Hi everyone! I am officially TTC for my 2nd child. I'm going to be honest, I don't know CD or anything :/ I just got my mirena out in February and had one period since.
Signing up for Fertility Friend & tracking your BBT would be super helpful.
Thanks! I hope I'm not stepping on any toes being here. I did an introduction about a month ago and I spend a lot of time on the May 14 board. Good luck to all of you ladies
Signing up for Fertility Friend & tracking your BBT would be super helpful.
Thanks! I hope I'm not stepping on any toes being here. I did an introduction about a month ago and I spend a lot of time on the May 14 board. Good luck to all of you ladies
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
I may be out of place being a chronic lurker, but how are the pregnant/child siggies any different than a pregnant person talking to you at the office or going out to lunch with a friend with kids? This board isn't overrun with grads and I only see occasional grad posts in random or congratulatory threads. They stay out of the TTC threads.
Pregnant people and other children exist in this world and you can't blind yourself to every one. I still see this as a safe place with threads designed specifically for those TTC. If you truly can't bear to see a ticker or pictures of children, you should make the choice to hide siggies yourself. And there are other boards, such as 3T and AL that are designed to be even more sensitive to these issues.
As for pee sticks, the TWW is really the only appropriate place for questions involving those. I believe a spoiler would be the best answer so people can still ask legitimate questions but those not wanting to look can avoid it.
Sorry but I disagree with your first 2 paragraphs. This is a place I come so that I can escape "real life" and not deal with the shit out-n-about in the world everyday.
Thanks! I hope I'm not stepping on any toes being here. I did an introduction about a month ago and I spend a lot of time on the May 14 board. Good luck to all of you ladies
What is the rule when a BFP happens? I mean, clearly I'm not going to post pics and make a big deal out of it but I don't want to just leave either.
If you've been an active member on the board & participated/given support, post a BFP thread. If you mostly stick to the TWW/WTO threads, post in there & move on.
If you have to ask yourself if posting on the main board might be in poor taste, it probably is.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
What is the rule when a BFP happens? I mean, clearly I'm not going to post pics and make a big deal out of it but I don't want to just leave either.
If you've been an active member on the board & participated/given support, post a BFP thread. If you mostly stick to the TWW/WTO threads, post in there & move on.
If you have to ask yourself if posting on the main board might be in poor taste, it probably is.
I may be out of place being a chronic lurker, but how are the pregnant/child siggies any different than a pregnant person talking to you at the office or going out to lunch with a friend with kids? This board isn't overrun with grads and I only see occasional grad posts in random or congratulatory threads. They stay out of the TTC threads.
Pregnant people and other children exist in this world and you can't blind yourself to every one. I still see this as a safe place with threads designed specifically for those TTC. If you truly can't bear to see a ticker or pictures of children, you should make the choice to hide siggies yourself. And there are other boards, such as 3T and AL that are designed to be even more sensitive to these issues.
As for pee sticks, the TWW is really the only appropriate place for questions involving those. I believe a spoiler would be the best answer so people can still ask legitimate questions but those not wanting to look can avoid it.
Sorry but I disagree with your first 2 paragraphs. This is a place I come so that I can escape "real life" and not deal with the shit out-n-about in the world everyday.
That makes sense. This was just a thought I had while reading this thread and currently is my stance on the issue.
@littleliverpill - With my idea of the flame free thread, I am talking about thread where a list of grievances could be generated for review. Once they were reviewed it would give mods a better idea of major board concerns that need to be addressed. My hope with stating that it's a grievance post only thread is that it would encourage more people to speak up. Wishful thinking, I know.
P.S. I miss you DanaScullyX , you truly get my dislike of Jennifer Love Hewitt.
@littleliverpill - With my idea of the flame free thread, I am talking about thread where a list of grievances could be generated for review. Once they were reviewed it would give mods a better idea of major board concerns that need to be addressed. My hope with stating that it's a grievance post only thread is that it would encourage more people to speak up. Wishful thinking, I know.
P.S. I miss you DanaScullyX , you truly get my dislike of Jennifer Love Hewitt.
Thank you. That woman needs to get off my TV!!
And they need to fire her makeup artist. She looks like the morning after, all damn day.
Yeah, like I said above, I don't think encouraging hysteria in the 2WW is helpful or productive in any way for anyone.
Ugh Probards just ate my entire post.
