The NEW Official Sleep Training thread!

[isolemnlyswear]

Put LO down at 6:45 and she slept till 5! She did wake up twice before 10pm but both times she went back to sleep before the check time! Hooray!! Oh and DH is a believer now

[ladytiffany24]

It's looking like we're going to be doing some retraining this weekend.

DD wasn't doing too well prior to getting sick. Then was sick with a cold and low-grade fever Thursday-Saturday night so there wasn't much sleep then. And what little was had, was had in our bed. Ugh!

[dawnfire]

So LO slept in his nursery for the first time starting last Thursday night. He's a little rockstar at it...his Mommy, not so much! Even with the monitor, my body just wouldn't relax at all. I think I only slept the past 2 nights because my body was just exhausted.

But I still nurse him nightly at 10:30pm. I keep the nursing pretty short (down to about 6 or 7 minutes from what was formerly a nursing marathon of like 30-45 minutes.) I'm trying to see if I can phase out that feeding but I don't want it to backfire on me in the middle of a workweek!

[honeybee434]

Feb 16, 2015 19:42:39 GMT -5 dawnfire said:

So LO slept in his nursery for the first time starting last Thursday night. He's a little rockstar at it...his Mommy, not so much! Even with the monitor, my body just wouldn't relax at all. I think I only slept the past 2 nights because my body was just exhausted.

But I still nurse him nightly at 10:30pm. I keep the nursing pretty short (down to about 6 or 7 minutes from what was formerly a nursing marathon of like 30-45 minutes.) I'm trying to see if I can phase out that feeding but I don't want it to backfire on me in the middle of a workweek!

I still sleep in the guest room which is right next to her nursery instead of in the master which is all the way across the house. Going on week 3 and I don't know when I'm going to be able to move back.....

[Deleted]

Feb 16, 2015 20:27:28 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

Feb 16, 2015 19:42:39 GMT -5 dawnfire said:

So LO slept in his nursery for the first time starting last Thursday night. He's a little rockstar at it...his Mommy, not so much! Even with the monitor, my body just wouldn't relax at all. I think I only slept the past 2 nights because my body was just exhausted.

But I still nurse him nightly at 10:30pm. I keep the nursing pretty short (down to about 6 or 7 minutes from what was formerly a nursing marathon of like 30-45 minutes.) I'm trying to see if I can phase out that feeding but I don't want it to backfire on me in the middle of a workweek!

I still sleep in the guest room which is right next to her nursery instead of in the master which is all the way across the house. Going on week 3 and I don't know when I'm going to be able to move back.....

Aww you're a great mama for staying so close. Whenever you're ready to move back to your own room is fine. I wouldn't rush it! I'm lucky, my bedroom is right across from lo's nursery!

[lucanjo14]

So I posted in another thread about wanting to start sleep training. Figured it is more appropriate to follow up/ask questions in this thread though.
My LO can pull himself up to standing in the crib; the few times we have given him a few minutes to see if he would put himself to sleep he will just pull up to standing and scream, and then eventually falls backwards in the crib, sometimes hitting his head on the side. Obviously I can't just let him cry if he hits his head, but any advice about what to do once he's standing and crying in the crib?

[Liv]

Feb 18, 2015 19:41:07 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

So I posted in another thread about wanting to start sleep training. Figured it is more appropriate to follow up/ask questions in this thread though.
My LO can pull himself up to standing in the crib; the few times we have given him a few minutes to see if he would put himself to sleep he will just pull up to standing and scream, and then eventually falls backwards in the crib, sometimes hitting his head on the side. Obviously I can't just let him cry if he hits his head, but any advice about what to do once he's standing and crying in the crib?

Sorry no advice here-- that sounds tricky! Maybe some sort of bumper system just on the back wall of the crib (since I'm assuming it's the side opposite the wall he's pulling up on)?

[littlemissmarla]

I haven't read through this whole thread or the previous one on TB, but i'm hoping someone could provide some insight on some sleep problems we have been having.

I have yet to read any sleep training books, I downloaded the one about the Ferber method on my kindle but i'm not sure if our situation applies. DD doesn't cry at night at all, it's a whole other kind of mayhem.

DD will take her last bottle at around 7pm (8-9oz) and usually fall asleep after it. Sometimes she is awake and we will put her down and eventually she will nod off after some babbling and yelling - but no crying.

11:30 she has to take her medicine for her hemangioma and has to have a bottle (3-4oz) with it, DH will get her and she will sleep through it and has no problem going back in the crib.

ETA: we have a few more weeks of the 11:30 wakeups - so no idea if this is contributing to her waking up later or how it will affect her sleeping habits. 

- cue middle of the night - USUALLY, but it can vary.. DD wakes up around 3:30am either A. wide awake chatting/babbling/fooling around or B. grunting and growling like a maniac. This awake period tends to last around 2 hours and then she goes back to sleep. I feel like i've tried everything to get her back to sleep but nothing is working.

We're so not sure of what the grunting/growling is about:
-Not hungry, I have fed her but it rarely will help her go back to sleep and she just ate at 11:30
-Not in pain because the minute I go in to check on her she is smiling and laughing
We have read that the grunting could be just a noise she likes to make, she was doing this a few months ago but usually during the day and it died down.

