We are on our way to the opening of a new mall. I'm not particularly fond of malls, but I didn't have anything better planned for today and it's cold outside.
My child set the sleep timer on ourDVD player, so every 30 minutes, it shuts off. DHand I haveno idea how to turn it off, so the player just keeps shutting off every 30 minutes. Baby: 1 mom and Dad: 0
Hahaha. And it starts.
Google the instruction manual I am sure it is in the interweb
Post by lilyelayne on Nov 13, 2015 21:03:03 GMT -5
Today with my mother:
DS reaches for my water cup. I give him a sip. Mom: you have a cold! Don't do that! I laugh hysterically. Mom: you'll give him your germs! Me: 90% of his nutrition comes from my bodily fluids. Pretty sure he's got all my germs already.
Post by lilyelayne on Nov 17, 2015 20:42:16 GMT -5
I have a new book I really want to read, but I'm not letting myself as long as I'm behind on my novel. I know if I start I'll read instead of writing in my spare time.
lilyelayne How long is the trip? Is it supply you are worried about or bottle issues? My supply took a little dive after being away for a weekend, but it quickly came back in a couple of days.
I have a new book I really want to read, but I'm not letting myself as long as I'm behind on my novel. I know if I start I'll read instead of writing in my spare time.
I have a new book I really want to read, but I'm not letting myself as long as I'm behind on my novel. I know if I start I'll read instead of writing in my spare time.
lilyelayne How long is the trip? Is it supply you are worried about or bottle issues? My supply took a little dive after being away for a weekend, but it quickly came back in a couple of days.
It's only a weekend.
Tl;dr- I am worried about all of it.
DS is doing a little better taking a bottle, but when he gets one practice bottle when DH gets home from work, it's hard to tell how much he'll need for a full feeding. That nursing session is the least crucial / desired of the day. Despite the fact he drinks water from a sippy like a champ, he refuses BM from a cup. But that'll be okay, I think, when he doesn't have another choice he'll drink his milk, right? Right? And if not he'll probably make up for it with solids. Even if that causes a nursing strike, we'll get through it.
I don't respond to my electric pump at all or my manual one half the time, so I've been hand expressing for practice bottles and freezer stash. I've gotten quite good at that, but I usually do the opposite side I've just nursed, so I know DS has helped me with letdown which obviously won't work while I'm away. I got the pumping pals flanges to see if they help, next step is a better manual pump.
Also my FFC is that while I hate waking up MOTN I love our night nursing sessions & have no desire to try to cut them out. So I fret a little about whether or not I need to budget milk for those sessions while I'm away or if he'll go down with just cuddles or maybe some water for my parents.
Also I really hate being away from DS. Which probably isn't healthy mentally but whatever. He's changing so much so fast I'm trying my best to soak it all in. I think the idea of going from never being away from him for more than 2-3 hours to several nights likely within a month or so (a practice night with my parents while I'm still in town, the weekend I'm away, the night or two he'll have to stay with the ILs so they get THEIR TURN) is too much for me.
So if you couldn't tell by the word vomit when I actually start thinking about it, I spiral, so basically I'm just building a freezer stash and shutting down all trains of thought that lead to Weekend Away station.
Mom says she'll babysit in NoLa if that'll make me feel better, but I know I'll just want to hang out with my baby so that's counterproductive.
I also have a weekend trip away from baby cougar coming up in January, so I understand your worry. I don't have the concerns with him taking a bottle, so that helps, but it also means that I can't imagine how much more worried it makes you. But there's still 2 months, maybe he'll get better at either the bottle or drinking bm from a cup in that time.
What I keep reminding myself, though, is that it's important to have time alone too. I'll go away for a couple of days, spend quality one-on-one time with DH and come back to be a better, hopefully more relaxed, mommy for lo.
I did chuckle at the part about sending him to the ils so they get their turn. Ugh, you know that'll be a thing for us too. I told DH we shouldn't tell them we're even leaving, just say we're busy that weekend if they ask to come over or whatever. Haha (I wish)
Something else I keep reminding myself about is that the fact we'll only be 3 hours away, so if we really can't handle it we can always go back. But I think it'll be just fine! And I think when you get back you'll be happy you went.
lilyelayne How long is the trip? Is it supply you are worried about or bottle issues? My supply took a little dive after being away for a weekend, but it quickly came back in a couple of days.
