I'm in semi-retirement, but I still own it) for husky owners. A similar thing happened several years back where the main board we all knew and loved imploded and a few of us branched off to start another. We kept it quiet at first, but eventually people found us and we ended up surpassing the old, dead board in activity. But I digress...
My point that I wanted to make is, we had to find a solution to the same problems and I think you're hurting your ability to fix that problem by demanding there are certain long winded threads like the "Newbie Playdate" to encompass all "annoying questions." See, those annoying questions are actually helping you-- when you have threads started about particular topics, that makes those topics searchable. When they are more searchable for posters (and newbs) they are more searchable for the Google Bots, Bing Bots, Yahoo Bots, etc that drive SEO traffic this way. You want this board to be more active and less boring? Start letting people post topically relevant discussions.
THEN, when people start posting on repetitive topics, you can double whammy the SEO-- by replying in that thread with links to the other threads that already answered that topic. It will a) encourage newbs to use the search button because they realize it's already been asked, and b) draw more people to the forum because you're linking within your own site (which already drives up SEO).
I guess the moral of this super long-winded post is that you're hurting yourself by discouraging people from posting in main board about specific questions. You WANT those specific questions to drive traffic. If the answers to those specific questions keeps getting buried in WTO/TWW, randoms, or drinking threads, then people will never be able to actually search for the answers they need (like you want them to) and you will be hurting your ability to drive traffic to the board. The key is: the more organized your board is (by topic, making it searchable), the more you're going to increase traffic and thus, solve your problem of people posting repetitive questions to begin with.
Hope this helps and I wasn't too repetitive (since I'm replying to something so old)-- I'm going back to page 3 to continue reading...
Met 06/27/2004. Fell in love 09/30/2005. Adopted our pups 7/08 & 2/10. Bought a house 12/29/10. Married 10/8/11. TTC Baby #1 December 2014. BFP 4/16/2015 EDD 12/25/2015 DD Born 12/28/2015
I would really like questions in new topics on the main page, it helps people learn more and gives them more opportunities to answer and participate.
Also, I like seeing people I recognize that are pregnant posting. It makes me happy.
Have never read the newbie play dates.
Would answer questions if they were asked on the board.
/anecdote
QFT. This is another reason the long-winded "Newbie Playdate" is counterproductive. Not many people want to read through pages of posts to see if they can help or find something to learn about. You'll actually encourage more activity if posts are organized by topic instead.
Met 06/27/2004. Fell in love 09/30/2005. Adopted our pups 7/08 & 2/10. Bought a house 12/29/10. Married 10/8/11. TTC Baby #1 December 2014. BFP 4/16/2015 EDD 12/25/2015 DD Born 12/28/2015
Late to the party! I was just thinking how I've totally lost touch with so many. I think the drama and switch to the new boards played a part. Miss you too juliayadda, I hope you are doing well! I'll try to pop by this board more often. I just realized I've totally missed on the grad posts, are those still going on?
Late to the party! I was just thinking how I've totally lost touch with so many. I think the drama and switch to the new boards played a part. Miss you too juliayadda, I hope you are doing well! I'll try to pop by this board more often. I just realized I've totally missed on the grad posts, are those still going on?
Post by teenybenoit on Mar 22, 2015 12:58:11 GMT -5
I'm not sure where I stand on this, I like random posts, I like the polls and the GTKU posts, I tend to stay out of the WTO and TWW because I'm on mobile and it's impossible to copy and paste to add all my details so usually if I need a chart stock I stray from the format and just ask for one. At the same time, if a random has more then 2 pages to it, I stop at the 2nd page cause I don't have that much time on here and when I try to come back I've lost where I stopped last...
Post by heatherj9603 on Mar 22, 2015 14:20:42 GMT -5
Ok I didn't read through ALL of this, but here's my two cents.
I agree in searching the first page for similar questions. Which means people should really put part of their subject IN the title. (Cm question) instead of just saying I have a question. Or "question about charting" things like that. I usually don't click on the I have a question ones. Real me in with your title. I don't click on the IVF/IUI threads because I have zero experience with either, so titles are important!
I am noticing a trend (which was on the other place too) of regulars posting multiple randoms a day, but when a newbie tries to join and start a random, she gets jumped on for posting too many randoms. I enjoy a good random candy thread or other random topics, but multiples from the same person (new or regular) is overkill.
Uhh I feel like I have more but I'm still on narcotics, so yeah.....lol
ETA: Im also glad there arnt as many "this tww is killing me" posts. That's what the daily tww thread is for! Just the same as I'll post about being benched in our weekly check In. I don't need to make a seperate posts about the struggles of being benched.
Last Edit: Mar 22, 2015 14:22:54 GMT -5 by heatherj9603
bcp free since 2009~*~ttc since 2012~*~fibroid diagnosed 1/8/15, myomectomy 3/17/15~*~golf ball sized fibroid at the front of uterus removed, no blocked tubes. ~*~benched Til September 2015 for recovery ~*~
3T April siggy challenge. Animal hybrids. The Pugorilla!
I took the weekend off, so I am late to the party, but I have to say it is so awesome to lurk over here and find out I don't have to always stealth lurk now. This is amazing news!
HAI GKU!! ::waves excitedly::
Your siggy makes me so happy. I hope you're doing well.
DX: Unexplained, possible Endo. October 2014: Letrozole + Trigger + IUI = BFP!!! Beta #1: 32 Beta #2: 77. Little Miss E born July 9th, 2015 Previously DarcyHermione
I have never been offended by people's siggies, and you all know I had a loss. Other people's lives aren't about mine, and I was able to be happy for them even when I wasn't happy in my own situation. If we all had to stifle our joy it would be a very quiet world.
Posting while reading, but I love this.
My BFF and I were pregnant together; I lost my son, she didn't. Her happiness is not my sadness. I feel the same here. If I'm having a rough day, I don't facetime by BFF. I hang around CAL. If I'm having a good day, I venture out and can choose to hide siggies if needed. IMO, this isn't a loss board, and I would love to see pregnant members return with their gifs and wisdom, siggies included.
ETA/FWIW: I see much of this has already been covered in pages 1-14! I'm relatively new here - I was only ever on my BMB on TD and have been in GKU and CAL since the move to TCF. I also post more in the randoms/daily/drinking type threads here in GKU than I do in WTO and TWW because while I temp religiously and track my signs and I have asked specific questions before (thanks especially to joy!), venting/talking about the waiting actually stresses me out more and isn't helpful for me while TTCAL... I hope that's ok!
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