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[pootsen]

beefinch your SIL is your MIL's daughter, correct? I feel like grandkids just have a tendency to be a bit closer to their maternal grandparents.

For example, my mom would come over all the time right after I had my DS while DH was at work- I felt comfortable having her around while I was BFing, pumping, and she'd let me take naps while taking care of the baby and cleaning my house for me. I wouldn't feel comfortable having my MIL do that even though she's lovely and we're close. So naturally my son spent more time with my parents and is probably closer to them. And I feel like my MIL probably sees my SIL's kids more than my DS.

That being said, I do think it's shitty that your MIL is always willing to watch your niece but then refuses to do the same with your DS.

[beefinch]

Apr 8, 2017 14:27:05 GMT -5 pootsen said:

beefinch your SIL is your MIL's daughter, correct? I feel like grandkids just have a tendency to be a bit closer to their maternal grandparents.

For example, my mom would come over all the time right after I had my DS while DH was at work- I felt comfortable having her around while I was BFing, pumping, and she'd let me take naps while taking care of the baby and cleaning my house for me. I wouldn't feel comfortable having my MIL do that even though she's lovely and we're close. So naturally my son spent more time with my parents and is probably closer to them. And I feel like my MIL probably sees my SIL's kids more than my DS.

That being said, I do think it's shitty that your MIL is always willing to watch your niece but then refuses to do the same with your DS.

100% agree on the maternal grandparents.

I have my mums weekly dairy synced to my phone so it shows me whats she's doing as she's a very busy person, so whenever she's day off we are ready by 10am for her to show up and do whatever. Or I'll just turn up, pass over DS and be like byyyyyyee I'm going back to sleep 😂 she wouldn't have it any other way and I'm incredibly grateful for her since DH works 6 days a week, so I can have some help

[grumpycat88]

beefinch, my mom has said similar stuff about kids being closer to their maternal grandparents too (like pootsen said). I think daughters tend to be closer with their parents then sons into adulthood. In many cultures, parents move into their daughters' homes when they marry.

[cnf2013]

Ellie just took a three hour nap. The second two hours on me, which means I took a two hour nap. So needed!

beefinch, I'm sorry about your MIL, that definitely stings I'm sure.

[laurensc927]

Apr 8, 2017 15:10:51 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

Ellie just took a three hour nap. The second two hours on me, which means I took a two hour nap. So needed!

beefinch, I'm sorry about your MIL, that definitely stings I'm sure.

Jealous. I tried to nap but H came in and riled up the dogs and woke me out of my hazy state. Now I'm too awake to sleep 😔

[Rogue]

I went to bed last night at 830, woke up at 730 and took 2 naps today. It has been a good day.

[grumpycat88]

My mom has markers out ... so I'm hiding because DS makes such a mess with them. DH is outside grilling to avoid it too lol.

[cnf2013]

I seriously wish my bloat would go down. I'm only 8w but I look six months. There's no way I'm showing yet despite being short and all leg. Someone tell me how to not be bloated, please.

[blabbermouth]

If it helps at all cnf2013, I'm a bit less bloated at 9w-ish than I was at 8w? Although my coworker is about 24 weeks with twins and she's still wearing her regular pants with a band thing, and I'm like WHY?!

@thatgolfbitch, so glad you were feeling good today, looks like a fun day!

We went shopping and accidentally ordered a stroller already. But the Bob Pro was on sale for $499CAD instead of $679, limited quantities, so we couldn't help ourselves. It's huge, but I actually liked it more than a lot of others, which surprised me. Also, we can borrow a carseat and adapter from DH's niece, so that saves us more money there too.

[Deleted]

The Phantom of the Opera was loved by one and all! DD's favorite part was the chandelier unveiling in the beginning and falling at the end of the first act *spoiler alert*.

Their stage is seriously bananas for being a traveling show. So impressive! DH is thinking about getting season tickets for this theater and the one closer to us. We're going to be so damn cultured. Lol

[grumpycat88]

DS has been a disaster since nap time. The neighbor on that side of our house was using a weed whacker and the poor kid barely slept. So it's just about 10pm and he finally fell asleep.

