We told my family and that's it. I don't get an ultrasound until 12-13 weeks so I wouldn't feel comfortable doing anything until then. My 7 year old niece knows and she's a blabber mouth ( and so is my mom) so we'll see who finds out from other people.
With the first one I didn't tell anyone except one girl at work until 18 weeks (parents included). I was so paranoid about jinxing it and then we decided to wait until after the NT scan. The baby wasn't in the right position so I had to have 4 weeks of blood draws. It ended up being that long before we told anyone. I think my mom was mad but oh well. She is such a blabber mouth and we have a huge family so it's all or nothing.
The second time I only made it to 8 weeks but I had told a few more people, still not parents. When I lost it, it was so hard to tell those few people that I decided if I got pg again I would wait.
This time, we are definitely waiting until we get the tests back for the verify (which should be next week) and probably wait a week or so after that so I'm at least 12. I'm more excited to tell about this one. We will be able to do a joint announcement, "we're pregnant and it's a ______!!"
Just wondering where everyone else was, because I'm a nosy person.
Last time around I told my parents, ILs, and a few close friends right away, like a day or two after we found out. With the m/c, I had only told my BFF and then ending up telling my parents once I started spotting. This time we've told my parents and I told my BFF a few days ago. We'll tell the ILs after our dating ultrasound next week, and everyone else after the first trimester.
Are all of you planning/did you already have an NT scan done? We didn't do it with Robin but I'm on the fence this time around. Part of me feels like yay, extra ultrasound! But another part of me feels like it could bring up (potentially unnecessary) stress if wonky results come out. Also, blood work. I hate blood work.
Also, is it possible to find out the sex at the NT scan, in general?
Are all of you planning/did you already have an NT scan done? We didn't do it with Robin but I'm on the fence this time around. Part of me feels like yay, extra ultrasound! But another part of me feels like it could bring up (potentially unnecessary) stress if wonky results come out. Also, blood work. I hate blood work.
Also, is it possible to find out the sex at the NT scan, in general?
I'm not pregnant but this thread is fun to follow We did the NT scan with both and it was good for me especially after my losses to know things were looking good. I know they say they can't officially tell sex at 12 weeks, but with DS we saw what looked like boy parts and the tech said she was about 80 % sure it was a boy. With DD, no indication either way since she wss more modest.
I had it done and am having it this time too. No you don't find out the gender. I also had the "verify" test done that wasn't available the first time. It takes fetal blood cells from your blood and does a fish test to look for certain markers. It can tell you your risks of trisomy 13,18,21 and a few sex chromosome disorders and also gender. It's more accurate than the NT scan but I wanted both since it is a new test. I'm also a scientist and firmly in the camp of more information is better.
As a side note, I also hate blood work but with the miscarriage and this pregnancy I've had it drawn so many times I'm not so bad anymore. It helps to drink lots of water the day of and count something while she is taking it.
I had it done both times. I know that it can potentially cause more worry but I'm also the type of person that rather know what is going on as early as possible if there may be a medical concern. If something had come back abnormal I would have even elected for further testing. And while I know that I would not have been able to change anything I would have at least wanted to be able to prepare myself ahead of time.
Are all of you planning/did you already have an NT scan done? We didn't do it with Robin but I'm on the fence this time around. Part of me feels like yay, extra ultrasound! But another part of me feels like it could bring up (potentially unnecessary) stress if wonky results come out. Also, blood work. I hate blood work.
Also, is it possible to find out the sex at the NT scan, in general?
I'm not pregnant but this thread is fun to follow We did the NT scan with both and it was good for me especially after my losses to know things were looking good. I know they say they can't officially tell sex at 12 weeks, but with DS we saw what looked like boy parts and the tech said she was about 80 % sure it was a boy. With DD, no indication either way since she wss more modest.
I've had it with all 3. Honestly I can't imagine not having it. It gives a lot of information, and if in the unfortunate case something is wrong then you know. Personally I was always worried about a missed miscarriage and the 12 week ultrasound helped stop that worry. I can't imagine the stress I would have until able to hear the heartbeat at regular appointments.
We got it done with T and will get it done again. I in the "more you know" camp. I don't think you can determine the sex, but that doesn't really pertain to us because we are hard core team greeners.
I'm not pregnant but this thread is fun to follow We did the NT scan with both and it was good for me especially after my losses to know things were looking good. I know they say they can't officially tell sex at 12 weeks, but with DS we saw what looked like boy parts and the tech said she was about 80 % sure it was a boy. With DD, no indication either way since she wss more modest.
I've had it with all 3. Honestly I can't imagine not having it. It gives a lot of information, and if in the unfortunate case something is wrong then you know. Personally I was always worried about a missed miscarriage and the 12 week ultrasound helped stop that worry. I can't imagine the stress I would have until able to hear the heartbeat at regular appointments.
I think this is the main reason I'm considering it this time around. With Robin I knew so little about pretty much everything, it didn't even occur to me this was a thing until I started reading the BMBs. Now that I've had an early loss, even though everything seems okay this time around, I'm still much more anxious in general.
