Post by Leapinglizards on Jan 29, 2015 7:55:39 GMT -5
LO only fed twice last night! I have figured out I have to put her in the crib to go to sleep when she is asleep enough that being moved only lightly wakes her up. I know you aren't supposed to do that but whatever works. I can't believe she actually is sleeping in the crib. She only cried for like two seconds last night. She woke up around midnight to feed and then again around 2:30. I shouldn't have gotten her for the 2:30 but sometimes instincts win before I actually wake up to think about what I am doing. She woke up two other times but coo'd herself back to sleep. It was awesome to get some sleep. I did move her into the PnP in our room after her first feeding. I need to grow a pair but I hate not having her right there beside me.
Post by pregsmcsnooznomore on Jan 29, 2015 10:39:01 GMT -5
ladytiffany24 It's crazy amazing! I was anti-ferber at first, too (before I read his book)...but now I would give him a big wet kiss on the mouth!
We have been doing night weaning at the same time, slowly moving his feedings later and/or nursing for shorter durations. Last night I nursed him and put him down at 7:49 (and he was fast asleep at 7:50!!) and he didn't nurse again until he woke up for the morning at 5:30am.
I saw your earlier post about what to do about engorged breasts and worrying about a dip in supply. I have resigned myself to pumping sometime between 1-3am. I get 8-10 ounces of milk, but it wakes me up so much I have a hard time going back to sleep. I see you just kept up some nighttime feeding.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Jan 29, 2015 11:15:51 GMT -5
pregsmcsnooznomore Yea, I just kept up with night feedings. But then again, I'm not overly concerned with night weaning just yet. I actually don't mind it right now because it gives me some special bonding time. But ask me about it again in a couple of months when I'm sick of waking up to feed her 1-2 times a night!
When I nurse her at night, she gets suppppper sleepy. I have to be careful not to let her fall asleep on the boob because I know she needs to keep up with putting herself to sleep. I guess nursing for a shorter duration might actually help that and then with that she might even end up night weaning on her own. We'll see!
Post by ladytiffany24 on Jan 29, 2015 11:25:09 GMT -5
@zerozeroone Care to share the tips she gave you regarding weaning from the pump? I'd like to do the same thing in a few months and am just curious of what she suggests.
Don't. No one wants to hurt their babies. We do this because we know (hope?) that in the long run they are going to be happier, well rested babies by learning the very important skill of being able to put themselves to sleep. And unless there is something out of the ordinary wrong (diaper, teeth, illness) their crying/fussing is not hurting them.
And as mothers their crying sets off a crazy button inside of us that panics and wants to fix it immediately. And mommy guilt is real. Try not to beat yourself up about it. It's you and your DHs business how you chose to care for your LO. Trust that you are doing the best you can. That is all you can do ?
I feel guilty about it as well when I read articles and that's just with me letting LO cry for 5 minutes at a time. (I did 10 minutes twice and I don't know that I could do that again, just a personal thing on what works for us). I'll go in and pick her up and rock her and calm her down and then put her back in her crib, sometimes she cries for a few more minutes sometimes she doesn't. It's amazing how much the Internet and moms you don't know and who don't know you, your LO or anything about either of you can make you feel like the worst mother in the world. At the end of the day I fully believe you need to go with your mom instinct on what is best for you and your LO. I don't see how there can logically be a "one size fits all" solution.
I hate that they assume that my LO is becoming detached from me. It's hard enough to be a working mom and deal with knowing you have to be away from your child all day and that they learn to be okay with that.....reading articles that they claim Im choosing to make her even more detached because I can't physically continue to live with DD wanting to be held by me ALL night long? (Wouldn't even lay next to me in bed, had to physically be cradled for 8 straight hours.) That's just cruel of other people to suggest, IMO.