I went into his room and we cuddled for 10 minutes. He curled into his belly sleeping position in my arms and fell asleep. 😍😍😍 He was very challenging today but man, I will take all those sleepy toddler cuddles.

[grumpycat88]

@annperkins phantom of the Opera is one of my favorites. It's such a classic and it's usually really well done! I went for a class trip when I was grade school. The movie isn't bad either!

[blabbermouth]

@annperkins, I saw Phantom of the Opera in about grade 6 and remember it being awesome! Glad you all liked it.

@iheartmyshiba, I'm hoping to be able to babywear too in situations where the BOB is too big!

[izz67]

I'm hiding in DDs room because I don't want to fake drink with friends.

[grumpycat88]

@iheartmyshiba I have one of those magnets. DH just doesn't pay attention. He was also banned from washing DS' laundry when he was an infant because he ALWAYS put it on high dry and the clothes got shrunk thankfully he's a good cook and helps clean quite a bit so other redeeming qualities lol.

[grumpycat88]

Apr 9, 2017 0:06:37 GMT -5 izz67 said:

I'm hiding in DDs room because I don't want to fake drink with friends.

No fun. I always think it's so interesting that if for some reason, someone is not partaking in drinking, it's suspicious. I'm guilty of it as well. But it seems like relaxing with a glass of wine/beer/whatever is such a cultural norm (especially in 20/30 somethings).

[grumpycat88]

Mr. Noodle is awful. Like almost as bad as Grover, the least helpful muppet thing ever.

[beefinch]

Another day of good weather for me. Took DS for a walk through the woods near me, he wasn't overly impressed lol.

Just got finished cleaning the house. I've slowly been doing it over the past couple days and it feels so good to have a clean house. I do not want to make any tea because it'll mess up the kitchen again lol. I drove 20 minutes out of my way yesterday to pick up KFC for tea so I didn't have to cook lol.

Going to take DS to the park now and then I think my cousin is coming over, need to ring her.

Hope everyone has a great day!

[bethkate]

beefinch, sounds like a great day!

It's supposed to be around 65 degrees here today, so I'm planning to spend some time out on my deck. I wish this effing spotting would stop so I'd feel comfortable going for a walk or a hike.

[beefinch]

Mum is having Cody for the majority of the day tomorrow so I plan on doing nothing, and watching TV. And taking a lovely nap.

I know I shouldn't moan as its their own garden but both of my neighbours next to me have young kids (1 side has a 3 year old and the other has a 4 year old and 1 year old) because it's nice weather the kids have been playing outside. But I want a peaceful nap 😂😂 the one with a 3 yr old is such a loud kid. Like he screams/shouts all the time. Dude keep it down pregnant lady trying to nap. Luckily DS's bedroom is at the front of the house and ours is at the back so I'd rather us have the noisy side so DS can nap well.

Currently getting kicked in the boob by DS, he's rolling everywhere on the sofa playing. Cannot wait for bedtime in an hour.

[Rogue]

I had to undo the top button of my jeans and only half zipper them after lunch to feel even vaguely comfortable. I recall feeling bloated last time around 9 weeks. I should be 7.5 now.. Seems early but i lost 30 pounds and bought a host of better fitting pants between now and then so maybe my bigger jeans will still fit ok!

[beefinch]

Here's a nice story for you all... thought I would share something heartwarming.

(Loss mentioned)

So when I was pregnant with DS, I had to tell my boss right away due to the physical side to my job, I met my boss and told her I was expecting, she was very happy for me. It was because she was also pregnant, she has been with her husband for over 10 years, and had been TTC all that time and never told anyone, as she didn't want the awkward convos. The next time I saw her I think I was around 14 weeks, and she was visibly upset. It was a risk assessment on my pregnancy which was a normal thing, she couldn't get through it without crying and kept saying sorry. I didn't want to pry and said you don't have to tell me but I'm here for you whatever it is. She said she was pregnant, 2 weeks ahead of me but when she went for her 12 week scan they couldn't find a heartbeat and she started bleeding right after the scan. She was obviously heartbroken after trying for 10 years. She was also nearing 40 yrs old, so she couldn't do IVF. I started crying with her and said I can do the risk assessments myself if you give me the papers (which was fine in our company) so I done my own risk assessments for the next 26 weeks, and just handed them to her to sign. When I was due to give birth she texted me, and said that she was 13 weeks pregnant, very happy that the scan went well and that she was blessed again. So happy for her, and she went on to have a very healthy little girl.