@kskim I've had so much bloodwork done too! Especially with Robin at the end, I kept having really high BPs and they would do blood draws to check kidney/liver function. My problem is that I have terribly hard to stick veins and I'm always super anxious I'm going to get an unexperienced lab tech (like yesterday, when I went for my baseline bloodwork and had to get stuck 4 times!)
I had it done both times. I know that it can potentially cause more worry but I'm also the type of person that rather know what is going on as early as possible if there may be a medical concern. If something had come back abnormal I would have even elected for further testing. And while I know that I would not have been able to change anything I would have at least wanted to be able to prepare myself ahead of time.
All of this.
And from my experience the blood work I've had at the NT scan was just a finger prick and a few drops of blood. But I'm sure it's different everywhere. And at 12 wks you can't really tell sex, because the parts typically all look the same at that point and it's really inaccurate to guess this early. That's what the techs told us both times.
Post by abseptember on Jan 23, 2015 7:44:21 GMT -5
I had the nt scan and verifi testing done this time. I didn't have either with L. Being post m/c and having twins made me want the tests this time. I'm glad I had them, especially bc baby b has an echogenic focus on his heart which is a soft marker for downs. Since I had the blood work and no other soft markers were found, the dr said not to worry.
On a side note, today makes me officially 36 weeks pregnant... which is pretty crazy and I am so thankful to have made it this far! Im hoping these boys come in the near future, so please send labor vibes this way! Induction is set for Feb 6 but I can't imagine being pregnant for another 2 weeks.... which means I probably will be I have another dr apt on tuesday.
Maybe this is my pregnant FC...While you would never guess based on how much eating I am doing, I am oddly obsessed about my weight gain this time around. As in I am extremely terrified of gaining too much weight. I only gained 30 pounds total last time and seem to be on the same track this time around but maybe it is because how hard it was for me to lose it last time that has me scared?
I don't know...but I try to eat healthy things but then I keep eating a lot of really crappy stuff too and then have ridiculous guilt.
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Post by abseptember on Jan 23, 2015 16:53:19 GMT -5
Laurski81 i hear ya! I have bought so much random food that I would normally never eat this pregnancy. Peach o's and coco crispies have to be at the top of my random food list.
Maybe this is my pregnant FC...While you would never guess based on how much eating I am doing, I am oddly obsessed about my weight gain this time around. As in I am extremely terrified of gaining too much weight. I only gained 30 pounds total last time and seem to be on the same track this time around but maybe it is because how hard it was for me to lose it last time that has me scared?
I don't know...but I try to eat healthy things but then I keep eating a lot of really crappy stuff too and then have ridiculous guilt.
I think I'm going to be the same way this time. I only gained about 30lbs last time too but the past 6 months I've been working out regularly and am 5lbs less than I was when I got pregnant with Dagny. So I'm at the point where im actually happy with my body and all I can think about is 2 more years of working to lose weight. I do 100% plan on trying to work out (i.e walk on the treadmill) much more often with this pregnancy. Once first trimester ickiness is gone.
I am also watching my weight gain way more this time around, but that's because I could never get rid of the last 10 pounds from Robin, and then I did a lot of emotional/stress eating in the fall with the start of school and the m/c and everything, and THEN it was the holidays...yeah.
ETA: I gained about 35 with Robin. I'd really like to be closer to 25 this time around so my top weight with this one isn't too far off my top weight with Robin.
I have my dating ultrasound tomorrow! I am about 50/50 nervous/excited. So far no reason to think everything isn't okay--still lots of of symptoms and no spotting or anything like that, but I still can't help but wonder all the "what ifs?" I've got my fingers crossed we see a nice fast HB and that should curb my anxiety for awhile.
I don't think I get a dating ultrasound. I got one with T at 8 weeks because I had some spotting, but this time I don't think I'll have one until 13 weeks. I'm so nervous something will go wrong.
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Post by tribute17 on Jan 25, 2015 18:45:24 GMT -5
Good luck sarasansh. I'm nervous every time I go in. My doctor is great though and said anytime I need to ease my mind just call and they will get me in. I'm sure everything is fine. I hear sept 17 is a good birthday!
I'm not usually so pessimistic but it just took so long each time and I'm getting older, I don't want to have to start over again. I'm not sure how I would handle another loss. And I feel bad for saying that because I know there are people on here with way worse situations.
I don't think I get a dating ultrasound. I got one with T at 8 weeks because I had some spotting, but this time I don't think I'll have one until 13 weeks. I'm so nervous something will go wrong.
I didn't get with Robin. Because I didn't do the NT scan with him, I actually wouldn't have had an ultrasound until 20 weeks with him, except my uterus was tilted so it was taking forever to find his heartbeat (I still hadn't heard it at 12 weeks!) so they sent me for one so I could see him. Crazy to think about now how chill I was about the whole thing. This time I'm like "I want ALL the scans!"
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