Post by Leapinglizards on Jan 30, 2015 5:11:26 GMT -5
Holy shit LO slept from 8 till 5. She probably would have slept more but I didn't want to ignore her whimpering at 5am. Please please let this not be a fluke. i still woke up a couple times to make sure she was moving on the monitor. I just didn't go in to soothe her when she woke up at 11. By the time 5 mins had passed she was back asleep. I am at my parents house and hoping that Once we get back we don't have to start from scratch again
Post by isolemnlyswear on Jan 30, 2015 8:36:15 GMT -5
Thanks ladies! I called my BIL and he swears it wasn't aimed at me. He said that he just put it up there because my mom and him were talking about the benefits of co- sleeping ( they do it.. my nephew is 4 ) and that article supported their ideals. It still seems fishy.... but I let it go.
Baby slept last night from 7:45pm to 5:35 am without making a peep! I might have to change my name back to pregsmcsnoozalot
Ferber, I heart you.
This is awesome. We're still having some success other than her waking up to feed. Like I said before, I'm not overly concerned with trying to wean her from these yet,but boy it sure would be nice to get more nights of uninterrupted sleep!
I'm so impressed with all of you having the balls to sleep train! LO has been a great sleeper from the get go, so we've never really had to.
I equate it with never having to really study in school, and then college being super hard because you have no study skills!
Our issue is now with naps (on the weekends, she's all good at daycare), and when we travel (she doesn't like sleeping in her PNP as much, and we're rarely in a place where we can let her fuss for 10-15 before she falls asleep like we might do at home. Anyone have any travel sleep advice?
I got ferber's book and have been slowly weaning DD of sleep associations over the past few days (swaddle, nursing to sleep, paci). I've been putting her down sleepy but awake for regular naps and those have been WONDERFUL. Junie now takes 2 or 3 at least 30 min naps-- this is after weeks of her taking bitty 10 min naps twice a day. She'll cry for about 5-10 minutes, then she's out instantly. We did this for bedtime last night and it was great too. Put her down around and she halfheartedly protested on and off until almost 9:30. I never did a check because it was such tired weak crying. I felt like she was about to drop off any second. Plus, June gets REALLY mad when we come in and leave again. So she cried a bit. Then she was out. Woke up around 11:30 but we let her cry for 5 min and she fell back to sleep quickly. I fed her when she woke at 2:30 and put her back to bed awake. No fussing. Then I got her up just before 7! Easy peasy compared to the "up every 2 hour" fests she's been hosting for months!!
Has anyone successfully weaned a baby off a paci for sleep? DD loves her paci, but the last couple weeks have been AWFUL. She's 6 mo and now waking every 1-2 hrs easily every night. I have to hold the paci in and pat her back for like 20 min to get her back to sleep. If I don't, she spits it out, screams, I put it back, rinse repeat. We've transitioned her from a swaddle to a loose arms up swaddle, so she could suck her hands, but she only seems to want the paci.
I don't know what to try. I don't want to let her cry and she seems to just work herself up with crying anyway. How do I lose the stupid paci?
Thanks ladies! I called my BIL and he swears it wasn't aimed at me. He said that he just put it up there because my mom and him were talking about the benefits of co- sleeping ( they do it.. my nephew is 4 ) and that article supported their ideals. It still seems fishy.... but I let it go.
Don't you love how the people who don't have to get up with a baby 16 times at night make you feel guilty for trying to do something that will help both you and the baby?
I let my 4 y/o sleep with me when DH is away but he knows when Dad is home he sleeps in his own bed. It's important to our marriage to keep our bed kid-free when we can (but we are sleep-deprived parents of small children so there are nights when we end up with one in bed with us or DH ends up in DS1's bed!)
Post by ladytiffany24 on Feb 3, 2015 7:55:45 GMT -5
DD has been doing so good. But man, we hit a rough patch last night. She was fussy all evening before we put her down and then she was up every 2-3 hours. Idk if she's trying to get sick, is starting to teeth or was just having a rough night. But man, it sucked. And reminded me of why I sleep trained in the first place. Here's to hoping it was just a fluke!
