Everyone, I hope in the time that I've spent on here, you have come to know me as a genuinely kind-hearted and empathetic person. I feel like I'm closer with y'all than my IRL friends, and without you, it really does make me alone (except for DH and DD). Not trying to throw a pity party here, but I wanted to ask straight up if y'all think it is best for me to leave the GKU board? I will understand if you do, because the main thing is I am scared to stay if it means I will just end up being a target for the rest of my stay here and not be able to connect with people like I used to. That would actually hurt me very much, and I think by now y'all know I have several mental health issues that I don't want getting worse if I were to butt heads with everyone. I care immensely what everyone says to me and I actually had a panic attack because of this thread. I am embarrassed and sad and definitely do not expect special treatment. I really love being here but I don't want to be sick either. I may just stay over on the Mental Wellness board, since I care too much about a few of the situations there to disappear into thin air. Please just let me know honestly what y'all think is best. Thanks again for everything.
I think you're being needlessly dramatic and need to know when to step away and take a break. If you know you're having a bad day, don't come in to a provocative thread. Stay in threads/boards that are more suited to your current state.
I've read this. There are some things that I don't like about it. I think she over-simplifies some of the issues because she's only in each job for a short amount of time, but overall I think it's a good look at what life is like for the working poor.
Right, but I think she was honest in stating that she was lucky to have a starting sum of money etc. that she knew made it easier, but it was still hard. My parents didn't always have it easy, but as a child I wasnt aware (meaning I thought everything was easy), so reading this book at 18 or 19 helped me to realize I was taking things (like fresh produce/access to a kitchen) for granted.
Oh, for sure. Sorry, I just have a few shelves full of books on sociology/anthropology so I get overly critical sometimes. It's definitely worth reading!
Everyone, I hope in the time that I've spent on here, you have come to know me as a genuinely kind-hearted and empathetic person. I feel like I'm closer with y'all than my IRL friends, and without you, it really does make me alone (except for DH and DD). Not trying to throw a pity party here, but I wanted to ask straight up if y'all think it is best for me to leave the GKU board? I will understand if you do, because the main thing is I am scared to stay if it means I will just end up being a target for the rest of my stay here and not be able to connect with people like I used to. That would actually hurt me very much, and I think by now y'all know I have several mental health issues that I don't want getting worse if I were to butt heads with everyone. I care immensely what everyone says to me and I actually had a panic attack because of this thread. I am embarrassed and sad and definitely do not expect special treatment. I really love being here but I don't want to be sick either. I may just stay over on the Mental Wellness board, since I care too much about a few of the situations there to disappear into thin air. Please just let me know honestly what y'all think is best. Thanks again for everything.
I think you're being needlessly dramatic and need to know when to step away and take a break. If you know you're having a bad day, don't come in to a provocative thread. Stay in threads/boards that are more suited to your current state.
I am not trying to be dramatic, I am far from the drama queen. I try not to draw attention to myself. I just wanted an honest opinion because I am really struggling with what to do and I can't think clearly and I was hoping you could help me because I do not have any one else to talk to.
Everyone, I hope in the time that I've spent on here, you have come to know me as a genuinely kind-hearted and empathetic person. I feel like I'm closer with y'all than my IRL friends, and without you, it really does make me alone (except for DH and DD). Not trying to throw a pity party here, but I wanted to ask straight up if y'all think it is best for me to leave the GKU board? I will understand if you do, because the main thing is I am scared to stay if it means I will just end up being a target for the rest of my stay here and not be able to connect with people like I used to. That would actually hurt me very much, and I think by now y'all know I have several mental health issues that I don't want getting worse if I were to butt heads with everyone. I care immensely what everyone says to me and I actually had a panic attack because of this thread. I am embarrassed and sad and definitely do not expect special treatment. I really love being here but I don't want to be sick either. I may just stay over on the Mental Wellness board, since I care too much about a few of the situations there to disappear into thin air. Please just let me know honestly what y'all think is best. Thanks again for everything.
I'll comment only because the main situation in question was because of an outburst related to me. All I wanted was a sincere apology which I did not get. And I would appreciate for you to not cuss me out every time we cross paths in a thread, which may have prevented said situation. I understand I did something that made you extremely upset but I have since apologized profusely which you have not done me the same honor.
ETA: And the small amount of time I've interacted with these women, I think a simple apology would be enough for them as well.
A large bag of organic apples costs $5.49 at my store. I'd like to know where a person could get enough food to feed 6 people for 2 days for $5.49.
I'm sure I'm beating a dead horse here (lol), but tell me how 6 people can live off of a 5 pound bag of apples for 2 days?! Apples are a SMALL PART of a balanced diet.
Everything I said here today was dumb and ignorant, but just FTR, I didn't mean 6 people could make a meal out of a bag of apples. She said that 6 people could eat for two days with the price of a bag of apples. I was just saying that a bag of apples costs $5.49 (at my store), and how could any family of 6 eat for two days on $5.49?