I have used her glow seahorse which helps her fall asleep, changed her diaper, fed her, put on her mobile, rocked her, let her sleep on her belly (to which a good portion of the time she just rolls on her side and to her back).

I have no idea if there are any sleep training that would apply here. She's not crying so I can't work on teaching her how to self soothe because 50% of the time she's in a good mood. The other half of the time when she's grunting, she does it so much and so loud I don't know if this is her version of crying and if I should go with that and substitute the grunting for crying for a sleep training method.

If anyone can HELP! I'd be so appreciative.. last night was so exhausting and frustrating.

[Lola]

Feb 24, 2015 21:16:47 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

I haven't read through this whole thread or the previous one on TB, but i'm hoping someone could provide some insight on some sleep problems we have been having.

I have yet to read any sleep training books, I downloaded the one about the Ferber method on my kindle but i'm not sure if our situation applies. DD doesn't cry at night at all, it's a whole other kind of mayhem.

DD will take her last bottle at around 7pm (8-9oz) and usually fall asleep after it. Sometimes she is awake and we will put her down and eventually she will nod off after some babbling and yelling - but no crying.

11:30 she has to take her medicine for her hemangioma and has to have a bottle (3-4oz) with it, DH will get her and she will sleep through it and has no problem going back in the crib.

ETA: we have a few more weeks of the 11:30 wakeups - so no idea if this is contributing to her waking up later or how it will affect her sleeping habits. 

- cue middle of the night - USUALLY, but it can vary.. DD wakes up around 3:30am either A. wide awake chatting/babbling/fooling around or B. grunting and growling like a maniac. This awake period tends to last around 2 hours and then she goes back to sleep. I feel like i've tried everything to get her back to sleep but nothing is working.

We're so not sure of what the grunting/growling is about:
-Not hungry, I have fed her but it rarely will help her go back to sleep and she just ate at 11:30
-Not in pain because the minute I go in to check on her she is smiling and laughing
We have read that the grunting could be just a noise she likes to make, she was doing this a few months ago but usually during the day and it died down.

I have used her glow seahorse which helps her fall asleep, changed her diaper, fed her, put on her mobile, rocked her, let her sleep on her belly (to which a good portion of the time she just rolls on her side and to her back).

I have no idea if there are any sleep training that would apply here. She's not crying so I can't work on teaching her how to self soothe because 50% of the time she's in a good mood. The other half of the time when she's grunting, she does it so much and so loud I don't know if this is her version of crying and if I should go with that and substitute the grunting for crying for a sleep training method.

If anyone can HELP! I'd be so appreciative.. last night was so exhausting and frustrating.

What happens if you just let her lay in her crib until she falls asleep?

[Deleted]

If she's not crying I'd try and let her grunt it out. If she's really upset I bet she would start crying! Maybe just see how one night goes? You never know she may just fall back asleep on her own.

[Lola]

Feb 24, 2015 21:30:17 GMT -5 @sharmon13 said:

If she's not crying I'd try and let her grunt it out. If she's really upset I bet she would start crying! Maybe just see how one night goes? You never know she may just fall back asleep on her own.

Agreed. And if she cries then you could do the Ferber method. We have a taggie and a wubbanub in the crib. When DS wakes up he finds them and talks to them. Maybe if she had something comforting she would play for a few minutes and then fall asleep?

[littlemissmarla]

Lola @harmyxo

I guess I feel guilty for just leaving her in there, so I try all these things to get her back to sleep. I mean realistically I know she seems happy and fine but I just feel like I shouldn't be leaving her laying there for 2 hours. Now that I'm thinking about it and wrote down all our issues, i'm wondering if I am actually causing more problems by constantly going in and out and that if I do leave her alone she might fall back to sleep faster than if I keep trying to get her back to sleep.

I'm going to try really hard tonight to wait until she seems like she's in distress. I'm just a crazy person.

[littlemissmarla]

Feb 24, 2015 21:33:19 GMT -5 Lola said:

Feb 24, 2015 21:30:17 GMT -5 @sharmon13 said:

If she's not crying I'd try and let her grunt it out. If she's really upset I bet she would start crying! Maybe just see how one night goes? You never know she may just fall back asleep on her own.

Agreed. And if she cries then you could do the Ferber method. We have a taggie and a wubbanub in the crib. When DS wakes up he finds them and talks to them. Maybe if she had something comforting she would play for a few minutes and then fall asleep?

She does have a seahorse that glows and plays music but right now it's too hard for her to turn it on so I usually end up going in there to keep turning it on. Do you think I should leave something smaller for her? She has a soft Dumbo lovie that I could probably put in there if she wakes up... hmm, that's a good idea!

[Deleted]

Feb 24, 2015 21:36:00 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

Lola @harmyxo

I guess I feel guilty for just leaving her in there, so I try all these things to get her back to sleep. I mean realistically I know she seems happy and fine but I just feel like I shouldn't be leaving her laying there for 2 hours. Now that I'm thinking about it and wrote down all our issues, i'm wondering if I am actually causing more problems by constantly going in and out and that if I do leave her alone she might fall back to sleep faster than if I keep trying to get her back to sleep.

