You make me wanna say o o o o.. Oh My SPAM!!

[anustart1]

lioness13, my mom used to bring up my weight as a kid and teenager all the time too. It was really hurtful. I was a totally normal sized athletic girl but she and 2 of my sisters were painfully thin (and just built that way) and she always made nasty comments when she was in a mood. She once told me I wasn't pulling my weight around the house and it was "a lot more than others." Ouch. I'm sorry you felt this way too!

[anustart1]

Jun 22, 2015 10:26:42 GMT -5 limabeanmom said:

Question about contacts- i have nails. Will that get in the way of getting them in and out?

I have had semi-long nails before and it's not usually a problem. But I definitely don't let them get too long as it is a pain to be super careful removing them.

[anustart1]

Writing all of those mom incidents for me just now caused me to go to our kitchen, bring out a block of cheese and knife and sit down at my desk to consume my emoti--- er, freestanding cheese. Way too much freestanding cheese. I like my emotions like I like my fries- smothered in cheese thank you very much!

[anustart1]

TRY AND STOP ME FROM EATING NOW MOMMY!!!! Nom nom nom.

[germaphobe]

Eeeee I am very excited. megsw85 are meeting for supper!!!

[megsw85]

Jun 22, 2015 10:37:17 GMT -5 germaphobe said:

Eeeee I am very excited. megsw85 are meeting for supper!!!

I feel like I should warn you the boys are insane today. Hopefully the 3 hr car ride and Dr appointment will calm them. Down.

[sctiger]

Jun 22, 2015 8:48:16 GMT -5 mcbush said:

Jun 22, 2015 7:56:03 GMT -5 sctiger said:

My cousin had a baby in September and she's due in September again. She is an incredible dumbass and I really feel sorry for her babies. I wish the cycle of stupidity would break. She's the daughter of my dad's half sister so luckily I'm just a little bit related

I hope her doctor has a long talk with her about birth control.

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I'm running on only 4 hours of sleep per night for the past few nights so maybe I'm feeling sensitive, but I hope there are other reasons you think she's an incredible dumbass besides having 2u1. I originally wanted 2u1 or close to it and I don't think I'm an incredible dumbass as a result.

I meant that she doesn't have a decent job or the ability to support herself. Though, it's really not good for your body to have them so close together.

[anustart1]

Jun 22, 2015 10:43:41 GMT -5 sctiger said:

Jun 22, 2015 8:48:16 GMT -5 mcbush said:

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I'm running on only 4 hours of sleep per night for the past few nights so maybe I'm feeling sensitive, but I hope there are other reasons you think she's an incredible dumbass besides having 2u1. I originally wanted 2u1 or close to it and I don't think I'm an incredible dumbass as a result.

I meant that she doesn't have a decent job or the ability to support herself. Though, it's really not good for your body to have them so close together.

WHO and most doctors recommend 18 months between pregnancies for the safety of the mother and child. I feel like this recommendation is the least known pregnancy fact on the planet. I knew DH had really read all the baby books when our friends got pregnant again before their first had turned 1 when he said, "I wonder if they know that less than 18 months between pregnancies, especially since she had a C-section, is far more risky for the mother's body." This was why I didn't bother with a doula with DH on the scene!

[anustart1]

Jun 22, 2015 11:04:05 GMT -5 @coffeeismylyfe said:

Jun 22, 2015 10:55:50 GMT -5 anustart1 said:

WHO and most doctors recommend 18 months between pregnancies for the safety of the mother and child. I feel like this recommendation is the least known pregnancy fact on the planet. I knew DH had really read all the baby books when our friends got pregnant again before their first had turned 1 when he said, "I wonder if they know that less than 18 months between pregnancies, especially since she had a C-section, is far more risky for the mother's body." This was why I didn't bother with a doula with DH on the scene!

I didn't realize it was 18 and not 12. I guess I'm a rebel after all!

I am NOT saying anyone is a dumbass for not waiting longer BTW! I just find it interesting that it is actually a researched recommendation that has been published but like, totally not common knowledge. This where my conspiracy theories kick in. "We know all these crazy car seat recommendations to make us buy new car seats more often, but that's because the car seat lobby must be paying for it to get the message out there." I can't help but bring it back to marketing and "the man" in my head!

[heelibrarian]

FFMC: I knew deep down I shouldn't have opened the Tell me something good thread, because it makes me sad. BUT! Today I used it as the kick in the ass I needed to call and make an appointment for DD in speech therapy. She is exactly where my now SUPER verbal DS was at this age but I'm tired of being sad and frustrated.