It's only a weekend.
Tl;dr- I am worried about all of it.
DS is doing a little better taking a bottle, but when he gets one practice bottle when DH gets home from work, it's hard to tell how much he'll need for a full feeding. That nursing session is the least crucial / desired of the day. Despite the fact he drinks water from a sippy like a champ, he refuses BM from a cup. But that'll be okay, I think, when he doesn't have another choice he'll drink his milk, right? Right? And if not he'll probably make up for it with solids. Even if that causes a nursing strike, we'll get through it.
I don't respond to my electric pump at all or my manual one half the time, so I've been hand expressing for practice bottles and freezer stash. I've gotten quite good at that, but I usually do the opposite side I've just nursed, so I know DS has helped me with letdown which obviously won't work while I'm away. I got the pumping pals flanges to see if they help, next step is a better manual pump.
Also my FFC is that while I hate waking up MOTN I love our night nursing sessions & have no desire to try to cut them out. So I fret a little about whether or not I need to budget milk for those sessions while I'm away or if he'll go down with just cuddles or maybe some water for my parents.
Also I really hate being away from DS. Which probably isn't healthy mentally but whatever. He's changing so much so fast I'm trying my best to soak it all in. I think the idea of going from never being away from him for more than 2-3 hours to several nights likely within a month or so (a practice night with my parents while I'm still in town, the weekend I'm away, the night or two he'll have to stay with the ILs so they get THEIR TURN) is too much for me.
So if you couldn't tell by the word vomit when I actually start thinking about it, I spiral, so basically I'm just building a freezer stash and shutting down all trains of thought that lead to Weekend Away station.
Mom says she'll babysit in NoLa if that'll make me feel better, but I know I'll just want to hang out with my baby so that's counterproductive.
Well, that is a lot! I can understand your concerns. I had a lot of regrets before I went away for the weekend too. But I really enjoyed myself while being away, which helped, and getting a whole night of uninterrupted sleep didn't hurt either. I know that doesn't help beforehand, but I was really glad I went.
I can see how building a freezer stash when you don't respond to the pump is a problem. I underresponded to the pump for a long time as well, and then suddenly it got all better. I have no idea why, so I'm no help there. Hydration?
I think your LO will take a bottle once he realizes it's the only way to get milk. DD doesn't take it if she knows I'm around, but gulps down everything if it's the only choice. I hope it's the same for you! Can you maybe try a practice bottle at a more crucial time to know how much he needs? DD eats around 4oz, if that's any help.
I'd budget on MOTN milk and instruct your parents to give him a bottle if he wakes up. But even if he STTN or goes down with only a little water, there's no guarantee he will keep that up for long. Maybe once you're back, he'll want to nurse again.
I also think you should space out your nights away from LO as much as possible so you don't have so many in a month. Maybe have one at your parents pretty soon? You can make the stay as short as possible - leave him there (or have them come to you) just before bed time, and pick him up (or come home) as soon as he wakes up for the day. And ILs can wait, it's more important that you and your little man are comfortable than pleasing them.
I don't know if that was any help at all, but I hope so. If you feel really really uncomfortable you should cancel the trip, but I encourage you to go 'cause I think you will enjoy it.
Hugs. I SO feel you on this. I already weaseled my way out of a 5 night business trip this month - blamed breastfeeding - that I'll have to take in January instead, and I was up for an hour last night mentally downward spiraling about it. I know people have good intentions when they remind us that we need to be comfortable away from the babes, but I say this time is SO fleeting that we can do it however we want. lol. Hopefully your anxiety eases about it so you can enjoy yourself, but you're not alone!
ETA not sure how i effed up that quote box, but this is what i was responding to:
Also I really hate being away from DS. Which probably isn't healthy mentally but whatever. He's changing so much so fast I'm trying my best to soak it all in. I think the idea of going from never being away from him for more than 2-3 hours to several nights likely within a month or so (a practice night with my parents while I'm still in town, the weekend I'm away, the night or two he'll have to stay with the ILs so they get THEIR TURN) is too much for me.
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