Randoms of the Wednesday

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zonagirl you got this! I think all surgery is nerve wrecking no matter if it's minor or major. I am a rcs also and all the advice you received is great. When my doctor told me I had to have an emergency C-section with my daughter I lost my shit. I had never had surgery before and I was terrified. The surgery itself wasn't bad, what bothered me is they took the baby and my husband and dropped them in recovery while I was being stitched up at the end. So I was in there by myself. I will be speaking with my doctor about that this time and see if they can stay with me.

The positive side of a C-section in my opinion is 1 you know when baby is coming, there is no guessing game (although we might all go into labor naturally still) and 2. you get to see baby within like 15 mins after surgery starts. It's really quick. The entire surgery from beginning to end is like an hour. Then it's recovery time. I just keep telling myself that I have an end date, 8/21 at 9am and that by 10am I will be holding baby boy!

Good luck!!

[telos]

Jul 29, 2015 13:23:43 GMT -5 hiimjamie said:

ICE CREAM DAY AT WORK! I have no idea why but I'm not questioning it. They literally pushed around a little cart and had ice cream truck music playing on it which was awesome. They tried to give me an extra one for the baby, but I declined bc self control.

OK this is so much better than the hairy fries. WANT.

[aelias]

Jul 29, 2015 13:44:32 GMT -5 joi922 said:

Jul 29, 2015 13:35:51 GMT -5 zonagirl said:

Thanks guys for the support jabs thanks so much for sharing your experience. I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday too!

I am just happy to know that from the results of the NST that she is ok in there. Her size really worried me and when the OB said growth restriction I started to get very concerned. Then he made some dumb comment about how it is a good thing because we want our girls to be cute and petite (um what in the actual fuck?!) I just hope he is a competent surgeon because he seems like a real ass.

Wait, what? ASSHAT.

And I probably would have said that to his face if he said that to me right after I found out about a possible growth restriction, breech position, and scheduled c section all in one morning.

ASSHAT.

I don't know what the policy is with your office, but hopefully you can do your follow up care with the MWs instead of him. Because that guy clearly has no clue how to be reassuring/have any bedside manner whatsoever.    

zonagirl,  HOLY SHIT, I would be so mad!

Report him.  Report him to whoever you can report him to, either at his hospital or wherever else.  NOT OKAY!

[hiimjamie]

Jul 29, 2015 13:46:31 GMT -5 queenb said:

incir Ugh. I'd be done with her. Not a friend worth keeping. We didn't tell anyone (except my parents and BFF) until 13 weeks and didn't "announce" til almost 20 weeks. I had a missed miscarriage before and was terrified. People don't get it until they're in that situation.

shayr I'd probably pick the hair out and keep eating them... I'm disgusting.

zonagirl I'm sorry for the unsettling news. I can understand the disappointment that you won't be having the birth experience you were hoping for; However, that's great that the midwife was thorough. Your c-section should go smoothly and hopefully you heal quickly and baby starts bulking up.

hiimjamie Aww that made me all misty eyed. So happy for you guys. Was your wife conceiving an option you ever considered?

We would have tried it if I couldn't get pregnant. This last try was actually the final time the RE was going to let me try, then we would have moved on to my wife. I just really really wanted to experience pregnancy. I always have and she just is impartial. She wants kids but she didn't really want to actually be pregnant. To be 100% honest, even though it's completely unfair and I would have loved out child no matter what, I think I would have resented her on some level if she was able to get pregnant and I wasn't after trying so hard.

[htuzzi324]

All this latex free tape everywhere and I still am itching like crazy. That's just not fair.

BUT...my ob said if I do well today we can go home tomorrow! I'm waiting for Dh to get here to sit with the baby so I can go walk the halls so they can see I can walk distances. I want to go home so bad. I just want to relax in my own comfortable surroundings.

[queenb]

esgrunner I would probably go somewhere else... I totally get that she should fix it because she didn't deliver what you asked for, but if you doubt her ability, I'd just sacrifice the $40 (and I'm not a big fan of confrontation).

telos I think that check-in is a great idea!

[noname]

Sounds like lots of us are having rough days, hope everyone's day improves!

I'm running on about 2 hours of sleep after being up all night with DD and a stomach bug. I think she's trying to remind me what it's like to have a newborn with all the poop and lack of sleep. And I had to drag her to my OB appt today which ended up being ok but she fell asleep on the way home in the car meaning she wouldn't nap once we got home, meaning I didn't get to nap. So exhausted and really hoping I don't catch what she has. Lots of Lysol being used in our house today.

[hiimjamie]

Jul 29, 2015 13:55:26 GMT -5 htuzzi324 said:

All this latex free tape everywhere and I still am itching like crazy. That's just not fair.