[heelibrarian]

@nikel13 I feel the exact same way. I look around most days and wonder how I got here! ((hugs)) You're absolutely not a failure! DH and I had to move in with his parents when he got out of the Marine Corps because we couldn't afford to live in CA any longer and had no jobs (we were in our late 20s). You do what you have to do for your family!

[cl8badb]

Jun 22, 2015 11:04:05 GMT -5 @coffeeismylyfe said:

Jun 22, 2015 10:55:50 GMT -5 anustart1 said:

WHO and most doctors recommend 18 months between pregnancies for the safety of the mother and child. I feel like this recommendation is the least known pregnancy fact on the planet. I knew DH had really read all the baby books when our friends got pregnant again before their first had turned 1 when he said, "I wonder if they know that less than 18 months between pregnancies, especially since she had a C-section, is far more risky for the mother's body." This was why I didn't bother with a doula with DH on the scene!

I didn't realize it was 18 and not 12. I guess I'm a rebel after all!

Ha! And i thought it was 6!
I know/think ive heard that if you get pregnant earlier than 6 months after having a kid you run the risk of the next one being premature.
Yes? No? Am i making this up?

[megsw85]

heelibrarian it's hard when your second is nothing like your first. Travis was talking by 10 months. Colton is just starting to talk now. He is still 6 months behind where he should be. You are a great mom.
I wish I could very awkwardly hug you and rub your back a little.

[anustart1]

Jun 22, 2015 11:53:04 GMT -5 mcbush said:

Jun 22, 2015 11:07:44 GMT -5 anustart1 said:

I am NOT saying anyone is a dumbass for not waiting longer BTW! I just find it interesting that it is actually a researched recommendation that has been published but like, totally not common knowledge. This where my conspiracy theories kick in. "We know all these crazy car seat recommendations to make us buy new car seats more often, but that's because the car seat lobby must be paying for it to get the message out there." I can't help but bring it back to marketing and "the man" in my head!

It's interesting. I flat out told my OB I wanted to get pregnant again right away and he never mentioned a thing about waiting. Said go for it.

I know if you have a c section they don't suggest it, but if you do get pregnant, then you are just not a candidate for a vbac what so ever.

My first OB was the first person who mentioned this and explained it like this: A woman's body is naturally designed to nurse for 12 months, break for 6 to replenish and fully heal internally and then get pregnant again. It made sense to me because I knew I wanted to nurse for 12 months at least and make sure I was back in my pre-preg condition as much as possible before #2. And I had had a C-section and wanted a VBAC. But the reasons behind the magic number being 18 months were mostly centered around what is ideally best for the mother's body and under the presumption of nursing for at least 12 months.

[heelibrarian]

Jun 22, 2015 11:52:55 GMT -5 @theformerwren said:

Jun 22, 2015 11:27:39 GMT -5 heelibrarian said:

FFMC: I knew deep down I shouldn't have opened the Tell me something good thread, because it makes me sad. BUT! Today I used it as the kick in the ass I needed to call and make an appointment for DD in speech therapy. She is exactly where my now SUPER verbal DS was at this age but I'm tired of being sad and frustrated.

Aww heel I didn't mean it to make anyone feel bad...cuteness doesn't have to do with verbal skills.  I hope your appointment works out and gives you peace of mind.

Oh, no worries!! I know that- it's just that (a lot) of a year olds say a ton of cute stuff at this age. DD will get there, I just get impatient sometimes!

[lioness13]

Jun 22, 2015 10:36:39 GMT -5 anustart1 said:

TRY AND STOP ME FROM EATING NOW MOMMY!!!! Nom nom nom.

I was holding back tears for you (really all of us who have moms who hurt us) but then this made me laugh super hard. You're awesome. Period.

[huckleberry08]

There are several studies linking having babies too close together or too far apart to different potentially negative outcomes, but there's no guarantee in any direction no matter when you have your kids. It's all about odds, individual health, and other lifestyle or social factors that may influence people's decisions on a population-based level.

[stargazer763]

Jun 22, 2015 11:27:39 GMT -5 heelibrarian said:

FFMC: I knew deep down I shouldn't have opened the Tell me something good thread, because it makes me sad. BUT! Today I used it as the kick in the ass I needed to call and make an appointment for DD in speech therapy. She is exactly where my now SUPER verbal DS was at this age but I'm tired of being sad and frustrated.

DO IT. G is a lot more verbal now. It should help!

And hugs to you. I've been there, hard core.

[workinit]

thatblondie oh I'm totally in on the commune!!! I'll pick you up... I want to try the taco place!

