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Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Post by anonymouseliza on Apr 4, 2015 20:23:32 GMT -5
Well, I went away immediately after posting on page 6 to eat a very privileged and expensive birthday meal with my mama. I got back to double the pages and a sharp turn from the group-think and general agreement and my mouth is still hanging open. Holy shit, man.
As much as I always was a liberal, I still had some misconceptions that were squashed after this.
I've read this. There are some things that I don't like about it. I think she over-simplifies some of the issues because she's only in each job for a short amount of time, but overall I think it's a good look at what life is like for the working poor.
Post by anonymouseliza on Apr 4, 2015 20:33:49 GMT -5
There is a wonderful free cookbook (free online, but they also try to publish it to give free copies to low-income people who could use it) - Good and Cheap. Written by a nutritionist (I'm pretty sure? been awhile since I read the bio) who takes SNAP guidelines and explains how to make the assistance go far while creating healthier/more nutritious options and getting the most per dollar that are still tasty. I read the entire thing a few months ago and it's brilliant.
But the ability to get there takes awhile, because even with this, you have to spend some extra money here and there to build the pantry items needed - things like olive oil or spices - so helpful and even necessary, but in many ways, a luxury when you can buy rice or beans or ramen for several meals for the same amount.
Likewise, there was a really fascinating article a few months back that I can't quickly find because I don't remember when or where it was published, in which a woman helped out a young single mother who was short for groceries and met her a few days later to take her shopping again, giving her $50 for her to buy whatever she wanted. The mother had left a DV situation, and was in transitional housing and had no refrigeration and a hot plate. They were able to eat one meal a day provided by the shelter and were on their own for the other meals. The author was up front about expecting the mother to buy a bunch of crap, but the mother mostly bought canned/shelf stable and splurged on blueberries and apples for her kids because she was unable to buy them usually due to refrigeration and cost - she could several meals worth of items that wouldn't run the risk of spoiling for the same amount. It was a very moving piece in which the author confronted her own privilege and assumptions.
More of us should do that.
Which is another good reminder to talk to your local food banks about what items they desperately need. It was mentioned early on, but many food banks absolutely do not need canned foods - they need oils, spices, toiletries, menstrual supplies and dry goods like paper towels or toilet paper.
Everyone, I hope in the time that I've spent on here, you have come to know me as a genuinely kind-hearted and empathetic person. I feel like I'm closer with y'all than my IRL friends, and without you, it really does make me alone (except for DH and DD). Not trying to throw a pity party here, but I wanted to ask straight up if y'all think it is best for me to leave the GKU board? I will understand if you do, because the main thing is I am scared to stay if it means I will just end up being a target for the rest of my stay here and not be able to connect with people like I used to. That would actually hurt me very much, and I think by now y'all know I have several mental health issues that I don't want getting worse if I were to butt heads with everyone. I care immensely what everyone says to me and I actually had a panic attack because of this thread. I am embarrassed and sad and definitely do not expect special treatment. I really love being here but I don't want to be sick either. I may just stay over on the Mental Wellness board, since I care too much about a few of the situations there to disappear into thin air. Please just let me know honestly what y'all think is best. Thanks again for everything.
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