Post by mymilkshake on Jul 12, 2016 10:35:58 GMT -5
GOmamab15 I also never swelled during pregnancy, but after both my legs blew up like tree trunks!! The nurses said that for some, walking around and being on yor feet helped, while others needed to keep their feet elevated. I think I needed time and elevation. The swelling slowly went down over 1-2 weeks. Thy said my swelling was in part due to all the fluids they pumped me with as well as all the blood loss during my emergency c section.
Post by virginiaorjohn on Jul 12, 2016 22:57:11 GMT -5
Is there such a thing as new mom insomnia? We surpassed LO's birth weight at the ped's office today and they said I didn't have to wake her every 3 hours for feeds at night anymore... So naturally the first night I might actually sleep for more than 2 hours at a time, I'm more awake then I've been in days. WTF body.
virginiaorjohn I don't have the insomnia, but I do tend to be bad about getting to bed at night. For instance, it is 12:20 and DS is asleep on me. I am telling myself I'm not putting him down because he will probably just spit up and wake himself and it will be a waste of time. But really, I should probably try and instead I'm messing about on Facebook. 5 am me REALLY doesn't like 1 am me due to these poor choices.
I put DS down by himself for the first time tonight. Normally we keep him in a bassinet in the room with us until we go to bed. But he keeps falling asleep consistently around 8:30. It is too early for sleep training, of course. But I figure putting him down in a quiet, dark room when he goes to sleep in the evenings might make the transition easier later. I celebrated my child free time by staring obsessively at the video monitor until he started to fuss. He woke up when he always does, around 11. I found the whole thing a bit anxiety inducing. I've left him for a few hours with family or DH, but never just in a room by himself. I don't know if it is better to have him with us so he is used to sleeping through light and sound. But I figure when in doubt, giving him more peace and quiet is better?
I just can't get DS to sleep in anything but my arms for long stretches. Last night he slept in his rock n play for two hours. When he woke up to eat he slept on me for a bit, then he woke up again to eat. I swaddled him when done and got him back to sleep. I put him back in the rock n play and he slept for all of 20 minutes. Then he woke up hungry again. I would love for him to even do two hour stretches in the rock n play. Im not asking for hours and hours- I just want him to learn to sleep out of my arms. He is currently swaddled on a boppy on me while I wait to put him in. I'm starting to feel like a failure. I miss sleeping in bed with DH- we've been on the couch since we got home from the hospital last week. Ugh, just a rough night.
Kevinmac and GOmamab15, I had this problem last night. I will say it has gotten better, so you both have that to look forward to. Lately she's been able to sleep in R&P for 2-3 hours at a time. She's just not consistent with it. Last night she would only sleep in my arms so I held her from 11pm-3am. Then she woke for feeding/changing and I put her in the R&P around 4am. She woke up around 4:45 am crying. She wanted to be held:(
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jul 13, 2016 7:11:28 GMT -5
virginiaorjohn I think I missed your birth announcement. Congratulations!!! And yes, insomnia is real. There's so much adrenaline in your system! It definitely took me a couple weeks before I could sleep deeply again.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jul 13, 2016 7:14:22 GMT -5
Kevinmac and GOmamab15 yeah I was camped out on the couch for the first two weeks or so. Baby would only sleep in my arms or in the little newborn napper for 30 minutes or so at a time, and was feeding hourly. It sucked, but it didn't last forever. Hang in there!
virginiaorjohn this happens to me all the time. I actually googled new mom insomnia. DD is starting to sleep longer stretches and is actually pretty good now at eating and going back to sleep fairly quickly, but I lie awake with my brain racing. It sucks cause I then am mad cause I'm not sleeping when she is and I put pressure on myself to sleep, which of course makes me super awake. I have started doing muscle tightening and releasing exercise to help my body relax. I think it has helped a bit.
Kevinmac and @gomama15 Hugs! It will get better, but those nights are so hard! DH and I slept in shifts holding her for about 2 weeks cause she would not be put down. Hang in there mamas you are awesome!!!
Is there such a thing as new mom insomnia? We surpassed LO's birth weight at the ped's office today and they said I didn't have to wake her every 3 hours for feeds at night anymore... So naturally the first night I might actually sleep for more than 2 hours at a time, I'm more awake then I've been in days. WTF body.
Edit: autocorrect
Yes yes yes. I always struggle with insomnia though. It's awful. So sorry.
vivela I understand the anxiety of putting your baby down alone in a room. I really think it will make it easier on you guys down the road if you continue to do that routine though. Do you think it would help your anxiety to get one of those sensors that you can attach to the baby's feet? Can you zoom in enough with your video monitor to see baby breathing? I've felt the anxiety that you're describing about this exact scenario. I honestly didn't find too much in these early days that made me feel better, but my anxiety did significantly reduce as DS got older. Big hugs! I know it's hard.