We kept in touch after I left the company, and speak regularly on facebook, and she's just told me she's expecting another baby! A little boy. She's 16 weeks. She actually didn't know she was pregnant until around 10 weeks as she didn't think she would be as lucky to fall again. Told her I was pregnant, and she's happy that she has somebody to share it with as most of her friends have older kids around the age 9 and above. She's so happy and feels like all those years waiting for a baby have paid off!

[cnf2013]

My kid refused to nap, so we played outside for 3.5 hours. Had to drag her in kicking and screaming but she's finally down now at 330pm

[Rogue]

Miss Killjoy you look thrilled.  Lol

i expect to get called out sometime soon, but I work with mostly men who are awkward when dealing with woman issues so maybe they will hold off until after 12 weeks.

[cnf2013]

Apr 9, 2017 16:51:13 GMT -5 Miss Killjoy said:

Apr 8, 2017 19:20:17 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

I seriously wish my bloat would go down. I'm only 8w but I look six months. There's no way I'm showing yet despite being short and all leg. Someone tell me how to not be bloated, please.

If you find anything out about how not to look pregnant already, LMK. I got called out at work on Thursday because this was me.

Déjà-vu. I took the photo to show MH with my angry text about being backed into a corner where I either lie or be snippy if I don't want to tell people. My colleagues know for the most part but this was a parent.

That's exactly what I look like too. Like to the point that I'm pretty sure a student snuck snapped a picture of me last week.

[bethkate]

Apr 9, 2017 17:21:12 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

Apr 9, 2017 16:51:13 GMT -5 Miss Killjoy said:

If you find anything out about how not to look pregnant already, LMK. I got called out at work on Thursday because this was me.

Déjà-vu. I took the photo to show MH with my angry text about being backed into a corner where I either lie or be snippy if I don't want to tell people. My colleagues know for the most part but this was a parent.

That's exactly what I look like too. Like to the point that I'm pretty sure a student snuck snapped a picture of me last week.

OMG. I'd lose my shit if I thought a student took a picture of me!

I've had a few students who I thought were looking at my belly a few times. I don't think it's super obvious, but I spend so much time with them, so they'll probably be the first to start to notice.

[bethkate]

Apr 9, 2017 17:55:49 GMT -5 Miss Killjoy said:

What grade again, bethkate? Our kids here are usually super oblivious - we had a teacher who was seven months pregnant and they had NO idea she was pregnant. She finally told them and they were floored.

Totally with you on losing my shit if a student took a photo of me. Fortunately (LOL) I'm overweight so they aren't really able to tell the difference between my heavier times and a baby belly.

I teach 5th grade, so they're all 11-12 at this point. In years past, we've had kiddos call teachers out pretty early, so I'm sure they'll start to question it as soon as they notice.

[bethkate]

Apr 9, 2017 18:37:39 GMT -5 Miss Killjoy said:

I should remember that since we teach the same grade. Curious if they'll notice since I don't plan to announce it to them until the last week, if at all.

I don't think I realized that you teach 5th too.

I won't formally announce to this year's kiddos either.

[blabbermouth]

Aww, you look great Miss Killjoy!

Well I went for an extremely slow 3km run today with lots of walking, haha, it took a lot of of me! But it felt good, and it was warm enough for short sleeves.

[Deleted]

I worked at a camp when I was pregnant with DS and kids never said anything to me about it. The week before I had DS, (around 33wks) I was talking to a co-worker about it and one of my 11 year olds was like, "wait, you're pregnant?" Um, what!?