[huckleberry08]

Hard to know thelorax. Increasing age of mom AND dad, possibility of pregnancy loss (recognized or not) in between, psychosocial factors related to postponing birth such as poverty or stress levels - there's a lot to consider.

In my OB's practice there is a BIG push to get women to wait to have more kids. They start talking to you at 20 weeks about why to wait and get you to think about what birth control you want to use after the baby is born. You have to sit through a childbirth class that talks about the "ideal inter-pregnancy interval" before they'll even discharge you from the hospital.

[huckleberry08]

thelorax As much as I hate to cite WebMD, this is the data that our practice cited to us.

(Warning: Article talks about adverse pregnancy outcomes and related factors)

www.webmd.com/baby/news/20060418/pregnancy-spacing-affects-outcome

[lizzybizzy]

Jun 22, 2015 12:27:41 GMT -5 stargazer763 said:

Jun 22, 2015 11:27:39 GMT -5 heelibrarian said:

FFMC: I knew deep down I shouldn't have opened the Tell me something good thread, because it makes me sad. BUT! Today I used it as the kick in the ass I needed to call and make an appointment for DD in speech therapy. She is exactly where my now SUPER verbal DS was at this age but I'm tired of being sad and frustrated.

DO IT. G is a lot more verbal now. It should help!

And hugs to you. I've been there, hard core.

+1, plus B is more verbal now and he only had an eval (insurance wouldn't cover therapy and we decided not to continue bc he was on the lowest end of the normal range). I still get a little sad but I know we will get there one day.

[lizzybizzy]

They need to change the window display at Carolina Herrera. I don't like the outfits and I need to be able to fantasize about wearing one. Fwp

[lizzybizzy]

My mall walking involves lots of fantasizing and avoiding Teavana employees.

[cl8badb]

Jun 22, 2015 12:57:45 GMT -5 lizzybizzy said:

My mall walking involves lots of fantasizing and avoiding Teavana employees.

Hahaha theyre worse than drug pushers!

[lizzybizzy]

Jun 22, 2015 12:59:04 GMT -5 cl8badb said:

Jun 22, 2015 12:57:45 GMT -5 lizzybizzy said:

My mall walking involves lots of fantasizing and avoiding Teavana employees.

Hahaha theyre worse than drug pushers!

They are! I have to avoid perfume samplers by coming in a side entrance. One lotion sample gave me a rash.

[cl8badb]

Jun 22, 2015 13:02:22 GMT -5 lizzybizzy said:

Jun 22, 2015 12:59:04 GMT -5 cl8badb said:

Hahaha theyre worse than drug pushers!

They are! I have to avoid perfume samplers by coming in a side entrance. One lotion sample gave me a rash.

Theres a booth in the mall that sells hair straightners and products and extensions.
I almost let one of the sales people have it one day.
My mom has very very thin hair. Like balding.
One of the sales people tried to sell her extensions and fillers while we were walking by. That was absolutely humiliating for my mom.
I was so pissed off. I honestly think its better that i kept my mouth shut bc i may have needed bail money.

[cl8badb]

Jun 22, 2015 13:02:22 GMT -5 lizzybizzy said:

Jun 22, 2015 12:59:04 GMT -5 cl8badb said:

Hahaha theyre worse than drug pushers!

They are! I have to avoid perfume samplers by coming in a side entrance. One lotion sample gave me a rash.

Ive started telling the lotion and perfume people that i get allergic reactions. It is true. I have sensative skin.

Or i just say no thank you and keep walking.

[lizzybizzy]

Jun 22, 2015 13:05:25 GMT -5 cl8badb said:

Jun 22, 2015 13:02:22 GMT -5 lizzybizzy said:

They are! I have to avoid perfume samplers by coming in a side entrance. One lotion sample gave me a rash.

Theres a booth in the mall that sells hair straightners and products and extensions.
I almost let one of the sales people have it one day.
My mom has very very thin hair. Like balding.
One of the sales people tried to sell her extensions and fillers while we were walking by. That was absolutely humiliating for my mom.
I was so pissed off. I honestly think its better that i kept my mouth shut bc i may have needed bail money.

Hell no. I would've donated.

[lizzybizzy]

Jun 22, 2015 13:07:02 GMT -5 cl8badb said:

Jun 22, 2015 13:02:22 GMT -5 lizzybizzy said:

They are! I have to avoid perfume samplers by coming in a side entrance. One lotion sample gave me a rash.

Ive started telling the lotion and perfume people that i get allergic reactions. It is true. I have sensative skin.

Or i just say no thank you and keep walking.

I do that with the kiosk pushers, luckily they don't really have any here.