Anyways, I don't think that the TWW is full of hysterical or unproductive women. Whenever a poster talks about testing at 7 dpo or that they are out with a negative test at 10dpo almost always they get called out. The blanket statements that the TWW/WTO threads are so baby center really are pissing me off. If they are so pathetic, why is it the first place the regs send a newbie?
I'm really glad this discussion was brought up because I don't think there was much of a resolution from the board culture thread. (As an aside, can people stop complaining about discussion threads like that one being soooooo long and too time-consuming to read? If you care enough to debate the nature of this board's future, you can care enough to read a 14-page thread. Seriously.)
That being said, I don't know if there really is any resolution in this discussion, either, or if a resolution that doesn't make some people feel alienated is even possible. All I know is that it makes me extremely fucking sad that posters like DanaScullyX and @debthelibrarian feel like they can't post on GKU anymore because they are amazing women and assets to the community and I love them.
I don't know what the "right" answers are in terms of tickers, random threads, etc. I do know that posting pee stick photos outside of BFP threads is unnecessary in all but the most exceptional of cases, I don't want to be shuttled off to 3T just because I don't feel like looking at a pregnant poster's fruit zygote on a TTC board, and if the 2WW threads continue to spiral off into rainbow land, a great deal of knowledge is going to be lost because people who don't appreciate that tone are going to stay away. Flaming does NOT equal "being mean." If no one is flamed for being irrational, how would they realize they are being irrational?? Should we all just hold hands and kumbaya because so-and-so swears she can feel implantation? That's not what TTGP was and it shouldn't be changed here just because there are fewer people around.
I fucking hate that so much has changed that people don't feel comfortable here anymore.
I honestly see what you're saying. I feel like TCF is going thru growing pains. In order to figure out what these boards will be, we need to figure out what works. (Or were the originators of TCF intending this be exactly like TD before the fall?) I'm sure we're going to find that sometimes compromises will be easy and can be made but other times, compromises are not so easy and some people are going to be hurt? I'm sure some MODs are having a hard time with this too! This doesn't mean feelings are being dismissed, just that not everyone can be made happy at the same time. This is common IRL or we wouldn't be as divisive in politics, and religions. As this site grows, what we establish now, may have to change to accommodate whatever the new majority is. I felt like TD was more fluid in what was considered OK and what wasn't before the fall.
From the boards I frequent (GKU, BOTB, CAL, Pregnancy Loss, Pets), GKU is one of the most active. Probably because we don't have the numbers we used to have on TD or the constant influx of n00bs to replenish the numbers of those who leave or change boards for various reasons. I can see those getting BFPs feeling "lost" for a while because their BMB doesn't have a lot of people and from what I glanced at on 1st Tri, there aren't regular posters. Last time I was on a BMB, posters were afraid to get attached to each other until the start of the 2nd Tri.
I just feel like with this site being about 3-4 months old, that everybody needs to give a little leeway as some controversial topics arise. I'm not talking about just the pregnancy tickers! Today, I've seen people complain about the increase of POAS posts with pictures, as well as some posters mentioning that suggested maybe there should be a TTC>6+ months board. I'm off to bed, but flame away, like I previously posted I love a good debate.
Yeah, like I said above, I don't think encouraging hysteria in the 2WW is helpful or productive in any way for anyone.
Ugh Probards just ate my entire post.
Anyways, I don't think that the TWW is full of hysterical or unproductive women. Whenever a poster talks about testing at 7 dpo or that they are out with a negative test at 10dpo almost always they get called out. The blanket statements that the TWW/WTO threads are so baby center really are pissing me off. If they are so pathetic, why is it the first place the regs send a newbie?
Because it's a place they can jump in to. Not all newbs may feel comfortable jumping in to a random/drinking thread. But if we're sending them there, I'd hope it's not filled with people being all kinds of crazy.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Anyways, I don't think that the TWW is full of hysterical or unproductive women. Whenever a poster talks about testing at 7 dpo or that they are out with a negative test at 10dpo almost always they get called out. The blanket statements that the TWW/WTO threads are so baby center really are pissing me off. If they are so pathetic, why is it the first place the regs send a newbie?
Because it's a place they can jump in to. Not all newbs may feel comfortable jumping in to a random/drinking thread. But if we're sending them there, I'd hope it's not filled with people being all kinds of crazy.