Thanks babyzebra and @cheeze, I'm going to keep it up and see how it goes. I can see LO breathing pretty clearly on our video monitor and hear all his little noises, which helps!
Post by virginiaorjohn on Jul 18, 2016 2:28:56 GMT -5
Why does my baby insist upon making loud grunty noises only after the 3am feeding? She pulls none of this shit after the midnight feeding. It makes me fucking crazy, because I always have to take her downstairs so she doesn't wake DH and I'm really starting to miss my bed.
Why does my baby insist upon making loud grunty noises only after the 3am feeding? She pulls none of this shit after the midnight feeding. It makes me fucking crazy, because I always have to take her downstairs so she doesn't wake DH and I'm really starting to miss my bed.
This happens every night over here, too! Same timing as well. I can't sleep during the noises. I go batty.
But I don't really care if he wakes H. Maybe that is rude. Sometimes I wake him myself and have him take the baby to rock him or whatever else so I can finally get some sleep.
Why does my baby insist upon making loud grunty noises only after the 3am feeding? She pulls none of this shit after the midnight feeding. It makes me fucking crazy, because I always have to take her downstairs so she doesn't wake DH and I'm really starting to miss my bed.
This happens every night over here, too! Same timing as well. I can't sleep during the noises. I go batty.
But I don't really care if he wakes H. Maybe that is rude. Sometimes I wake him myself and have him take the baby to rock him or whatever else so I can finally get some sleep.
DD is usually super grunty after her second feed of the night too! MH never wakes up though... I will hear a particularly loud one and look over at him and he doesn't even stir.
txmommy14 I felt like that too this past week. We finally had a good night last night so hopefully it was a blip. Hope yours is too!!
Post by virginiaorjohn on Jul 18, 2016 8:02:30 GMT -5
What is it about the 3am hour? I thought it was just her but obviously it's the witching hour or some shit.
I probably should be in the "wake up DH" camp but it stresses me out to know that both of us will lose sleep because of the fussing. Plus, my plans today include feeding baby and napping, while he has to go to work. But DH is going to be out of town tomorrow night and I'm honestly thinking of putting LO in her crib instead of the rock n play in our room just to get some peace.
txmommy14 we have definitely regressed as well, I'm blaming it on a growth spurt.
Post by manybellsdown on Jul 18, 2016 8:40:54 GMT -5
Fascinating that 3am is the grunting hour for so many of us!
virginiaorjohn, I think you are just kind. Sometimes it's easy for me to fall in the "misery loves company" camp in the middle of the night haze (also he does help me grab another hour of sleep), but H is not yet working so that makes a difference.
Yes-3am is the tough time! I'm moving from the couch back up to our room at the end of the week. I'm hoping it goes ok, and DS can sleep some in his rock n play. DH goes back to work next week so it's an interesting time to do it.
DD has a harder time falling back asleep around 3 AM than other times too. I always try to trick DH into putting her back to sleep after that feeding. I think he's catching on though!
Post by sandandsea on Jul 18, 2016 10:22:47 GMT -5
I've been doing the motn stuff but I'm breastfeeding and Not yet pumping so it makes sense. If it ever took LO more than an hour to get back to sleep and i was totally overwhelmed i would tap out and let DH take over but we haven't been there yet. Dh is also handling the 4 year old motn wake ups. Once he goes back to work I won't wake him up but when we are both back we will alternate nights so every other night we get a good rest.
We were also taking yesterday how getting up with ds1 was torture and it's not as bad this time. I think it's because we haven't slept well for 4.5 years so we are used to it and so it's not as painful getting up with ds2.
We were also taking yesterday how getting up with ds1 was torture and it's not as bad this time. I think it's because we haven't slept well for 4.5 years so we are used to it and so it's not as painful getting up with ds2.
This is true over here too (but not for 4.5 years though...you guys are so strong!). DS got up more times last night than the baby. Even if this baby ever gets on a consistent nap schedule, DS doesn't nap and isn't super great at quiet activities yet so no naps are in my future. It's definitely easier for me to go without sleep this time. It's just life now.
I'm exhausted. DS2 didn't get a lot of sleep yesterday during the day. He seemed agitated and we barely slept last night. He kept fidgeting and grunting and nursing non-stop. He'll be 5 weeks on Friday. Maybe a growth spurt? I feel like a zombie.
amiet79 my kids have been up every 2 hours like clockwork to nurse. They turned 5 weeks this past Sunday. Really really hoping it's a growth spurt and all this extra nursing means better sleep soon!
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