Randoms 3/24 - 3/31

[laurenash323]

New randoms thread!

[CK1]

Happy FriYAY!

I'm eating girl scout cookies with my coffee this morning and counting down the hours to the weekend.

[saltandvinegar]

It's Friday! And supposed to be almost 70 here. And I have a half day at work because I am meeting my sister & going to lunch and then a giant consignment sale (baby/kids/maternity) this afternoon. I'm pretty excited.

CK1, - That sounds delicious! I'm going to pretend they are thin mints & live vicariously through you.

[leviosa]

My house is an absolute mess. So I plan to do school with the kids and then get busy cleaning. I also plan to take multiple breaks just to play one on one with the kids. I feel like I don't make that a priority and that needs to change. The laundry is still staring me down because instead of doing it yesterday I took the kids outside to play. It was just too pretty to stay inside.

I have also decided to reread my parenting books so I can have a refresher of what the heck I'm doing, lol! I feel like I have been all over the place with no consistency and the house is calmer when the kids know what to expect all the time.

[CK1]

saltandvinegar I am so jealous of your weather! I polished off half a sleeve of thin mints yesterday. This morning I had a few of the trefoils (shortbread ones). They were so good dipped in my coffee.

[mambo]

It's cold and rainy. Do not want

[sarenu]

Mar 24, 2017 8:38:05 GMT -5 mambo said:

It's cold and rainy. Do not want

It's suppose to be in the 60's today.  I want to work from home (back yard).  But then it will rain tonight and be in the 40's for the weekend, so don't get jealous or anything.

[salmon2017]

leviosa I am with you on the parenting books. I feel like we are flying by the seat of our pants most of the time. In the last couple of months DS has definitely moved completely from being a baby to being a toddler and I feel like our discipline is very inconsistent from day to day and parent to parent. We need a strategy before things get out of control!

What books do you recommend? I have the Happiest Toddler on the Block, but have not made it all the way through. My pediatrician also recommended 1, 2, 3 Magic that I need to buy.

[caybeh]

And I was all excited for it to be 45 today....but currently it is all cloudy and windy and 34. I wore my spring coat but am regretting that decision.
Oh spring...please come and stay!

[laurenash323]

70* here today as well. I turned the furnace off We leave Sunday for Philly. I have a training there so DD & DH are tagging along to be tourists for the week. Since I'm traveling over the weekend for work, I'm not doing a whole lot of work today. Organizing my office right now in hopes that DH will put up my new shelving unit we bought months ago, setup my new printer and hang some pictures for me.

Having lunch with some friends shortly and then getting my nails done.

For some reason PGaL brain hit me this morning and I'm freaking myself out over nothing. I don't see my OB for another week, so unless baby's movements become more obvious, I'm soon I'll be in freakout mode until then. UGH

[salmon2017]

Mar 24, 2017 9:22:16 GMT -5 laurenash323 said:

For some reason PGaL brain hit me this morning and I'm freaking myself out over nothing. I don't see my OB for another week, so unless baby's movements become more obvious, I'm soon I'll be in freakout mode until then. UGH

Sorry you are feeling this way - just wanted to commiserate that I was the same yesterday (and today, if I think about it enough). I keep trying to remember how much DS moved at this point, and wishing I felt more movement. Should I get a doppler? Or would that make me more crazy? Was that a nudge just now? Move again baby!!!

PGaL brain sucks. Sorry.

[andtheheartbreakers]

I'm 16 weeks today and pretty sure the little flutters have started. I keep getting that feeling like someone swiping your insides and since I've never felt that outside of pregnancy I'm calling it.

[caybeh]

Hugs laurenash323 and salmon2017! I can relate. I always have such a negative thoughts about my appointments. "Well, if there is a heartbeat....." DH always gives me a look and tells me to stop thinking that way.

[leviosa]

salmon2017, our church that we were apart of before we moved out west used Growing Kids God Way. I like a lot of their strategies. They even give you a flow chart for disciplining older kids. It's mostly about teaching s of control at an early age and teaching moral values. I don't care for the very first book in the series because it recommends a strict feeding schedule for a baby and I am all about feeding on demand. So I start with the second book in the series and go from there.

My oldest is a bit of a hard one to parent. He has aggressive ADHD tendencies and have to use a point system for him. So he earns points for everything he does that is positive and I try to ignore all the negative stuff except for the stuff I can't ignore that needs correcting. I can't remember the name of the book I got the point system out of. It focuses on positive reinforcement instead of punishing for negative behavior.

I need to start helping my toddler learn some self control. That kid is a ticking time bomb.
Also, (this may be an UO) I don't count to 3 with my kids. I like for them to do what I ask after asking one time. So if my preschooler doesn't do what I ask right away, I give a warning, and if she still doesn't do it she gets time-out. My older son gets job cards.

[leviosa]

I guess I should have prefaced all that with I am extremely anti-child centered parenting. I am ok if my kids scream in a fit because I refuse to give them whatever they want or do whatever they want. I was very child centered when parenting my oldest when he was younger and I believe that caused some of his behavior problems.