ETA: That question doesn't matter - I was just explaining. I suck.
icequeen, you apologized, you're good. You said something in the heat of the moment that you shouldn't have. Everyone does it. But, we do give people a little hell when they do it. You deal with it and move on. I know sometimes its hard, and when it's too hard to handle we take breaks. If this small amount of flame throwing is throwing you for a loop, you need to calm down a bit. You gotten tons of support here, and given it, and I'm sure others appreciate you too. Just let it go, and move on.
Post by anonymouseliza on Apr 4, 2015 20:47:07 GMT -5
icequeen, take a deep breath. Offer a sincere apology and then log off for the evening. Find something to do that will distract you from spiraling, intrusive thoughts.
It feels big and oppressive right now, and like a lot is on the line, but truthfully, that is not the case. You said something stupid. You can atone for that. But you need to be in a better headspace, and you will not achieve that here tonight. Things will blow over as they always do, provided you understand where you crossed a line and don't do it again.
Truly, the pressure you are feeling is anxiety, not reality. Deep breaths, ok?
Oh, for sure. Sorry, I just have a few shelves full of books on sociology/anthropology so I get overly critical sometimes. It's definitely worth reading!
Give me some recommendations - I get in reading slumps!
OH BOY!!! What's your pleasure? More on the working poor? Race? Feminism? I need you to narrow your search for me lol. I have it all.
Everyone, I hope in the time that I've spent on here, you have come to know me as a genuinely kind-hearted and empathetic person. I feel like I'm closer with y'all than my IRL friends, and without you, it really does make me alone (except for DH and DD). Not trying to throw a pity party here, but I wanted to ask straight up if y'all think it is best for me to leave the GKU board? I will understand if you do, because the main thing is I am scared to stay if it means I will just end up being a target for the rest of my stay here and not be able to connect with people like I used to. That would actually hurt me very much, and I think by now y'all know I have several mental health issues that I don't want getting worse if I were to butt heads with everyone. I care immensely what everyone says to me and I actually had a panic attack because of this thread. I am embarrassed and sad and definitely do not expect special treatment. I really love being here but I don't want to be sick either. I may just stay over on the Mental Wellness board, since I care too much about a few of the situations there to disappear into thin air. Please just let me know honestly what y'all think is best. Thanks again for everything.
I'll comment only because the main situation in question was because of an outburst related to me. All I wanted was a sincere apology which I did not get. And I would appreciate for you to not cuss me out every time we cross paths in a thread, which may have prevented said situation. I understand I did something that made you extremely upset but I have since apologized profusely which you have not done me the same honor.
ETA: And the small amount of time I've interacted with these women, I think a simple apology would be enough for them as well.
I apologized twice on page 12. Once in general, towards the top of the page, and the second time to you and to the rest of the women.
ETA: there was a third time, but I suppose it doesn't matter because I'll be on an eternal post it anyway.
icequeen, take a deep breath. Offer a sincere apology and then log off for the evening. Find something to do that will distract you from spiraling, intrusive thoughts.
It feels big and oppressive right now, and like a lot is on the line, but truthfully, that is not the case. You said something stupid. You can atone for that. But you need to be in a better headspace, and you will not achieve that here tonight. Things will blow over as they always do, provided you understand where you crossed a line and don't do it again.
Truly, the pressure you are feeling is anxiety, not reality. Deep breaths, ok?
x 1000. We'll all still be here for you, girl. You just need to step back for a bit.
Everyone, I hope in the time that I've spent on here, you have come to know me as a genuinely kind-hearted and empathetic person. I feel like I'm closer with y'all than my IRL friends, and without you, it really does make me alone (except for DH and DD). Not trying to throw a pity party here, but I wanted to ask straight up if y'all think it is best for me to leave the GKU board? I will understand if you do, because the main thing is I am scared to stay if it means I will just end up being a target for the rest of my stay here and not be able to connect with people like I used to. That would actually hurt me very much, and I think by now y'all know I have several mental health issues that I don't want getting worse if I were to butt heads with everyone. I care immensely what everyone says to me and I actually had a panic attack because of this thread. I am embarrassed and sad and definitely do not expect special treatment. I really love being here but I don't want to be sick either. I may just stay over on the Mental Wellness board, since I care too much about a few of the situations there to disappear into thin air. Please just let me know honestly what y'all think is best. Thanks again for everything.
Agree this is slightly dramatic & unnecessary. We all say stupid shit, icequeen. Your comment honestly probably would have been forgotten by tomorrow..the only one still harboring on it is you. If you want to stay, stay.
You said something you regret, you apologized & then you move on. If someone flames you for it down the road, such is life.
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OH BOY!!! What's your pleasure? More on the working poor? Race? Feminism? I need you to narrow your search for me lol. I have it all.
Something that shook you back when you were feeling jaded. That's where I'm at...