Ok so apparently everyone who hates what the TTW has turned into has an opinion about it. You can lurk a couple days and see that posters are called out on their shit just like ever other thread. There may be a little less snark but so fucking what? If you are so hellbent on talking shit about the thread then get in there and say what you want to say. These are the same posters who are posting all over the board. What's the big deal? No one is such a newb here that they will let someone say they have IB, or symptoms at 3 dpo.
Because it's a place they can jump in to. Not all newbs may feel comfortable jumping in to a random/drinking thread. But if we're sending them there, I'd hope it's not filled with people being all kinds of crazy.
Ok so apparently everyone who hates what the TTW has turned into has an opinion about it. You can lurk a couple days and see that posters are called out on their shit just like ever other thread. There may be a little less snark but so fucking what? If you are so hellbent on talking shit about the thread then get in there and say what you want to say. These are the same posters who are posting all over the board. What's the big deal? No one is such a newb here that they will let someone say they have IB, or symptoms at 3 dpo.
I see you have a lot of feelz regarding the TWW thread. You should calm your tits dear.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Ok so apparently everyone who hates what the TTW has turned into has an opinion about it. You can lurk a couple days and see that posters are called out on their shit just like ever other thread. There may be a little less snark but so fucking what? If you are so hellbent on talking shit about the thread then get in there and say what you want to say. These are the same posters who are posting all over the board. What's the big deal? No one is such a newb here that they will let someone say they have IB, or symptoms at 3 dpo.
I see you have a lot of feelz regarding the TWW thread. You should calm your tits dear.
Ok so apparently everyone who hates what the TTW has turned into has an opinion about it. You can lurk a couple days and see that posters are called out on their shit just like ever other thread. There may be a little less snark but so fucking what? If you are so hellbent on talking shit about the thread then get in there and say what you want to say. These are the same posters who are posting all over the board. What's the big deal? No one is such a newb here that they will let someone say they have IB, or symptoms at 3 dpo.
There are always going to be posters who don't like particular threads for one reason or another. I'm not sure why you're taking this issue so personally but it's really not that serious.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Is this where I say I'm gonna do what I want, and how I want? If it's to call someone out, and I feel like it, I'll do it. IDGAF who agrees and disagrees with me. If you don't like it or what I say, then guess what? You can call me out too. Sometimes I'll change my mind, sometimes I won't...
With that said, a PSA -7 and -5 and +2 are not your FW and don't need to be included in your timing.
the TWW has been a bit Babycenter lately, and we've hashed this out before. People don't always call people out on shit, because well...we're not ALWAYS assholes. There's just so much people can read and look at without saying SOMETHING. Again, you don't have to agree with them, but it is what it is.
*TWW Monday*Mar 30, 2015 23:16:25 GMT -5via mobile
Post by easilyunamused on Mar 30, 2015 23:16:25 GMT -5
Oh so this is a silly topic that no one is taking seriously. Duly noted. Maybe if I can claim 4 years of membership then I'd be recognized for my opinion.
Oh so this is a silly topic that no one is taking seriously. Duly noted. Maybe if I can claim 4 years of membership then I'd be recognized for my opinion.
Oh so this is a silly topic that no one is taking seriously. Duly noted. Maybe if I can claim 4 years of membership then I'd be recognized for my opinion.
Oh so this is a silly topic that no one is taking seriously. Duly noted. Maybe if I can claim 4 years of membership then I'd be recognized for my opinion.
Ew. You're not being taken seriously because you're choosing the TWW thread as your hill to die on. Who gives a fuck of we say the threads have changed? Why are you so hellbent on defending it? You can post whatever the fuck you want in here. If I (or anyone) is lurking & sees stupid shit it'll be called out.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
every time I see your name I hear Adele singing. Instead of "I set fire to the rain", I sing your name in my head in that tune. (Sorry to be a creepy interwbz weirdo but everything is related to music for me)
The Used, darling. Go listen to "I Caught Fire" & thank me later.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
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*TWW Monday*Mar 30, 2015 23:26:08 GMT -5via mobile
every time I see your name I hear Adele singing. Instead of "I set fire to the rain", I sing your name in my head in that tune. (Sorry to be a creepy interwbz weirdo but everything is related to music for me)
The Used, darling. Go listen to "I Caught Fire" & thank me later.
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