BUT...my ob said if I do well today we can go home tomorrow! I'm waiting for Dh to get here to sit with the baby so I can go walk the halls so they can see I can walk distances. I want to go home so bad. I just want to relax in my own comfortable surroundings.

I'm allergic to the actual adhesive in medical tape/bandaids. They give me horrible rashes and blisters so I aways get special tape. I hope everything goes smoothly and you're able to head home soon!

[RandomName]

Jul 29, 2015 9:19:51 GMT -5 @piedpiper07 said:

Spent all day being monitored yesterday after my appt. Baby has a super high heart rate (180s-190s) but always calms down. In addition I feel like I have been leaking. The litmus test showed a bit of amniotic fluid, but not a lot. Dr said that it was not enough that they'd do anything proactively about it (just a very slow leak). But I have been having prodromal labour for weeks already so she swept my membranes last night. I went for an epic walk between 3:30-4:30am and am having minor contractions still this morning (which is nothing new) and have lost my mucous plug.

TL/DR: Please pray dilating thoughts for me.

FX that you progress today and you're one of the lucky ones who goes into labor soon after loosing your MP!

[motownthrowdown]

zonagirl, I'm sorry your birth plan is out the window. I wanted a med free vaginal like runningmommy519 too, and I ended up with 45 minutes warning of an emergency c section.

Advice: breathe normally. I found myself hyperventilating the entire time they were prepping me. I was pretty much having a full blown panic attack at the time though, which I'm sure you will not be doing. They will numb you first. No big deal. The actual epidural stings a little, but it doesn't hurt, if that makes sense. If you feel like you aren't breathing, talk. The act of speaking will prove that you are breathing. I did not feel like that, but I've heard it happens sometimes. You will have an anesthesia person right by your head the entire time. Tell them anything you are worried about, anything that seems strange. My arms were shaking and bouncing off the table, but again, panic attack.

Recovery was fine. I had my epidural for three days for pain relief. Then I was on nothing. The catheter was actually kind of nice because I didn't have to get up, plus I couldn't feel that peeing sensation anyway.

Hugs. Feel free to pm or whatever if you have more questions.

[zonagirl]

I'm on mobile and it is hard to tag, but thank you guys so much! I can say that so far today nothing has made me feel better about this than coming on here and reading your encouragement. Hearing about your experiences has made me feel much more calm. I'll be thinking of all you strong mamas that have done it before when I'm going in on Tuesday!

@runningmommy I am 38+2. They didn't tell me her estimated birth weight but right now she weighs in the low fives. But I'm guessing it must not be too concerning because we aren't doing anything for close to another week...?

[econmarie]

I bought sweet corn for the weekend at the farmers market at lunch, and I scheduled a free massage on the 10th with a massage school where my friend teaches...so now I'm convinced I'm going to have this baby early. #logic

[gingerygirl]

The Stupid School Saga continues but I'm too upset and tired to write the whole thing so tl;dr, I'm losing all of my financial aid awards. The grants, the scholarships, all of it. I really just wanna curl up with my blankie and cry. I want to just say screw it and forget about school. I'm too pregnant for this.

[hurricaine]

zonagirl, That's a lot of information to process in one appointment. I don't have any specific advice or insight, except to hang in there. We're all thinking about you and have our fingers crossed that all will be well.


ETA: That comment? What the fuck?!  

[telos]

abvintage, I had the same problem with DS1, who would get so hangry that he wouldn't latch - he'd just scream and wave his arms and shake his head. So counterproductive. Poor kid. I got the best latches from him when he was just coming out of sleep - I'd snatch him up and try to feed him right away. I also got really good at looking for the earlier signs of hunger (opening mouth, putting fingers in mouth, rooting, etc.) and would try to feed him ASAP because it'd be seconds before he'd start crying. This is really hard in the early days when other people are holding your baby because they don't understand the urgency and think the rooting, etc. is cute - but, you have to pull a momma bear. As DS1 got older, I found "dream feeding" to be really effective. Stimulate the latch reaction in his sleep by running your nipple along his upper lip (same for waking with feedings, too). Doesn't always work with newborns, but with older babies it helps stay on top of the late night feedings and I always got a better latch because he was calm. HTH.

[econmarie]

Jul 29, 2015 12:46:38 GMT -5 abvintage said:

Jul 29, 2015 7:01:22 GMT -5 ampaints said:

We're going for Miles' weight recheck this morning. He has been feeding much easier after the tongue tie was clipped. I'm also meeting with a lactation consultant. I'll be happy for any pointers they can give for when he gets all wound up.

We found out yesterday that H's dad has pancreatic cancer. We'll find out more information on Monday. He lives in California and isn't very close to H or his brother or sister. It still sucks. Once we know more we'll figure out if he'll be able to come to Georgia or if Miles first trip will be to California. We're trying to stay optimistic, but pancreatic cancer is a tough one and the doctors think he's had it a while.