[salmon2017]

leviosa I am way at the beginning of this journey, but I think I might be pretty anti-child centered parenting as well! I have had friends act surprised that I manage to take a shower or poo by myself. Ummmm, he goes in the pack and play for 10 mins and reads his books. Sometimes he yells about it for 10 mins. Don't care. We are a family and we make compromises, everything is not about him.

Thanks for the book recommendation, I will look it up! I do want to start a focus on positive reinforcement so I will be looking for more guidance on that. Right now he just gets high-fives

Edited for grammar.

[leviosa]

salmon2017, I will have to look up the title to that book. It is specifically for kids with moderate to severe behavior problems. My oldest has ODD as well so the positive reinforcement keeps him focused on the good stuff he is doing and limits his opportunities to be oppositional with me. We had to go to therapy a few months ago and she recommended the point system. I plan to use it with my other kids when they are old enough because I like having the focus on the positives instead of the negatives.

We also do pack n play time. My DD would play quietly for 40 minutes in there when she was younger. It helped me get school done with DS1. Because of his behavioral problems I have had to homeschool him. He doesn't function well in the public school environment. Imagine a child running up and down the hallways screaming, yelling, and ripping things from the wall. It was awful. It resulted in the teachers just doing whatever to keep him calm. So he wasn't progressing in school at all. When I pulled him out of school 90% of our problems with him at the time immediately disappeared. Anyways, he is the reason I parent the way I do with my younger two. I do not want a repeat of his behavior at all. I don't think my nerves can take it.

[mambo]

Mar 24, 2017 8:44:31 GMT -5 sarenu said:

Mar 24, 2017 8:38:05 GMT -5 mambo said:

It's cold and rainy. Do not want

It's suppose to be in the 60's today.  I want to work from home (back yard).  But then it will rain tonight and be in the 40's for the weekend, so don't get jealous or anything.

I just want my weather to pick a temp and stick with it 70 on day and 30's the next. Nope nope nope

[mambo]

Mar 24, 2017 9:13:25 GMT -5 salmon2017 said:

leviosa I am with you on the parenting books. I feel like we are flying by the seat of our pants most of the time. In the last couple of months DS has definitely moved completely from being a baby to being a toddler and I feel like our discipline is very inconsistent from day to day and parent to parent. We need a strategy before things get out of control!

What books do you recommend? I have the Happiest Toddler on the Block, but have not made it all the way through. My pediatrician also recommended 1, 2, 3 Magic that I need to buy.

Ooo I love happiest toddler I think it's why my four year old is so freaking cool.

[mambo]

Hugs laurenash323

[salmon2017]

Have any STM+ had a baby with milk/soy protein intolerance? DS had this and for the first 6 weeks we couldn't figure out the problem (terrible gas, reflux, and lime green slimy poos). Once I eliminated all dairy and soy from my diet and my breastmilk was clear of the proteins, all his issues cleared up.

I am trying to figure out whether my second baby is likely to have the same intolerance. If it's likely, I might eliminate dairy and soy towards the end of my pregnancy to save the trial/error period this time.

[leviosa]

salmon2017, no personal experience but I knew a mom who had issues with milk protein intolerance with more than one baby.

[leviosa]

My productivity has been crazy today. I pulled all the stuff I want to get rid of from the basement and I am almost done going through all the baby clothes. I have even made several posts to sell some stuff on the local BST page.

[mambo]

salmon2017 I was a breastfeeding group leader for many years and most of the women I worked with that had one with that issue had it with their second as well.

[jorja]

salmon2017, no personal experience, but one of my best friends first baby had severe MSPI as well as other intolerances...her second has had absolutely none.

[leviosa]

My 16 month old said his first 2 word sentence yesterday. He said, "go away." DD tells him to go away when he messes with whatever she is playing with. What a horrible first sentence. Then when his daddy walked in he said, "hey daddy." Umm, why couldn't you have said that before go away?!

[mambo]

I failed at being team green

[mambo]

Mar 25, 2017 12:20:54 GMT -5 @wicky said:

Mar 25, 2017 11:58:21 GMT -5 mambo said:

I failed at being team green

I commend all people who do stay green but it is not for me! What team are you now instead??

A very surprised pink

[leviosa]

Mar 25, 2017 12:21:45 GMT -5 mambo said:

Mar 25, 2017 12:20:54 GMT -5 @wicky said:

I commend all people who do stay green but it is not for me! What team are you now instead??

A very surprised pink

Yay! Congrats!!!!

[mambo]

Mar 25, 2017 12:28:44 GMT -5 @wicky said:

Mar 25, 2017 12:21:45 GMT -5 mambo said:

A very surprised pink

Well congratulations! Did you guys decide to find out instead of staying green or was it an accident by someone else? Hopefully it was your own decision- I can imagine being upset accidentally finding out if I really didn't want to know!

H wanted to know really bad. I was indifferent either way. I was sure it was a boy clearly I was wrong