I'm going to try really hard tonight to wait until she seems like she's in distress. I'm just a crazy person.

You're not crazy! She likes seeing you that's why she doesn't want to go back to sleep for two hours. Maybe if you don't go in she'll fall asleep faster!

[littlemissmarla]

Feb 24, 2015 21:39:10 GMT -5 @sharmon13 said:

Feb 24, 2015 21:36:00 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

Lola @harmyxo

I guess I feel guilty for just leaving her in there, so I try all these things to get her back to sleep. I mean realistically I know she seems happy and fine but I just feel like I shouldn't be leaving her laying there for 2 hours. Now that I'm thinking about it and wrote down all our issues, i'm wondering if I am actually causing more problems by constantly going in and out and that if I do leave her alone she might fall back to sleep faster than if I keep trying to get her back to sleep.

I'm going to try really hard tonight to wait until she seems like she's in distress. I'm just a crazy person.

You're not crazy! She likes seeing you that's why she doesn't want to go back to sleep for two hours. Maybe if you don't go in she'll fall asleep faster!

Hahah I know, seeing our problems written down is really eye opening. I mean, how can I blame her for not going back to sleep.. any sound or movement she makes here I am coming into the room, turning something on .. rolling her over.. I must be so annoying LOL.

[Lola]

Feb 24, 2015 21:41:00 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

Feb 24, 2015 21:39:10 GMT -5 @sharmon13 said:

You're not crazy! She likes seeing you that's why she doesn't want to go back to sleep for two hours. Maybe if you don't go in she'll fall asleep faster!

Hahah I know, seeing our problems written down is really eye opening. I mean, how can I blame her for not going back to sleep.. any sound or movement she makes here I am coming into the room, turning something on .. rolling her over.. I must be so annoying LOL.

We did sleep training with DS and since then when he wakes up and isn't crying I wait at least 15 min before going in. He is usually back asleep in 8 min. I double check on the monitor that everything is ok, but I know as soon as I walk in he wants to get picked up.

[jnnfrrose6]

littlemissmarla, I'm wondering the same thing as Lola. If she's content, what happens I'd you let her be?

and now I'm seeing the rest of the comments about that. I agree to just give it a try without going in I'd she's awake but happy. 

Also, my MIL gave DD that seahorse for Christmas. She keeps asking how she likes it. I have yet to actually put it in her crib. We don't put things in the crib that could be distractions until closer to a year, but I haven't told MIL that. 

[surfmama106]

There is no way I'm going in that room in the middle of the night for anything other then out of the ordinary crying.

[hurricanerek]

If you must go in, I'd say make sure that you aren't picking her up. Stand where she can see you and say loving words and then leave. I agree that by picking her up you're creating a sleep association. Of course I would try not to go in at all.

[littlemissmarla]

Update! So last night DD woke up at 1:30am and I resisted the urge to jump up and go in there.. She started her grunts and fell back asleep in about 6minutes which I couldn't believe! I think that gave me the motivation to hold out. So at around 4:30 she was back up wide awake grunting - I waited until about 5am until she seemed like she was getting tired/starting to cry, went in changed her diaper put her back down, glow seahorse went on and she fell back asleep after a bit of rolling.

I'm concluding that she doesn't have a problem - I've been causing the problems by going in so much lol.

I was pretty pleased with how last night went so hopefully letting her grunt it out will be the solution.

Thanks for all the advice! It was definitely helpful!

[Lola]

Feb 25, 2015 10:18:58 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

Update! So last night DD woke up at 1:30am and I resisted the urge to jump up and go in there.. She started her grunts and fell back asleep in about 6minutes which I couldn't believe! I think that gave me the motivation to hold out. So at around 4:30 she was back up wide awake grunting - I waited until about 5am until she seemed like she was getting tired/starting to cry, went in changed her diaper put her back down, glow seahorse went on and she fell back asleep after a bit of rolling.

I'm concluding that she doesn't have a problem - I've been causing the problems by going in so much lol.

I was pretty pleased with how last night went so hopefully letting her grunt it out will be the solution.

Thanks for all the advice! It was definitely helpful!

Yay! Glad it worked! Now you can get more sleep too!!!!

[Deleted]

Feb 25, 2015 10:18:58 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

Update! So last night DD woke up at 1:30am and I resisted the urge to jump up and go in there.. She started her grunts and fell back asleep in about 6minutes which I couldn't believe! I think that gave me the motivation to hold out. So at around 4:30 she was back up wide awake grunting - I waited until about 5am until she seemed like she was getting tired/starting to cry, went in changed her diaper put her back down, glow seahorse went on and she fell back asleep after a bit of rolling.

I'm concluding that she doesn't have a problem - I've been causing the problems by going in so much lol.

I was pretty pleased with how last night went so hopefully letting her grunt it out will be the solution.

Thanks for all the advice! It was definitely helpful!

That's great! I'm glad it all worked out!