I need those pointers! Beau is getting so hangry he won't latch. Also, I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL. I pray things turn around!

Have you tried expressing some milk onto your nipple and then seeing if he will latch? Sometimes getting it going a bit will clue him in that he needs to hang out there for the goods. Good luck!

[telos]

Jul 29, 2015 14:10:00 GMT -5 gingerygirl said:

The Stupid School Saga continues but I'm too upset and tired to write the whole thing so tl;dr, I'm losing all of my financial aid awards. The grants, the scholarships, all of it. I really just wanna curl up with my blankie and cry. I want to just say screw it and forget about school. I'm too pregnant for this.

WTAF?! I am so angry for you. I'm sorry you're going through this.

[runningmommy519]

zonagirl that's a great weight! I doubt she'll need a NICU or level 2 nursery.

gingerygirl I'm sorry. Hugs to you.

[htuzzi324]

Jul 29, 2015 14:16:50 GMT -5 econmarie said:

Jul 29, 2015 12:46:38 GMT -5 abvintage said:

I need those pointers! Beau is getting so hangry he won't latch. Also, I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL. I pray things turn around!

Have you tried expressing some milk onto your nipple and then seeing if he will latch? Sometimes getting it going a bit will clue him in that he needs to hang out there for the goods. Good luck!

Noah gets hysterical pretty quickly and I found just some simple skin to skin and butt patting get him calmed down pretty quickly to try again (this kid gets frustrated if he doesn't immediately get something and pops back off about 4 times before we get a successful latch)

[gingerygirl]

My sister just sent me this picture of my niece to cheer me up. She found her like this, and yes, the water is running. It was too cute, I had to share.
(she gave me permission to post this picture)

[shannonabigail]

Does anyone else's sweat smell different? My deodorant is still working but I can smell my back sweat. It's not a bad smell but just weird that I can smell it.

[econmarie]

Jul 29, 2015 14:27:51 GMT -5 htuzzi324 said:

Jul 29, 2015 14:16:50 GMT -5 econmarie said:

Have you tried expressing some milk onto your nipple and then seeing if he will latch? Sometimes getting it going a bit will clue him in that he needs to hang out there for the goods. Good luck!

Noah gets hysterical pretty quickly and I found just some simple skin to skin and butt patting get him calmed down pretty quickly to try again (this kid gets frustrated if he doesn't immediately get something and pops back off about 4 times before we get a successful latch)

I spent a decent amount of time topless with DD in a Moby to calm her down...good times. 

[lemon200]

Jul 29, 2015 13:06:40 GMT -5 zonagirl said:

So haven't read any of the randoms yet today. My random is not so random. I went in for a routine visit with my MW this morning. We do most of the visit and she finishes up by checking baby's position. Almost every time I'm seen I have a different MW. So far I have been checked by three different ones...always the same thing: they seem confused about baby's position and then come to the conclusion that she is head down. Well this MW says she thinks baby is head up. She does a vaginal exam and can't feel the head so she sends me to get an ultrasound at the hospital.

MH comes to meet me. They confirm at the ultrasound that she is breech. Also that she is measuring really tiny; bottom 10%. I meet with the OB and he says he would consider her to have a growth restriction. We decide because of this an external version is out of the question and we scheduled a c-section for next Tuesday morning. We did an NST and she seems just fine. My head is completely spinning and I have bad several crying meltdowns. I was all prepared for a non medicated birth center birth and now I am getting major surgery and completely terrified! C-section mamas any reassurance would be appreciated...

I recommend getting a second ultrasound to make sure. They had told me that my LO was at 12% and were about to induce me but decided to wait and do another ultrasound to see if she dropped further. Turns out the next ultrasound she was at 22% which is fine, and they said that they must have just messed up at the last ultrasound. They also induced my sister-in-law because they said my nephew was too small (5ish lbs) and he turned out to be 6lb6oz. I don't trust the ultrasound measurements. 

[aelias]

Jul 29, 2015 14:10:00 GMT -5 gingerygirl said:

The Stupid School Saga continues but I'm too upset and tired to write the whole thing so tl;dr, I'm losing all of my financial aid awards. The grants, the scholarships, all of it. I really just wanna curl up with my blankie and cry. I want to just say screw it and forget about school. I'm too pregnant for this.

WHAT? NO!  NO NO NO NO!

I DO NOT LIKE TO HAVE TO USE THIS TWICE IN ONE DAY!

[jabs]

telos, we had sling tv for a while. Like you we got it for sports reasons, so as soon as our teams were done playing it quickly got canceled. We did watch a little HGTV and Disney, but not enough to keep it. Plus I had a lot of problems with Disney for some reason. It's been a while since we've had so they may have fixed some of the issues.