Post by ladytiffany24 on Feb 3, 2015 9:46:10 GMT -5
Lola We did alternate and that worked out well. And no, LO seemed to cry at the same frequency before, during and after visits at first.
EDIT: I have heard of many LO's who do get more upset during the visits or right after. So if that is the case for you, I'm sure there on some on this board who can lend some advice.
DD has been doing so good. But man, we hit a rough patch last night. She was fussy all evening before we put her down and then she was up every 2-3 hours. Idk if she's trying to get sick, is starting to teeth or was just having a rough night. But man, it sucked. And reminded me of why I sleep trained in the first place. Here's to hoping it was just a fluke!
That was us Sunday night/Monday morning. I fed him at 10:30, he was crying for food at 1am and he fed till 1:30, then he was fussing a lot at 4am. I couldn't figure out what was going on with him, either. We had a much, much better night last night. (Though admittedly, maybe he cried and I don't know it? I was so exhausted from being sick I may have slept through it because my body just couldn't take not sleeping anymore.) I keep thinking he's teething, but never see any sign of teeth.
Does anyone really know at what "age" they stop needing a nighttime feeding? I'm assuming it's different for each child, her doctor said she should not be eating at all in the middle of the night and to let her CIO, but I seriously can't. We have a bedtime routine and she goes down great, she sleeps from 7:30-2, eats, then sleeps 2ish- 6.
Does anyone really know at what "age" they stop needing a nighttime feeding? I'm assuming it's different for each child, her doctor said she should not be eating at all in the middle of the night and to let her CIO, but I seriously can't. We have a bedtime routine and she goes down great, she sleeps from 7:30-2, eats, then sleeps 2ish- 6.
I'm wondering about that, too!
What I do, is I put him down between 7-7:30pm. I let him dreamfeed at about 10:30, and I get in bed a bit after 11pm. On good nights, he makes it till 6:30am which is my normal wake up time during the week.
At our 4 month appointment, the pediatrician said it was normal for babies to need a feeding between 11pm-6am up through 9 months. But then at the 6 month they asked if he was sleeping through the night (and for my purposes, I said yes.) Then of course I forgot to ask them if I should drop the dreamfeed, or when I should drop it. (Way to drop the ball, brain.)
Post by honeybee434 on Feb 3, 2015 20:10:54 GMT -5
DD usually wants to wake up at least twice in the middle of the night to eat. I can do CIO to get her to go to sleep in her crib, but I couldn't do it to take a feeding out in the middle of the night. I just don't have that in me. I'm really hoping that she grows out of the feedings on her own!
Post by hurricanerek on Feb 3, 2015 20:29:18 GMT -5
My LO still eats every 2-3 hrs at night. When she turns 6 months (next week) and I get the okay from the ped, I'm going to start weaning her of her night feedings. Sleepeasy Solution has a logical method that involves waking baby up for feedings and slowly lessening the amount of time eating per session. Hopefully it works because I'd love to get more sleep.
My LO still eats every 2-3 hrs at night. When she turns 6 months (next week) and I get the okay from the ped, I'm going to start weaning her of her night feedings. Sleepeasy Solution has a logical method that involves waking baby up for feedings and slowly lessening the amount of time eating per session. Hopefully it works because I'd love to get more sleep.
I was reading about that last night when I was trying to figure out if I should still be feeding LO before I go to bed or not. The theory behind it sounded reasonable and like a good idea!
I'm still torn about the 10:30 feeding I do. I hate waking LO up to feed him, but normally he latches pretty well for the dreamfeed. The last couple of nights, he'd eat for a few minutes then whimper and roll over to sleep. It makes me wonder if maybe he either doesn't want/need the feed, or what. I'm hesitant to just drop it.
There is a chapter in the Ferber book about it too. Last night was the first night for us, and it went ok. The longest awake/crying period was about 30 min. Only 1 10 min check and then he was asleep. He did wake up every 2.5 hours to eat, which was his norm. Tonight we are stretching that to 3 hours and decreasing to 5 oz bottles.
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