Normally, I'd suggest The Handmaid's Tale. But it's absolutely not something to read if you're having a tough time with 3TIF. I liked The Working Poor, Freakonomics, and Outliers if you want something in a similar style to N&D.
Something that shook you back when you were feeling jaded. That's where I'm at...
Normally, I'd suggest The Handmaid's Tale. But it's absolutely not something to read if you're having a tough time with 3TIF. I liked The Working Poor, Freakonomics, and Outliers if you want something in a similar style to N&D.
Totally random, I know. But that's my favorite book ever. That is all.
Oh yeah, and this thread was a good one. Got my juices flowing, even though I read it too late to have meaningful participation. My heart bleeds blue, FTR.
Post by kawaiikitsune on Apr 4, 2015 21:09:23 GMT -5
icequeen - You have offered me genuine words of sympathy and encouragement on some of my worst days and for that, I am truly thankful. What you said tonight was incredibly crass and insensitive. You recognized what you said was wrong and apologized. That is really all you can do. Whether you stay or leave is entirely up to you but I highly doubt anyone feels you are no longer welcome. If you just let it go and move on, I'm sure things will be peachy keen.
Normally, I'd suggest The Handmaid's Tale. But it's absolutely not something to read if you're having a tough time with 3TIF. I liked The Working Poor, Freakonomics, and Outliers if you want something in a similar style to N&D.
Oh yea I liked Outliers, been meaning to read Freakonomics!
I highly recommend Freakonomics. It's a fascinating read.
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Ok, I didn't contribute to this thread because I know absolutely nothing on the topic.
That being said, a few people made a few heated comments. Comments that some people don't always forget so easily. I don't believe anyone should GBCB over it. Time to reflect seems more appropriate. A heartfelt apology can often go a long way. Heartfelt being the key word here.
I know absolutely nothing on the topic, but "contributed" anyway. Next time I will be keeping my fucking mouth shut, listening and learning.
Ok, I didn't contribute to this thread because I know absolutely nothing on the topic.
That being said, a few people made a few heated comments. Comments that some people don't always forget so easily. I don't believe anyone should GBCB over it. Time to reflect seems more appropriate. A heartfelt apology can often go a long way. Heartfelt being the key word here.
I know absolutely nothing on the topic, but "contributed" anyway. Next time I will be keeping my fucking mouth shut, listening and learning.
No one said you should never say anything. But when you say something, be willing to explain/elaborate/give examples. Feel free to scroll back through to witness how I said something that definitely wasn't well said/thought-out, and then I explained better plus genuinely apologized.
Well... I see Cabgirl showed her BSC on here, just like she did on CAL... And I think I need links for the doucheness of rutherlily.
@wickedcandy, FWIW, my BSC on CAL was posted the day I had my D&C, immediately after arriving home, before even sleeping off the effects of anesthesia or morphine, when I was going crazy with grief. It's not even an excuse, just the truth. I apologized profusely in the thread I went BSC in. I have only the vaguest of memories of what was actually said, or what I was even responding to. I just know that, if I have ever in my life been "not in my right mind," it was that day. If you didn't catch my apology, I apologize now. I was so angry over my loss, and I think someone said something to the effect of "you might not get pregnant right away," and I went BSC. It was in fact probably the definition of BSC. Like I said, I gave a genuine apology and left. I still haven't been back.
As for my BSC today, that was total ignorance and inexcusable. I apologized and learned from it. It was a rough night, realizing I'd made a mistake that hurt others here. I will continue to respond and apologize to anyone who reads what I said and feels hurt or wants to comment.
@wickedcandy, FWIW, my BSC on CAL was posted the day I had my D&C, immediately after arriving home, before even sleeping off the effects of anesthesia or morphine, when I was going crazy with grief. It's not even an excuse, just the truth. I apologized profusely in the thread I went BSC in. I have only the vaguest of memories of what was actually said, or what I was even responding to. I just know that, if I have ever in my life been "not in my right mind," it was that day. If you didn't catch my apology, I apologize now. I was so angry over my loss, and I think someone said something to the effect of "you might not get pregnant right away," and I went BSC. It was in fact probably the definition of BSC. Like I said, I gave a genuine apology and left. I still haven't been back.
As for my BSC today, that was total ignorance and inexcusable. I apologized and learned from it. It was a rough night, realizing I'd made a mistake that hurt others here. I will continue to respond and apologize to anyone who reads what I said and feels hurt or wants to comment.
You have lost it on 2 differnt boards, the common thread is you, there might be a slight issue there.
Maybe. I explained and apologized the best I could. I don't make excuses for my shitty behavior. I think there are at least some women here on GKU who know me pretty well, and like me. I don't know you, though, so I can understand why your two only real impressions of me might make you think I'm a crazy person who shouldn't be here. If that ends up being the general consensus, I'll definitely GTFO. I've been here for a year, though, and have only had two fuckups (albeit pretty serious ones) in that time. Otherwise, I've done my best to be a good support to the women here.
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