[aelias]

abvintage it doesn't work every time, but I found that sometimes, when my LO was wailing away, he'd get a nice, wide open mouth and I could get a decent latch that way.

Sorry you're dealing with this. Latch issues are so frustrating. Hang in there.

[2dumbdogs]

Jul 29, 2015 13:30:51 GMT -5 esgrunner said:

Ugh. I went for a haircut today. I go about twice a year, so it is a big deal for me. The salon in town I like most is now closed and the girl I've used at the 2nd best place is out on maternity, so I took a chance with someone new. She gave me a bad haircut. I have long, thick hair and told her I just wanted it cleaned up and lightened up and to get the layers looking good again. Well, she basically just trimmed the ends and did one layer. The bottom layer looks light/thin and the shorter layer is thick and heavy and basically just looks like it was done straight across. There is no angling, no face framing, nothing flattering going on. 
So, here's my question: do I go back to that salon and try to get it fixed or do I just find somewhere else? It was $40, so not crazy expensive, but not super cheap (to me) either. I don't know that this girl has the skills to fix it herself, and I don't want to risk her messing it up more. How does this work? 

Call the Salon Manager and ask if someone else could re-do the cut for you because you are so unhappy with it.  If it's a decent place, they should schedule you with someone else, perhaps the manager themselves.  If you describe your hair/your wishes, they can match you with someone who is stronger in that area as well.

[oopsiedaisies]

Jul 29, 2015 14:28:19 GMT -5 shannonabigail said:

Does anyone else's sweat smell different? My deodorant is still working but I can smell my back sweat. It's not a bad smell but just weird that I can smell it.

Yes. All my smells are different. Its just weird. 

[2dumbdogs]

Jul 29, 2015 13:41:22 GMT -5 telos said:

We haven't had cable for seven years or so, but I've been thinking about getting Sling TV for DH's birthday in September because of the ESPN offerings. It's $20/month (and we already have a Roku), so I was thinking of buying it for five months through the entire college football season - DH is a huge fan, and as it is, we have to go to my parents' house to watch a lot of the games. Bonus is, we'd get HGTV, Disney and the news channels. Anyone have this? Think it's worth it? Planning ahead.

General question for everyone: thoughts on starting a PPD/anxiety check-in? I know a lot of us have fears and/or experiences with PPD and/or pre-existing or past depression/anxiety and it might be helpful as a source of support and knowledge. (I screened as high risk for PPD at the hospital, although I'm not totally sure yet if I have it.) The mental wellness forum on TCF appears to be a bit slow these days. I'll start one, if there's interest in this sort of thread.

re #1 - we are considering the sling + netflix + amazon prime route.  I have a friend who does that and seems to be happy with it, but he is not a football guy so he may be a bad judge...ESPN gets enough college to keep me happy but not enough NFL...

re #2 - interested.  may go home and crush up lexapro and snort it to get me through these last few weeks.

[kcebeling]

Jul 29, 2015 13:41:22 GMT -5 telos said:

General question for everyone: thoughts on starting a PPD/anxiety check-in? I know a lot of us have fears and/or experiences with PPD and/or pre-existing or past depression/anxiety and it might be helpful as a source of support and knowledge. (I screened as high risk for PPD at the hospital, although I'm not totally sure yet if I have it.) The mental wellness forum on TCF appears to be a bit slow these days. I'll start one, if there's interest in this sort of thread.

 TBH, I think the work helps a bit with the lingering anxiety. I keep going though the events leading up to his birth over and over in my head. My OB said the abruption site was inflamed, indicating that it'd been that way for a while - so why didn't I notice it? what symptoms did I miss? did I let the kids jump on my belly too hard? but, FFS everything turned out fine. Why do I even care? And, even though I was leaning heavily towards not having anymore children (although I know DH wants more), I'm now obsessed with the fact that there's a 20% chance of this happening again, where everything possibly doesn't turn out fine. 

**I guess this is a trigger post...**

Hey Lady, this happened to me after I lost my dad while giving him CPR. I read a lot about the thinking and re-thinking process and I have chalked it up to a primitive post-traumatic response where our brains replay what happened so if we encounter the same situation again, we can correct the errors to keep ourselves safer than last time. PM me if you want to talk more about it as I've had thirteen years of overthinking under my belt. For me, just addressing that the obsessive re-thinking of thoughts was my body's primitive reaction "to achieve a better outcome next time" helped me deal with it. Clearly, in my situation, there won't be a next time--guilt and heart-break aside--but for you, the reaction is completely plausible.

Also, yes I would be interested in joining the thread. Would it be here in August 15 or on another board?